Tus lej ntawm kev txwv, raws li psychologists, yuav tsum sib npaug zos rau lub hnub nyoog ntawm tus me nyuam. Yog tias tus me nyuam muaj 2 xyoos, nruj nruj txwv tsis pub ntau tshaj ob. Nws yog qhov nyiaj no uas nws muaj peev xwm nco ntsoov thiab ua. Cov me nyuam tsis lo lus "tsis tau" rau ib xyoos twg. Thaum lub hnub nyoog no tus me nyuam yuav tsum raug tiv thaiv los ntawm cov khoom txaus ntshai los yog cuam tshuam ntawm lawv. Lub sijhawm ze rau thawj xyoo, koj tuaj yeem tsis kam lees ib qho ntawm nws cov kev ua, uas yog txwv tsis pub txwv. Txhua tus tswvcuab ntawm tsev neeg yuav tsum tau ua li no. Nws yuav tsum tsis txhob hais tias niam hais tias "tsis tau", thiab kuv pog tau zoo. Hauv qhov no, lo lus txwv tsis pub yuav tsum hais lus nkaus xwb txog qhov kev txiav txim lossis kev xaiv.
Qhov chaw uas nyob ib puag ncig koj tus menyuam yuav tsum ua kom zoo li zoo tau. Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog los tshem tawm tag nrho cov ntse, ntaus, hnoos, txiav khoom. Tag nrho cov tag nrho yuav tsum raug tso cai rau kev kawm, yog tias tsim nyog, ces chew. Koj tuaj yeem cia nws ua ib yam dab tsi (lub txee nrog cov khoom ua si, ib lub khaub ncaws hnav khaub ncaws). Yuav muaj sij hawm rau koj, thaum nws tseem khoom noj khoom haus, ua nws tus kheej ua lag luam yam tsis txhawj txog nws txoj kev nyab xeeb. Tom qab ntawd koj muab txhua yam tso rau hauv nws qhov chaw ua ke, thiab koj tus me nyuam yuav zoo siab pab koj.
Cov me nyuam tsis tas yuav tsum hais tas li lo lus "tsis tau" thiab cov zoo li. Muaj ntau qhov kev txais tos me nyuam yaus. Sim ua kom koj tus me nyuam mloog zoo rau lwm yam, yog tias nws koom nrog kev lag luam uas tsis haum rau nws. Hauv ib lub xyoo los yog ob, cov tswv yim tshaj plaws yog: "Saib, lub tshuab tau ploj mus, npauj npaim tau ya, thiab lwm yam". Thaum tus me nyuam muaj ob xyoos, koj tuaj yeem tau ntxiv ib qho "tsis yooj yim", piv txwv, khiav tawm mus rau txoj kev los yog lwm yam. Lawm, tus me nyuam tseem raug txwv tsis pub, tab sis cov kev txwv no yuav tsum raug qhia tawm txawv. Piv txwv, yog hais tias lub puab tsaig pib rhuav lub magazine, es tsis txhob "tsis tau", koj yuav tsum tau ua kom tseeb tias phau ntawv magazine mob siab. Lwm txoj cai tseem ceeb, yog tias koj xav kom ua ib yam dab tsi nrog koj tus me nyuam, mam li nco ntsoov tias nws ua tiav. Tus menyuam yuav tsum to taub tias qhov koj hais yog qhov tseem ceeb.
Sim muab tus me nyuam txoj cai xaiv ntawm ob peb txoj kev xaiv, tsis suav nrog ib qho uas tsis tsim nyog. Piv txwv li, tus me nyuam xav ua si hauv sandbox ntub dej, thiab koj tsis zoo siab nrog nws lub siab xav. Qhia peb tias peb yuav ua si hauv nws thaum nws dries, tab sis tamsim no, ua si nkaum thiab nrhiav los yog pub cov noog. Tus menyuam yuav tsum xav tias koj tsis yog tawm tsam sandbox, tab sis koj yuav ua lwm lub sijhawm. Nyob rau hauv qhov no, tus me nyuam yaus xav ywj siab, vim hais tias txoj cai xaiv nyob rau nws.
Thaum lub sij hawm ntawm kev ntxhov siab ntawm kev ywj pheej, los yog teeb meem ntawm peb lub xyoos, nws yog qhov yooj yim rau cov niam txiv hais "tsis" rau txhua lub sijhawm. Zoo rau tus me nyuam lub sijhawm los qhia txog kev ywj pheej. Cov kev txwv thiab txwv tsis pub muaj hnub nyoog li peb, thiab tag nrho cov seem "tsis muaj", qhov no yog qhov koj tsim thiab qhov kev muaj peev xwm ua kom tsis muaj teeb meem hauv kev kawm.
Thaum ib tug me nyuam twb plaub xyoos lawm, nws twb nkag siab tias muaj cov yeeb yam uas nws tau txwv tsis pub ua tam sim no. Tab sis, kev ncav hnub nyoog, nws yuav ua tau. Piv txwv, thaum nws mus kawm ntawv, nws tus kheej yuav hla txoj kev. Thiab tam sim no koj muaj peev xwm qhia nws yuav ua li cas ua zaub nyoos, qhaub cij, thiaj li hais tias nws xav nws tus kheej ywj siab. Thaum muaj hnub nyoog li no, yuav tsum muaj kev txwv rau qee lub sij hawm. Piv txwv li, koj tsuas yog xav noj ice cream, saib TV rau 1 teev, thiab lwm yam. Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob tso siab rau haub, vim yog tias koj tso cai rau nws ib zaug, koj yuav tsum tau muab rau hauv.
Coob tus niam txiv tsis txaus siab tias nws tus menyuam zoo siab nrog qoob loo yog tias nws tsis muab nws xav tau. Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no nws yog ib qhov ua tau kom extract nyob rau hauv no cov ntaub ntawv, yam tsis muaj succumbing rau nws whims. Yog hais tias koj txiav txim siab tso roj ntsha los ntawm cov kab zauv, txawm nws quaj thiab kua muag, sim tsis txhob ua rau nws, txawm tias nws tau tshwm sim nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw ntau heev. Tsis txhob tsa tes. Koj yuav tsum cia nws paub tias kom txog rau thaum nws nres, koj tsis mus nrog nws tham. Thiab qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog qhov "tsis tsim nyog" yuav tsum raug txhawb nqa los ntawm txhua tus neeg hauv tsev neeg. Hais lus rau cov me nyuam lo lus "tsis tau", cia lawv xav tib lub sij hawm uas lawv nyiam thiab xav tau. Cia nyob hauv koj tsev neeg txoj kev hlub.