Nws muaj ntau lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb rau kev tsis txaus siab ntawm tus me nyuam. Ua ntej, nws tuaj yeem muaj peev xwm, yog tias muaj tej yam cuam tshuam nws, piv txwv li, nws hnov mob, tab sis nws tsis nkag siab qhov no, nws tsuas xav tias tsis zoo nyob. Qhov tshwj xeeb ntawm cov menyuam yau yog tias lawv tsis tuaj yeem ntsuas xyuas seb qhov teeb meem tshwm sim hauv lawv lub cev, qhov uas ib tus laus muaj peev xwm hnov tau thiab nkag siab txog nws. Qhov thib ob, tus me nyuam yaus, feem ntau tus me nyuam ua rau nws paub tseeb tias nws tsis hnov lus zoo. Nws xaiv thawj txoj hauv kev sib txuas lus nrog koj. Thirdly, koj tus me nyuam, feem ntau yuav, twb twb paub hais tias nws muaj peev xwm ua tau ntau los ntawm koj nrog nws whims thiab hysteria. Nws tsuas siv nws lub ntsej muag. Qhov no yog lub teeb liab hais tias koj tsis muaj zog nyob rau hauv kev sib ntaus tawm tsam me nyuam txoj kev ntxias.
Thiab thaum kawg - plaub kev xaiv, feem ntau ntau, uas yuav tsum tau tham nyob rau hauv ntau dua kom meej. Coob tus niam txiv tsis paub txog nws lub neej thiab piav txog qhov tsis zoo ntawm tus me nyuam rau lwm yam. Thaum kawg, lawv tsuas poob lub sijhawm zoo. Feem ntau, koj tus me nyuam xav ua kom koj to taub tias koj pom tus neeg zov me nyuam ntau heev, nws qhia tau hais tias nws muaj siab los ua kom tau siab dua. Qhov no yog tsim tshwj xeeb tshaj rau cov tsev neeg uas yog qhov kev tsim tsa kev cai tshiab ntawm kev nthuav dav, thaum cov laus ua raws li kev hais lus rau tus me nyuam tag nrho nws cov yeeb yam. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, niam txiv mob siab los ntawm qhov zoo tshaj plaws vim li cas, vim lawv paub tias "nws yuav tsum ua li cas." Tsuas yog ib tus me nyuam hauv lub hnub nyoog no twb tau soj ntsuam xyuas qhov "yuav tsum" thiab ua tiav nws txoj kev.
Raws li cov kev tshawb fawb ntawm ntau tus kws kho mob, nws tau ua pov thawj tias tus me nyuam thaum ntxov rau txoj kev loj hlob zoo yuav tsum muaj kev sib luag ntawm kev ywj siab, kev sib luag thiab kev txwv. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau nws xav tias nws tsis yog tsuas yog tu nws, tab sis tseem muab txoj cai xaiv nws tus kheej, saib nws raws li ib tug neeg. Ntau tus niam txiv yeej ntseeg tau tias lawv txhawb txoj kev ywj pheej ntawm txoj kev kawm ntawv, tab sis qhov tseeb, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, lawv hammering lawv tus me nyuam txiv neej. Xws li cov "niam txiv" tsis tso tus me nyuam ntawm lawv tus kheej thiab nqis tes ua ruam: "Txhob kov nws! "," Tsis txhob ua si ntawm no! "," Tsis txhob mus muaj! ". Nws puas tsim nyog los tiv thaiv tus me nyuam ntawm qhov teeb meem? Ib tug me nyuam, tom qab tag nrho, tsis yog ib qho av nplaum thiab tsis yog ib tug puppet, nws ua ntau ntawm nws tus kheej, seb koj nyiam nws los yog tsis. Nws xav sim txhua yam nws tus kheej, kawm txhua yam, thiab qhov no yog tsis muaj qhov yuam kev, cones thiab kua muag.
Feem ntau hauv ntau tsev neeg ua nruj nruj heev yog qhov kev pom zoo ntawm niam txiv, uas tus menyuam mloog lus ua rau muaj teeb meem tsawg. Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias tus me nyuam nyob ntsiag to, nyob ntsiag to, tso rau saum kaum tsev thiab tsis thab leej twg, tsis nug cov lus nug tsis txawj tag, tsis thov ua si - nws yooj yim. Tab sis li cas xws li ib tug me nyuam yuav loj hlob, yuav ua li cas yuav nws loj hlob, qhov twg nws yuav siv cov khoom rau kev puas hlwb thiab muaj tswv yim loj hlob?
Nyob rau hauv peb xyoos tus me nyuam hla lub chaw pib ntawm kev ywj pheej hu ua "Kuv tus kheej". Peb muaj kev cuam tshuam nrog nws cov kev txwv, kev sau ntawv thiab cov lus qhia, peb cuam tshuam rau nws, tab sis tseem me nyuam yaus, tab sis tib neeg muaj nuj nqis. Thiab qhov tseem ceeb, txawm tias peb tus kheej, tiam sis nws yog qhov kev txiav txim, peb qhia tias nws yog "tsis muaj leej twg" thiab peb yog "tus ntse tshaj". Thiab tus me nyuam raug yuam ua tsawg kawg nkaus nrog kev tawm tsam ntawm kev tsis sib haum los tshaj tawm nws tus kheej Qhov tshwm sim ntawm txoj kev tawv ncauj yog qhov kev tiv thaiv ntawm tus me nyuam tawm tsam tiv thaiv kev cuam tshuam ntawm nws kev ywj pheej. Xav txog dab tsi nws yuav tus nqi rau tus me nyuam koj tawm tsam nrog whims? Tsis txhob ntes koj tus kheej nrog lub tswv yim tias thaum koj ua tiav "kev yeej" dhau los ntawm khaus ntawm tus me nyuam, nws yuav yooj yim rau koj nyob. Ntxim siab heev. Koj yuav tau txais nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej tsis muaj zog-nyiam, tsis muaj neeg. Thiab sai sai no koj tus kheej yuav qhab nia lub tswb nyob rau lwm lub sijhawm: "Au, kuv tus menyuam tsis yog txhua tus yoog rau lub neej. Nws tsis yog li ntawd ntawm nws tus kheej, nws ntshai ntawm txhua yam. Nws yog paub txaj muag, incredulous, rho, resentful, tsis tau nrog rau cov phooj ywg. " Cov kev tsis txaus siab ntawm hom no nthuav tawm ntawm kev txais tos ntawm ib tus kws kho mob ib nrab ntawm tag nrho cov niam txiv. Ntxiv mus, cov menyuam hnub nyoog txawv ntawm 5 mus rau 16 xyoo. Thiab tsis to taub cov niam txiv hais tias cov hauv paus hniav ntawm cov me nyuam yaus txoj kev yug los yog yug los rau hauv no thawj thawj "ncov ntawm whims", thaum cov laus tau tswj kom tus me nyuam los ntawm kev sib tsoo rau hauv thav ntawv rau lawv. Tab sis me nyuam kev qia dub nyob hauv lub neej yav tom ntej ua rau yus tus kheej, thiab tawv ncauj - kev mob siab thiab kev rau siab ntawm tus ntsuj plig.
Yog li ntawd nws tseem ceeb ua luaj rau txoj kev nyuaj siab nrog me nyuam lub siab tsis tig tawm tsam tus me nyuam thiab nws lub neej yav tom ntej. Txhua yam kev txwv lossis kev txwv yuav tsum yog qhov tsim nyog thiab nkag siab rau tus menyuam. Thiab qhov no yog tib txoj kev los ua kom txhua tus thawj "ncau ntawm whims" rau koj tus kheej thiab rau tus menyuam. Koj puas xav tias nws tsis ua txhua yam rau koj? Nco ntsoov tias koj qhov kev txwv tsis pub zoo li cas. Yog hais tias nws yog ib qho qhuav "tsis tau", tsis muaj kev piav, ces koj yuav luag yuav rush rau reciprocal tawv ncauj. Tom qab tag nrho, thaum lub hnub nyoog no tsis muaj dab tsi ntxiv kev ntxias dua li ua ib yam dab tsi uas "tsis raug tso cai." Thiab nyob rau hauv no txhua txhua tus kheej tshwm nws tus kheej.
Tuaj nrog vagaries ntawm tus me nyuam, peb feem ntau paub qhov laj thawj. Thiab koj tuaj yeem xav tau, tab sis tsis yog koj ua tsis haum? Leej twg yog tus neeg tawv ncauj: cov niam txiv uas pheej hais tias "qhov no ua tsis tau", "nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau ua ..." los yog tus menyuam tawm tsam tiv thaiv tsis tau nws tus kheej? Los yog tej zaum koj tsis muaj lub siab xav, yooj, muaj siab thiab lub sijhawm los piav rau tus me nyuam, vim li cas koj xav kom los ntawm nws raws nraim li no. Los yog nws tseem ceeb rau koj tsuas yog nws mloog lus mloog lus? Tom qab tag nrho, koj tuaj yeem tiv puag thaum yau yau, hem tias yuav ua rau hauv kev mob hlwb, hais, piv txwv li: "Au, ntsia, muaj pes tsawg lub kua muag! Cia peb muab tso rau hauv lub raj mis. " Los yog "Auj, muaj ib tug txiv neej me me rau koj! Xws li ib tug zoo nkauj! Wb ua si nkaum thiab nrhiav nws nrog nws. " Nws yog tsis zoo li hais tias yuav muaj ib tug me nyuam nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb, leej twg, hnov ib yam dab tsi li ntawd, yuav tsis hloov nrog kev lom zem rau ib qho kev ua si zoo. Thiab ces nrog tib lub Library yuav ua li cas koj nug nws unsuccessfully nyob rau hauv kom thiaj li.
Thiab tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, nyob rau hauv ib qhov teeb meem ntawm whim, tag nrho cov neeg hauv tsev neeg coj zoo tib yam. Txwv tsis pub koj tus me nyuam yuav paub sai npaum li cas los tswj tus pog, yawm txiv, tus txiv, tus cwj pwm coj zoo li cas rau txhua tus.