Cov me nyuam, cov me me Parthians, intuitively tau lawv cov xib xub-cov lus nyob hauv qhov chaw nyuaj tshaj plaws. Tab sis vim li cas peb thiaj li ua txhaum ntawm cov lus "Kuv tsis nyiam koj"? Ua txhaum, xws li loj - me me. Nrog tag nrho peb cov kev paub txog lub ntiaj teb, tig, quaj, quaj zoo li peb yog peb tus kheej muaj 5 xyoos? Thiab lawv xav qhia dab tsi, peb quaj quaj nrov nrov tias: "Phem! Lossis! "? sawv cev rau saum toj 7 feem ntau ntawm "kev ua txhaum" cov me nyuam cov nqe lus, uas tau piav qhia thiab "kev txiav txim siab" psychologists.
1. "Niam, koj yog neeg phem!" Cov lus no tau hnov los ntawm txhua tus niam hauv nws lub neej (yog tias, tsis yog, nws tsis yog ib tus neeg ntxim siab, uas nws cov me nyuam tau mus ua dog dig thiab ntshai "tsis yog" saib lawv niam lawv txiv). Feem ntau ntawm tus menyuam, lawv txhais cov hauv qab no: Kuv tsis nyiam qhov koj tab tom ua tam sim no; Kuv tsis txaus siab nrog koj tus cwj pwm; Kuv npau taws rau koj. Nrog kab lus no, nws xav ua kom yooj yim - qhov niam txiv hloov lawv tus cwj pwm. Ntawd yog, lawv tsuas ua rau lawv.
Leej niam hauv kab lus no feem ntau xav tias muaj kev hem thawj rau lawv txoj haujlwm tseem ceeb heev. Tom qab tag nrho, leej niam yog ib txwm zoo, thiab cov siab phem yog tus niam tais, niam tais thiab lwm cov cim. Yog li ntawd, kuv niam tau siv ntau zaus "jumps rau ntawm ib tug nees dawb" thiab pib npau taws, uas ua rau cov kab lus saum toj no nce siab. Thiab koj tsuas yog xav tau hais tias muaj ib yam zoo - dab tsi yog koj muaj peev xwm ua tau tom qab lo lus zoo li no. Piv txwv: "Kuv tsis npau taws, Kuv nyuam qhuav tau npau taws rau koj" lossis "Zoo, tsis yog qhov phem, nws yuav yog qhov phem - kuv xav ... (yam lom zem, tshem tawm huab cua)."
2. "Au, niam, tsis txhob laib! (niam / txiv, nres dag!) ". Ua ntej koj coj qhov no rau kev mob siab ntsws, nco ntsoov suav hnub nyoog ntawm tus menyuam! Cov me nyuam tsis tau muaj hnub nyoog 5 xyoos feem ntau tsuas rov hais lwm tus neeg cov lus, tsis to taub lawv lub ntsiab lus. Thaum me nyuam liam niam txiv los yog txiv ntawm dag, nws tuaj yeem ua txhaum rau niam txiv. Muaj ob qho laj thawj rau qhov no. Ua ntej, tus me nyuam tau los ntawm kev sib raug zoo nrog peb ntawm tus "txoj hauj lwm" ntawm tus txwj laus, ntsuas peb - thiab tsis kam peb ntseeg nws. Qhov thib ob, nws tseem ua txhaum ntau dua yog tias koj paub tias tus me nyuam muaj cai nyob hauv ib yam dab tsi yog nws yeej tau ntes koj hauv kev dag. Hauv qhov no, sim tsis txhob npau taws rau nws, tab sis hloov koj tus cwj pwm. Qhov no tseem ua tau ntau tshaj qhov raug nplua koj tus menyuam.
3. "Yog lawm, kuv yuav tsis ua lub ntsej muag thaum koj nyob hauv 18 xyoo (20, 30 ...) xyoo!" Los yog "Kuv tsis yog ruam li koj - siv tagnrho kuv lub neej ua ib tug kws ua haujlwm ntawm lub koomhaum!" Nrog cov nqe lus ntawm no, hnub hauv lub neej ntawm niam txiv. Cov lus no yog npau taws heev thiab ua rau cov laus tuaj. Yog vim li cas yooj yim. Hais li no, cov menyuam yaus yuav hloov mus rau "niam txiv" ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv thiab coj tus cwj pwm soj ntsuam. Feem ntau yog tus me nyuam "stings" hauv thaj chaw.
Leej niam, nws zoo siab rau nws tus menyuam thiab zoo siab tias nws tau tshwm sim thaum nws tsuas yog 18 xyoos, nws tsis pom qhov teeb meem no. Thiab, conversely, ib tug poj niam uas lees cov kab lus "Yog tias kuv tsis yug rau hauv 18, ces ...", tas tos rau qhov tsim nyog. Cov menyuam yaus xav kom zoo tshaj lawv niam lawv txiv, yog vim li cas lawv thiaj sib tw nrog peb. Los ua lawv tus kheej, lawv xav tau kev khiav dim ntawm kev poob cev qhev ntawm niam txiv kev xav. Feem ntau lawv tso ntawm peb "nrog nqaij thiab nqaij": qee zaum - lawv tus kheej, qee zaum - niam txiv.
4. "Niam, daim tiab luv luv no (qhov lipstick no qaim dhau heev lawm) rau koj!" Ua ntej tshaj plaws, cov lus no muaj kev sib tw. Ib tug kev sib tw rau tus txiv saj, nws lub tswv yim ntawm kev zam, nws lub neej txoj hauj lwm. Qhov no yog qhov ceeb toom uas tsis pub leejtwg paub txog kev ua neej nyob mus ib txhis.
Cov me nyuam loj hlob thiab thov kom muaj chaw nyob hauv lub neej: qee zaum lawv nrhiav lawv tus kheej, qee zaum lawv sim coj lwm tus neeg. Lawv yuav tsum sib tw nrog lawv niam lawv txiv, ua kom muaj zog, hais txog lawv cov tastes, cov tswv yim, qhov tseem ceeb. Akela pheej nco ib hnub. Tom qab tag nrho, lub tiam neeg hloov yog qhov qub.
Tab sis kuv tsis xav tso tseg tsis muaj kev sib ntaus rau kuv niam kuv txiv. Kev ua tsov ua rog nrog lawv feem ntau yog ua los ntawm "guerrilla" txoj kev. Thiab tam sim no kuv niam, nrog kev txaus siab ntsia nws tus kheej hauv daim iav, hnov ib kab lus sau txog ib qho dhau ntawm luv luv - thiab nyob rau hauv ib lub sij hawm poob rose-xim tsom iav. Nws pom nws twb tawv nqaij thiab nplaum wrinkles ntawm lub duav. Nws lub siab xav tau nws, nws ua tib zoo xaiv: tiv thaiv nws tus kheej, noj kua zaub ntsuab rau tus me nyuam, los sis ntsiag to txhawj txog nws tus kheej ...
Yog lawm, me nyuam qee zaus tab tom qias, qee zaus lawv cov lus yog qhov tsis ncaj ncees. Tab sis nws tseem zoo dua los tham nrog tus me nyuam txog qhov koj ua li cas rau kab lus no. Tib lub sij hawm thiab to taub nws txhais li cas rau koj. Qee zaum kab lus no yog ib daim iav ntawm kev thuam dhau los ntawm cov niam txiv: "Qhov tattoo no yog ib qho txaus ntshai", "Qhov kev tho yog qias neeg," "Koj hnav khaub ncaws hnav". Cov me nyuam tom qab tag nrho, ib tug neeg kawm. Xav txog seb koj tus kheej puas tseem ceeb rau koj cov me nyuam ...
5. "Kuv yuav tso koj tseg! (Kuv yuav tsis nrog koj nyob!) "Cov lus no qhia txog tus me nyuam qhov kev ntshaw kom nws tus kheej nrug ntawm nws niam nws txiv. Thaum cov niam txiv nyob ze lossis dhau deb heev, tu thiab tsis tu txhua, ntau tus tswj los yog, tsis sib thooj, tsis quav ntsej li, tus me nyuam muaj kev npau taws, npau taws, chim siab. Cov kab lus saum toj no yog qhov uas nws sim qhia nws niam nws txiv hais tias nws muaj mob, nyuaj, kho siab, los yog nws ua rau nws mob ntawm lawv txoj kev hlub "kev hlub". Sim ua kom to taub qhov tus me nyuam xav tau dab tsi tom qab kab lus no, nrog qhov nws xav tias nws hais.
6. "Kuv tsis hlub koj dua" Qhov kev qhia tseeb ntawm kev chim siab rau tus niam txiv. Feem ntau nws tshwm sim thaum tus menyuam pom nws tsis nkag siab thiab tsis nyiam. Qhov yooj yim tshaj kom tsis txhob mob yog tig txhua yam puag ncig. Qhia rau niam txiv tias qhov tseeb no tus me nyuam tsis nyiam nws. Nws kuj yog ib txoj hau kev rau kev mob - ib qho uas tus me nyuam xav thaum nws xav tias nws tau txais kev pom zoo. Nyob hauv niam txiv lub neej muaj ntau txoj hauv kev los ua qhov no - ntau tshaj rau tus kwv tij los yog tus muam los piv ib tug me nyuam nrog cov phooj ywg zoo dua, nco ntsoov hais txog lawv txoj kev ncaj ncees ...
Tus me nyuam tsis muaj ntau txoj hau kev los nyiam thiab paub nws tus nqi rau cov niam txiv. Tom qab tag nrho, ntau tus niam txiv "pom" cov me nyuam tsuas yog thaum lawv tau "ua ib yam dab tsi". Yog li cov kab lus "Kuv tsis hlub koj" yog lub hwj chim ntawm kev ua haujlwm ntawm niam txiv. Hloov dua siab tshiab? Nws puas yuav pom? Nws puas yuav hloov tus cwj pwm? Nws yuav hais cov lus tseeb: "Tab sis kuv hlub koj heev!" Los yog ??
Yog tias tus me nyuam hais kab lus no thiab nws muaj ntau dua 7 xyoo - sim nrog nws tham. Vim li cas ho tsis nws? Dab tsi tshwm sim? Nws xav tau dabtsi? Qhov no yog qhov zoo dua qhov uas ntsiag to los yog muaj kev ua phem rau cov lus teb.
7. "Koj tsis hlub kuv! (Koj tsis to taub kuv!) "Cov no yog tib cov kev sim ntawm tus me nyuam los qhia cov niam txiv txog lawv qhov tsis xis nyob, lawv cov kev xav tau tiag tiag. Cov me nyuam xav tau kev sib txuas lus, sov so, rhiab. Tus me nyuam qee zaus nws tseem ceeb heev uas niam txiv "twv" nws lub siab phem, nws ntxhov siab thiab xav phem. Tus tub hais tias: "Kuv tu siab," thiab nws txiv nrog ib tus neeg ua haujlwm: "Xav txog kev xeem - nws yuav lom zem." Tus menyuam muaj teeb meem kev sib txuas lus, thiab leej niam leej txiv rau nws: "Koj yuav tsum kiam" ...
Kev nkag siab yog ib lub peev xwm, thiab koj tsis tau yug los nrog lub peev xwm no, koj yuav tsum tau tsim nws. Sim ua kom to taub txog qhov koj tus me nyuam xav tau, nws ua phem npaum li cas, thiab koj yuav pab nws li cas. Qhov tseeb, yuav muaj ntau yam tseem ceeb nyob rau hauv lub neej ntawm niam txiv - kev ua phem, kev ua phem, thiab kev npau taws ntawm lawv tus kheej cov me nyuam yog tuaj raws li peb txhua tus. Tsawg dua xav txog qhov no los yog cov kab lus tsis sib haum yuav txhais li cas, tab sis mloog ntau rau koj tus me nyuam nrog koj lub siab. Tsuas yog qhov no yuav cia koj pom cov xwm txheej thaum nws xav tau koj kev pab, kev saib xyuas thiab kev hlub.