Sov, cozy. Tom qab ntawd lub ntiaj teb nthuav dav mus rau pope, grandmothers, grandfathers, kwv tij thiab cov muam - tag nrho cov neeg uas nws txuas lus tas li. Rau lub sij hawm, crumbs yog xis nyob hauv tsev neeg cocoon, tab sis, ces nws yuav nruj muaj. Nws pib mus kawm kindergarten, ib lub pas dej ua ke, ib lub tsev kawm suab paj nruag, paub txog cov neeg tshiab thiab tau txais kev paub tshiab txog kev coj tus cwj pwm thiab coj tus cwj pwm li cas hauv lub neej. Nyob rau hauv cov lus scientific, qhov no yog hu ua socialization - tus kheej txoj kev loj hlob thiab hloov mus rau ib puag ncig. Yuav ua li cas thiaj ua tau tus txheej txheem no yooj yim dua thiab yooj yim rau tus me nyuam? Kev loj hlob ntawm tus me nyuam txoj kev sib txuas lus nrog cov laus thiab cov phooj ywg yog ib lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb rau hnub no.
Txog hnub nyoog
Ua ntej, pab tus me nyuam kov yeej kev ntshai ntawm lwm tus neeg. Tom qab socialization tsis muaj kev sib txuas lus tsis tshwm sim. Qhov xav tau kev sib txuas lus ntawm tib neeg hauv cov ntshav. Thiab tsis tsuas yog nyob rau hauv tib neeg, los ntawm txoj kev. Ntau cov tsiaj tuaj ua ke hauv pob khoom - nws yooj yim dua kom dim. Yog li, tus me nyuam xav tau, koj tsis xav, tiam sis koj yuav tsum koom nrog pab neeg. Ua ntej, nws yuav pab nws ua haujlwm ntau thiab muaj kev ntseeg siab rau nws tus kheej, thiab ob zaug, nws yuav qhia nws txog kev xav tswv yim. Thaum cov phooj ywg pheej niaj hnub tawm tswv yim nrog ib co tswv yim (txawm hais tias lub tswv yim no yog muab pov tseg rau ib tug muam kawj hauv txaj los yog kos ib tug nyuj ntawm phab ntsa). Txawm li cas los xij, qhov no tsis txhais hais tias tus menyuam yuav tsum tau nkag mus rau hauv cov menyuam yaus hauv tib neeg xws li kev kawm ua luam dej, ntuav rau hauv tus dej - tej zaum nws yuav ntab. Tej zaum nws yuav tawm los, tej zaum nws yuav tau txais ib co dej. Nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug muag heev teeb meem, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau noj mus rau hauv tus account lub peculiarities ntawm hnub nyoog psychology. Cov me nyuam kom txog ob los yog peb xyoo tsis txaus siab yog tias koj cia lawv nyob ib leeg nrog tus neeg nyob ze tus xeeb ntxwv: "Thaum ua si hauv cov tshuab luam yeeb, peb yuav muaj kas fes hauv chav ua mov." Tsis muaj sij hawm mus tua cov kas fes rau hauv khob, vim los ntawm cov me nyuam yaus quaj yuav tau hnov: yuav muaj kev sib ceg. Cov me nyuam tsis tau paub tias yuav ua li cas thiaj yog phooj ywg: lawv ua si nyob ze, tab sis tsis ua ke, thiab ib qho khoom ua si ntawm ib qho yuav ua ib lub kua txiv ntawm discord.
Lus Cim: los pab
Txhawm rau pab crumb kom hloov, coj nws mus rau kev loj hlob (tab sis tsis muaj fanaticism: ob zaug hauv ib lub lim tiam yog txaus), ntawm chaw ua si. Hauv plaub lossis tsib xyoos, cov menyuam pib pib los ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog cov phooj ywg. Thiab txawm hais tias cov me nyuam yaus hauv lub hnub nyoog no muaj teeb meem loj heev: lawv khav txog kev sib cav, sib cav, sib ntaus thiab feem ntau tsis nco txog cov phooj ywg-cov phooj ywg, tiam sis ntawm cov neeg sib tw nrog, tab sis qhov no yog kev sib tw noj qab nyob zoo - tom qab tag nrho lawv tab tom caum thiab nce tus neeg sib tw. Ib qho txawv txawv, txawm tias nws yog qhua, lub circus los yog lub subway, tsis txhob ntshai lawv ntau yam, nyob rau hauv tsis tooj, txhua yam ua nthuav rau lawv. Tias yog vim li cas feem ntau cov kws kho siab tau ntseeg tias nws yog thaum muaj hnub nyoog plaub xyoos uas tus menyuam "rhiab" rau kindergarten. Rau qhov sau: 5-xyoo kev npaj yuav tsis tshua muaj kev sib raug zoo hauv melee, yog tias koj muab pov ob lub ua si, qhov uas lawv yuav ua haujlwm sib npaug. Hauv rau lossis rau xya xyoo, cov menyuam yaus ua phooj ywg zoo dua thiab ua tau zoo dua. Lawv tham ntev loo "rau lub neej" (lawv siv sib txuas lus feem ntau ntawm qhov kev ua si), sib qhia lawv cov lus sib tham, sib tham txog kev mus rau tus pog, yam li ntawd, lawv sib tham yuav luag zoo li cov laus. Thiab qhov no, tau kawg, pab kom lawv hloov tau zoo dua rau lub tsev kawm ntawv. Rau qhov kev ceeb toom: thaum lub hnub nyoog no cov me nyuam tau nkag rau hauv cov tsiaj nyeg thiab feem ntau cov phooj ywg "tiv thaiv ib tug neeg". Yog tias koj tus me nyuam tsis muaj teeb meem, nrhiav qhov laj thawj ntawm qhov teeb meem thiab pab nws ua kev thaj yeeb nrog nws cov phooj ywg - nws tus kheej yuav tsis muaj peev xwm tswj hwm.
Thaum tiav hluas
tus menyuam tsis muaj kev sib txuas lus nrog kev nkag siab thiab kev xav ntawm lub cev. Thiab txawm hais tias tus txheej txheem ntawm socialization yog nyob rau hauv tag nrho viav vias, tus tub hluas yog twb zoo heev taw qhia nyob rau hauv cov kev cai ntawm zej zog. Ntau npaum li ntawd tso cai rau lawv tus kheej mus ua txhaum rau lawv, rhuav tshem cov kab lig kev cai. Yog li, nws yog tus kheej hais tau thiab nws tus kheej. Rau qhov kev ceeb toom: nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau ib tug tub hluas ua zoo li nws cov phooj ywg, qhov no yog ib txoj hauv kev tau txais txoj cai. Yog li ntawd, tsis txhob ceeb yog tias koj tus ntxhais-ntxhais, coj ntawm cov suab paj nruag thiab cov ntaub ntawv, nws mam li pib ua lub suab ntxoo ntawm anime, thaum tag nrho hoob kawm raving txog nws. Nco ntsoov lub npe ntawm lub nplhaib ntawm Vaj Ntxwv Xalaumoo: "Thiab nws yuav dhau mus ..."?
Hais txog kindergarten
Cov me nyuam yuav tsum sib txuas lus tsis yog rau cov phooj ywg xwb, tab sis kuj nrog cov neeg laus: cov txheeb ze, cov phooj ywg ntawm cov niam txiv, cov kws kho mob, cov kws qhia, cov xib fwb, thiab lwm yam. Thiab nws tsis muaj teeb meem yog tias ib tug neeg ntawm cov neeg laus tuaj yeem ua koj cov me nyuam yug hauv qhov ntswg los yog nyeem nws. Yog li ntawd, los ntawm qhov kev xam pom ntawm socialization, ib qib kindergarten yog ib qho koob hmoov. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias koj ntshai tawm ntawm koj tus tub los yog tus ntxhais ntev ntev nrog cov neeg tsis paub (feem ntau yog mummies nrog lub siab lub luag hauj lwm ntawm lub luag hauj lwm), txawm tias nrog cov kws qhia ntawv, tus me nyuam yuav tau txais nws qhov kev sib txuas lus "laus" nrog cov xib fwb hauv qhov chaw loj hlob, tus ntaus kis las, suab paj nruag, thiab lwm yam. Qhov loj tshaj plaws - tsis txhob cia nws nyob rau hauv kev rho tawm. Thiab koj tuaj yeem coj tus menyuam mus kawm kindergarten rau ib nrab hnub. Los ntawm txoj kev, xws li cov kev xaiv hauv ntau lub chaw loj hlob thiab cov tsev kawm ntawv loj hlob, tseem ceeb rau cov me nyuam muaj mob, muaj kev ntxhov siab thiab qeeb (tom qab tsis tuaj yeem siv tau kindergarten txoj kev kawm: lawv tsis muaj sij hawm tshem cov khoom ua si, noj mov, hnav mus taug kev, lwm cov menyuam yaus). Rau qhov kev ceeb toom: cov niam uas muaj kev paub txog kev hlub ntawm niam txiv feem ntau caw lawv cov phooj ywg mus rau lawv lub tsev nrog cov me nyuam los yog mus xyuas lawv. Yog li ntawd, koj yuav tua ob tug noog nrog ib lub pob zeb: koj tus phoojywg uas ploj yuav nyob nrog koj, tab sis tib lub sij hawm yuav siv tau rau lwm tus neeg.
Txog lub tsev kawm ntawv
Muaj tsawg dua lwm txoj hauv kev pabcuam no. Yog li, lawv yog: koj tuaj yeem xaiv tau ntawm ib lub tsev kawm ntawv ntiav thiab tsoomfwv lossis piv txwv, ib qho chaw kawm ntawv nrog rau kev kawm tob txog cov tib neeg, tab sis qhov tseemceeb ntawm qhov teebmeem tsis hloov ntawm qhov no - nws tsis pom zoo rau "kev qua" ntawm tsev kawm ntawv los ntawm kindergarten. Tab sis qhov no tsis tsim nyog. Tom qab tag nrho, lub tsev kawm ntawv ntawm cov tsev kawm ntawv tseem yog ib lub tsev kawm ntawv uas tseem ciaj sia, uas tus me nyuam kawm paub txog kev nplua nuj, tsis lees paub, ua haujlwm hauv ib pab neeg. Tsis muaj teebmeem rau cov menyuam kawm ntawv hauv cov tsev kawm ntawv zoo. "Ntshai deb ntawm cov neeg," lawv tsis zoo rau cov teeb meem ntawm lawv cov phooj ywg tsis tshua zoo, yog li lawv muaj ntau qhov theoretical es tsis yog lub tswv yim ntawm lub neej. Tsis tas li ntawd xwb, nyob hauv ib co tsev kawm ntawv cov menyuam kawm ntawv, kev paub, kev sib tw, tawm ntau yam yuav tsum tau ua: cov tub ntxhais kawm raug muab tso rau hauv tsuas yog tsis hwm ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv. Rau qhov kev ceeb toom: yog tias koj cheb ntawm tsev kawm ntawv, sim los tiv thaiv tus me nyuam ntawm qhov phem ntawm txoj kev, QHOV NO no - tshuaj thiab cawv tam sim no, alas, tuaj yeem nrhiav tau txhua qhov chaw. Peb yuav tsum pib, ntxiv, nrog tsev neeg, piav qhia rau tus menyuam (piav lub siab, tus phooj ywg, tus cwj pwm), qhov zoo, thiab qhov phem. Tom qab ntawd nws yuav kawm txog kev tiv thaiv kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj thiab cov neeg hooligan. Thiab nws yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig zoo, uas yav tom ntej yuav muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau nws hauv neeg laus.
Thiab tsis txhob sib ntaus ntxiv lawm!
Teeb meem nrog cov phooj ywg - ib tug tshaj plaws tsis kaj siab, tab sis nyob rau hauv ib txhia txoj kev tseem ceeb. Tom qab tag nrho, tus me nyuam kawm paub tiv thaiv nws kev txaus siab. Koj txoj hauj lwm yog kom qhia nws daws teeb meem tsis sib haum xeeb.
■ Qha tug txais cuabyeej lug siv cov lus, tsi yog lub sab xaav. Piv txwv, koj tsis tuaj yeem ntaus ib tug neeg nyob ze hauv lub thawv xuab zeb, yog tias nws rhuav tshem cov xuab zeb hauv av, tab sis koj tuaj yeem hais tias: "Tsis txhob kov, puas yuav zoo dua yog tias kuv hle koj li?"
■ Sim ua kom zoo siab rau tus menyuam txoj kev sib deev. Tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi ntau npaum li cas koj xav kom rau txim rau tus tub sab ntawm koj tus tub, cia koj tus kheej nyob rau hauv tes. Ua ntej, nws tseem yog menyuam yaus, thiab koj yog neeg laus, thiab ob, koj yuav tsis tiv thaiv koj tus menyuam txog nws cov nyiaj laus?
■ Yog tias koj tus me nyuam muaj qee yam tsos mob (txhaws ntswg, quav hnav, puv ntoob thiab zoo ib yam), yaum kom nws yooj yim. Qhia koj tus me nyuam kom siv lub tshuab ua pa - tsis txhob nyooj siab rau qhov kev sib cav thiab tsis maj mus rau hauv kev sib ntaus sib tua (lwm zaus nws yuav raug kev sim siab, sim kev npau taws), thiab teb tsis tu siab: "Muaj, kuv yog rog, thiab kuv nyiam nws. lub cev pob txha yog taug kev, thiab, zoo, koj yuav vau. " Qhov loj tshaj plaws ntawm lub sij hawm no yog kom nyob twj ywm, txawm indifference, ces tus provocateurs yuav plam kev txaus siab nyob rau hauv nws.
■ Tsis txhob hais tias tus me nyuam mus tawm tsam tam sim no, qhia rau lwm tus neeg lawv tus kheej. Cov me nyuam tsis nyiam kev tuaj yeem tawm - nws yog kev nyuab siab thiab kev nyuab siab. Yog li ntawd, kom txog rau thaum muaj hnub nyoog ib tus neeg me me nws tseem ceeb heev kom tsis txhob sawv ntawm lwm tus.
7 cov tsos mob ntawm kev hloov tsis tau
Koj tus menyuam yuav muaj kev sib txuas lus nrog cov phooj ywg yog nws ...
- los ntawm tsev kawm qib kindergarten lossis tsev kawm ntawv kaw thiab tshem tawm;
- tsis tau tawm ntawm kev mob;
- nws quaj heev rau qhov tsis pom tseeb vim li cas;
- tsis qhia koj tias nws tau siv nws lub sijhawm li cas;
- nyob rau hauv lub tshav kub npaj hysterics, tsis kam mus rau lub vaj los tsev kawm ntawv;
- hais tias nws tsis muaj cov phooj ywg;
- zaum hauv tsev ib leeg xwb, tsis hu leej twg thiab tsis nrog cov phooj ywg mus.
Qhov tseeb, txhua yam hauv nws tus kheej tsis yog vim li cas rau ceeb. Tab sis yog tias tag nrho cov "cov tsos mob" no tshwm sim rau hauv ib qho nyuaj, tus kws kho mob yuav tsum tau pab.