Tus me nyuam loj hlob tuaj, ua rau nws muaj kev ywj siab ntau dua, nws qhib kev rau lub sijhawm tshiab. Ua ke nrog kev muaj peev xwm taug kev, kev muaj peev xwm los hais lus yog qhov ua tau zoo tshaj plaws los ntawm ib tug txiv neej me me. Thiab qhov zoo tshaj plaws theem rau cov niam txiv. Tom qab tag nrho, txhua tus xav kom lawv cov me nyuam kawm tau hais lus sai, kom raug thiab tsis muaj teeb meem. Thiab ob peb tus neeg paub tias cov niam txiv tuaj yeem cuam tshuam rau hauv tus txheej txheem no thiab tseem xav tau nws. Tsis tas li ntawd, nws yog feem ntau ntawm txoj kev mob siab thiab kev ua haujlwm ntawm cov niam txiv hais tias kev loj hlob ntawm kev txawj hais lus ntawm tus me nyuam nyob. Yog li, tus me nyuam pib tham - nws yuav pab tau nws li cas? Dab tsi yog qhov qub hauv kev loj hlob ntawm cov me nyuam hais lus, thiab kuv yuav tsum pib txhawj txog dab tsi? Peb yuav pab koj to taub qhov no ib zaug thiab rau tag nrho.
Hais lus: 1-3 lub hlis.
Qhov tseeb, hais lus ntawm lub hnub nyoog no pib nrog quaj. Koj yuav tsis ntseeg, tab sis tus me nyuam yaus tsis qw ib yam li ntawd. Leej niam paub tias qhov no yog thawj "kev hais lus" ntawm tus me ntxhais. Muaj ntau yam kev sib txawv, thiab ib lub sijhawm sib txawv thiab muaj suab nrov heev. Tom qab ntawd, qhov kev quaj hloov, nce mus rau kev ua lag luam thiab txhua lub suab sib txawv, tsis txuas rau txhua txoj kev. Nws yog qhov yooj yim dua rau koj kom nkag siab txog qhov ua rau ntawm qhov pom ntawm cov suab nrov. Seb nws yog vim tus me nyuam xav tau cov pawm huv plab, xav pw, muaj kev tshaib plab lossis lwm yam.
Hais lus: 4-12 lub hlis.
Obviously, koj tus me nyuam tseem tsis muab lub ntsiab lus dab tsi rau nws hais ntawm theem no. Txawm hais tias koj yuav hnov suab "niam" lossis "dad". Kev sim hais lus yuav hloov nrog ib tus kws sib tham ntev. Hauv lub hnub nyoog no hauv cov me nyuam cov lus, txhua yam suab zoo tib yam, tsis hais txog hom lus koj hais: Lus Askiv, Lus Mev, Japanese lossis Urdu. Koj tus me nyuam yuav pib siv tej lub suab uas txawv ntawm qhov txawv. Qhov no yog vim nws xav tias "xis" thaum nws luam tawm lawv.
Thaum tus me nyuam hlob zus mus, mus txog qhov "ib xyoo", nws pib maj mam to taub txog yam tau hais. Qhov no yog vim nws hnov koj thiab xyaum ua koj tus qauv hais lus. Koj tus me nyuam tseem yuav to taub cov lus qhia yooj yooj yim, xws li: "Muab kuv niam ib phau ntawv". Qhov no yog hnub nyoog thaum koj tuaj yeem pib txoj kev loj hlob ntawm koj tus menyuam txoj kev hais lus. Cov kws txawj qhia kom pib hu nkauj nrog tus me nyuam cov nkauj. Nws suab coj txawv txawv, tab sis nws yeej pab lawv xyaum lawv cov lus. Cov suab nrov yog hu nkauj "hu nkauj" yog yooj yim rau pronounce thiab muab kev xav zoo. Tau, yog, sim, nws - koj yuav xav tsis thoob los ntawm qhov tshwm sim.
Hais lus: 12-17 lub hlis.
Nyob rau lub sij hawm no, tus me nyuam pib hais cov lus yooj yooj yim uas nws tseem ceeb rau nws. Feem ntau yog cov lus no uas muaj ib lub suab lus. Piv txwv li, muab, haus, hnav, thiab lwm yam ntxiv.Yog li, tus me nyuam sim mus hais lus thiab ntev dua, feem ntau "luv" lawv. Piv txwv, cia peb mus - Dm, kuv xav - chu. Ib qho tseem ceeb heev rau cov niam txiv tsis pub kom tus menyuam siv cov lus phem no. Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog kom hais lo lus kom meej, thwj, maj mam. Nws tsis yog kom yuam tus me nyuam kom rov hais dua, tab sis cia nws tsawg kawg yog hnov li cas hais no los yog lo lus ntawd. Feem ntau cov niam txiv tau nco txog lub sijhawm no, lawv hais tias, yuav loj hlob - kawm. Nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej, tus me nyuam yaus ua raws li txoj kev tawm tsam tsawg kawg nkaus, tub nkeeg los hais cov lus kiag li. Qhov no tuaj yeem ua teeb meem loj rau yav tom ntej.
Nws cov lus rau ib tug me nyuam ntawm hnub nyoog li no yuav tsum yog txog 20 lo lus, tab sis qee tus me nyuam txawj hais lus ntau ntxiv, thiab qee qhov tsawg dua. Lub sijhawm no, koj tuaj yeem sim ua kom tus menyuam hais lus. Piv txwv, qhia cov duab yooj yooj yim thiab nug tus me nyuam kom paub lub npe xim twg. Ntseeg kuv, nws twb muaj peev xwm hu tau cov khoom me ntsis. Tej zaum nws yuav tsis yog qhov zoo, tab sis koj yuav tsum txhawb tus me nyuam txoj kev dag zog, kho cov lus ntawm lo lus. Tig mus ua si. Koj tuaj yeem tuaj nrog lub hauv kev txhawb zog siab - cov khoom me me. Nws hais tias qhov tseeb - qhov no yog koj qhov nqi zog.
Yog tias koj tsis tau pib, sim nyeem nrog tus menyuam. Tsis yog, ntawm chav kawm, nws tsis yog hais txog kev kawm ABC. Cia li zaum tom ntej ntawm tus menyuam, nqa ib phau ntawv nrog cov duab zoo nkauj thiab nyeem. Tus me nyuam yuav saib thiab mloog - qhov kev cob qhia kev txawj hais lus zoo tshaj plaws. Ua kom nyeem ntawv txhua hnub ua ke. Qhov no yuav pab koj zoo, thiab cov me nyuam muaj kev txaus siab ntawm "nyeem" cov duab zoo nkauj lawv tus kheej
Thaum muaj hnub nyoog li no, koj tus me nyuam twb paub tias nws tseem ceeb npaum li cas thiaj li hais tau. Qhov loj tshaj plaws rau nws nyob rau hauv thaum pib yog xav tau nws xav li cas. Tom qab ntawd - qhia ib yam dab tsi, qhia kev xav, zoo siab, yws, thiab lwm yam. Kev hais lus yog lub hauv paus ntawm kev sib txuas lus rau tus menyuam. Txhawb nws nyob hauv. Qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb heev.
Hais lus: ib thiab ib nrab mus rau ob xyoos.
Koj tus me nyuam cov lus loj dua thiab loj tuaj yeem ua tau 100 lo lus. Feem ntau cov lus tseem yuav yog monosyllabic, tiam sis koj yuav hnov ntau dua ob qho los sis ob peb lo lus yooj yooj yim. Piv txwv, "muab porridge", "kua txiv". Feem ntau tus me nyuam muab cov lus tsis zoo heev, confuses cov ntawv thiab xaus. Qhov no yog qhov qub. Nws yuav coj txawv txawv kom paub hais lus ntawm ib tus me nyuam ib xyoos. Tab sis sim kho, tag nrho tib yam, koj xav tau. Thiab nws yog los ntawm lub sij hawm no los siv yooj yim pretexts, xws li "hauv", "on", "saum toj no". "Nyob rau hauv", thiab lwm yam.
Koj tus me nyuam tseem yuav nug cov lus nug yooj yooj yim, hloov lub suab ntawm nws lub suab kom "ntxiv dag zog" lawv lub ntsiab lus. Tsis txhob tso tus menyuam tawm! Nco ntsoov teb cov lus nug, txawm tias qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws. Ntseeg kuv, tus me nyuam xav paub txhua yam, nws xav tau cov lus teb. Thiab ntawm no peb tsuas yog tham tsis yog hais txog txoj kev hais lus xwb, tab sis kuj hais txog kev loj hlob ntawm koj tus menyuam.
Hais lus: 2-3 xyoos.
Koj tus me nyuam cov lus tau hais txog 300 lo lus. Nws tuaj yeem ua cov lus luv luv. Piv txwv li: "Kuv haus mis nyuj," "Muab lub pob." Qhov no yog lub hnub nyoog siab heev, thaum tus me nyuam "hais lus" tsis yog nrog kev pab ntawm cov lus, tab sis kuj attracts gestures, lub ntsej muag hais lus, tag nrho nws lub peev xwm los qhia nws tus kheej. Cov nquag nquag vim yog qhov tseeb uas lawv tsis to taub nws, ua ob hom lus thiab cov nqe lus hauv tus me nyuam yaus, thiab ua lwm yam - lawv tau raug kaw thiab tsis ua raws li kev hais lus. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau cov niam txiv los txhawb lawv tus menyuam, sim nkag siab txog nws, tsim kev txaus siab rau kev kawm cov lus tshiab, thiab siv lawv kom raug.
Txhawm rau pab, dua, cov phau ntawv tuaj. Yog tias koj tseem tsis tau txuas nrog tus menyuam rau lawv - ua tam sim no! Tom qab ntawd nws yuav nyuaj dua. Ua si nrog tus me nyuam ntawm cov lus - lub npe ntawm cov khoom sib txawv, cov tswv yim thiab kev hnov qab.
Hais lus: 3-4 xyoos.
Thaum lub hnub nyoog no, me nyuam yaus paub ntau tshaj 1000 lo lus thiab pib tham nrog ntau cov kab lus. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tau qhia tus me nyuam kom siv cov qauv lus. Ntseeg kuv, nws twb tau ua raws li cov lus qhia ntawm no ib qho tsis nco qab lawm. Hais kom haum koj tus kheej! Saib koj qhov kev hais lus, vim hais tias tag nrho koj cov kev tu siab thiab kev tsis saib xyuas yuav raug assimilated thiab rov qab los ntawm tus me nyuam.
Tseem yuav muaj ob peb lub suab uas nyuaj rau koj tus menyuam. Piv txwv, "R", "Ch", "Щ", tab sis feem ntau koj tus me nyuam yuav hais lus zoo li neeg feem coob yuav to taub nws. Yog hais tias muaj suab nrov rau tus me nyuam nyuaj - ua hauj lwm tawm lawv ntxiv. Nyob rau hauv daim ntawv ntawm ib tug kev ua si, nrog kev pab los ntawm txaus siab cov kwv huam los yog nkauj, koj muaj peev xwm cob qhia tus me nyuam nyob rau hauv hais. Txhob khiav lub sijhawm no!
Me nyuam yuav nyiam koj zaj dab neeg thiab nkauj ua ntej yuav mus pw. Lawv yuav nug ntau cov lus nug txog lub ntiaj teb puag ncig lawv. Lawv kuj yuav muaj sijhawm los hais tias lawv muaj hnub nyoog li cas, tsis qhia txog lawv cov ntiv tes.
Cov niam txiv ua li cas?
Yuav ua li cas los pab tus me nyuam kawm hais lus kom yog thiab thev? Thiab nws puas tsim nyog ua txhua yam? Tsim nyog nws! Cov kws kho mob tau txheeb tau ntau cov tswv yim yooj yim yuav ua li cas coj zoo rau cov niam txiv uas lawv cov menyuam nyuam qhuav pib hais:
- Kawm kom zoo: kev zov me nyuam ntau npaum li cas koj tus me nyuam paub cov lus, ua li cas nws hais lus lawv, tsis pab koj los yog tus me nyuam nws tus kheej.
- Ib tus qauv tseem ceeb yog qhov tseem ceeb: Peb coj tus menyuam nrog peb mus rau ntau qhov chaw sib txawv thiab muab lub sijhawm rau lawv pom thiab hnov cov neeg, khoom thiab yam khoom nyob ib puag ncig. Nov yog txoj kev zoo los pab lawv xyaum hais lus.
- Tsis txhob nrog lawv tham li ib tus neeg laus: Nrog tus menyuam tham tham li lawv tsis yog 20 los pab lawv kawm. Lawv yuav tsum hnov cov kab lus luv luv, lub plhaw rau hauv koj lub suab, los pab kom lawv tau siv rau kev hais lus ntawm cov laus.
- Qhia lawv nrog tej yam yooj yim: Pib nrog tej yam yooj yim funny, xws li, piv txwv, tsiaj cov suab lus. Lob lawv cov xim, thiab lawv yuav pib luam koj.
- Pib nrog lawv tham sai li sai tau: Cov me nyuam mos kawm ntawv kawm lus txij thaum lawv yug los. Lawv txawm paub qhov txawv nruab nrab ntawm cov suab lus thiab cov suab, nyob hauv niam lub plab.
- Nyeem zaj paj huam, hu nkauj cov nkauj: Lawv yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo los pab tus me nyuam kawm txog tus qauv ntawm cov lus. Lawv kuj tso cai rau cov niam txiv los nrog lawv tus menyuam sib raug zoo.
- Tsis txhob tso siab rau hauv TV: Tus menyuam me tsis pom ib qho kev hais lus los ntawm kev tshuaj ntsuam! Tsis muaj (txawm tias tus me nyuam txoj kev) telecast yuav hloov ib tus neeg nyob, nws lub suab mos, lub ntsej muag luag ntxhi.
Lwm cov tswv yim los txhawb kev hais lus ntawm tus me nyuam.
- Siv cov lus zoo: Nco ntsoov tias hom lus koj siv yog ib feem ntawm lub neej txhua hnub thiab lus ntawm tus menyuam. Hais lus yooj yim, nrog cov lus uas to taub, nrog kev tsis sib thooj.
- Hais lus maj mam: Koj tus menyuam yuav tsum xaiv cov lus uas koj siv, tsim nyog rau nws. Yog li tsis txhob maj mus rau hauv koj qhov kev hais lus.
- Rov tso ntau zaus: Nws tuaj yeem ua kev thab plaub, tab sis rov hais cov lus thiab cov nqe lus ntau dhau los yuav pab koj tus menyuam kawm.
Dab tsi yuav cuam tshuam rau qhov kev ncua sij hawm hauv kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus.
Nco ntsoov tias txhua tus menyuam yuav loj hlob txawv. Yog li, txawm tias koj tus menyuam tsis tuaj yeem hais ntau ntau los ntawm cov lus ntawm nws cov phooj ywg, qhov no tsis yog txhais tias muaj teeb meem. Txawm li cas los xij, tej zaum ib yam dab tsi los ntawm sab nraud tuaj yeem tiv thaiv ib tus menyuam los ntawm kev tsim kho. Muaj ntau yam tseem ceeb rau me nyuam txoj kev hais lus. Piv txwv, cov kab mob hauv pob ntseg tuaj yeem ua rau kev hais lus qeeb qeeb, yog li ua kom paub tseeb tias tus menyuam tau xeem dhau qhov kev ntsuam xyuas tsim nyog.
Muaj ib txoj hauv kev yooj yim rau koj taug kev. Tus me nyuam muaj hnub nyoog 1 xyoo siv kab lus ntawm 1 lo lus, 2 xyoos - txij 2 lo lus, 3 xyoos - los ntawm 3 lo lus. Cov tswv yim no yuav tsum muaj, tab sis nyob rau tag nrho nws sib haum rau tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus me nyuam.
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas koj yuav tau nrog tus kws kho mob tam sim ntawd yog hais tias muaj ib yam hauv qab no siv rau koj tus menyuam:
- Koj tus menyuam tsis mloog koj hais los yog tawm tsam rau lub suab
- Koj tus me nyuam muaj teeb meem ntxais, nqos, lossis zom
- Koj tus menyuam tsis hais ib lo lus tom qab 18 lub hlis
- Koj tus me nyuam muaj teeb meem to taub txog yam koj hais
- Koj tus me nyuam muaj lub suab txawv txawv los yog stuters
Nws nyuaj heev rau hauv qhov teeb meem no kom kos tus kab ntawm "normal" thiab "pathology." Cov menyuam yaus tsim tsis zoo. Muaj qee zaum pib tham tom qab ib xyoos, lwm tus tom qab ob. Tom qab ntawd, raws li txoj cai, lawv tag nrho "sib npaug" thiab ho loj hlob zoo rau cov me nyuam. Tab sis cov niam txiv tseem txhawj xeeb. Ntawm cov lus nug no, cov kws txawj muaj li nram no: "Yog tias koj tus menyuam nkag siab ntau tshaj ib lo lus hauv kab lus thaum hnub nyoog 2 xyoos, ces qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws."
Yog li, txawm tias koj tus menyuam tsis hais lus, tab sis tam sim no to taub cov kab lus: "Muab koj lub khau rau ntawm thiab mus ntawm no - Kuv mam li muab ib qho khoom ua si" - koj tsis muaj kev txhawj xeeb ntau dhau.