Txawm tias muaj tseeb tias txhua tus me nyuam nyiam nws tus kheej txoj kev sib nrauj los ntawm nws tus kheej, peb tseem tuaj yeem muab qee qhov teeb meem loj.
Cov menyuam yaus xav tias lawv niam lawv txiv tsis hlub lawv, uas lawv yog qhov txhaum ntawm tag nrho cov no. Lawv txhawb lawv tus kheej tias lawv tau ua tej yam tsis yog lawm, tab tom nrhiav lawv qhov yuam kev, lub sijhawm thaum lawv ua yuam kev. Ua ntej txoj kev sib nrauj, cov me nyuam yaus muaj peev xwm sim tau rov los nrog lawv niam lawv txiv, lawv saib xyuas lawv, lawv sim pab. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog kev hlub, kev hlub, lawv xav thov kom lawv niam lawv txiv thiab ua zoo rau lawv. Tab sis ntau cov menyuam yaus pub leejtwg yuav khaws tus cwj pwm txawv hauv, uas yog qhov teeb meem loj dua rau lawv txoj kev noj qab haus huv. Tom qab sib nrauj, cov me nyuam muaj kev mob siab thiab tu siab, tsis muaj kev tiv thaiv, tsis muaj kev cia siab, poob siab thiab tsis ntseeg.
Dab tsi yuav yog lub tswv yim ntawm ib tus kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws: tus niam txiv sib nrauj thiab tus tub hluas tau tawm lawm? Sim kho tag nrho cov kev tsis zoo ntawm kev sib nrauj rau tus me nyuam, txo cov theem ntawm nws kev nyuab siab, xyuas kom tus me nyuam lub neej tsis hloov radical, thiab tseem muab caij nyoog rau nws nrog ob leeg niam txiv sib txuas lus.
Tshem tawm ntawm nws tus kheej yog, hauv nws tus kheej txoj kev, tus txheej txheem tiv thaiv kom tus menyuam pom "nkaum" ntawm qhov teeb meem uas tau tshaj tawm nws. Tus me nyuam hides los ntawm lub ntiaj teb tiag tiag, vim hais tias nws ua unbearable rau nws, tsis raws li nws ua ntej tus niam txiv sib nrauj. Tom qab tag nrho, ces lawv tau ua ke, hlub nws, ua ke overcame tag nrho cov teeb meem thiab muab nws nrog txhua yam nws xav tau. Tsev neeg yog holistic, cov neeg tshaj plaws txog nws txij li thaum yug los ua ke, ntawm nws thiab hlub ib leeg. Thiab tam sim no, tom qab sib nrauj, tsev neeg sib tawg thiab tus me nyuam tsis muaj ib qho tseem ceeb heev - ib tug ntawm cov niam txiv, lub ntiaj teb yuav tawg, thiab lub tswv yim tias niam txiv muaj peev xwm ua tsis tau ib leeg, ntshai, ua rau kev chim siab rau cov neeg sib nrauj, yog tias muaj rau qhov ua rau tag nrho cov "kev puas tsuaj".
Thaum tus me nyuam kaw nws tus kheej, nws hides los ntawm qhov kev ua tsis ncaj rau nws nyob, tsim lub ntiaj teb zoo hauv nws tus kheej, tsis ntseeg leej twg ntawm lub ntiaj teb "lwm", ua tsis muaj kev sib raug zoo, tsis paub nws tsis pom nws tus cwj pwm. Nws nyob nrog kev nco, ntxim hlub pink illusions. Tag nrho cov no tshwm sim los ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab kev ntxhov siab. Nws qhov tseem ceeb yog nyob ntawm kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov niam txiv sib rau tom qab sib nrauj, qhov nws ua tau thiab ua li cas lawv kho tus me nyuam.
Yuav kom pab tau koj tus me nyuam mus nyob nws lub neej dua, thiab kom txo tau kev ntxhov siab tom qab sib nrauj, koj yuav tsum pab nws to taub qhov teeb meem. Piav rau tus me nyuam tias nws niam nws txiv tseem hlub nws heev, thiab tseem muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus. Tias niam txiv uas tawm mus yuav pom tau tus me nyuam, mus xyuas nws, thiab tseem ceeb tshaj - siv sijhawm nrog nws, thiab, ua ntej, hlub nws ntau thiab saib xyuas nws.
Lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb yuav qhia rau tus menyuam tias qhov teeb meem hauv nws lub neej yuav tsawg npaum li tsawg tau. Yog tias koj tsis xav ua kom raug mob rau tus menyuam - tsis txhob ua rau nws tus txiv thiab tsis sib haum nrog koj tus txiv, tsis txhob cia koj tus kheej hais lus nyob rau hauv ib lub suab lus thiab muaj suab nrov, txawm tias koj yuav xav tau nws. Qhia tau tias koj tau kho kom zoo li kev sib nrauj, thiab rau koj tus txiv, thiab qhov tsis muaj dab tsi txaus ntshai hauv qhov tseeb, qhov tseeb, tsis muaj.
Sim npaj kom tus niam txiv, uas tam sim no tsis nyob nrog tus me nyuam, pom nws ntau npaum li ntau tau. Tus kws qhia txog kev puas siab puas ntsws xaiv qee zaus xws li qhov chaw taug kev, qhov uas koj tau mus xyuas ua ntej, kom txo qhov sib txawv nrog yav dhau los, los txo qhov sib txawv hauv kev siv sij hawm nrog tus me nyuam tom qab sib nrauj.
Tsis tas li ntawd, piav rau tus menyuam tias niam txiv qhov kev sib nrauj tsis yog nws qhov txhaum, tsis yog tus niam txiv. Yog hais tias qhov kev txhaum muaj kev txhawj xeeb ntawm ib tug niam txiv, tus menyuam tuaj yeem hloov nws txoj kev npau taws rau nws, pib ntxub nws thiab ua kev kaw nrog rau nws. Raws li tus txiv neej ntawm tus neeg ua txhaum, tus me nyuam tuaj yeem hloov nws txoj kev npau taws rau tag nrho lwm cov neeg sawv cev ntawm kev sib deev, thaum lub sij hawm ntev, muaj teeb meem txuas lus nrog lawv.
Thaum cov niam txiv sib nrauj lawm, cov menyuam tuaj yeem raug rho tawm ntawm lawv vim lawv txoj kev ntseeg hauv kev hlub, kev sib raug zoo, tsev neeg, kev sib yuav, kev siab ncaj thiab kev ncaj ncees. Lawv muaj kev xav hais tias qhov no yog li cas tag nrho cov kev sib yuav xaus, thiab hais tias qhov no kuj yog txoj hmoo uas tos lawv nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej. Kev ntseeg yuav ploj mus, thiab kev xaiv ntsej muag tshwm sim. Kev sib nrauj niam txiv kuj tuaj yeem raug qhia nyob rau hauv lub subconscious, yog li ntawd, nws tsis muaj hmoo, tiam sis feem ntau ntawm cov kev sib yuav ntawm cov me nyuam uas nws niam txiv sib nrauj xwb disintegrate.
Yog tias koj tus me nyuam tseem tau xauv nws tus kheej tom qab kev sib deev ntawm niam txiv txoj kev sib yuav, tus kws kho mob tau qhia kom pab, tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo rau kev phooj ywg thiab kev sib txuas lus. Txhawb tus me nyuam raws li txoj kev, npaj cov tog neeg rau nws, qhia nws txoj kev sib txuas lus, muaj peev xwm los ua phooj ywg. Yog tias tus menyuam tseem xav tau nws tus kheej - tsis txhob yuam nws kom sib txuas lus, muab nws ua qhov nws xav tau. Yog tias nws tsis sib raug zoo nrog cov phooj ywg, nrog nws tham txog nws tej teeb meem, muab tswv yim zoo, txhawb nws.
Thiab tseem ceeb tshaj plaws: tom qab sib nrauj, muab tus me nyuam saib xyuas thiab hlub ntau dua. Sib tham nrog nws, tham txog ntau yam ntsiab lus, muab kev sib tw, nrhiav sij hawm rau nws, vim tias tsis muaj kev txhawj xeeb rau cov me nyuam tuaj yeem ua rau lawv xav tau ntau dua, thiab tsim kev zoo rau tus kheej, lossis yuav muaj kev pheej hmoo tias nws yuav tshwm sim ntawm nws nyob rau hauv ib tug ntau paub tab hnub nyoog.
Txov nws txoj kev ntshai uas tau tshwm sim los ntawm txoj kev sib nrauj, nug seb nws xav li cas, tsim kev sib tham nrog kwv tij neej tsa thiab me nyuam, kev nplij siab thiab chaw rau kev sib txuas lus - qhov no yuav pab nws tshem tawm kev sib cais. Qhov no yog lub tswv yim tseem ceeb ntawm tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsig ntawm qhov teeb meem ntawm "niam txiv sib nrauj - thiab tus tub hluas tau dhau los ua nws tus kheej." Qhov loj tshaj plaws, tsis txhob maj thiab tsis txhob siab rau tus me nyuam, muab nws xaiv thiab hlub, vim hais tias qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws nws xav tau.