Tam sim no nws tau hnov ntau tshaj ntawm cov txwj laus hais lo lus "tsis tuaj yeem", thiab yog tias nws tsis mloog, nws tuaj yeem tau txais tus neeg txiv plig tus thawj coj. Qhov no yog ib lub sijhawm nyuaj rau lub neej ntawm tus menyuam, thiab nws yog qhov nyuaj dua yog tias niam txiv coj tsis haum: hnub no - lawv txwv, tagkis - lawv raug tso cai. Tus me nyuam tsis nkag siab vim li cas nws "tsis tau", thiab tus tij laug thiab niam txiv "ua tau." Thiab feem ntau, yog vim li cas feem ntau nws hloov tawm hais tias nws yog ib qho zoo nkauj, nyiam - txwv tsis pub, tab sis dab tsi "tau" thiab "xav tau" - qhov txawv?
Tus me nyuam, nws yuav tsum tsis txhob ua raws li nws tau ua: nws yog qhov kev ntxub ntxaug, nws tsis ua, ua kom nws cov kwv tij - qhov no yog tus me nyuam kev xav ... Yuav ua li cas peb thiaj nrhiav tau qhov kub txhais ntawm no, kom tsis txhob ua txhaum tus kheej tshaj tawm thiab tib lub sij hawm tsis zoo , tsis txhob cia tag nrho permissiveness? Yuav kom tsis txhob tau txais kev ntxhov siab hauv qhov teeb meem kev kawm no, nws tsim nyog los siv ntau yam tseem ceeb.
Cov txwv tsis pub siv rau tag nrho cov neeg hauv tsev neeg, nrog rau cov laus. Yog tias koj muab tsis tau koj tus ntiv tes rau hauv lub qhov (socket), koj tsis tau tag nrho, vim nws yog ib qho txaus ntshai rau lub neej. Cov txwv tsis pub nruj heev thiab yuav tsum tau ua raws li cov lus qhia. Ua ntej tshaj tawm cov khoom rau tus me nyuam, lawv daim ntawv yuav tsum tau sib tham ntawm cov neeg laus hauv tsev neeg. Yog hais tias qhov kev txwv tsis pub muaj nqis, qhov no yuav rov qab qhia tus me nyuam tias nws yog ib tus tswv cuab ntawm tsev neeg (tsev neeg) ua nws cov neeg ze.
Kev txwv no siv rau ib tus neeg hauv ib lub sijhawm tshwj xeeb thiab, kom tsis txhob muaj teeb meem, yuav tsum tau ua kom tiav. Piv txwv, leej niam siv tau rab riam ntse, tig hliv roj rau ntawm lub qhov cub, ces nws tuaj yeem ua tau. Tus me nyuam tsis tau kawm, uas txhais tau hais tias cov khoom siv hauv tsev no raug txwv tsis pub rau nws.
Txawm li cas los xij, cov kev txwv thiab txwv tsis pub cais tawm ntawm qhov kev paub: tus menyuam yuav tsum paub tias cov neeg laus ua haujlwm nrog kev puas tsuaj. Qhia nws seb nws rab riam puas ntse, ua li cas nws txiav tawm ntawm cov qhob cij, tab sis tib lub sij hawm piav qhia tias koj tuaj yeem txiav koj tus kheej nrog rau riam thiab nws yuav mob heev. Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau tus menyuam paub thiab ntseeg tias txwv, tsis zoo li txwv, tsuas yog ib ntus "tsis pub" thaum nws tseem me. Yog li, xyoo no tsis tuaj yeem siv cov khoos kas thiab txuas mus rau lub network ntawm kev siv tshuab, tab sis nws tus nus-tsev kawm ntawv muaj peev xwm nkag mus rau hauv lub qhov hluav taws xob los yog preheat su, thiab nws muaj peev xwm ua.
Cov npe ntawm cov kev txwv thiab txwv tsis pub yuav tsum yog loj heev. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam tam sim no thiab ces yuav hnov: "Tsis txhob kov, tsis txhob noj, nws yog txaus ntshai, nws tsis yog rau koj," nws tsis zoo li yuav zam rau qhov no. Yog xav hloov nws txoj hauj lwm tsis ncaj ncees hauv tsev, nws yuav ua ob qho tib si sib tw thiab ib rab riam, thiab ntxig rau hauv cov ntsaws, thiab lwm yam. Qhov tseeb, cov laus tus kheej ua rau nws mob siab rau lawv txoj kev raug mob. Ntxiv rau, kev txwv rau kev txwv tsis pub muaj kev txwv, cov neeg laus tau tsim nyob ib ncig ntawm tus me nyuam lub chaw "txaus ntshai" uas nws tsuas yog tsis muaj peev xwm loj hlob thiab loj hlob zoo li qub. Nyob hauv ib qho teeb meem ntxhov siab thiab kev ntshai ntawm kev ntshai yuav ua rau kev loj hlob ntawm kev puas hlwb hauv cov menyuam.
Yuav zam tau qhov no, sim txo cov kev txwv thiab txwv kom tsawg kawg. Koj puas xav tias qhov no ua tsis tau? Tom qab ntawd kuv qhia koj kom ua cov nram qab no. Sau rau ntawm daim ntawv sau tag nrho cov kev txwv thiab txwv tsis pub koj ua tsis tau zoo qhia koj tus menyuam. Thiab tam sim no faib lawv mus rau hauv peb qhov chaw:
1. Txwv kev txwv rau kev xav ntawm nws txoj kev nyab xeeb.
2. Txwv txoj kev txwv kom tsis txhob ntshai tsam koj tsev neeg muaj kev ruaj ntseg.
3. Kev txwv tsis pub muaj kev tshwj xeeb ntawm tus neeg laus ntshaw kom muaj kev ywj pheej, ntau dua, muaj kev ntseeg siab dua.
Taw tes rau ib qho - qhov no yog qhov tsawg "tsis tuaj yeem", qhov kev ua tiav ntawm qhov yuav tsum tau nrhiav los ntawm tus menyuam. Nyob rau ntawm qhov thib ob, koj lub neej kev paub yuav qhia rau koj tias yuav ua licas rau lub sijhawm me me xwb, yog li ntawd nws tsis tawg qis me me, tsis tshem lub computer saib ntawm lub rooj, ntsaws qhov qaum, tsis cuam tshuam tag nrho cov ntaub pua chaw tawm ntawm lub txee rau hauv av ... Lub thawv rau khoom - siab dua. Yog tias tsis muaj qhov xauv qhov rooj rau ntawm qhov rooj, daim ntaub nplaum yuav ua haujlwm. Vase, naj hoom, tshuaj pleev ib ce, thiab lwm yam. Thiab yog li ntawd. Txhawm rau tiv thaiv tus me nyuam ntawm kev raug mob thiab kev piam sij, thaum txo tus naj npawb ntawm cov taboos nruj heev, koj tuaj yeem ua tau (thiab qee zaus kuj xav tau) tib yam nkaus. Txwv tsis pub tawm hauv cov chaw mus yoojyim tag nrho cov khoom ntaiv thiab txiav khoom, qhov khoom sib tw, cov ntais khoom, tshuaj, cov tshuaj hauv tsev, cov kua qaub, thiab lwm yam. Siv ib qho hlau - nws tseem tshem tawm ntawm kev txhaum, kom txog thaum nws tau txias.
Raws li lub ntsiab lus thib peb, cov neeg laus, ntawm qhov tseeb, muaj txoj cai tsis pub leej twg paub, nyob ntsiag to so, dawb lub sij hawm, txawm qhov tseeb tias tus me nyuam yaus thiab sib tw ua kom tiav txhua qhov chaw nyob. Cia li tsis txhob hnov qab txog qhov tseeb no: kev ywj pheej ntawm ib tug yog qhov txwv ntawm kev ywj pheej ntawm lwm tus. Yog tias koj xav kom tsis txhob ua tiav ntawm tus me nyuam thaum saib koj cov TV series nyiam, nws tsis xav tias nws yog qhov ncaj ncees. Tab sis yog leej niam nkees, mus pw rau ib teev, ces, tus me nyuam yuav tsum tau piav qhia tias nws tsis tuaj yeem ua suab nrov.
Piav ntau cov kev txwv thiab txwv rau tus me nyuam maj mam, voicing tsis ntau tshaj ib hnub. Thiab nws yuav tsum tau ua tiav raws nraim thaum tus me nyuam pib qhia cov paj laum. Ntawm no nws yog ib qho txaus siab heev nyob rau hauv lub rosette - qhia rau kuv tias muaj lub neej tam sim no uas tsis nyiam ntau thaum nws tus ntiv tes tawm hauv nws cov burrow thiab tau "tom". Nws them siab rau qhov cub lub qhov cub, ncav tes rau lub ntsej muag ci - nws yog lub sij hawm los tham txog qhov txaus ntshai ntawm roj thiab hluav taws. Tab sis tsis txhob ntshai tus me nyuam, tsuas yog tham txog kev ntshai tiag tiag. Tsis txhob nkaum ntawm tus me nyuam tias nws mob siab thiab nws yuav quaj, tab sis koj tsis tuaj yeem ntshai cov kws kho mob nrog txhaj tshuaj - koj yuav raug txom nyem yog tias koj yuav tsum hno nws rau yav tom ntej. Thiab tsis txhob dag, tias ib tug neeg yuav tau tawm ntawm lub qhov hluav taws xob thiab mus tom hav zoov tsaus. Tus me nyuam tsis yog qhov ntawd, nws yuav tsum nkag mus rau chav tsev.
Sim ua kom tsis txhob lo lus "tsis tuaj yeem" thiab cov lus "tsis", uas pib ua lus tsis zoo. Tsis tas li xwb, mus txog rau ib theem ntawm lub hlwb ntawm tus me nyuam tsis xav txog qhov "tsis" thiab leej niam cov lus tau rau nws lub ntsiab lus tsis meej kiag li (tsis txhob "tsis" - "noj", "tsis nce" - "nce"). Nws yog ib lub tswv yim los hloov lawv nrog lwm cov kev tawm tsam. Piv txwv li, "koj kov tsis tau lub qhov cub" hloov nrog "kov lub slab yog txaus ntshai", tab sis "tsis nce saum lub rooj, koj yuav poob!" hloov cov lus "high table, thiab yog tias koj nce rau nws, koj tuaj yeem vau!". Tsis tas li ntawd, sim tsis txhob kho tus me nyuam thawj zaug rau qhov tsis zoo ntawm cov xwm txheej, vim cov lus hais tias "koj poob, ntaus, koj yuav tawg, thiab lwm yam" qhov tseeb, lawv twb tham tsis tau txog qhov tseeb tias tsuas yog ib yam dab tsi tau cia siab tias yuav muaj tseeb tiag.
Tus me nyuam lub neej nyob rau hauv ib qho kev ntom network ntawm txwv thiab txwv tsis pub siv. Raws li cov menyuam txoj kev puas siab puas ntsws, cov kev txwv thiab txwv tsis pub tsuas muaj peev xwm tsim tau ntau lub chaw hauv tus me nyuam, tab sis kuj tseem txav nws, raws li ib tug neeg. Sim mus nrhiav qhov kub kub txhais kom txuag nws tsis yog kev noj qab haus huv nkaus xwb, tab sis kuj paub txog kev zoo siab thiab kev zoo siab.