Cov menyuam yaus yuav tsum hnov koj hais lus kom thiaj li siv tau rau nws, kawm kom paub tus neeg lub suab, thiab tom qab lo lus. Yuav ua li cas yuav nws paub hais tias ib tug kua yog ib qho kua, yog hais tias tsis yog los ntawm koj. Qhov tseeb, nws yuav tsis to taub qhov no nyob rau hauv ib lub hlis los sis rau xyoo, tab sis feem ntau nws hnov cov npe ntawm cov los yog lwm yam khoom, nws yuav npaj siab rau nws tus kheej txog nws cov lus.
Tus menyuam yuav tsum tau kawm txog kev sib tham thiab sib txuas lus, los txhawb nws, txawm tias nws tsis teb. Qhov ntau nws hnov suab sib txawv, lub suab thiab cov lus, nws zoo dua nws cov lus hais yuav tsim. Yog li saib dab tsi thiab seb koj hais dab tsi rau tus me nyuam.
Cia nws hnov ntawm koj tsuas yog cov lus zoo thiab kev sib haum xeeb. Nyeem zaj dab neeg ncaj ncees thaum yug los, hu nkauj menyuam yaus, tham txog lub ntiaj teb uas nws pib nyob. Tsis txhob qw rau tus menyuam thiab tsis txhob thuam nws. Tus me nyuam tsis to taub nws ua dab tsi thiab vim li cas nws tsis ua raws li qhov koj xav tau, tsis tas li ntawd, cov me nyuam yaus tsis paub dab tsi uas koj xav tau ntawm lawv. Yog li ntawd, scolding koj tus me nyuam yog qhov tsis tseem ceeb, koj tsuas traumatize nws thiab thawb nws tam ntawm koj tus kheej. Siv qhov ntshai tsam me nyuam ntshai, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj rau koj sim ua kom nws lub neej zoo li kev zoo siab thiab kev zoo siab.
Tsis txhob ntxub nrog tus me nyuam. Tus me nyuam yuav tsum hnov qhov tseeb hais lus, txwv tsis pub rau yav tom ntej nws yuav rov qab rau koj thiab muab cov lus sib txawv. Thiab rov qab kawm, raws li peb paub, nws nyuaj dua li qhia. Yog li ntawd, kom muab cov ntsiab lus rau yav tom ntej ntawm tus me nyuam xav tau nrog txhua lub luag haujlwm.
Nws paub tias cov me nyuam paub zoo txog cov me nyuam cov suab lus, yog li tsis txhob yig los nyeem nws rau nws. Cia nws tseem tsis to taub lub ntsiab lus, tab sis nws zoo nkaus li tus cwj pwm txawv uas koj xa mus rau nws thaum muaj kev sib txuas lus. Tsis txhob ntshai "nyiag" tus menyuam nrog koj. Nws pom tias cov me nyuam, nws niam nws txiv tau siv sij hawm ntau nrog lawv thiab sib koom tes nrog kev sib txuas lus nrog lawv, tsis txhob hnov mob siab rau yav tom ntej thiab tsis txhob khawm lub tsho. Lawv loj hlob rau lawv tus kheej thiab kawm nrog kev txaus siab hauv kev ywj pheej. Cov me nyuam uas tsis muaj kev sib txuas lus, ntawm qhov tsis haum, nws nyuaj rau mus rau theem thaum nws yog lub sij hawm ua si nws tus kheej thiab siv qee lub sij hawm tsis muaj niam txiv. Qhov no yog qhov ceebtoom tshwjxeeb thaum lub sijhawm uas tus menyuam raug coj mus kawm kindergarten.
Txhawm rau koj tus menyuam kom nws sai sai, tsis txhob hnov qab txog kev sib tham tactile. Zaws thiab kev loj hlob ntawm tus me nyuam txoj kev txawj txav me me ncaj qha nyob ntawm nws lub hlwb. Yog li ntawd, tus thawj coj ntawm kev zas thiab coj nws raws li txoj cai ua nws tsawg kawg ib zaug ib hnub. Txhob nco lub sijhawm kom mob siab rau tus menyuam thaum koj swaddle nws, kis koj cov ntiv tes, puag koj txhais tes me me tes thiab luj taws. Tom qab ntawd, thaum me nyuam hlob me ntsis, muab nws ntau yam khoom ua si li hauv daim ntawv thiab kev ntxhib los mos. Qhov ntau ntau lawv yuav, qhov sai dua tus me nyuam yuav paub ib feem ntawm lub ntiaj teb no.
Tam sim no muaj ntau qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb txog kev siv hluav taws xob thiab tshuab hluav taws xob tuaj yeem hloov tau tus me nyuam nrog kev sib txuas lus. Hais lus nruj heev, tus me nyuam yuav pom tau lub suab los ntawm ib lub TV, ib lub mloog xov tooj cua lossis ib qho khoom ua si sib tham. Tab sis qhov kev sib txuas lus tsis tseem ceeb rau nws lub ntsiab lus, vim nws tsis pom thiab tsis to taub cov khoom uas hais rau nws. TV rau tus menyuam yog qhov nyuaj thiab tsis totaub. Cov niam txiv paub ntau dua nrog lawv, tus me nyuam zoo siab hu thiab kawm tau yooj yim dua.
Yuav kom koj tus me nyuam loj hlob zoo, sib tham ntau thiab txaus siab, koj yuav tsum ua ntau yam. Tiam sis tag nrho cov kev sib tw no yuav tsum tau txais kev pom zoo thaum koj pom tias tus me nyuam sim teb koj tus xov tooj los sis lus nug, nws ua tib zoo mloog zoo li cas thiab nws lub siab hloov li cas ntawm kev sib txuas lus. Tsis tas li ntawd xwb, qhov kev sib txuas lus nrog cov niam txiv txij thaum ntxov yog qhov pov thawj ntawm kev cia siab rau yav tom ntej.