Kuv yuav muab ib qho piv txwv yooj yim . Nws tus kheej, cia li ib xyoo dhau los, tsuas yog adored woolen tiab, Kuv tsis tau hnav lub caij ntuj no. Nws yog nyob rau hauv zoo meej mob, tab sis rau ib txhia yog vim li cas nws zoo nkaus li rau kuv unfashionable, npeeb, qub cas. Kuv xav mus thiab yuav, albeit yuav luag zoo li qub, tab sis tshiab. Kuv xav tias tej zaum koj xav tias zoo li ntawd. Tab sis muaj cov neeg, psychologists tseem hu lawv "bouncers", uas xav tau ntau yam lossi. Lawv nyiam ua tej yam sib txawv, thiab hauv "tsis-nres" hom: hnub no ib, tag kis yog qhov thib ob, hnub tom qab tag kis peb. Feem ntau, lub neej ntaus tus yuam sij! Tab sis lawv yuav tsis tuaj yeem coj tus laus qub (tsis yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws lub koob npe nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag ntawm cov tub ceev xwm) rau lub siab, zoo dua yuav lub TV tshiab dua kho qhov qub (tsis thwj pov tseg), xav kom paub qhov tshiab nrog lub rooj sib tham nrog cov phooj ywg qub (ntxov lossis tom qab lawv yuav tsis nyob twj ywm tag nrho). Daim ntawv tseem muaj ntxiv mus. Nyob rau hauv dav dav, lub outlook tsis yog feem ntau cov rosy. Feem ntau cov neeg - "poprygunchikov" craves tshiab impressions thiab kaj lug unforgettable cwj pwm txawv. Cia peb pom dab tsi tiag tiag rau txoj kev nqhis dej rau txoj kev tshiab thiab qhov txheej txheem no yuav qis dua?
Ua tsaug lossis luv nqi?
Psychologists hais tias xws li "dhia", raws li ib txoj cai, yog cov neeg uas, thaum yau thiab tus hluas, tau tshuav unsaid. Tsis yog, kuv cov txheeb ze yeej pom zoo lawv cov kev ua, tab sis lawv tau ua nrog kev yeem: "Zoo, tab sis koj ua tau zoo dua", "Tsis muaj dab tsi, tab sis koj tau ua ntau dua", "Koj muaj peev xwm qhia qhov tshwm sim zoo tshaj plaws." Piv txwv, tus menyuam tau hais khov kho nws niam hais tias nws tau tshem tag nrho cov khoom ua si, thiab nws teb tias: "Zoo, tab sis koj tsis ua kom koj lub txaj." Los yog lub tsev kawm ntawv qhia nws niam nws txiv hais tias nws tsuas muaj ob tug "quads" hauv lub hlis no, thiab nws niam nws txiv tau hais ib yam li "Zoo ua, tab sis koj tus neeg nyob ze ntawm lub rooj feem ntau tsuas yog" tsib ". Sim khiav koj tus kheej rau lub hlis tom ntej no. " Qhov ntawd yog, tsis pub tus me nyuam txawm tias ob peb hnub sib tw los so ntawm nws cov laurels, nws txaus siab rau nws tus kheej, txawm tias me me, tiam sis muaj kev vam meej, hloov tam sim ntawd nws txoj kev ua tiav uas yuav tos nws tom ntej. Yog li, nws yog unconsciously qhia tsis kom txaus siab, tab sis rau depreciate yam, neeg, achievements.
Thiab maj mam ib tus neeg tuaj yeem txiav txim siab tias qhov txiaj ntsig zoo tsis tseem ceeb, tom qab ua tiav lawv, ib tug yuav tsum pib ua hauj lwm tam sim ntawd kom "ntes tau thiab dhau".
Qeeb hauv pace
Ntawm chav kawm, peb tsis tuaj yeem kho dhau los. Tab sis kom hloov txoj kev ntawm lub neej "Hnub no kuv xav nyob rau hauv ib yam, thiab tag kis kiag li" tam sim no thiab lub neej tom ntej ntawm lub xub pwg mus rau ib tug neeg. Yuav muaj ib tug yuav thiab me ntsis ntawm phev. Koj yuav ua li cas rau qhov no?
Tsis txhob pib qhov pib tshiab. Peb tab tom nrhiav rau tom ntej rau tej yam tshiab, peb tab tom nrhiav rau pem hauv ntej kom nws yuav ua li cas. Thiab nws zoo nkaus li peb tias "zoo nkauj nyob deb" yuav yog qhov zoo tshaj qhov tseeb. Tsis txhob ua zoo rau cov haujlwm tshiab. Yog hais tias nws tseem nyuaj rau koj, tsis txhob xav txog lawv txhua. Ua zoo mloog zoo kom nrhiav tau cov tswv yim uas muaj "nyob ntawm no thiab tam sim no." Npaj koj lub neej. Kev paub txog koj lub peev xwm los cuam tshuam thaum pib ntawm qhov chaw sib tw, muab koj tus kheej cog lus rau qee lub sijhawm los mus ntxiv txog qhov pib, txawm hais tias koj tsis xav ua qhov no thiab twb tab tom qog rau kev ua kom tshiab, thiab pom dab tsi ntawm nws.
Yog tias koj nyiam nws? Piv txwv, muab koj tus kheej cog lus tias nyob ntawm qhov chaw ua hauj lwm koj yuav tau qeeb, hais, rau ib xyoos; tias koj yuav sib ntsib nrog cov phooj ywg "qub" ib zaug ib lub lim tiam. Lawv qhuas lawv tus kheej. Rau tag nrho, tag nrho cov kev ua tau zoo, txawm tias nyob rau hauv koj lub tswv yim, txawm tsis tseem ceeb. Thiab tsis txwv koj tus kheej kom yooj yim "Ua zoo" lossis "Ua haujlwm zoo", siv qhov kaj thiab qhov tseem ceeb, lawv tseem nco zoo dua. Thaum xub thawj no yuav tshwm sim sai dua "ntawm lub tshuab", tab sis maj mam koj yuav koom tes nrog thiab pib txais kev lom zem los ntawm qhov "txheej txheem" no.
Koj puas tso tseg cuam tshuam?
Yog hais tias tus cwj pwm coj no yog ib qho kev txhaum ntawm ib tug neeg ze koj, cov kws kho mob tau tawm tswv yim tsis txhob thuam qhov "bouncer", tsis txhob ua txhaum thiab tsis hu nws "rau lo lus teb." Tom qab tag nrho, nws raug thuam hauv nws lub sijhawm, thiab qhov no yog qhov nws tau ua rau! Siab ntev thiab muaj siab ntev. Koj ua txuj tias nws tsis-nres tsis thab koj txhua, muab siab rau koj tus kheej, ua koj tus kheej ua lag luam thiab yeej tsis siv lub luag haujlwm rau nws "tails". Raws li txoj cai, xws li txoj cai ntawm kev cuam tshuam tsis yog cuam tshuam rau "bouncers" zoo li tub luam dej txias, thiab lawv pib txheeb lawv txoj kev coj cwj pwm thiab ua haujlwm yuam kev.