Nws yog siv rau qhov tseeb tias muaj siab xav ua tiav tam sim ntawd, tab sis lwm yam - tus quaj, smears rau lub ntsej muag ntawm lub kua muag thiab tsis paub thiab cov txheeb ze tsis ncaj ncees lawm. Koj rooj plaub? Peb kev zoo siab: koj muaj ib tug neeg ua haujlwm me me thiab ib tug neeg dag neeg phem. Tej zaum koj yuav tau qiv, los yog qaug zog, koj tau poob koj lub tsev - thiab tso ncaj qha 15 feeb ua ntej lub TV ncua ntev txog 2 teev ua txhua yam tsis txaus ntseeg (koj yuav tsum tau ua dab tsi nrog tus menyuam thaum koj tham nrog ib tug phooj ywg), tsis tu ncua (dab tsi ntxiv rau tus me nyuam mos, thaum koj yuav tsum mus ua haujlwm tom hauj lwm), hnav khaub ncaws me me me los yog tus ntxhais huabtais ua koj qhov kev txhawj xeeb (zoo, koj tuaj lig!). Koj maj mam nthuav qhov ciaj ciam ntawm yam uas tau tso cai, thiab tus neeg paub qab hau scary nws. Nyob ntawm seb koj ua li cas rau nws cov kev ua, koj tus me nyuam kuj ua nws tus cwj pwm. Nws txig paub txog kev kos duab ntawm kev ntxias, kev txhawb rau nws thaum twg nws xav kom ua tau ib yam dab tsi.
Qhov twg yog qhov uas los ntawm
Cov qis tshaj plaws ntawm cov me nyuam me "puppeteers" tau piav qhia hauv qab no. Koj puas paub koj "sweetie"? Peb yuav tsum xav txog yuav ua li cas muab tso rau hauv nws qhov chaw.
Napoleon tus tawv ncauj
Creepy obstinate, stern commander, txaus ntshai tus tswv. Tag nrho cov khoom ua si yog nws xwb, qhia rau lwm tus neeg cov khoom qab zib - ua kom zoo, tab sis kom haum lwm tus neeg - raws li tsis muaj dab tsi ua, tsis-kev coj ua ntawm txoj cai invented los ntawm nws yog fraught nrog beatings. Cov ntaub ntawv meej meej meej meej meej rau kev ua thawj coj. Raws li txoj cai, nws tsis muaj cov phooj ywg, vim tias nws npau taws, sim unsuccessfully mus yaum nws lub neej. Hom yog ntau dua ntawm cov tub, tab sis qhov "nkag" yog tsis yooj yim. Kuv yuav ua li cas? Piav rau tus me nyuam tias koj tuaj yeem ua tau raws li koj xav tau yog tias koj kawm nkag mus rau hauv. Thov txim muab cov khoom ua si? Cia nws txiav txim siab rau cov uas tseem tuaj yeem muab rau kev siv. Koj puas xav pokomandovat? Xav txog qhov kev ua si uas cov tub ntxhais hluas "tus coj" txiav txim siab - nrog rau cov neeg koom. Tus me nyuam yuav nkag siab tias kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm cov me nyuam ntxiv zog rau nws txoj cai, thiab nws yuav nyiam nws.
Reva-nyuj
Nws zoo li khov thiab pab tsis tau: khoov rau txoj kev nyuab siab, nrog lub suab ploog, nws thov pab. Nws xav ua kom nplij nws lub siab, kom daws tau ib yam dab tsi uas ua rau nws zoo siab. Kuv yuav ua li cas? Nws tsis tas yuav pom zoo rau ntxiv indulgences tsuas yog vim kua muag ntsig txog. Yog li, koj tus kheej txhawb rau hauv crypt infantile thiab passive. Pom zoo: koj sim ua koj tus kheej, tab sis ntawm no kuv yuav pab koj. Thiab qhuas rau kev vam meej.
Chameleon
Nyob hauv tsev, tus me nyuam nyob ib leeg, nyob hauv kindergarten ntxiv, rau taug kev hauv qhov chaw ua si thib peb ... Nws paub zoo tias yuav ua li cas yog tias nws xav tau ib yam dab tsi, thiab nws yog ib qho tseemceeb tshwj xeeb yog tias raug tshem tawm.
Tus neeg dag
Nws tus cwj pwm yog ib feem ntawm kev ua yeeb yam hu ua "Kuv yuav ua dab tsi rau nws?". Tshem cov khoom ua si - tsuas yog koj muab cov qhob noom xim kasfes, txhuam koj cov hniav - yog tias koj cia ib nrab sij hawm ua si hauv computer "shooters."
Kuv yuav ua li cas? Tsim kom muaj kev cai ncaj ncees thiab ua raws li lawv sib zog. Tsis muaj concessions! Koj tuaj yeem ua ib daim ntawv teev cov kev rau txim uas yuav ua raws li yog thaum tsis mloog lus.
Slaveholder
Txuam nrog ib qho ntawm cov txheeb ze thiab tsis pom zoo cia nws mus ib kauj ruam. Qhov no zoo li ib qho kev tshwm sim ntawm txoj kev hlub, nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb - ib tug sophisticated manipulation. Feem ntau cov me nyuam coj tus cwj pwm li no nrog rau cov niam tais yawm txiv, thiab cov uas "cov tub qhe" tsis muaj nqi, tag nrho cia lawv.
Huab tais thiab retinue
Cov niam txiv, uas ua rau cov me nyuam yaus tsis muaj zog, pab daws lawv tus kheej: "Peb tsis tau kawm txog zaj lus no, peb tsis tau mus kawm, vim tias nws tsis xav mus kawm ..." Tus me nyuam tseem tsis tau xav txog qhov nws tau ua, rau lawv. Tsim tus hierarchy tseeb hauv tsev neeg, thiab yog tias koj tau txiav txim siab ib yam dab tsi, ces koj yuav tsum hais rau koj tus kheej. Thaum xub thawj, "tus vajntxwv uas kov yeej" yuav ntaus rog rau lub hwjchim. Ua siab tawv! Yog hais tias tus me nyuam, xav ua kom tiav nws, teem ib haum ntawm hysteria, tsis txhob sim yaum nws - qhov no koj tsuas yog provoke ib me me ruffian. Ua tib zoo hais tias nws tsis npaj siab ua kom tiav nws cov kev xav tau, thiab tawm ntawm chav (nws yog qhov zoo tshaj rau "kov yeej" qhov chaw tsis muaj cov neeg ua pov thawj, yog li hais tias lub pob zeb tsis muaj kev ntxias rau kev ua haujlwm rau pej xeem). Sib txuas lus nrog sonolili tus ntxhais ntawm kev sib npaug zos, tsis txhob xaj, tab sis tsis xav. Muab nws txoj kev ywj pheej xaiv: noj dab tsi, dab tsi hnav, dab tsi nyeem phau ntawv. Tus me nyuam yuav tsum xav tias: nws lub tswv yim tseem ceeb rau koj. Rau koj cov lus, nws tseem yuav kho nrog kev hwm.
Nres kuv!
Raging tus me nyuam subconsciously xav kom nres. Nws txaus siab rau txoj kev tso cai thiab tib lub sij hawm los ntawm qhov tseeb hais tias txhua tus neeg kua muag ntawm nws. Nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas thiaj li ua tau raws li cov kev cai dav dav, vim tias nws zoo li nws tsis zoo nyob hauv kindergarten lossis tsev kawm ntawv, nws pom nws cov phooj ywg nrog kev nyuaj. Pab nws hloov ua ntej nws lig dhau lawm.
Thaum twg roar tsis nthuav
Tsis ntev tas los, kuv tus cwj pwm zoo thiab me me tub me nyuam raug hloov dua tshiab! Kuv nyeem cov tswv yim ntawm ib tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsws uas thaum lub sij hawm "kev npau taws heev" koj yuav tsum hloov lub siab ntawm tus me nyuam mus rau qhov zoo. Hais tias, tsis muaj kev phom sij, tab sis zoo li "rab phom-forks nyob rau hauv lub chav ua noj, kuv muab cov poom, uas koj tuaj yeem khob thiab quav hau lub hau hauv lawv. Ib qho ntxiv txhais tau tias yooj yim rau tsis yooj yim rau ntawm tus me nyuam yog lub nqus ntawm lub tshuab ntxhua khaub ncaws. Nyob rau hauv txoj kev, peb kawm cov npe ntawm cov ris tsho, lawv cov xim, qhov loj me. Hom no kuj pab tau: tus tub screams thiab stomps nws ko taw, thiab kuv twj ywm zaum hauv pem teb thiab pib tsim ib lub fortress nrog ntsuas thiab yees thiab txuas hniav uas kuv tsav tsheb. Tus tub kaw thiab txuas mus rau rooj plaub.
Hnub nyoog ntawm stubbornness
"Lub Xya Hnub Qav Crisis Txog Peb Xyoo" yog cov yeeb yam ntawm cov cwj pwm ntawm cov me nyuam hauv lub hnub nyoog no.
Lub sij hawm no tsev neeg tsuas yog yuav tsum muaj sia nyob: nws tshwm sim rau txhua tus neeg.
1. Negativism. Cov menyuam yaus tsis txaus siab nrog tej yam.
2. Kev siab tawv. Nws sawv ntawm nws tus kheej kom txog thaum lub xeem khoom tawm ntawm txoj cai.
3. Kev Nruab Siab. Cov tswv yim ntawm cov laus pom muaj kev sib ntxub.
4. Yus tus kheej. "Kuv tus kheej!", Tsis txwv tsis pub, tab sis qhov teeb meem yog dhau ntawm lub zog.
5. Tawm tsam riot. Consciously provokes tsis sib haum.
6. Tshem tawm. Tsis ua txhua yam, txawm tias nws nyiam ua ntej, los ua ib yam dab tsi hauv kev tawm tsam ntawm ib tug neeg.
7. Kev Pom Kev Pom Zoo. Mob siab coj thiab ua hauv tsev neeg.