Nws poob rau hauv kev hlub thiab xav ntsib nrog tus tub. Nws kiag li tso nws txoj kev kawm thiab hovering hauv cov huab. Nws tsis mloog leej twg lub tswv yim thiab tsis xav to taub dab tsi. Yog li, koj tus ntxhais tus tub hluas tawm thiab tsis mus ntsib - dab tsi ua? Yuav ua li cas kom haum raws li qhov teeb meem, tsis txhob poob qhov hwm thiab kev ntseeg ntawm tus ntxhais, tsis txhob ua ib tug neeg txawv rau nws, thiab, tseem ceeb tshaj, tsis yog nws tus yeeb ncuab tus naj npawb?
"Peb yuav tsum xav txog kev kawm, tiam sis tsis txhob thuam kev hlub!", "Kuv tab tom npaj rau koj lub koom haum hauv koj lub koom haum, thiab tsis saib cov tub hluas." "Nws tsis txaus khiav ib ncig ntawm cov hnub" - xws li cov nqe lus nyob rau hauv feem ntau cov ua ob peb ua ke thiab kev sib txawv hais lus, hais lus thiab yuav nrog lawv tus ntxhais hluas, tej zaum tag nrho cov niam hauv ntiaj teb. Thiab cov ntxhais tau khiav nkaum rau lawv cov neeg txheeb ze, thiab lawv yuav khiav mus rau hnub tim, yuam niam txiv thiab tshwjxeeb, tau kawg, niam, txhawj xeeb txog lawv thiab tsis mus pw thaum hmo ntuj, zaum ntawm lub qhov rais rau sijhawm.
Tus ntxhais ntawm ib tug tub ntxhais hluas, paub txog tias tus niam pom kev sib raug zoo ntawm nws cov neeg sib tham nrog nws tus hlub, lawv cov kev mus ncig ua si rau discos thiab cov tog neeg, pib cunningly, tsis mus rau hauv kev sib cuag, tig ncig thiab lus dag kom tsis txhob scandals thiab reproaches txhua nqi. Thiab thaum pib tau pib dag ntxias, yooj yim heev tuaj yeem siv tau dag, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum muaj hnub nyoog.
Raug kev ntshai
Leej niam ib txwm ua, nws yog ntuj: qhov no yog txoj cai ntawm qhov. Lawv xav paub tias qhov kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus ntxhais thiab nws tus hluas nraug tau ploj mus li cas. Vim li cas tus ntxhais purring ib yam dab tsi hauv nws ua tsis taus pa, ces taug kev gloomier dua huab thiab tsis tham nrog leej twg? Tej zaum lawv twb muaj, zoo, uas yog nws? Thiab ua li cas yog tias tus ntxhais xeeb tub? Thiab yog tias nws tso nws, tam sim no seb ib tug hluas! Thiab yog tias lawv txiav txim siab los sib yuav, nws yuav tsuas mob heev, vim hais tias kev sib yuav ntawm ob tug me nyuam, ib tug yuav hais, yuav tsis ntev, nws yog qhov tseeb.
Yuav ua li cas? Kuv puas yuav txwv tsis pub nws mus ntsib nws? Tab sis nws yog tam sim no retreating, nws tsis mloog cov laus nyob rau hauv tag nrho, nws yog loj, nws yog ywj siab. Thiab nws mam li ntsib nws, tab sis tsuas yog, tau kawg, me ntsis tom qab, thiab tsis yog tam sim no, ib tug txiv leej tub thiab xav yuav nws, thiab nws twb khi nws tus kheej, thiab tus ntxhais yuav dhau los ntawm txoj kev hlub tiag. Lub neej yav tom ntej, suav, cia. Needless hais, xav li no - lub load tsis yooj yim. Yog, ua ib leej niam ntawm ib tug ntxhais hluas tsis yog ib qho yooj yim.
Qhov zoo tshaj plaws, yog tias tus ntxhais nws tus kheej tau tuaj yeem tuaj qhia nws cov teeb meem thiab teeb meem hauv ib qho nyuaj rau koj, thiab tsis nrog tus neeg nyob ze lossis tus hluas nkauj. Yuav kom tsim nyog rau lub sij hawm zoo thiab kaw kom nws tsis txhob cia qhov yuam kev me me. Tab sis tsis yog txhua tus muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog kev sib raug zoo. Thiab nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem no nws yog tsim nyog rau kev nkag siab rau koj tus kheej ib txhia tseem ceeb cov cai.
1. Tsis txhob txwv kev sib txuas lus
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom to taub txog ib qho tseem ceeb: kev tsim txom, kev tsis txaus siab, txwv, raug nplua tsis zoo, nws yuav tsis pab. Nws tseem, tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi, yuav mus txuas ntxiv mus saib nws tus hlub, tab sis tsuas yog nyob rau hauv pub leejtwg. Thiab nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no leej niam yuav yog tus neeg kawg rau leej twg tus ntxhais yuav tawm tswv yim yog tias nws xav tau nws.
2. Cov lus nug ntau npaum li cas
Tsis txhob "tau txais" koj tus me nyuam nrog lus nug. Lawv yuav tsis ua rau nws ua neeg dawb thiab ua kom sib cuag. Es, nyob rau hauv tsis tooj, nws yuav kaw nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej txawm ntau. Tsis txhob tsom ntsoov rau qhov tseeb tias cov rooj sib tham ntawm cov neeg nyiam hluas yuav xaus rau hauv txaj. Txawm li cas los xij, siv sij hawm los tham thiab qhia koj tus ntxhais txog kev tiv thaiv, kab mob sib kis los ntawm kev sib deev, AIDS thiab lub txim rau lawv.
3. Tau nrog tsis muaj kev cuam tshuam thiab sib piv
Tsis tas li, thaum sib tham nrog koj tus ntxhais, tsis txhob hais tias: "Koj tsuas yog kaum peb (kaum plaub, lwm yam) xyoo. Yuav muaj kev hlub li cas hauv koj lub xyoo? "Tej kev sib tham ntawm kev pab no yuav tsis coj thiab tsis muaj dab tsi yuav pauv. Koj tus menyuam yuav pib txav deb ntawm koj txhua hnub ntau dua. Rau nws tam sim no nws tus hluas nraug yog ib lub teeb nyob rau hauv lub qhov rais, thiab koj (yuav tsum lees nws) tau tuaj txog rau sab nraum qab. Nrog cov niam txiv koj yuav tsum tso nrog. Thiab thaum ntawd, tus ntxhais yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias yog nws tsis nyiam nrog koj, koj yuav tsis thiab tsis muaj kev cuam tshuam nws, tsis txhob ua siab phem txog qhov no.
4. Tsis txhob nyeem cov lus ceeb toom
Qhov kev coj cwj pwm tshaj plaws yog qhia nws txog cov kev xav hauv koj lub hnub nyoog. Tom qab tag nrho, lub neej repeats nws tus kheej, tsuas yog cov ntsiab lus hloov. Qhov no yog, yam uas koj xav tau yog kev qee thiab qhov kawg ntawm lub ntiaj teb thaum hluas, tam sim no ua rau lub luag nyav, kev sib daj sib deev lossis kev xav tsis thoob: yuav ua li cas kuv thiaj li tau txoj sia vim qhov no?
5. Txhob maj maj kom qhia koj lub tswv yim
Caw koj tus ntxhais mus caw ib tug phooj ywg mus rau koj lub tsev. Yog hais tias koj nyiam nws, nplua nuj, tsis txhob ua siab deb hais li no. Yog tias tsis yog - tsis txhob maj mus sau nws cov yeeb yam uas koj tsis nyiam. Tsis txhob qhia nws ua li cas. Txoj kev zoo tshaj plaws yog qhia tus ntxhais tias nws tus phooj ywg zoo li cas nws tus phooj ywg zoo li koj, zoo, cia peb hais, tsis yog qhov zoo, thiab nug seb nws puas pom zoo nrog koj. Yog hais tias tsis tau, ces lees tias koj hwm nws txoj cai rau nws qhov kev xam pom. Psychologists xav hais tias tom qab koj lo lus, nws yuav involuntarily saib qhov kab tsis zoo nrog koj ob lub qhov muag.
6. Saib tus menyuam tus cwj pwm
Tsis txhob muab ib tug ntxhais scandals thiab scenes tsuas yog vim koj tsis nyiam nws txoj kev ywj pheej. Nws zoo li rau koj tias nws tseem yog ib tug me nyuam, tus ntxhais nws tus kheej tsis xav li ntawd. Nws pom nws tus kheej li ib tus neeg laus.
7. Ua ib tus phooj ywg to taub
Qhia rau koj tus me nyuam paub tias, thaum muaj teebmeem, nws tuaj yeem tig rau koj kev pab, thiab koj yuav tsis tuav nws nrog avalanche ntawm kev tsis txaus siab xws li: Kuv hais, ceeb toom, kuv ib txwm ntshai ... On qhov tsis tooj, cia nws paub tseeb tias koj yuav pab nws lub tswv yim ntawm qhov ze, kev nkag siab thiab feem ntau hlub tus neeg nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb. Qhov no yuav tsis pub koj tus ntxhais mus so haujlwm rau ib tus tub ntxhais hluas thiab tsis txhob ua kom sib cuag, uas ua rau qhov teeb meem tsis yog li ntawd.