Xav tau ib tug me nyuam los ntawm chaw tu menyuam ntsuag, tab sis tsis paub meej txog lawv cov peev xwm? Siv qhov kev xaiv "lub teeb". Nov yog ib hom qhua lossis, raws li nws tseem hu ua, tsev neeg hnub so.
Vim li cas cov neeg laus tuaj yeem raug caw tuaj koom rau hnub so thiab so mus ncig xyuas tus me nyuam los ntawm chaw tu menyuam ntsuag, lossis ob peb zaug, ntau heev. Qee tus neeg npaj siab rau kev saws me nyuam, ib tug neeg xav tau kev sib txuas lus tsis pub tsawg dua cov me nyuam lub tsev. Thiab ib txhia tsuas xav pab, "rau nws", them nqi ntawm kev sib ntaus ntawm ob rog uas muaj peev xwm tig toj siab: txoj kev khuv leej thiab kev hlub rau tib neeg. Tab sis nyob rau hauv txhua rooj plaub, tus qhua hom rau cov me nyuam los ntawm lub "tsev" yog lub autopsy ntawm lub siab ntsws thiab kev nqus. Thiab raws li rau "qhua", thiab rau "tswv".
Tshaj Plaws rau tus me nyuam Ua ntej, tus me nyuam pom ib lub neej sab nraum cov phab ntsa ntawm tus me nyuam lub tsev. Nrhiav kom paub tias tsev neeg tsis yog los ntawm cov phau ntawv thiab cov yeeb yaj kiab, nws kawm ua neej nyob. Tus menyuam yaus tawm hauv lub cev, nws saib xyuas txoj kev sib raug zoo ntawm lwm tus, tsis yog lub tsev hauv tsev, thiab nws koom nrog lawv, kev sib raug zoo, thiab nws yuav luag txhua tus neeg uas nyiam nws lub neej thiab nws tus kheej. Cov xib fwb, cov xib fwb thiab cov phooj ywg los ntawm chaw tu menyuam ntsuag, tau kawg, kuj muaj hauv nws lub neej. Tab sis lawv nruj kaw lub voj voog raws li lub npe "me nyuam lub tsev". Ib tug me nyuam kawm tau los npaj zaub mov, them nqi tsev rau ib qho, muab khoom noj rau nws, mus rau lub khw muag khoom - nws tau txais kev txawj ntse uas yuav tsis raug qhia hauv tus menyuam lub tsev. Thirdly, nws yuav ua tau los noj cov kev kho mob ntawm ib tug me nyuam nyob rau hauv ntau dua kom meej. Plaub, nws tsim nws lub qab ntug, nws paub lub ntiaj teb. Cov kev ua yeeb yam, cov tuam tsev, cov chav kawm, cov sib tw kis las, thaum kawg, nws tuaj yeem mus xyuas ntau dua.
Ntawm chav kawm, rau cov me nyuam ntawm cov chaw tu menyuam ntsuag ncig xyuas thiab kev hikes. Tab sis tsuas yog nyob hauv tsev neeg, txawm tias hauv lub tsev qhua, koj tuaj yeem paub tseeb tias tus me nyuam yaus no nyiam qhov twg thiab xaiv ib qho kev pab cuam, los saib xyuas nws cov kev txaus siab.
Kev pom zoo rau tus me nyuam
Cov menyuam yaus muaj peev xwm xav tias muaj kev rov qab tuaj rau hauv tsev menyuam ntsuag Kev nug lus: vim li cas lawv tsis kam kuv mus ib txhis? vim li cas tsis txhua lub lis piam, atolko ob zaug ib hlis? Lawv tsis tuaj yeem piav qhia txog txhua yam kev tsis sib haum xeeb, txhua lub sijhawm. Nws hloov tawm tias nws tsis yog li, vim nws tsis yog li ntawd.
Cov hais mav nyob rau hnub so thiab cov hnub so hauv tsev menyuam yaus tej zaum yuav raug kev khib ntawm cov neeg uas nrhiav tau tsev neeg, yam tsawg kawg rau hnub so. Tom qab cov qhua, tus me nyuam tau coj zoo nrog kev zoo siab, pib boasting ntawm khoom plig, capricious, disobedient rau cov xib fwb.
Ib zaug thiab rau tag nrho
Los ntawm qhov kev txiav txim siab coj tus me nyuam ntawm qhov chaw tu menyuam yaus tsis muaj kev tsis pom zoo, yog li zaum thiab xav - koj puas muaj peev xwm daws tau. Koj yuav tsum tau nrhiav hauv koj tus kheej tsis tas yuav muaj lub siab xav pab rau lub sijhawm no, tab sis tseem qhov ua siab ntev uas yuav pab kom koj dim thiab lub sijhawm uas koj "qhua" yuav ua rau koj tsev neeg muaj peev xwm, tsis paub, lossis khibnyob ntawm tsev neeg los yog nug koj qhov lus nug tseem ceeb tshaj plaws: "Thaum twg koj yuav coj kuv zoo ? "Muaj ntau cov menyuam yaus muaj menyuam yaus muaj tus mob: ib qho kev ncua ntawm kev puas hlwb. Qhov no tseem yuav tsum tau npaj. Tshwj xeeb thaum tuaj rau tsev neeg, txawm nyob hauv qhua hom (yog tias nws yog ib txwm), tus me nyuam ua relaxed, trustful, npaj siab sib txuas lus.
Tsis Muaj - "Niam"
Psychologists thiab cov neeg ua haujlwm ntawm chaw tu menyuam ntsuag hais tias tus ciam ntawm koj thiab tus menyuam yuav tsum tau muab ntsia tam sim ntawd. Koj yog tus tswv, nws yog ib tug qhua, thiab cia nws hu koj npe los ntawm lub npe thiab tus txiv, tiam sis yeej tsis - "Niam". Hais tam sim ntawd hais tias koj caw nws rau lub weekend thiab xwb. Kev cog lus, cog lus, txawm hais tias ib hnub koj yuav siv nws mus ib txhis - koj ua tsis tau, nws tuaj yeem ua rau mob hnyav. Hais lus zoo rau koj tus me nyuam tam sim ntawd thaum koj tuaj txog lwm zaus. Qhov no tseem ceeb heev, nws yuav tos koj. Yog tias koj tuaj yeem tsis tuaj txog hnub tau teem tuaj, nco ntsoov ceeb toom. Kev ntseeg siab ntawm ib tus neeg muaj peev xwm raug tswj tau thaum koj muaj me ntsis deb ntawm qhov pib. Nco ntsoov, cov me nyuam no tsis muaj cov luag num rau koj. Tus me nyuam tsis tas yuav qhia tau tus cwj pwm nyob rau thawj hnub ntawm koj lub rooj sib tham, ua nws tsaug rau lub sijhawm thiab qhov koj xav muab rau nws. Qhov tseeb tias koj tau caw nws tuaj xyuas yog qhov kev txiav txim siab, tsis yog nws li.
Tej zaum ib pawg ntseeg me me tsis xav rov qab los. Qee lub sij hawm nws tsis yooj yim los piav txog yog vim li cas koj tsis tuaj yeem tawm nws. Tab sis txawm nyob rau hauv no cov ntaub ntawv - tsis muaj kev cog lus ntxiv. Tsis txaus siab rov qab mus rau tom tsev kho mob tom qab tas mus ntsib "mus xyuas" lawm: zoo li qub!
Tsis txhob nug tus me nyuam rau khoom plig, tsis txhob pub qab zib thiab tsis txhob txhawj xeeb: "Au, koj txom nyem, koj tau raug kev txom nyem". Ua ke, sawv tsawv, ntxuav tais diav ua ke, mus rau xinesmas ua ke. Cov cai no yuav pab txhawb lub neej tom ntej.
Yuav ua li cas ua li no?
Cov ntaub ntawv yuav tsum muaj cov neeg tuaj sau npe tsawg tshaj rau kev saib xyuas lossis kev saws. Nau-ees muaj nws tus yam ntxwv. Yuav kom koj tuaj yeem tso cai rau koj tus menyuam, koj yuav tsum nrhiav tus thawj coj ntawm chaw tu menyuam ntsuag, nws yog tus saib xyuas menyuam yaus. Ntsib nws, siv sijhawm nrog cov menyuam yaus. Ntxiv rau daim ntawv cog lus, tus thawj coj yuav tsum tau sau ib pob cov ntaub ntawv, nws nyuam qhuav ntxiv, nws muaj daim ntawv pov thawj ntawm cov nyiaj tau, cov ntawv pov thawj hauv tsev kho mob, daim ntawv pov thawj ntawm kev qhaj ntawv. Tsoomfwv yeej tsis pab txhawb kev lag luam li nyiaj txiag.
Yuav ua li cas thiaj "xaiv" ib tug me nyuam? Tsom ntsoov rau lub hnub nyoog, cia nws ua ntau tshaj 10. Nws yog qhov nyuaj rau me nyuam yaus kom piav qhia vim li cas lawv coj nws, lawv txiav txim siab rov qab los ua nws. Saib zoo, saib. Thaum koj tuaj hauv tsev ua ke, ua qhov khoom plig tseem ceeb tshaj rau koj tus qhua: tsis txhob dag rau nws, puas yog?