Nyob rau hauv lub neej ntawm tus me nyuam, qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tsis yog tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog cov phooj ywg, tab sis kuj nrog tus xib fwb. Tus tub ntxhais kawm yuav tsum tau kawm kom paub teb cov lus thiab sau ntawv kom raug. Thiab cov niam txiv yuav tsum kawm kom sib txuas lus thiab tsim kev sib cuag nrog cov xibfwb thiab nrog lawv tus menyuam. Kev nyuaj siab, thiab kev ncaj ncees rau cov tub ntxhais kawm tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev tawm tsam. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nws muaj kev txhawj xeeb thaum tiav hluas.
Kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus xib fwb thiab cov tub ntxhais kawm hloov, thiab kev xav txog kev hloov kev kawm. Thiab raws li ib tug muaj contradictions thiab kev tsis sib haum. Peb xav pom tus xibfwb uas saib tus menyuam kawm ntawv, tsim nws zoo li nws. Tus xib fwb yuav tsum qhia rau tus tub ntxhais kawm kom tau raws li qhov yuav tsum tau ua. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas tus kws qhia ntawv ua rau cov me nyuam tsis muaj zog thiab tsis paub txaj muag. Tab sis yog muaj teeb meem?
Qhov feem ntau cov tsis sib haum xeeb.
1. Tsis ua raws cai. Vim qee lub tsev kawm ntawv tsis kam ua raws li cov cai. Kev tsis kam tuaj yeem tshwm sim los ntawm qhov muaj siab los tiv thaiv ib tus neeg lub tswv yim.
2. Kev sib cav ntawm kev ntseeg. Yuav kom tsis txhob raug hu ua "tsis muaj zog", lossis "niam ntawv tus tub", tus tub hluas ua "zoo li txhua tus neeg".
3. Teeb meem kev coj noj coj ua. Ib tug tub hluas ua tsis poob poob siab. Thiab hauv tus xib fwb nws pom tus sib tw.
4. Teeb meem tsis nyiam. Nws tshwm sim rau tus xib fwb raug kho tsis muaj kev sib hwm, coj nws tawm ntawm nws tus kheej. Nyob rau hauv xws li no, cov tub hluas ntxhais hluas ua rau muaj kev nyuaj siab ua rau tus xib fwb poob siab.
Yog tias cov niam txiv paub txog qhov tsis sib haum xeeb nrog tus xib fwb:
1. Ua ntej koj yuav tsum qhia tus menyuam kom daws tau qhov teeb meem no. Ntawm thawj theem, tsis txhob cuam tshuam;
2. Tab sis yog hais tias muaj tej yam dhau los, ces nrog koj tus menyuam tham. Nws yuav tsum qhia rau koj txog cov neeg koom rau hauv qhov tsis sib haum xeeb, txog cov laj thawj ntawm nws qhov kev xam pom. Nkag siab txog qhov teeb meem ntev li cas. Sim mus saib txhua yam ntawm sab. Sib tham nrog tus menyuam txoj hau kev tawm ntawm qhov teeb meem no. Nrhiav kom paub tias dab tsi yog qhov teeb meem, tsis txhob cem tus menyuam;
3. Tsis txhob sib tham txog tus xibfwb qhov tsis txaus ntseeg nrog tus menyuam. Piav tias tus xib fwb tuaj yeem nkees thiab tau khaus;
4. Tsis txhob ncua kev daws teeb meem. Sim kom khom qhov kev sib raug zoo thaum pib.
Koj tuaj yeem tshawb tau hom lus twg?
1. Koom tes ntawm tus tub ntxhais kawm, tus kws qhia ntawv thiab tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsws ntawm kev sib tham.
2. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog rau tus me nyuam to taub tias nws xav tau kev paub. Qhov tshwj xeeb yuav tsum yog qhov kev paub zoo ntawm qhov kev kawm thiab nrhiav kev ntsuam xyuas uas tsim nyog. Rau qhov no, nws tsis yog txhua yam tsim nyog los tsim kev sib raug zoo nrog tus phooj ywg hauv zaj lus qhia nrog tus xib fwb. Sim qhia kev diplomacy.
3. Tus menyuam yuav tsum mus koom cov chav kawm, ua haujlwm. Txwv tsis pub, yuav tsis muaj lus nug txog kev daws teeb meem.
Nws yog lub sij hawm los cuam tshuam rau hauv qhov teeb meem.
1. Nrog tus kws qhia ntawv tham. Yog tias qhov teebmeem muaj feem rau tus xibfwb qhia ntawv, ces pib ntawm kev sib tham. Yog tias qhov teeb meem tsis zoo rau tus xibfwb qhia ntawv, ces thov kom nws mus cuag nws thiab tus kws qhia ntawv tus kws qhia ntawv. Koj tus menyuam puas muaj peev xwm tus cwj pwm ua cim, lub caij nyoog hloov? Sib tham ua ke yuav ua li cas thiaj nrhiav tau tus me nyuam. Tus xib fwb muaj peev xwm yuav teb txhua zaus. Nyob rau hauv kev sib tham, koj tsis tas yuav mus rau cov tib neeg, reproaches. Qee lub sij hawm koj yuav tsum tau tos ib pliag los daws qhov teeb meem. Nco ntsoov sib ntsib nrog cov nais khu, koom cov rooj sib tham. Sim daws qhov tsis nyiam tus kheej rau tus xib fwb, yog tias koj muaj txoj kev xav zoo li no. Nco ntsoov tias koj tus me nyuam txoj kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb nyob ntawm koj nyob hauv tsev kawm ntawv.
2. Qhia rau lwm tus niam txiv. Yog tias, ntawm koj qhov kev xav, tus menyuam tau muab qhov teeb meem, ces tham nrog lwm tus niam txiv. Koj yuav kawm tau lawv lub tswv yim ntawm tus xib fwb, thiab tej zaum lawv muaj cov teeb meem zoo sib xws. Ua ke, lawv yooj yim dua los daws teeb meem.
Yog hais tias qhov kev sib tham nrog tus xib fwb tsis tuaj yeem coj qhov kev cia siab, thiab tus xib fwb tsis xav nrhiav ib txoj hauv tawm ntawm qhov teeb meem, ces nws yog lub sij hawm mus xyuas tus thawj xib fwb los yog tus thawj coj. Tsev kawm ntawv feem ntau yog rau lawv lub koob npe nrov. Qhia, tseeb, yuav ntsib koj.
Thaum twg thiaj tsim nyog kuv hloov tsev kawm ntawv?
1. Yog tias koj tus me nyuam txawm tias tom qab daws teeb meem los ntawm kev poob cev qhev, nws tsis kam mus kawm ntawv. Xws li qhov teeb meem no yuav tsis ua rau tus me nyuam kawm tau nce qib. Nws tus kheej txo yog txo kom tsawg kawg nkaus.
2. Tom qab qhov "daws teeb meem" ntawm qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb, koj tus menyuam qhov kev ntsuam xyuas tau zoo dua. Tab sis koj paub tias tus me nyuam paub txog qhov zoo tshaj plaws. Qhov tseeb, hauv lub tsev kawm ntawv koj tus me nyuam tsis pom daim ntawv pov thawj zoo.
3. Yog tias lub tsev kawm ntawv paub txog qhov teeb meem uas twb muaj lawm, tab sis tsis cuam tshuam nrog qhov teeb meem. Nyob ntawm tus kheej ntawm tus menyuam, nrog rau kev kawm ntawv qhov no tsis yog qhov zoo tshaj los cuam tshuam. Koj tuaj yeem ntaus ntxiv. Tab sis nws puas muaj nqis rau kev siv hluav taws xob? Nws yog qhov zoo dua rau kev hloov tus me nyuam mus rau lwm lub tsev kawm ntawv.
Kev coj noj coj ua ntawm kev sib raug zoo nrog tus tub kawm yog qhov tseem ceeb rau txhua tus kws qhia ntawv. Tsuas yog muaj kev totaub ntawm tus tub ntxhais kawm los ntawm tus kws qhia ntawv, kev kawm txog lawv cov peev xwm ntawm tus kheej yuav ua rau nws ua tau tiav ntawm txoj kev kawm.