Qhov txawv hauv hnub nyoog
Ib qho ntawm thawj cov lus nug uas niam txiv muaj mob: thaum muaj hnub nyoog li cas tus me nyuam yaus yuav yooj yim dua rau pom tus cwj pwm ntawm tus kwv tij los yog tus muam. Cov kws kho teebmeem (psychologists) tsis tuaj yeem qhia qhov kev twv ntawm tus menyuam thib ob (thib peb, tus plaub) hauv tus menyuam yug thawj zaug. Nws yeej los rau lub ntiaj teb no rau lub sijhawm no! Tab sis kom paub cov yam ntxwv ntawm txhua hnub nyoog tsis cuam tshuam.
• Nyob rau hauv 1,5-2 xyoo
Tus thawj-yug tsis nkag siab txog nws tus kheej, "parrots" txoj kev xav ntawm niam txiv thiab, feem ntau yuav, yooj yim thiab yooj yim yuav coj los ntawm koj tus hlub rau tus yau. Feem ntau, cov me nyuam nco txog lawv tus kheej txog plaub xyoos, yog li ntawd nws muaj peev xwm hais tias lub sijhawm thaum tus thawj-yug yog tib tug yuav tsis nco qab kiag li. Qhov teeb meem ntawm kev xam khib yuav tsis sib sib zog nqus, xws li hauv 5-6 xyoo ntawm txoj kev nyiam. Thiab lub ntsoog ntawm 3 xyoos, feem ntau yuav, yuav mus ntau smoothly.
• Hauv 3-5 xyoos
Npaj ib tus menyuam rau kev hloov uas tshwm sim hauv tsev neeg, koj xav tau ntau dua. Txhawm rau tiv thaiv kev ntxhov siab ntawm qhov kev pom ntawm "tus neeg ntxim ntxub ntawm pob kws," sim ua kom tus me nyuam koom nrog tag nrho hauv cov xwm txheej. Koj yuav tsum mloog nws lub tswv yim, tiv thaiv nws tus kheej, txhawb tus cwj pwm, txwv tsis pub koj tuaj yeem tsis xam khib. Thaum ua li no, nco ntsoov tias cov me nyuam tuaj yeem ua si ua ke tsis tam sim ntawd. Thiab nws yog qhov zoo dua tsis txhob tawm mus rau sab nraud ib leeg nrog ib leeg thaum xub thawj. Qhov no, yuav ua rau raug mob rau tus menyuam siab - tsis yog kev ua phem, tab sis kev saib xyuas.
• Thaum muaj hnub nyoog 6-8 xyoos
Niam yuav tsum tau yug thawj tus me nyuam tsis tsawg dua tus menyuam mos. Nws lub neej yog hloov li ntawd: kev ywj pheej, lub luag haujlwm. Lo lus "tsis tsim nyog" pib hloov los ntawm lub tswv yim "yuav tsum": nws yuav tsum kawm, txiav txim siab, nrhiav nws qhov chaw nyob hauv pab neeg ... Tsis siv ob peb lub hlis los hloov kho cov tshiab, ntau tus niam txiv xav, tab sis 1.5-2 xyoo. Yog li, koj yuav tsum muab tus tub ntxhais kawm ntawv rau tus me nyuam zoo li tus neeg tshiab ntawm tsev neeg. Thiab tsis txhob pib thawj tus me nyuam thib ob ntawm leej txiv los yog leej niam.
Thaum cev xeeb tub
Rau ib tus me nyuam mus txog thawj lub tsev kawm ntawv, ib tug me nyuam mos liab hauv plab yog zoo li ib tug neeg txawv tebchaws hauv lub tshav dav hlau. Nws tus cwj pwm rau tus me nyuam, nws yuav ua raws li qhov nws hnov los ntawm lwm tus. Yog li ntawd, los qhia cov menyuam yaus sib yuav ua ntej.
Kuv yuav ua li cas?
Qhia peb seb tus menyuam mos liab yuav ua licas: me me, tsis tuaj yeem taug kev, yuav haus mis thiab quaj. Qhia tus mos ab nws tus me nyuam mos liab duab thiab tus mos ab ib daim duab ntawm ultrasound. Cia kuv kov los yog ntsuas kuv lub plab. Nug tus me nyuam seb nws nco txog nws tus kheej los ntawm lub caij nyoog tseem yau. Qhia nws tias nws nyob hauv koj lub plab heev, thiab nws tseem noj ntawm qhov ntawd (cia nws kov, zoo li phom nws me ntsis tes thiab ceg).
Kuv yuav tsum zam dab tsi?
1) Yog tias koj tau kawm txog koj kev xeeb tub, tsis txhob zais nws ntawm tus menyuam loj. Tsis txhob teem sijhawm rau qhov kev nthuav qhia ntawm cov xov xwm (tom qab ultrasound, triple test, lub lim tiam, tsab cai, Lub Peb Hlis 8). Koj txoj kev ntxhov siab, kev tsis meej, kev siab phem yuav ua rau koj ntshai thiab cuam tshuam tus me nyuam, thiab koj qhov tsis sib haum xeeb thiab tsis txaus siab yuav qhia nws tawm tsam qhov kev tshwm sim no.
2) Tsis txhob muab koj tus menyuam tso rau koj "kev npaj rau menyuam yaus." Nws yog qhov nyuaj rau nws to taub thaum muaj hnub nyoog li cas. Tsis txhob nug: "Vim li cas ho tsis muaj menyuam? Yuav ua li cas yog tias peb yuav koj muam ib tug viv ncaus? "Nco ntsoov nws tus txiv qhov kev tsis txaus siab ntawm qhov kev ua zoo li no. Txhob npaj nrog tus me nyuam seb koj tus kheej tsis muaj peev xwm npaj tau. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tau qhia tus me nyuam kom noj. Cov menyuam yuav tsum hlub thaum lawv xav tau, thiab tsis yog thaum lawv "npaj thiab pom zoo."
3) Tos 2 nd tus menyuam ua ke, tab sis hwm cov kev xav ntawm koj tus menyuam hlob. Yog tias nws tsis txaus siab rau qhov tseeb tias ib tug kwv tij los yog tus muam yuav tshwm sim, nug dab tsi yuav pab tau lawv ua phooj ywg thiab ib leeg hlub ib leeg. Cov txhais tau tias qhov no yuav yog qhov loj. Muab tus menyuam lub plab mus rau lub plab, tham nrog lub plhaub, "download" lub lullaby rau lub disk, kos duab, ua ib kab thaij rau duab hauv ultrasound, dag, pab sau ib lub txaj, xaiv lub npe thiab ntau ntxiv.
Tus menyuam no tau los qhov twg los?
Ntawm cov lus nug nyuaj uas cov me nyuam nug cov laus, qhov no yog ib qho nyuaj tshaj plaws. Hauv kev tshawb ntawm ib qho lus teb, nws muaj ntau txoj cai. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nco ntsoov tias koj tau qhia tus me nyuam txog nws tus me nyuam yug los. Yog tias tus me nyuam muaj peb rau tsib xyoos, tales txog storks thiab cabbage yog qhov tsim nyog. Tab sis npaj rau qhov tseeb tias tsis ntev tom ntej no tus me nyuam yuav paub qhov tseeb, thiab koj tuaj yeem poob peev txheej. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qhov zoo dua los qhia tias nws yog dab tsi, tab sis tsis txhob muaj cov ntsiab lus ntawm lub cev. Physiology tuaj yeem yog ib qho kev zam rau kev ntshai, ntau tus me nyuam tuaj yeem nrog cov "monsters los ntawm lub plab". Zaj dab neeg zoo yuav yog zaj dab neeg ntawm koj txoj kev hlub thiab kev xav ntawm nws (lawv tau tos koj ib yam li ib tug kwv tij). Them rau koj tus kheej. Yog hais tias niam nws tus kheej txhawj xeeb thiab hides nws txoj kev xav - nws tsis yog tus cwj pwm txawv rau tus me nyuam. Sim piav rau nws seb koj xav li cas txhua lub sijhawm - koj kev ntxhov siab yuav tsum muab faib. Thiab xyuam xim rau qhov koj txhais lus nyob rau theem ntawm cov lus. Tus menyuam tuaj yeem paub txog txoj haujlwm ntawm kev koom tes hauv tus menyuam lub neej xws li tsis xis nyob, thiab zoo siab heev. Leej twg, yog tias tsis yog cov kwv tij thiab cov muam, tsis pub leejtwg paub txhua yam uas cov laus xav kom tsis txhob ua twj ywm, los sis txawm txwv tsis pub ua txhua yam? Qhia tus menyuam kom nws nug: "Niam, koj puas xav tias kuv tuav kuv tij laug?" Los sis "Yog tias kuv qhia nws ua li cas kuv tau tawm tsam." Nug lo lus teb tias: "Thiab koj?" Qhia tus me nyuam kom tsis txhob tsim "Kuv tuaj yeem?" Koj qhia tsis ua raws li, tab sis mus sib tham thiab ua raws li qee qhov kev lees paub.
Cov Tswv Yim Pab Tswvyim
Tsis txhob coj kev sib tham kev kawm (uas yog ua tau, tias nws tsis muaj peev xwm). Ntsuas xyuas cov neeg txawj ntse ntawm nws tus kheej thiab koom tes txhawb lawv: nws tau noj, taug kev hauv lub lauj kaub, mus pw. Maj mam qhia cov kev txwv: koj yuav tsum tau ua si ntau ntsiag to, kuv niam tsis tuaj yeem coj koj hauv koj txhais tes (nws yog nkees). Tab sis tsis txhob txwv cov kev txwv nrog yav tom ntej ntawm tus me nyuam mos. Nyeem cov phau ntawv uas muaj cov kwv tij nus muag. Ua tib zoo saib xyuas tus menyuam thawj zaug ntawm qhov tseeb tias cov menyuam tiv thaiv thiab tiv thaiv ib leeg. Thiab lawv nyob twj ywm "phooj ywg rau lub neej". Coj tus me nyuam loj hauv kev npaj rau kev yug me nyuam (saib cov khoom ua si tshiab ua ke). Nws xaiv thiab muab rau nws tus me nyuam hauv plab nws cov khaub ncaws me me. Txawm tias thaum cev xeeb tub, qhia tus menyuam kom siv sijhawm nrog lwm tus neeg laus. Rau cov laj thawj no, caw tus pog los yog tus phauj ua ntej. Cov tswvcuab sib txawv hauv tsev neeg yuav tshaj tawm txoj kev xav zoo txog qhov tshwm sim ntawm cov kab txi, thiab suav thawj tus me nyuam hauv qhov "kev ua si" no.
Taboo ntawm reckless lus:
1) Thiab peb tsis tau txais ... (tus me nyuam tsis tuaj yeem txiav txim siab rau qhov no).
2) Peb mam li yuav koj ib tug kwv tij ... (tus kwv tij tsis yog khoom ua si).
3) Yog hais tias koj coj phem heev - cia peb rov qab tuaj rau hauv tsev kho mob ... (tsis txhob muab cov kev xav ntawm tus me nyuam).
4) Zoo, txhua yam, tam sim no koj twb yog ib tug laus ... (nws yog tus me nyuam tib yam li ua ntej).
5) Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob nco ib tug viv ncaus me me, nws yuav me me ... (tsis txhob cia koj qhov ntshai rau tus me nyuam).
6) Peb tseem yuav hlub koj ... (tsis txhob ua khib nyiab).
Cov nqe lus zoo:
1) Tsis ntev no koj tus kwv tij yuav pom (tsis yog kwv tij txheeb ze, tab sis zoo li qub, tshwj xeeb).
2) Thiab kuv tsis muaj ib tug viv ncaus hauv kuv thaum yau ... (tsis muaj leej twg tiv thaiv, tsis muaj leej twg ua si nrog ...).
3) Peb hlub koj ib txwm, peb yog koj tsev neeg (paub meej tias nws yuav zoo li ntawd).
4) Thaum koj nyob hauv kuv lub plab, koj tau ntau dua (muab siab rau superiority).
5) Hu rau tus menyuam "peb cov menyuam" (qhia txog kev koom tes ntawm tag nrho tsev neeg).
Tus me nyuam thiab thawj lub rooj sib tham
• Muaj ntau tus kws kho mob qhia txog leej niam, thaum lub sij hawm tawm ntawm lub tsev me nyuam, cia tus me nyuam tuav tus poj niam los yog tus txiv los tuav tus me nyuam loj hlob thiab qhia nws zoo siab tias nws pom nws.
• Piav qhia cov me nyuam rau ib leeg: "Qhov no yog ib tug me nyuam yaus, ntsia nws qhov muag me-pob txha, nws tseem zoo li ntawd." Cia tuav thiab kov. Tsuas yog tsis txhob ntshai ntshai (thiab mam li nco dheev?) Thiab, hloov dua siab tshiab, tsis txhob tig tus menyuam mus rau hauv ib lub menyuam roj hmab.
• Thaij cov me nyuam ua ke hauv tsev kho mob, cia tus neeg laus muab paj rau koj. Piav tias koj muaj caij so koobtsheej txog kev pom ntawm ib tus neeg tshiab ntawm tsev neeg, thiab koj lub neej yuav ua rau kev lomzem thiab txaus siab dua. Ua tib zoo mloog tus me nyuam thawj zaug rau kev hnov mob: kev quaj ntawm ib tug me nyuam, kev nyuaj rau qhov chaw ntawm nws niam. Nug, tej zaum tus me nyuam tsa kev laus, thiab nws xav pw hauv lwm chav. Tag nrho cov me nyuam me yog cov neeg saib xyuas, kev ruaj ntseg hauv tsev neeg yog qhov tseem ceeb rau lawv, thiab tej yam tshiab yog ib txwm xav tias kev ntxhov siab. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj caw cov qhua tuaj yeem ua kev zoo siab rau ib tug menyuam mos, thov kom lawv nqa khoom me me rau thawj tus me nyuam. Los yog ua kom tau cov khoom no rau koj tus kheej.
Tej teeb meem hauv niam
Yog hais tias, txawm tias tag nrho cov lus ceeb toom thiab kev ntuas, koj pom tias koj cov neeg laus yog khib siab - zoo siab. Qhov no txhais tau hais tias txhua hnub simulator uas cov me nyuam kawm los daws cov teeb meem, nrhiav kev txiav txim siab, sib tham thiab txiav txim siab, yog li ntawd qhov kev qoj ib ce no tsis yog kev ntxhov siab txhua hnub thiab tsis muab koj lub tsev qab zib mus rau hauv ntuj raug txim, saib ib qho yooj yim regime. Tsis txhob poob siab vim li cas thiab kawm kom paub tias yog dab tsi, thiab tsis yog dab tsi koj ntshai. Nws yog rau koj kom muaj qhov xav xav tau hais tias tus hluas tshaj plaws yeej tsis muaj txaus rau koj kev hlub, thiab tus laus yuav tsis loj hlob mus ua ib tug egoist. Kawm nug. Hauv cov lus teb rau cov lus nug nyuaj tshaj plaws "koj ntshai dab tsi," "yog vim li cas koj npau taws tam sim no," daws qhov teeb meem loj tshaj yuav raug muab zais. Ua kom zoo ib yam. Yog tias ib yam dab tsi tsis ua, nws tsis tuaj yeem yuav, thiab tsis yog tias "yog tias koj xav tau, ces koj tuaj yeem." Tsis txhob tos kom sai. Qhuas cov ntsiab lus thiab cia ua yuam kev. Yog tias koj xa menyuam tuaj taug kev, nco ntsoov tias neb ob leeg muaj kev taug kev, thiab tsis yog ib qho mus ntxiv. Yuav muaj sijhawm txaus ua ntej cov txwj laus tuaj yeem muab kev pabcuam rau koj. Nco ntsoov tias cov kev xav ntawm tus me nyuam tshiab rau txhua yam tshiab yog qhov qub. Koj lees tias nws yuav tsis nyiam beetroot, sandalaki lossis tus phauj Masha. Tab sis kuj muaj cuab kev "deviations".
Tej teeb meem tshwm sim rau thawj tus me nyuam:
- rov qab mus rau lub sijhawm dhau los ntawm txoj kev loj hlob (tus menyuam pib lub siab, kev sib ntaus rau lub txiv mis, tsis kam pw hauv nws lub txaj, tsis xav thov kom mus tso quav);
- aggression rau tus yau thiab cov niam txiv;
- hysterics, thim qhov teeb meem no, hem los tawm hauv tsev;
- cov tswv yim pheej "pheej tig rov qab tus me nyuam rov qab", muab, muab tseg;
- nyiam cov niam txiv (kev mob, kev coj cwj pwm phem, kev kawm tsis zoo, kev cia siab, kev dag ntxias, kev xav).
Kuv yuav ua li cas?
Tus menyuam hlob tsis tas yuav loj hlob nrog tus yau. Nws yog ib tug me nyuam zoo li ntawd. Qhov ntau ntxiv koj hais tias "nws loj tuaj thiab nws yuav tsum", qhov ntau dua li qhov kev tawm tsam yuav. Txhawb kom "teeb meem tsis muaj teeb meem" thaum tus me nyuam tsis muaj mob, coj zoo, ua haujlwm rau nws tus kheej. Nrhiav sij hawm thiab cov lus los ntsuam xyuas nws. Tuaj nrog cov kab ke tshiab; "Kuv to taub tias tam sim no kuv tau nce kuv txoj kev txhawj, tab sis kuv xav ua ib yam dab tsi ua ke txhua txhua hmo / sawv ntxov / Tuesday. Koj puas xav tias nws yuav ua tau (noj tshais rau txiv, mus rau yoga, hu ua karaoke, dhia saum txaj, tau dhuav, ua si hauv computer ...)? "Piav tias koj xav tau nws txoj kev pab, pab kom paub qhov tseem ceeb, qhov tseem ceeb ntawm nws pab rau niam. Daim ntawv no yuav pab nws xaiv nws tus kheej. Qhia cov hau kev xaiv thiab tuaj nrog ibqho deal, koom nrog ua li cas. Xaiv los ntawm cov dej num uas nyiam ua kom muaj kev ywj pheej ntawm tus me nyuam. Txhua yam kev ua si yog qhov zoo: "coj lub tog hauv ncoo, ua ib lub zes." Tiam sis ntawm no, thiab tej zaum yuav thov ntau dua: "Sau ib phav phav, npaj koj cov ris tsho," Thov koj pub kuv ib lub ncuav los yog ntswg. Nco ntsoov mus txuas ntxiv hnia, puag thawj-yug, stroking lub taub hau. Tactile contact yog qhov uas tsis pom muaj qhov kos npe uas tus me nyuam tsis yog lus hais txiav koj qhov chaw nyob rau nws. Khaws feeb ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog tus me nyuam: nyeem nyeem cov lus rau hmo ntuj thiab pub cov nquab sawv ntxov. Xav paub ntau tshaj tom qab yug me nyuam ntawm tus me nyuam yuav tsum raug muab rau tus me nyuam loj dua. Sim koom nrog rau txhua rooj plaub uas tsis tas yuav tsum muaj koj lub sijhawm los mus koom nrog koj tus txiv, pog / yawg. Dawb lub sij hawm, muab siab rau tus tub hlob. Nug: "Koj xav ua dab tsi?" Thiab nyob rau hauv txhua rooj plaub, tsis txhob xa tus me nyuam laus mus rau pog, phauj, los yog tsib hnub, thiaj li tsis raug rau nws. Tsis muaj dab tsi raug mob li no. Nyob nrog teeb meem ua ke. Nyob twj ywm tseem thiab nws niam.