Yuav kom txuag tau ib tug neeg hlub los ntawm nws qhov teeb meem, nws yuav tsum to taub tias nws lub hauv paus yog dab tsi. Koj tuaj yeem rhuav tshem ntawm txoj hauv kev yog tias koj paub tias yog vim li cas nws pib ua. Qhov tseeb, nws yog ib qho ua kom yooj yim rau ib tus neeg uas nws hlub tsis txaus siab rau nws tus kheej, nws yuav tsum tau nrhiav kom tau ib qho kev qhia thiab tsis ua kom zoo dua qhov teeb meem.
Yog li, yuav ua li cas kom tshem tau ntawm ib tug neeg hlub los ntawm ib qho kev tsis sib haum xeeb? Cia li sim to taub qhov teeb meem no thiab to taub dab tsi ua rau lub complex? Feem ntau, qhov teeb meem ntawm txhua tus neeg pib xeeb rau nws thaum yau. Yuav kom txuag tau tus txiv leej tub los ntawm cov teeb meem, nws yog qhov yuav tsum paub zoo li cas nws loj hlob thiab nws txoj kev sib raug zoo nyob hauv tsev neeg thiab nrog nws cov phooj ywg. Koj tus hlub yuav muaj kev chim siab thiab kev tsis txaus siab rau nws niam nws txiv. Nws yog qhov no nyob rau hauv ib nrab ntawm cov neeg mob uas ua rau kev xav tsis zoo. Qhov teeb meem tshwm sim no tshwm sim thaum tus me nyuam loj hlob hauv tsev neeg tsis tiav lossis loj hlob nrog pog / yawg. Peb txhua tus to taub hais tias cov menyuam yaus hauv lub cev muaj peev xwm qee zaum muaj kev phem ntau dua li cov neeg laus. Cov menyuam tsis nco qab txog lawv cov lus. Yog tias, piv txwv li, ib tug txiv leej tub tsis muaj leej txiv los yog tsis tsa nws niam, ces tej zaum muaj teeb meem los ntawm cov lus nug los ntawm lwm cov me nyuam: qhov twg yog koj txiv? Thiab koj niam yog leej twg? Thiab yog vim li cas koj niam tsis hlub koj?
Qhov tseeb, yog vim li cas qhov kev coj cwj pwm hauv niam txiv ntawm ib tug tub ntxhais hluas tuaj yeem ua tau ntau yam, raws li qhov tsis raug cai, thiab tsis yog. Tiam sis feem ntau tus me nyuam hnov tsis tiav, ua rau niam txiv mob siab thiab ua subconsciously, thiab ces consciously, pib ntseeg tias tsis muaj leej twg yuav hlub nws. Qhov no yog hais txog kev coj cwj pwm uas ua rau neeg txob qias neeg thiab kev qias neeg, zoo li txhua lub siab los qhia tias nws tsis tsim nyog rau koj thiab koj tsis tuaj yeem hlub nws. Feem ntau, los ua pov thawj rau qhov no, tus txiv leej tub tsis ua txhaum rau lwm tus, tab sis tsuas ua rau nws tsis tshua zoo siab. Qhov no yog qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws ua kom puas tsuaj. Qhov tseeb yog qhov kev xav ntawm "Kuv tsis nyiam qhov ze tshaj" yog heev noj heev tsis tsuas yog nyob rau hauv nco ntsoov, tab sis kuj nyob rau hauv lub subconscious. Thiab koj lub hom phiaj tseem ceeb yog los ua pov thawj rau tus tub hluas: koj muaj ib yam dab tsi hlub. Tab sis nyob rau hauv no qhov teeb meem, qhov loj tshaj plaws yog tsis mus khoov tus pas. Yog hais tias koj dhau cawv ntawm tus txiv leej tub, thaum kawg nws yuav pib siv koj, thiab qhov no yuav tsis raug tso cai rau txhua qhov teeb meem. Yog li cia li sim qhia nws tias nws tsis yog qhov tsis zoo rau koj, thiab koj npaj txhij los pab nws nyob rau hauv txhua qhov teeb meem, tab sis tib lub sij hawm koj tsis mus daws teeb meem tag nrho nws cov teeb meem. Cov hais mav no yeej tsis muaj menyuam yaus txaus siab. Feem ntau ntawm ib tus neeg hlub lawv xav rhiab thiab kev tiv thaiv. Sim ua kom tsis muaj qhov sib txawv hauv nws lub siab, tab sis tsis txhob tig mus rau hauv ib qho nqaij qaib, uas tshuab tawm ntawm lub pob zeb qhuav. Nco ntsoov tias nws yog ib tug neeg laus thiab nws yuav tsum daws nws cov teeb meem. Tab sis nws yeej tuaj yeem tuaj rau koj rau kev txhawb nqa thiab nco ntsoov tias koj yuav tsis tso nws tseg, pab tswv yim thiab ua haujlwm, pab txhawb thiab nkag siab rau txhua qhov teeb meem. Cov neeg zoo li no yuav tsum paub tseeb tias cov txheeb ze yuav tuaj rau tus cawm siav, lawv yuav tsis tawm ib qho nrog nws cov teeb meem. Los ntawm txoj kev, tus cwj pwm no yuav tsum tsis txhob tsuas yog rau koj, tab sis kuj rau nws cov phooj ywg zoo. Nyob rau hauv lub neej txiv neej nws tsis yog customary kom saib xyuas txhua lwm yam, tab sis nws yog tiag tiag tsim nyog rau cov neeg. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj nyob rau hauv cov lus zoo nrog nws cov phooj ywg, tsis muaj kev sib tham thiab sib tham zoo txog qhov teeb meem no thiab thov kom lawv txhawb lawv tus phooj ywg ntau dua thiab tsis txhob ntaus qhov chaw mob, txawm nyob hauv kev xav. Yog tias nws paub hais tias nws yeej nco txiaj ntsim thiab saib nws rau nqi, qhov teeb meem yuav maj mam mus.
Tsis tas li ntawd, qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb tuaj yeem tshwm sim los ntawm kev tsis to taub thiab kev phem ntawm cov phooj ywg thaum yau thiab kev hluas. Feem ntau qhov no tshwm sim nyob rau hauv rooj plaub uas tus me nyuam txawj ntse tshaj cov uas nws loj hlob nrog, tsis muaj kev coj cwj pwm phem, koom nrog cov voj voog thiab yog mloog lus. Cov txheej txheem no tsis yooj yim rau kev xav txog cov neeg laus, tab sis, thaum ntawd, thaum koj pom ib tug neeg zoo, lawv qhia lawv tus kheej hauv kev quab yuam. Feem ntau cov tub ntxhais hluas ua tib zoo thov lwm tus tib lub sijhawm thiab tib lub sijhawm sim qhia tias lawv yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws. Qhov no tuaj yeem ua tau ntau yam: kev paub dav dav hauv ntau qhov chaw, kev ua si, kev nkag siab ntawm kev lom zem thiab ntau ntxiv. Nyob ntawm thawj tus paub nws tsis yooj yim pom txoj hauv kev cwj pwm ntawm ib tug txiv leej tub, tab sis thaum lub sij hawm koj pib to taub tias nws nce saum tawv nqaij los ua pov thawj tias nws tsis zoo dua lwm tus. Hauv cov kev sib raug zoo ntawm lub sijhawm dhau los, cov tub ntxhais hluas no hais tias lawv tsis ntseeg lawv tus kheej thiab tsis ua tiav dab tsi.
Kom pab tau ib tug txiv leej tub, koj yuav tsum txhawb nws lub zog kom ua tiav cov hom phiaj uas nws muaj peev xwm tsa nws tus kheej, tab sis nws ntshai mus rau lawv. Nws tsis yog qhov yuav tsum tau hais tias nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws thiab ua tsis tau. Tab sis koj tuaj yeem hint rau nws tias nws muaj lub zog txaus ua tau ib yam dab tsi thiab nws siv tau yog tias nws tsis ntshai thiab ntseeg hauv nws tus kheej, as Well as hauv nws lub peev xwm thiab peev xwm. Tsis tas li ntawd, nws tsim nyog ua tib zoo nco nws tias koj yuav tsum tsis zoo li nws yog. Nyob rau hauv ib tug tub hluas muaj qhov zoo, nws tsuas yog tsim nyog los tsim lawv thiab ua pov thawj lawv originality tsis yog los ntawm kev ua yeeb yam tsis zoo nkauj, tab sis los ntawm kev ua. Thiab, ntawm chav kawm, tus txiv leej tub yuav tsum nco ntsoov pom kev them nyiaj yug nyob rau hauv koj. Yog tias ib tug neeg paub hais tias ib tus neeg uas hlub nws tiag tiag, ntxov los sis tom qab nws yuav muaj peev xwm hlub nws tus kheej thiab lees paub nws yog dab tsi, es tsis yog nws xav tau dab tsi.