Txawm koj tus me nyuam quaj rau nws, nws lub kua muag txhais tau ib yam nkaus xwb: ib tug neeg tsis tuaj yeem paub nws qhov teeb meem thiab yog li ntawd xav tau kev pab ntawm cov laus. Yog li sim ua kom to taub ua ntej yog vim li cas ib tug me nyuam yaus quaj heev. Thiab ces pab nws kom ua tiav nrog nws tus kheej "kuv". Qhov loj tshaj plaws, tsis txhob hnov qab coj mus rau hauv tus account lub hnub nyoog ntawm tus me nyuam, vim hais tias txhua lub hnub muaj nws tus kheej vim li cas rau lub kua muag.
Cov paj huam hais txog Tanya, uas ntaus pob mus rau hauv dej thiab tam sim no ntxiv cov dej no muaj kev kub ntxhov, paub txog ntau tshaj ib tiam neeg ntawm peb cov pej xeem. Tab sis sim saib nws ntawm lwm lub kaum ntse ntse. Tus ntxhais muaj qee, thiab cov neeg laus xav kom nws txiav txim siab tias nws tsis muaj laj thawj tsim txom! Thiab ntawm no ntau cov lus nug tam sim ntawd tshwm sim. Leej twg thiaj yog txoj kev ntsuam xyuas qhov teeb meem no - tus me nyuam los yog tus neeg laus tus dab laug? Puas yog txhua tus menyuam quaj thaum lawv muaj teeb meem? Tsis yog qhov no hais txog kev qaug zog ntawm tus cwj pwm? Puas yuav qhia txog qhov kev xav ntawm lub siab ploj nrog lub hnub nyoog, los sis tus me nyuam-tus ntxhuav ploj mus tas ib txhis? Zoo hmoo, cov kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws muaj cov lus teb rau tag nrho cov lus nug no. Peb cia siab tias lawv txoj kev pabcuam, cov niamtxiv yuav tuaj yeem ua haujlwm ntawm tus cwjpwm zoo rau lawv cov menyuam nyooj heev li ntawd.
Yog tias tus menyuam me tuaj quaj, nws yog SOS teeb liab .
Rau ib tug me nyuam mos, quaj yog kev pabcuam rau nws tus kheej-kev txuag. Nrog kev pabcuam ntawm cov txheej txheem yoojyim, crumbs nyiam rau lwm tus, yuam lawv los saib xyuas nws kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev nplij siab. Tom qab tag nrho, tsis muaj dab tsi ntxiv rau tus me nyuam yaus tsis tau - tsis taug kev los sis tsis hais lus. Ntawm no nws siv quaj hu nws niam nyob rau hauv ib qho nyuaj lub sij hawm. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog vim qhov xwm txheej no yog nyob rau ntawm ib sab ntawm tus menyuam mos - nws yog txhua yam txheej txheem kom cov neeg laus sab hauv muaj ib qho "sensor". Nws ua tib zoo mloog kev quaj ntawm tus me nyuam, ua rau peb muaj kev ntxhov siab thiab txhawb nws kom nws mus cuag nws pab. Thiab qhov kev tshwm sim no yog rau cov laus, tsis hais tus menyuam twg yog quaj - lawv tus kheej lossis lwm tus neeg. Peb tseem muaj kev ntxhov siab, peb tsuas xav tias nws txawv. Thiab yog tias muaj, ces nws yog qhov zoo rau ib tug menyuam mos quaj quaj rau txhua lub sijhawm. Ntxiv mus, yog tias koj qhov kev ua tiav zoo, thiab tus me nyuam sai sai. Nws txaus siab, koj zoo siab - dab tsi yuav nicer?
Lwm qhov tseemceeb yog koj tabtom sim ua kom zoo rau koj tus menyuam, tabsis koj tsis ua tiav. Piv txwv li, pob tsuas yog raug tsim txom los ntawm colic, nws quaj tsis tau nres los ntawm kev txhais tau tias. Thiab tom qab ntawd koj tau nyob ib ncig ntawm qhov tsis txaus siab ntawm koj tus kheej tsis muaj hwj chim. Koj pib tau nkees ntawm kev xav tias koj tus menyuam tsis txaus siab, tab sis tsis muaj dab tsi ua tau. Ntawd yog, koj attribute rau nws tus neeg laus kev xav thiab yog vim li ntawd xav thov txim rau nws, raws li ib tug neeg laus yuav pitied, uas muaj ib tug zoo siab. Thiab qhov kev tu siab ntawm tus me nyuam me mas zoo li tsis muaj qhov loj dua!
Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, txhua yam yog ntau ntau prosaic. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam quaj - ces nws yuav hais tias nws tshaib plab, mob plab lossis xav pw. Thiab cia koj hnov hauv nws quaj qw: "Auj, yog dab tsi kuv tsis zoo siab!" - qhov no yog koj txoj kev xav, thiab tsis muaj dab tsi ntxiv. Nws tus cwj pwm txawv tsis tau tsim kom nws paub tias lub xeev muaj kev ntxhov siab los yog ntxhov siab. Feem ntau, txog li ib nrab thiab ib nrab xyoo, qhov tshwm sim tsis zoo tshwm sim ntawm tus menyuam tsuas yog muaj kev txhawj xeeb nkaus xwb. Yog li ntawd, ncaj qha rau tag nrho koj cov dag zog los tshem tawm cov kev ua rau no thiab tsis txhob poob siab yog tias koj tsis ua tiav sai sai. Tom qab tag nrho, ntxov los sis tom qab, dhau lawm, lub plhaub ntawm lub me ntsis nyooj yuav dhau, thiab nws pw tsaug zog yuav prevail. Koj yuav tsum tau ua kom koj lub paj hlwb, tsis tas li ntawd koj lub vzvinchennost ntev tsis pauv mus rau qhov crumb. Nyob hauv ib lub xeev uas nyob ntsiag to, nws yuav yooj yim dua rau koj paub txog qhov teeb meem ntawm cov me nyuam quaj. Yog li ntawd, ib qho kev hnav khaub ncaws, uas yuav muaj tshaj, txhais tau hais tias tus menyuam tsaug zog thiab dhuav. Overwork yog nrog, raws li ib txoj cai, los ntawm ib tug haib persistent roar. Ib qho kev txhoj ntawm qhia tau hais tias nws tshaib plab, thiab luv sobs tuaj yeem piav txog qee tus mob siab.
Cov lus nug yog txawv dua: kuv puas yuav tsum tau khiav mus rau ib tug me nyuam me uas muaj kev sib tawg ntawm thawj zaug ntawm kev quaj, los yog, tej zaum, zoo dua qw, lub tsheb ciav hlau? Cov kws kho mob qhia kom sai li sai tau rau cov quaj ntawm cov menyuam, yog tias lawv muaj txog li peb lub hlis. Thaum tus me nyuam loj hlob, koj yuav tsum muab ib feeb los ob zaug quaj qw ib leeg. Qhov no yuav tsuas pab nws txoj kev loj hlob. Nws xav ua kom siv nyiaj ntau ntawm lub neej tsis xis nyob thiab kawm kom paub qhov txawv ntawm nws txoj kev xav. Tab sis ntev "solo" yog qhov tseeb tsis tsim nyog. Qhov no tuaj yeem cuam tshuam rau tus me nyuam tus cwj pwm, thiab nws yuav loj hlob los ua ib tug neeg kaw los sis tsis tas ua rau nws nyuaj siab. Yog li yuav tsum teb rau qhov hu rau kev pab. Tom qab ntawd tus me me, nrog kev zoo siab, nws paub tias nws muaj kev hlub rau cov niam txiv uas to taub nws tej kev xav tau thiab npaj txhij ua tiav lawv.
Sib tham nrog ib tug me nyuam me ntxiv.
Txij li thaum muaj hnub nyoog ob xyoos, cov me nyuam yuav maj mam nthuav lawv cov lus thiab vim li no yuav sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg laus ntawm qib siab dua. Tam sim no koj tsis xav kom muaj kev xav txog koj tus me nyuam lub siab nyiam. Nws cia li los rau koj thiab ua kom zoo tshaj tawm tias nws xav tau kev hloov tights vim muaj teeb meem me me. Txawm li cas los xij, thaum thawj tus menyuam yaus tau qhia nws tus qub grumbling qias neeg los yog tseem quaj. Koj txoj hauj lwm yog kom qhia nws kom hu tej yam los ntawm lawv cov npe. Tom qab tag nrho, yuam ib tug me nyuam los qhia nws tus kheej cov kev xav tau, koj qhia nws yuav ua li cas siv tib neeg kev sib txuas lus.
Tus menyuam puas tau ntuag tau li ob peb nas this? Tom qab ntawd pab nws, yuam nws hais tias: "Kuv tsis nkag siab qhov teeb meem. Piav me ntsis qhov koj xav tau. " Yog koj to taub tias vim li cas koj tus me nyuam quaj, tab sis nws tsis muaj peev xwm tsim nws, ua koj tus kheej: "Muaj qee qhov khawm nyuaj rau koj nkawm khau uas txhua leej txhua tus yuav tsis tshuav nyiaj li cas." Tom qab ntawd thov nws pab: "Cia kuv qhia koj yuav ua li cas nrog nws." Koj yuav pom: tus quaj qw yuav tsum nres tam sim ntawd, thiab tus me nyuam yuav xav tias nws muaj peev xwm. Qee zaum cov kua muag hauv lub hnub nyoog no feem ntau tshwm sim, zoo nkaus li ib lub xaim ntawm ib qho chaw tiaj tiaj. Sim ua kom tsis quaj xws li kev quaj ntawm qhov kev pom ntawm thawj cov cim ntawm kev thim cua. Thaum ua rau tus me nyuam muaj kev ntxhov siab cuam tshuam, koj yuav maj mam qhia nws kom nws txoj kev xav hauv qab. Tab sis nco ntsoov tias hauv cov me nyuam uas muaj hnub nyoog 4 xyoos, kev xav, thiab kev paub txog kev hais lus, tsis tsim kom lawv ua tsis tau quaj txhua. Thiab tsis muaj dab tsi txaus ntshai nyob rau hauv hais tias, ntawm kev thuam, npau taws los yog kev qaug, lawv thawj zaug muaj ib tug kwj ntawm iab kua muag. Nws tseem loj dua tuaj yog tias qhov tshuaj tiv thaiv no tsis hloov raws li tus menyuam loj hlob tuaj.
Lub kua muag poob.
Cov me nyuam kawm qib Pre-school nyob rau hauv tsib los sis rau xyoo mas feem ntau paub siv lawv hom lus nrog rau lwm tus neeg laus. Tias yog vim li cas xws li ib txoj kev dag ntxias ntawm kev xav txog ib tus neeg txoj kev xav, xws li quaj, yog tseg rau ntau zaus. Piv txwv, thaum lawv hnov muaj zog ntawm cev nqaij daim tawv thiab lub siab. Los yog thaum lawv nyuaj siab heev los ntawm qhov tau tshwm sim. Qhov ua rau cov kua muag tuaj yeem ua haujlwm rau txhua yam ntxhov siab. Piv txwv li, cov me nyuam hauv qib kindergarten tsis tso cai rau vim yog qhov npau suav ntxias, niam thaum lub sij hawm sau qoob tawm ib tus phooj ywg plhu, tus kws kho mob yuav rub tawm tus hniav. Kev quaj yog ib feem ntawm qhov kev xav ntawm tus me nyuam rau tej xwm txheej thiab, coj txawv txawv raws li nws yuav zoo li, yog xav tau ntxiv rau txoj kev loj hlob ntawm tus cwj pwm. Kev quaj qog tam sim no yuav tsis yog ib qho plea rau kev pab lossis teeb liab ntawm lub cev tsis zoo. Cov kua muag tso cai rau tus menyuam preschooler kom koj paub txog nws lub sijhawm tsis xis nyob. Piv txwv li, nws ntshai mus rau ib qho chaw tshiab kindergarten. Thiab kuj tau tshem ntawm txoj kev nruj. Peb yuav qhia rau, thaum nws, ua tib zoo disguised, tau pom ib yam thaum qhov kev ua si nyob rau hauv qhov nkaum thiab nrhiav. Nrog kua muag, nws yooj yim rau kev nyuaj siab yog tias tsis muaj puzzle, los yog kev chim siab, yog tias leej niam mob pob ntseg nws tsis muaj laj thawj. Cov niam txiv feem ntau txhawj xeeb thaum lawv, feem ntau, muaj ib tus neeg laus lub qhov muag rau ntawm ib qho chaw ntub txij thaum sawv ntxov mus txog thaum tsaus ntuj. Ntawd yog, lawv xav paub ntau npaum li cas sobbing ib lub hlis twg yog qhov ntsuas. Muaj peev xwm tsis muaj qhov tsis muaj tseeb, vim hais tias txhua yam nyob ntawm tus qauv ntawm tus txiv neej. Piv txwv, muaj menyuam yaus - leej niam lub tawb, thiab sib cais los ntawm ib tus neeg ze lawv lawv nrog kev sib daj sib deev. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam nyob twj ywm rau hauv qhov teeb meem no, nws muaj ob qho laj thawj: nws tsis yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev, los sis muaj lub siab nyiam thiab muaj kev tiv thaiv qhov nws tus phooj ywg tsis tuaj yeem quaj. Nyob rau txhua qhov teeb meem, cov neeg laus yuav tsum sim ua kom lub siab tus me nyuam kawm qib qub. Thiab qhov no nws yog qhov tsim nyog los legitimize nws lub kua muag: "Kuv to taub tias koj tu siab nyob rau hauv ib tug kawm qib siab tsis muaj leej niam." Tsuas tsis txhob txaj muag tus me nyuam quaj txhua txoj kev, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov neeg sab nrauv. Txoj kev quab yuam no yuav tsis pab, tab sis nws yuav ua rau nws txo nws tus kheej.
Nco ntsoov thiab hais tias yog nws. Ib tug me nyuam loj tshaj 4 xyoos pib teb cov lus uas cov laus feem ntau hu ua kev tu siab. Tsis tas li ntawd, lawv tuaj yeem muaj zog nyob rau hauv preschool tus me nyuam uas qee zaus nws tsis yooj yim rau nws ua rau nws quaj kua muag - kua muag ntawm kev hloov siab lees txim rau nws tus kheej tsis mloog lus. Thiab thaum koj pom tias koj tus me nyuam quaj qw nrov nrov rau qhov no, tsis txhob maj mus khiav ntawm nws nrog ib txhais tes thiab ib qho chocolate lwm. Raws li cov kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws, kev ua tau zoo sai sai ntawm lub xeev yuav tuaj yeem mus rau tus menyuam hloov siab lees txim. Qhov no yuav tiv thaiv nws kom tsis txhob muaj kev lav ris ntxiv rau nws tus cwj pwm. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj tus ntxhais hlob tshaj tus yau yau, thiab tam sim no ob leeg quaj qw nrov nrov thiab koj xav tias thov txim rau ob leeg, ua ntej txhua tus nqig ntawm lub tshuam. Tsis txhob muab rau cov niam txiv txoj kev poob siab los hnia lawv lub taub hau ntawm kev ris txiaj rau lawv txoj kev hloov siab lees txim. Lub kua muag ntawm ib tug me nyuam uas tau pom tias nws qhov kev txaj muag ua ib qho tseem ceeb rau txoj kev loj hlob ntawm nws tus cwj pwm. Lawv qhia nws kom to taub qhov zoo thiab qhov phem nyob hauv lub neej no.
Thiab thaum lub hnub nyoog no muaj khej cov kua muag. Qhov ntawd yog, tus me nyuam twb to taub hais tias siv kua muag tuaj yeem ua los ntawm cov niam txiv uas tsis muaj dab tsi. Kuv xav kom kuv niam mus yuav ib qho khoom ua si tshiab? Yog li ntawd, nws yog qhov txaus los kho tus ciav kua muag ntawm nruab nrab ntawm lub khw - thiab qhov khoom xav pom tam sim ntawd pom nws tus kheej. Ntawm no nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tau hnov mob rau txoj kev zoo li nruj me ntsis, txwv tsis pub nws yuav ntev mus nkag rau hauv tus cwj pwm ntawm ib tug me cunning tus neeg. Pom zoo, nyob rau tej lub sijhawm, cov neeg laus yuav tsum muaj cov hlau extract. Yog tsis muaj nws koj tuaj yeem ua tsis tau.
Yog tias menyuam yaus quaj, ces nws loj tuaj.
Tus menyuam loj hlob tuaj, thiab nrog nws lub peev xwm los xav txog lub ntiaj teb - thiab nws lub hauv paus thiab ib puag ncig - zoo tuaj. Cov tub ntxhais kawm ntawv qib qis hais lus nws hom lus siv ntawm tus neeg laus, nws tseem muaj peev xwm tswj nws cov yeeb yam, kom nkag siab nws cov kev xav thiab kev xav. Nws nyob ntawm lub hnub nyoog no uas tus me nyuam pib to taub qhov txawv ntawm kev coj tus cwj pwm nyob hauv tsev thiab nyob rau hauv qhov chaw pej xeem. Thiab qhov no yog vim li cas nws thiaj ua rau cov neeg thab plaub tawm sab nraud nrog cov neeg sab nrauv, thiab kev lom zem ntawm kev quaj rau hauv tsev, rau tsev neeg.
Ib lub tsev kawm ntawv me me zoo siab nkag siab tias yog nws quaj ntawm ib zaj lus qhia vim yog deuce los yog hauv lub tshav puam vim muaj kev sib thab mus rau football, ces cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig yuav luag ntawm nws. Tus menyuam kawm paub los txiav txim siab tias qhov no los yog qhov teeb meem no yeej tsim nyog quaj, lossis nws tsuas yog zoo nkaus li ib qho kev qaug zog. Saib cov laus thiab cov phooj ywg, nyeem cov phau ntawv thiab saib yeeb yaj kiab, ib lub tsev kawm ntawv qib qis twb paub tias muaj quaj pom zoo thiab tsis tsim nyog. Piv txwv, koj tuaj yeem quaj yog tias koj tus hlub tus hlub tuag lawm. Tab sis yog hais tias koj raug thawb ib ncig ntawm lub caj dab nyob rau hauv kev sib ntaus, koj ua tsis tau qhov no.
Thiab yog tias zoo li koj tias koj tus me nyuam muaj ntau lub qhov muag hauv qhov chaw ntub, ces qhov kev tshawb fawb, feem ntau, tseem tsis tau to taub. Tom qab ntawd nws yuav tsum tau pab, qhia rau hauv kev sib txuas lus nrog tib neeg los siv cov lus ntau ntxiv los qhia lawv txoj kev xav, es tsis txhob cog qoob loo. Thiab los piav tias nws yog tus tsim nyog, vim nws yuav to taub sai dua. Tsuas yog ua tib zoo saib tus me nyuam lub siab thiab tsis txhob nias nws. Kev tsis tuaj yeem, tsis muaj kev ruaj ntseg lossis tsis muaj teebmeem hauv tsev kawm ntawv yuav tsis tuaj yeem muab tso rau hauv ib qho kev nruam ntej - thiab ua rau kev poobsiab tsis tuaj yeem tsis deb. Yog li ntawd, ua ntej nws pib to taub txog kev kawm ntawm nyob tsis muaj kua muag, sim hloov nws txoj kev xav hauv lub hlwb. Ua siab ntev thiab tsis tuaj yeem coj raws li nws lub siab, kev ntseeg ntawm tus kheej, ua rau nws xav tias txhua txhua hnub teeb meem yog lub ntiaj teb kev puas tsuaj. Thiab ua ntej ntawm tag nrho, qhia nws los ntawm koj tus kheej tus yam ntxwv.
Yog tias koj tus me nyuam pheej quaj ntsiag to, zais cia nyob hauv kaum, qhov no yog ib qho kev qhia ntawm qee qhov kev daws teeb meem, ntawm nws qhov kev xav, qhov teeb meem. Yog vim li cas rau cov kua muag no yog lub caij nyoog tsis sib haum nrog cov phooj ywg los yog cov xib fwb, kev ntshai ntawm kev nplua vaj tse, kev tsis zoo nyob hauv tsev. Thiab ntawm no tsis muaj kev pab los ntawm cov niam txiv nws yeej tsis tuaj yeem ua. Los ntawm txoj kev, nws to taub qhov no, tab sis tsis twv kom qhia lawv txog nws. Muaj tseeb, nyob rau hauv cov menyuam yaus 8-10 xyoo yog ib hom kev quaj, uas thaum pom thawj zaug zoo li peb tsis thwj. Nws los ntawm nws tus kheej, thiab nws thiaj li nws tseem dheev ceases. Cov no yog "lub kua muag ntawm kev loj hlob", ib qho kev qhia ntawm txoj kev hloov ntawm ib lub sijhawm nyoog. Raws li cov kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws, cov niam txiv yuav tsum tsis txhob tsom lawv los yog sim ua kom zoo siab rau tus me nyuam ntxim hlub nrog rau txhua yam kev tseeb thiab kev ntsoog. Tsis txhob cuam tshuam tus neeg maturing. Xws li lub kua muag yuav tsuas pab nws, vim tias lawv pab nws hloov mus rau lub ntiaj teb hloov sai.
Ntau tus niam txiv xav paub txog cov lus nug, tab sis cov laus yuav tsum tau nkaum lawv cov kua muag los ntawm cov me nyuam? Ntawm no yog li cas psychologists xav txog qhov no:
- Cov me nyuam tsis tau nto hnub nyoog 5-6 tuaj yeem ntshai thaum pom tus niam quaj los yog pog. Tom qab tag nrho thaum lub hnub nyoog no lawv xav tias muaj kev tshwj xeeb ntawm cov neeg nyob ze. Yog li, lawv xav pom lawv txhua tus muaj hwj chim, muaj zog, muaj peev xwm kov yeej txhua tus lub neej txoj kev txom nyem. Yog li, yog tias ua tau, npog koj lub kua muag los ntawm cov me nyuam me.
- Los ntawm cov menyuam yaus, koj tuaj yeem tsis zais, tab sis tsuas yog tias koj quaj rau qhov laj thawj zoo. Tom qab ntawd nrog koj cov kev pabcuam tus menyuam yuav tau txais ib txoj kev kawm hauv lub neej. Nws paub tias hauv lub neej muaj kev ntxhov siab los sis muaj kev ntxhov siab. Tias ib txhia ntawm cov losses yog irreversible thiab hais tias nyob rau hauv xws li ib qho teeb meem kua muag yog ib qho ntuj tso thiab yog li ntawd permissible ras txog rau txhua tus neeg. Piv txwv, ib leej niam quaj yog nws tus txiv txawb nws. Tab sis kev quaj ntsuag nyob rau hauv ntawm tus me nyuam paug nrog ib tus hlau tib elegant dresses tseem tsis tsim nyog nws.
"Tiam sis txawm tias koj lub kua muag tshwm sim los ntawm kev mob loj tiag tiag, nco ntsoov piav txog lawv txoj kev ua rau koj tus me nyuam sai li sai tau, tsis txhob ncua tom qab. Txwv tsis pub, nws yuav ua rau nws ntshai, ntshai, pib poob rau hauv kev xav thiab vim li ntawd yuav muaj kev ntxhov siab.
Nco ntsoov tias me nyuam me, feem ntau quaj, tuaj yeem muaj qhov laj thawj zoo. Thiab los teb rau kev quaj qw yuav tsum yog qhov uas tsim nyog ua.