Dab tsi yog qhov tseem ceeb?
Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws hauv kev sib tham nrog koj tus kheej yog sincerity. Peb feem ntau ua yuam kev lwm tus neeg, vim hais tias tej zaum yuav tsum yog lus dag. Tab sis raws li feem ntau peb dag peb tus kheej. Peb yog tus cwj pwm ntawm peb tus kheej cov yeeb yam uas peb tsis muaj, peb tu siab nrog kev dag, peb feem xyuam rau peb lub cim xeeb thiab cuam tshuam txog qee lub sijhawm, peb ntseeg tau tias peb tsis tau ua dab tsi. Qhov no ua rau peb xav yuam kev ntawm peb tus kheej cov nyiaj, qee zaum hauv peb lub qhov muag peb pom kiag li txawv ntawm qhov peb yeej yog-zoo dua los yog tuaj, nws tsis tseem ceeb.
Yog li ntawd, nws tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum tau qhia qhov tseeb rau koj tus kheej, tsawg kawg yog qee zaum.
Dab tsi los tham txog?
Txog txhua yam uas excites koj. Txog koj tus kheej thiab koj cov kev xav los yog kev xav, txog teeb meem thiab kev sib tw, txog kev phooj ywg thiab kev ua haujlwm. Psychologists hais tias qee yam uas thab peb vim lawv tsis tshua meej rau peb. Tej zaum nws yuav yog ib co teeb meem los yog lub zeem muag uas tsis muaj cov ntsiab lus los ua daim duab meej. Thaum peb hais ntau lub sijhawm thiab peb xav, peb nrhiav kev los daws cov teeb meem ntau dua.
Qee zaum kev sib tham no tuaj yeem pab tau kom tsis txhob muaj kev tsis txaus siab. Nws yog txaus los hais tawm ib leeg nrog koj tus kheej, qhia txhua yam uas tau rhaub dhau tus neeg ua txhaum, thiab qhov yuav tsum tau pib qhov kev sib cav yuav poob ntawm nws tus kheej.
Tsis yog txhua tus tuaj yeem txiav txim siab txog txoj kev sib tham no. Yog tias koj qee yam tsis muaj peev xwm yuam koj tus kheej los tham nrov nrov, nws yuav txaus kom muaj kev sib tham nrog kev xav. Kev hais lus rau koj tus kheej yog qhov kev sib raug zoo heev, vim peb tsis muaj ib tug neeg ze ntawm peb tus kheej. Kev sib tham tau muab hloov los ntawm kev sau ntawv. Lwm txoj kev uas cov kws kho mob feem ntau siv yog cov tsiaj ntawv. Koj tuaj yeem sau ib tsab ntawv mus rau koj tus kheej lossis rau lwm tus. Lub tswv yim yog tias peb nthuav txog peb cov kev paub thiab kev xav rau ntawm ntawv, tiam sis lub hom phiaj ntawm qhov kev sib txuas lus no tsis yog xa daim ntawv mus rau tus neeg teb xov tooj, nws tsuas yog tswj xyuas koj tus kheej xwb.
Nws pab tau li cas?
Kev hais lus rau yus tus kheej yeej pab daws kev ntxhov siab thiab nrhiav cov lus teb rau cov lus nug ntau. Qhov no pab tau kom tsis txhob muaj qhov tsis meej. Piv txwv, koj xav tias koj tsis muaj qee tus cwj pwm zoo, cwj pwm los sis cwj pwm kom zoo siab thiab muaj kev sib haum xeeb ntxiv. Xav txog tias koj muaj cov yeeb yam no thiab tham nrog koj tus kheej los ntawm kev xav ntawm ib tus neeg uas yog ib qho kev txhim kho ntawm koj tus kheej. Txhua yam uas koj hais rau koj tus kheej los ntawm txoj hauj lwm no yuav raug ntaus nqi raws li lub tswv yim tsuas yog qhov tseeb thiab tuaj yeem siv.
Kev sib tham rau yus tus kheej yuav pab kom yus paub sib tham nrog lwm tus. Koj yuav kawm tau hais tias koj xav hais tias qhov twg yog qhov yog thiab muaj cai thiab muaj peev xwm nthuav qhia cov lus teb ntawm lwm tus neeg, thiab, yog li ntawd, hauv lub neej tiag nws yuav yooj yim rau kev sib txuas lus.
Tham nrog rau koj tus kheej tsis yog vwm, nws tsis yog yuav tsum tau tuav cov pa rau cov sij hawm nrog koj cov caij nyoog. Thaum peb muab pov tseg yog peb xav, uas pab tswj kev sib tham. Yog tias ib tug neeg txiav txim siab kom muaj kev sib tham, nws muaj lub sijhawm los nkag siab txog nws lub siab xav thiab nws yog dab tsi tiag tiag. Peb pheej ua yuam kev, vim hais tias peb xav txog peb tus kheej kom tsis tshua muaj zog lossis muaj peev xwm tus kheej ntau dua. Ib qho kev sib tham nrog kev sib txuas lus yuav pab qhia koj cov ntsiab lus tseeb thiab minuses, qhov no yog vim li cas qhov tswv yim feem ntau yog muab los ntawm cov kws kho mob rau cov neeg uas to taub lawv tus kheej.