Thiab hnub no, los ntawm ib qho loj loj ntawm kev pom zoo, qhov no tsis txaus rau nws. Thaum muaj hnub nyoog ib xyoos tus me nyuam twb to taub ntau. Thiab tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, nws xav qhia txhua yam no, tab sis nws tseem tsis paub tias yuav ua li cas. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qhov tsim nyog los tsim kev hais lus ntawm ib tug me nyuam ib xyoos. Tom qab tag nrho, tus menyuam yaus sai sai kom paub piav qhov nws xav tau, thiab koj nkag siab txog nws, nws yuav tsawg dua. Tom qab tag nrho, cov whims thiab hysterics ntawm koj tus menyuam ncaj qha mus rau qhov tseeb tias nws tsuas xav kom tau hnov thiab to taub los ntawm cov neeg ze rau nws.
Kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus ntawm ib tus me nyuam muaj hnub nyoog ib nrab yog ib qho ua haujlwm heev. Nws yog nyob rau lub sijhawm nyoog no uas tus menyuam pib tshawb lub ntiaj teb ib ncig nws. Yog li ntawd, muaj lub siab xav qhia txhua tus txog nws paub txhua hnub. Raws li txoj cai, thawj lo lus yog ncaj qha ntsig txog cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig txhua hnub. Yog li ntawd, thawj zaug uas tus me nyuam hais tias yog niam los yog txiv. Tom qab ntawd muaj cov lus zoo li ib tug poj niam, txiv ntxawm, yog tias muaj cov menyuam yaus hauv xya, ces tus neeg laus. Tag nrho cov no tshwm sim thaum muaj hnub nyoog 10 lub hlis mus rau ib nrab thiab ib nrab xyoo. Tsis tas li ntawm lub hnub nyoog no tus me nyuam muaj lub siab xav ua kom qog lwm tus. Nws nquag rov hais cov neeg hais lus ntsej muag ntawm lub ntsej muag, piav tes piav taw thiab, tau kawg, lub suab. Cov me nyuam yaus ceev nrooj nco qab thiab rov qab ua dua, piv txwv li, ua li cas cav hais lus (bi-bioward), ib tug me nyuam me (mow-moo) bi), moos (tick-to-tak).
Nws tau pom hais tias thawj cov lus uas tus me nyuam tau hais muaj tus cwj pwm zoo. Tab sis qhov no tsis nyob txhua qhov zoo li qhov kev sib txuas lus uas peb tau txais, cov laus. Ib tug neeg laus tuaj yeem ua ke nrog ntau yam khoom ua ke ua ke kom nrhiav tau lawv hauv qee qhov kev taw qhia, i.e. piv txwv li, lawv tau npaj rau dab tsi. Ib tug me nyuam tsuas nco ib qho cim meej thiab, yog li ntawd, nrhiav tau qhov kos npe no ntawm txhua yam txawv, hu lawv, hauv ib lo lus. Piv txwv, yum-yum, rau cov niam txiv no txhais tau tias tsuas yog ib qho, tus me nyuam xav noj. Tab sis tus me nyuam txhais tau hais tias qhov no tsis yog lub siab xav noj xwb, tab sis kuj yog cov tais diav uas nws tau noj los yog ib tus me nyuam uas tsis muaj sia, tsuas yog vim nws pom li cas ib tug me nyuam coj txawv txawv tshaj plaws.
Ib qho ntawm ntau lub suab hais tias ib tug me nyuam yaus hais ntawm lub hnub nyoog no yog "Y". Raws li txoj cai, lub suab no yog nrog los ntawm qhov tseeb hais tias tus me nyuam tub pom nws cov ntiv tes ntawm ib qho khoom. Feem ntau cov niam txiv tau npau taws vim qhov no rau tus me nyuam thiab sim piav qhia rau nws tias qhov no yuav ua tsis tau. Tab sis qhov no tsis yog lawm. Psychologists ntseeg tau hais tias qhov kev taw qhia kev lag luam no tseem tsis tau muaj kev tsim cov kev txav zog. Ib tug me nyuam, dhau ntawm nws lub hnub nyoog, nws tsuas yog tsis muaj peev xwm coj ib los yog lwm yam nws xav tau. Thiab nws tsuas yog tsis paub yuav piav li cas nws muaj siab rau nws niam nws txiv. Lub suab "Y" yog ib phau ntawv txhais lus ntawm tus me nyuam hauv kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus. Ie. qhov no txhais tau hais tias tus me nyuam to taub thiab lees paub qhov no lossis qhov kev kawm, tab sis tsis tuaj yeem hais nws lub npe. Raws li txoj cai, yog tias niam txiv tsis txhob cia tus menyuam tawm ntawm qhov taw qhia no, tiam sis sim ua kom to taub tias tus me nyuam xav qhia rau lawv thiab pab lawv li cas, tus me nyuam cov lus passive sai sai. Thiab qhov ncaj qha no ua rau lub fact tias nyob rau hauv ib lub sij hawm luv luv nws yuav ua tau zoo los ua, i.e. es tsis txhob "Y" tus me nyuam yuav pib hais cov lus ntawm lawv tus kheej.
Ib qho tseem ceeb uas ua rau kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus ntawm tus me nyuam ib xyoos yog kev sib cuam tshuam ntawm tus me nyuam nrog cov laus. Qhia txog tus menyuam txoj kev xav hauv ib qho khoom ua si, khoom lossis ib yam khoom, sim qhia nws kom ntau li ntau tau. Yog tias qhov no yog ib qho khoom ua si, nws npe, ces qhia rau tus me nyuam seb nws yog dab tsi (mos, tawv, kob, thiab lwm yam), koj yuav ua li cas nrog nws, seb koj ua si nrog nws. Nco ntsoov tawm tswv yim rau txhua yam koj ua. Sim ua qhov no tsis yog nyob hauv tsev xwb, tab sis kuj nyob ntawm txoj kev. Yuav kom koj tus me nyuam kawm cov lus tshiab sai thiab zoo, nws tseem ceeb heev uas koj zaj dab neeg tsis yog lub suab rau nws. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam pom tsob ntoo, ces nco ntsoov cia nws kov nws. Yog li ntawd nws yuav nthuav ntau thiab nws yuav nco ntsoov sai dua hais tias qhov no yog ib qho loj, ntxhib mus rau lub hauv paus cog thiab yog tib lub tsob ntoo, uas koj hais rau nws thiab pom hauv daim duab. Los ntawm txoj kev, saib thiab sib tham txog cov duab kuj yog ib qho tseem ceeb hauv kev loj hlob ntawm tus me nyuam txoj kev hais lus. Thaum me nyuam ib xyoos nws tus me nyuam twb muaj peev xwm sib piv cov khoom sib txawv thiab lawv cov duab. Piv txwv, yog tias koj pom daim duab ua ke ib qho khoom ua ke ib yam li koj tus me nyuam, piv txwv li, ib tug dais, pib piv qhov khoom ua si nrog duab. Zoo, piv txwv li, "Masha muaj dais thiab ib daim duab ntawm ib tug dais. Hauv daim duab dais yog dawb, thiab Masha yog xim av. "
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas tsis yog los qhia cov khoom xwb, tab sis kuj yuav qhia rau tus me nyuam seb cov kev ua ub no yuav ua li cas nrog lawv. Hais kom tus me nyuam nqa phau ntawv. Nrog kev pabcuam ntawm phau ntawv no koj tuaj yeem qhia koj tus menyuam txog ntau yam kev ua si. Nws tuaj yeem pom tus menyuam roj hmab, muab tso rau saum txee, kaw, qhib, ntsia, saib cov duab hauv nws. Feem ntau ua haujlwm yooj yim, cov lus nug rau tus me nyuam, tsis ntshai tias nws yuav tsis to taub koj. Coj koj daim ntawv qhia mug. Siv ib lub phaj nrog koj, muab rab diav rau koj niam, thiab lwm yam. Tus me nyuam yuav xav pab koj, thiab qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws nws yuav tau txais nws thawj kev sib txuas lus nrog lub ntiaj teb ncig nws.
Lwm txoj kev los nthuav kev hais lus ntawm tus me nyuam yog txhua hom suab nkauj thiab lus tso dag. Ua tsaug rau lub suab khiav ceev thiab lawv lub suab paj nruag, lawv pab tus me nyuam kom nco ntsoov thiab to taub cov lus tshiab thiab ua yeeb yam ntau dua.