Ntxhov siab rau 7 xyoo
Cia peb sim nkag siab txog qhov teeb meem no. Nyob rau hauv thawj xyoo ntawm lub neej, tus psyche ntawm tus me nyuam pib tsim. Thaum lub sijhawm no nws yeej xav tau ib leej niam. Nws tshwm sim hais tias leej niam tsis txaus siab rau nws tus yam ntxwv thiab tus me nyuam tsis paub seb koj puas ntseeg koj niam thiab thaum twg koj tuaj yeem tso siab rau nws. Qhov kev tsis sib haum no, zoo li lub lis piam nyob rau hauv ib cheeb tsam fertile, uas loj hlob thiab txhawj xeeb heev. Feem ntau yog qhia meej rau hauv 7 xyoo ntawm kev ntxhov siab, thaum tus menyuam mus kawm ntawv thiab ntog mus rau hauv lub ntiaj teb tsis paub nws. Qee leej niam thiab txiv ntseeg tias tus me nyuam yuav loj hlob, uas muaj hnub nyoog, ntxhov siab yuav dhau, tab sis qhov tseeb nws tsis yog. Txij li thaum muaj menyuam nyob hauv ib lub hnub nyoog me me, tus qauv ntawm kev coj cwj pwm ntawm nws cov kev sib txuas lus yav tom ntej thiab kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus neeg yog tsim.
Qhov kev cia siab ntawm kev tsis paub tseeb thiab kev nyab xeeb yog tsi ntsees los ntawm kev ntxhov siab vim 7 xyoo. Tsis zoo li kev xav ntawm kev ntshai, raws li psychologists, tsis muaj ib qhov chaw ntawm kev ntxhov siab - nws yog ntshai nyob rau hauv expectation ntawm "tsis paub dab tsi". Ib qho kev txhawj xeeb ntawm kev ntxhov siab yog qhov tshwj xeeb thiab tseem tsim nyog rau peb txhua tus, tsis yog rau cov me nyuam xwb, rau kev txhawb nqa lub siab lub ntsws, kev txawj ntse thiab kev pab cuam ntawm ib tug neeg. Txhua tus neeg muaj qhov tsim nyog ntawm kev ntxhov siab thiab yog nyob ntawm kev hloov peev xwm. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tias tus cwj pwm ntawm tus me nyuam tsis yog ntxhov siab. Feem ntau ntawm ib tug me nyuam yaus hlob tib neeg. Nyob rau hauv lub txiaj ntsim, ua rau kev loj hlob ntawm neurosis nyob rau hauv tus me nyuam, tsis ntseeg siab thiab tsis muaj kev ntxhov siab.
Ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab
Peb sim to taub, vim li cas qhov teeb meem sab hauv txhua qhov tib yam tshwm sim? Tsuas yog tus cwj pwm ntawm leej niam ntawm tag nrho cov wine? Ntawm chav kawm, qhov no tsis yog qhov txhaum ntawm kuv niam xwb. Nws yog tag nrho cov kev txhaum ntawm tus menyuam nyob ib ncig ntawm nws. Cia peb nco qab, vim hais tias txhua tus muaj peev xwm nco ntsoov saib xyuas qhov teeb meem nram no: Kuv niam tsis kam - kuv pog pub, kuv txiv tso cai - kuv niam tsis pub thiab ua lwm yam. Tab sis kuj muaj lwm yam. Ib tus menyuam yaus raug luag thuam luag, yog li ua rau nws pom tias nws muaj kev txhaum. Tom qab cov lus thuam koj tus me nyuam ntshai tsuas yog ua txhaum.
Yuav ua li cas yog tias txoj kev txhawj xeeb hauv tus me nyuam twb ua lawm? Sim siv cov lus qhia nram qab no:
- Qhia koj tus me nyuam ntau dua, koj nyiam thiab ua tsaug rau nws, tsis txhob hnov qab nws qhuas nws, txawm tias nws ua haujlwm zoo me me;
- Rau qhov tsis tseem ceeb, tsis txhob sib tw rau koj tus menyuam, vim nws tau ua txhaum;
- Tsis txhob muab nws piv rau cov phooj ywg, "ntawm no nws yog qhov zoo, thiab koj yog qhov phem."
- Tsis txhob sib cav sib ceg nrog tus menyuam, tsim kev sib raug zoo ntawm lawv tus kheej. Txhua tus me nyuam quarrels heev painfully thiab considers nws tus kheej muaj txim nyob rau hauv cov teeb meem.
- Kev sib txuas lus nrog koj tus me nyuam qhov muag nyob hauv koj lub qhov muag, koj yuav pab nws paub qhov txawv ntawm yav tom ntej qhov tseeb ntawm kev dag.
Qhia koj tus menyuam kom muaj kev sov siab thiab tu, siv sijhawm ntau nrog nws, qhia rau nws paub tias nws yog tus hlub rau koj thoob plaws ntiaj teb. Muab sijhawm rau nws sib tham nrog cov phooj ywg, mus xyuas cov chaw sab nraud. Thiab ua ntej koj tus me nyuam mos ntxias, xav txog seb nws tsim nyog nws, los yog koj nyuam qhuav muaj kev phem. Qhov no yog tib txoj kev los daws cov menyuam txoj kev ntxhov siab nyob rau hauv 7 teeb.