Qhia cov xeeb ntxwv los qhia cov lus qhia los yog tsis txaus siab rau cov lus. Thaum tus menyuam hais lus tsis zoo hais tias lawv tsis to taub nws, nws pib npau taws. Thiab tom qab ntawd nws tau txais siv los ntseeg tsis tau cov lus, instantly xa mus ua lag luam. Yog tias koj hooligan me ntsis cia, tsis txhob tiv thaiv nws. Qhia cov me nyuam kom lawv to taub lawv tus kheej. Thiab ho piav qhia vim li cas nws cov kev ua rau muaj kev tsis haum siab. Cov ntsiab lus - hauv tsab xov xwm hais txog nqe lus "Yuav ua li cas yog tias tus me nyuam sib ntaus, thawb".
Tsa tes txhawb nqa nws niam
Rau ib tug me nyuam twg uas muaj hnub nyoog ib los ob xyoos, stroke los yog tom yog ib txoj kev los tshawb txog qhov chaw, tsis muaj qhov phem tshaj lwm tus. Nws tsis to taub qhov mob zoo li cas, nws tsuas sim ua xwb: ua li cas yog tias kuv tom kuv niam? Shock? Pov rau ntawm plaub hau? Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum txwv cov kev sim no thaum tseem yau. Cov tshuaj tiv thaiv ntawm cov neeg laus ua rau cov kev ua ntawm cov me nyuam yuav tsum yog tib yam. Yog leej niam tu siab, tus txiv yog npau taws, thiab pog, nws teb rau "pranks" luag - tus me nyuam tsis nkag siab tias yuav coj li cas. Nws tsis tsim nyog theatrical qw los yog quaj xws li ib qho tshuaj tiv thaiv, ntxim yuav dua, tsuas yog siv lub pob zeb, thiab nws yuav sim ua kom tiav nws dua. Xwb, nres txuas lus nrog tus menyuam: tso tseg, mus rau lwm chav. Cov laus yuav tsum tsis txhob hloov. Yog hais tias, teb rau ib qho tom, koj tom, tus me nyuam yuav ua tsis tau nws li lub npauj npoo: Yog tias niam ua nws, ces koj tuaj yeem tom kuv.
Nws yog ib yam ua tus niam ntawm ib tus neeg tua rog. Nws yog qhov txawv dua lwm tus - thaum koj tus tubtxib tawm tsam los ntawm lwm cov menyuam yaus. Nws yog qhov tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias qhov no tsis tshwm sim ua ntej koj ob lub qhov muag, piv txwv li hauv kindergarten. Piav qhia rau koj tus menyuam seb nws yuav nrog tus neeg txheeb ze tham. Qhov yooj yim tshaj plaws yog los tawm tswv yim rau koj kom txhob nyob deb ntawm lub dav hlau tua rog. Qhia koj lub puab tsaig kom qhia lwm tus me nyuam tias qee yam ntawm lawv cov yeeb yam tsis txaus siab rau nws. Yog tias tus neeg ua txhaum ntawd yeej zoo li qub, tham nrog nws niam nws txiv. Qee lub sij hawm lawv tsis paub tias lawv tus menyuam yog ntshai ntawm pawg. Tham nrog cov xib fwb. Lub koom haum saib xyuas menyuam yaus yog lub luag haujlwm rau lub cev thiab lub hlwb ntawm cov menyuam yaus. Yog li ntawd, cov kws qhia ntawv yuav tsum tau ua kom cov neeg ntxeev siab tawm tsam ntawm cov hmab. Cov xib fwb zoo nyob rau hauv pawg neeg tsis tshua muaj kev sib ntaus sib tua: cov me nyuam yaus raug mus ua si, thiab thaum muaj ib yam dab tsi, feem ntau tsis txog thaum sib cav sib ceg. Los ntawm kev tsis txaj muag, muaj pib tsis paub xyaw nrog kev raug mob, sib ntaus, tuaj tos cov khoom ua si. Yog hais tias tus neeg raug kev ua phem rau tus me nyuam raug rov qab dua, txawm tias koj cov neeg pab leg ntaubntawv, nws yog lub sijhawm mus rau kev sib tham nrog cov tub ceev xwm. Yog tias tsis muaj dab tsi pab, qhov kev daws teeb meem zoo tshaj yog hloov cov pab pawg los yog kindergarten. Nws yog ib qho kev txaj muag tias nws yog koj, tus neeg raug mob raug mob, uas yuav tsum tau tawm hauv kev sib ntaus sib tua, tiam sis nws yog qhov zoo dua kom tshem tus me nyuam ntawm thaj chaw muaj kev puas tsuaj tshaj qhov kho nws tus psyche tom qab.
Yuav ua li cas kom scold ib tug me nyuam?
Yuav ua li cas ua rau koj tus me nyuam hnov mob rau qhov txiav npluav, thiab koj tsis tas yuav cuam tshuam cov tes uas tau muab tso rau hauv lub tshuab? Hais "tsis muaj" lossis "nres" hauv lub siab, lub suab nruj. Yog hais tias nws ua raws li ib tug crumb, nws yog ib tug neeg zoo thiab yuav tsum tau txhawb, vim hais tias qhov no yog ib tug manifestation ntawm nws tus kheej tswj. Nco ntsoov qhuas txog kev siv ceev xwmphem, kev ua raws li, thiab tsuas yog hauv lub xeem kev sib tw zaum kawg tias koj tsis tuaj yeem sib ntaus. Suab nrov zoo li no: "Seryozha, koj ua tsis tau! ... Zoo heev, cuam ib tug pas, niam mloog ... Koj paub tias koj yuav tsis offend tus me nyuam." Cov me nyuam muaj lub cim xeeb luv luv, thiab ib teev tom qab qhov teeb meem nws yog qhov tsis muaj teeb meem los npaj kev sib cav sib ceg, ntiav tus neeg tua rog. Yog tias koj tuaj tsis tau rau txim, tsis kam rau txim rau txhua tus.
Tsis txhob nyeem ncaj ncees, tsis txhob hais txog lub ntsiab lus: "Thiab koj yuav nyiam nws yog tias lawv ntaus koj". "Cov me nyuam yaus, vim tsis muaj peev xwm xav txog abstractly, tseem tsis to taub koj hu xov tooj. Qee lub sij hawm tus neeg tua hluav taws "pity" qhov kev tu siab, thov rau daim ntawv tso cai cia, vim hais tias leej niam txib - thiab ib pliag tom qab ntawd lawv tseem rov co dua. Qhov kev coj cwj pwm no tsim nyog rau txim, thiab qhov zoo tshaj plaws rau hauv qhov teeb meem no yog kev sib cais. Tam sim ntawd tom qab muaj kev cuam tshuam nrog tsis sib txuas lus, tshem tawm lossis nqa tus me nyuam tawm ntawm lwm cov me nyuam. Lub sijhawm thiab txoj kev sib cais yog nyob ntawm qhov kev coj tus cwj pwm ntawm tus me nyuam, ntawm qhov kev ua txhaum loj, vim hais tias kev siab tawv me ntsis ua dua nws cov kev sim siab. Yog tias hnub no leej niam scolds rau kev sib ntaus, thiab tag kis tsis xyuam xim rau nws, tus me nyuam yog ruam tag. Txhaum tej yam kev ua phem, tsis tas kos.
Nws tsis zoo los teb lub zog los ntawm kev quab yuam, txhua tus paub qhov no. Tiam sis yog tias tus neeg ua phem rau koj tus menyuam tsis tuaj yeem tiv tauj koj, los yog nrog koj, los sis nrog koj niam koj txiv? Los yog kev ua phem ua rau nws tus kheej poob nthav. Los yog koj thawj zaug (thiab zaum kawg ntawm lub sijhawm) hauv koj lub neej kom pom kev thab me ntsis, yog li tsis muaj sij hawm los tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo, thiab tsis muaj txoj kev uas yuav khiav dim? Ib seem nyob rau - qhia koj tus menyuam kom hloov. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom piav rau tus me nyuam tias nws tsis zoo tuaj tos thawj tus, tab sis koj yuav tsum muaj peev xwm teb tau qhov tshuab. Tom tsev, ua tawm tsam thiab tiv thaiv los ntawm cov luag haujlwm; disassemble, thaum nws muaj peev xwm daws tau qhov teeb meem peacefully - muab kev ua si hauv koj cov khoom ua si, muab txoj kev viav vias - thiab thaum twg tsim nyog sawv ntsug rau nws tus kheej. Cia tus me nyuam xav hais tias koj tsis pom zoo rau kev sib ntaus, tab sis qhov no koj nyob ntawm nws sab. Piav nrog kev pab ntawm qhov kev ua si qhov sib txawv ntawm qhov kev tawm tsam thiab kev tiv thaiv. Tam sim no peb paub tias yuav ua li cas yog tias tus me nyuam sib ntaus, sib cav.