Tus menyuam muaj lub luag haujlwm txhawm rau txhuam nws cov hniav lossis ntxuav nws cov khoom ua si, piv txwv. Thiab peb tuaj yeem hais li cas txog lub sijhawm uas menyuam tau mus kawm ntawv! Ntawm no, lub luag hauj lwm yog qhov kev txiav txim siab zoo hauv kev cob qhia zoo. Kev pom zoo, cov niam txiv uas tsis tas yuav tsum tshawb xyuas txhua hmo txawm hais tias tag nrho cov phau ntawv no tau muab tso rau hauv cov ntawv sau, txawm tias tag nrho cov phau ntawv sau tseg kos npe, nws muaj kev ruaj ntseg dua xa lawv tus menyuam tuaj rau hauv tsev kawm: lawv tuaj yeem paub tseeb tias tus menyuam yuav tsis cuam tshuam rau hauv zaj lus qhia, thiab cov ntawv ua tom tsev yuav tsum sau . Tab sis yuav ua li cas kom ntseeg tau tias tus me nyuam kawm paub txog nws txoj hauj lwm? Qhov tseeb, nws yuav coj txawv txawv los ntawm ib tug me nyuam me me ntawm kev lav phij xaub rau nws cov kev ua thiab ntau dua li lawv lub txim - txog rau lub hnub nyoog, cov me nyuam tsis txawm paub txog kev sib raug zoo-thiab-qhov kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov xwm txheej. Tab sis twb tau 3-3,5 xyoo tus me nyuam muaj peev xwm nkag siab txog qhov zoo thiab qhov phem. Yog li cas koj thiaj li paub tus me nyuam lub luag hauj lwm?
Txhawb kom pib
Tus me nyuam xav ntxuav cov tais diav? Yawm suab, muab tso quav rau ntawm kuv thiab kuv tus kheej ua ke! Puas yog nws sim pab tu tsev? Peb tau muab lub tshuab nqus tsev. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, tus txheej txheem yuav ncab, tab sis lub karapuz yuav txaus siab hais tias nws yog tibneeg hu tauj coob nrog ib tug tseem ceeb "laus" kev ywj pheej! Yog tias tsev neeg muaj me nyuam yaus, nws muaj peev xwm mus tso siab rau cov txwj laus nrog txoj haujlwm yooj yim. Piv txwv, nqa lub raj mis rau chav ua noj tom qab pub mis. Kev tu yuav ua kom lub luag haujlwm thiab kev hlub rau tus kwv yau lossis tus muam. Nws yog ib qhov tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum saib xyuas qhov kub kub thiab muab cov haujlwm uas ua tau thiab tsis tas ua. Tsis txhob hnov qab qhuas thiab ua tsaug rau tus menyuam! Qhov no, dhau lawm, yuav tsum muaj peev xwm ua tau. Yog hais tias koj qhuas ntau, ces qhuas qhuas, yog hais tias koj qhuas abstractly ("Ua tsaug, zoo ua") - tsis yog ntaus nqi. Nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau ua tsaug rau hauv qab ntawm lub plawv thiab, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog, li cas xyov: "Koj ntxuav cov tais diav zoo li! Kuv tam sim no muaj sij hawm dawb tawm mus nrog koj! Ua tsaug! ".
Cia siab tias tus me nyuam muaj hwj chim
Dua li, cov haujlwm thiab cov luag num yuav tsum ua tiav. Yog hais tias koj entrust yam dab tsi uas tus kas obviously yuav tsis tiv, tsis muaj dab tsi tab sis kua muag thiab resentment yuav tuaj. Thiab yog tias ib yam khoom tsis ua haujlwm, tsis txhob yuav tub nkeeg los piav thiab qhia tias nws ua tiav li cas. Cov lus: "Okay, Kuv mam li ua txhua yam rau kuv tus kheej" lossis "Zoo, ntau npaum li cas koj tuaj yeem siv tau rau lub sijhawm no" - qhov tseem taboo. Ntawm chav kawm, nws yooj yim dua thiab sai dua rau khi shoelaces, nqa dirty lauj kaub tais diav thiab tshem tawm cov khoom ua si. Tab sis yog tias koj suppress qhov pib ntawm tus me nyuam - tsis txhob npau taws rau nws kom muaj khi cov laces txog qib plaub. Siv lub sijhawm thaum nws xav kom txawj ua lag luam. Sij hawm dhau los, kev xav yuav ploj tag nrho.
Variants ntawm lub luag hauj lwm
Tus me nyuam yuav poob mus rau qhov teeb meem no ntau tshaj ib zaug hauv nws lub neej. Koj yuav tsis tau nrog nws txhua lub sijhawm. Tab sis los piav qhia tias yuav ua li cas los ua ib txoj hauv kev los sis lwm tus yog koj txoj hauj lwm. Lub luag haujlwm rau lawv kev nyab xeeb, kev noj qab haus huv. Qhia txog qhib qhov rai, rosettes, qhov cub kub, nco ntsoov hais tias "txiav txim-ua": "Tsis txhob kov qhov cub thaum nws npaj zaub mov, nws ua kom sov. Yog tias koj kov nws nrog koj cov ntiv tes, koj tuaj yeem tau txais kub tuag, nws yuav mob heev! ". Kev ua tus laus dhau los, tus me nyuam yuav kawm txog qhov "tswv yim" ntawm rooj plaub thiab kawm txog nws tus kheej li cas.
Hwm
Qhov no kuj yog ib qho ntawm lub luag haujlwm. Tsis txhob ua suab nrov, vim hais tias Dad tsaug, tsis qw, vim tias kuv pog muaj mob taub hau. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum ua rau tus me nyuam nco qab tias qhov kev hlub thiab kev kho mob uas nws tau txais yuav tsum raug muab rau lwm tus. Qhov no kuj yuav tsum tau kawm.
Cwj pwm rau tej yam
Ua tsaug rau tej yam uas tus me nyuam yuav kawm nrog cov lus piav qhia. "Koj tau tawg khiav lawm, koj twb tau mus so nws," "Txij nws, tsoo nws? Dab tsi ua siab phem, tab sis tsis muaj nyiaj ntxiv yuav khoom zoo li ib qho khoom ua si zoo. " Cov kauj ruam yog kauj ruam tus me txiv neej yuav nkag siab tias nws los ntawm nws qhov kev nyob ntawm nws yog nyob hauv nws "kev tswj hwm". Kev zoo ntawm tus kheej "cheeb tsam" (chav, ces kaum, thiab lwm yam), kev huv ntawm ib puag ncig yog ib txoj cai tseem ceeb uas tus me nyuam yuav tsum to taub txij thaum yau. Candy wrappers, broken paddles, sachets - tag nrho cov chaw hauv cov thoob khib nyiab, thiab tsis nyob hauv av; cov khoom ua si - rau txee, khoom - ntawm ib lub rooj zaum lossis hauv siab ntawm cov tub luam.
Lub luag haujlwm ntawm cov lus
Qhov no tseem ceeb heev! Muaj tseeb koj tau ntsib cov neeg uas qeeb los ua kom tiav lawv cov lus cog tseg. Nws hais - thiab tsis nco qab, koj xav tias, yog ib qhov zoo! Nws zoo dua tsis tau nrog cov cim zoo li no. Tab sis muaj lwm tus - rau lawv lo lus yog sib npaug nrog kev txiav txim thiab qhov kev cog lus no yog yuav luag tag nrho cov lus thov. Tus neeg uas ua raws li nws lo lus, hwm txhua tus. Nws tuaj yeem ntseeg tau. Nws hais tias - ua tiav, thiab yog li ntawd nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom piav rau tus me nyuam yaus tias nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tau ua raws li cov lus cog tseg heev.
Peb tau teeb tsa lub tswv yim
• Kauj Ruam 1. Xaiv lub ntsiab lus
Txij hnub nyoog ntxov nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom muab tus me nyuam rau hauv ib qho teeb meem kev xaiv (tiv thaiv, raws li tus kheej tswj, vim hais tias cov me nyuam muaj kev tsis ncaj ncees hais txog kev pab thiab teeb meem, txaus ntshai thiab muaj kev nyab xeeb). Qhia tawm ib yam dab tsi, xaiv 2-3 lwm qhov uas haum rau koj txhua yam, thiab nug tus me nyuam kom xaiv. Piv txwv, noj tshais porridge lossis tsev cheese nrog qaub cream, hnav ris tsho los yog ris rau ntawm txoj kev, thiab lwm yam.
• Kauj Ruam 2. Tswj
Nws tseem ceeb heev tsis yog tias tus me nyuam ua haujlwm rau nws, tab sis kuj ua tau zoo. Kev tswj cov kev ua ntawm crumbs proves tias koj ua dab tsi yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj rau koj, ntxiv rau, tus kheej tswj txoj kev loj hlob.
• Kauj Ruam 3. "Ntev"
Nws yog qhov zoo dua kom paub meej tias ib tus neeg tsis muaj peev xwm ua tau dab tsi (txaus ntshai, teeb meem, thiab lwm yam) dua li mus rub tawm cov pob zeb. Muaj qee qhov txwv tsis pub muaj kev phom sij rau lub neej ("tsis txhob mus qhib qhov rais", "tsis txhob muab tes rau hauv qhov hluav taws kub," etc.), tiam sis muaj kev txwv ntawm "cov xwm txheej tsis zoo", yooj yim rau cov niam txiv (" "). Categorical prohibitions tsis tham txog, "yooj yim" txwv tsis pub muaj kev cuam tshuam rau tus me nyuam to taub nws tus kheej seb nws yuav ua rau (piv txwv li, vim li cas nws tsis tuaj yeem nce mus rau hauv lub pas dej hauv khau boots: nws txias, koj tuaj yeem ntes tau txias). Tom qab qhov kev ua txhaum ntawm kev txwv tsis pub, nws tseem ceeb kom paub tseeb tias yog vim li cas nws tshwm sim ntawd, thiab ua rau lub tswv yim ntawm qhov txiav npluav yog qhov tseem ceeb.
• Kauj Ruam 4. Kev ywj pheej
Txhua yam uas tsis raug txwv yog pub, uas txhais tau hais tias yog koj xaiv "tsis muaj" cheeb tsam, npaj los npaj koj tus menyuam kev ywj pheej ntawm lwm qhov chaw. Qhov no yog qhov tsim nyog rau kev tsim ntawm tus xeeb ceem thiab tus cwj pwm. Coob tus me nyuam kawm tau lub neej los ntawm kev sim siab thiab kev ua yuam kev thiab tsis paub "niam txiv" rau lawv cov niam txiv. Muab koj tus menyuam xaiv, mloog nws lub siab nyiam, nco ntsoov ua kom tiv thaiv koj tus kheej ntawm kev tsim txom, ceeb toom lossis ua ke zoo siab ntawm txoj kev vam meej!
• Kauj Ruam 5. Txhawb thiab tsim txom
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb tsis yog los qhuas tus me nyuam, tab sis qee zaus yuav kom "txim txhaum cai". Piv txwv li: "Koj tsis tau tshem koj cov khoom ua si, thiab kuv tau muab lawv tso rau hauv lawv qhov chaw, tam sim no kuv thiaj li nkees uas kuv tsis tau nyeem ib zaj dab neeg rau hmo ntuj." Rau ib qho piv txwv yooj yooj yim, tus me nyuam yuav to taub txog txoj kev sib raug zoo, thiab qhov tseeb tias cov lag luam tsis tiav yuav raug xa mus rau lwm tus neeg. Kev loj hlob ntawm tus me nyuam tus cwj pwm yuav tsum ua haujlwm "tseem ceeb" ywj pheej. Yog li ntawd, cov hauj lwm yuav tsum yog nyob hauv txhua lub neej. Kev ua lag luam tiav theem kev txaus siab, ua rau nws tus kheej muaj nuj nqis thiab txuam nrog tus kheej kev coj cwj pwm.
Kev ua si thiab nqi zog
Tus me nyuam kawm txog lub ntiaj teb los ntawm kev ua si, thiab txawm tias muaj lub tswv yim tseem ceeb li kev lav phib xaub yuav zoo dua rau hauv kev ua si. Tu - qhov kev ua si "uas yog sai dua, huv thiab huv si"; ntxuav cov tais diav - ua si nrog dej, thiab lwm yam. Hnub no niam txiv sib koom nrog hauv Internet lawv cov kev tshawb pom, yog li ntawd, rau txoj kev ywj pheej, niam thiab leej txiv kos duab phaib nrog tej yam uas yuav tsum tau ua kom tiav rau hnub ntawd, thiab khwb ntawm lub fridge; muab cov menyuam "pluses", "hnub qub" lossis "nyiaj npib", uas thaum kawg ntawm lub lim piam tuaj yeem sib pauv, piv txwv li, rau qhov kev zoo nkauj, thiab ntau ntxiv, qhov kev ua si thiab khoom plig - yog ib qho zoo tshaj plaws rau kev vam meej ntawm "enterprise".
Tsis txhob hloov cov cai!
txais ib zaug "tsis tuaj yeem" yuav tsum tsis txhob hloov raws li koj lub siab lossis qhov teeb meem. Piv txwv li, yog koj tsis tuaj yeem kov koj niam lub hnab, koj kov tsis tau nws! Txawm hais tias lub hnab - qhov tsuas yog tam sim no uas cuam tshuam tus me nyuam, nws raug txwv, thiab yog li ntawd, tsis nco qab txog nws.