Tab sis tib lub sij hawm muaj lwm lub tswv yim hais tias nws yog tsis yooj yim sua kom faib neeg raws li lub cim no. Tsis txhob tuav cov lus cog tseg ntawm cov txiv neej thiab poj niam. Tab sis cia peb ua tus qhev, cov poj niam nyiam qhia dab neeg, lus xaiv, txais txhua yam. Nov ntawm poj niam thiab mus kev: "Nws cog lus rau kuv, tab sis tsis ua raws li." Yog tias koj xav txog nws, txiv neej yeej tsis tham txog nws, uas yog tag nrho cov lus zais cia. Tab sis txij li thaum peb tau pib tham txog tej lub ntsiab lus, peb yuav tsum ua mus ntxiv.
Tam sim no cia peb sim nkag siab vim li cas rau qhov no, tab sis nws yuav tsis yooj yim, vim hais tias nws muaj peev xwm raug hu ua ib qho kev tshawb fawb hais tias peb tsis muaj peev xwm kov yeej. Tab sis yog tias peb muaj peev xwm kov yeej tau, nkag siab txog nws cov tswv yim yooj yim, peb muaj peev xwm tsawg kawg tau txais kev puas tsuaj ntawm ntau yam kev tsim txom uas peb, thiab tshwj xeeb tshaj yog los ntawm tej yam uas tus txiv neej cog lus thiab tsis tuav nws cov lus cog tseg. Tawm los ntawm cov kev txhawj xeeb, peb kuj tau tshem ntawm cov kev mob ua rau muaj mob uas ib txwm mus tom qab lawv. Tab sis peb tsis ua porridge thiab pib ua.
Sim nrhiav ib tus neeg uas nyiam kom yuam ua ib yam dab tsi los ntawm kev quab yuam - tsis muaj leej twg nyiam nws, dhau mus, nws tseem muaj kev nyuab heev, vim hais tias lawv tseem yuam kom koj hnov los ntawm koj thiab koj cov lus ntawm kev hwm. Nws yog tsis zoo li hais tias ib tug txiv neej nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug teeb meem yuav ua li cas yog xav tau los ntawm nws, thiab yog hais tias nws ua, tus ntsuj plig, nws yuav tsis ua lag luam nyob rau hauv cov teeb meem no. Yog hais tias koj noj qhov teeb meem zoo tag nrho, ces tus txiv neej nws tus kheej yuav tsum mus ua ntej ntawd thiab xav nws tus kheej. Yog hais tias qhov no tsis tshwm sim, ces koj yog ib tug poj niam, uas yuav thawb nws thiab xa nws mus rau sab uas koj lub siab xav ua nws tus kheej txoj kev txiav txim siab, tab sis koj yuav tsum tau ua li no, vim tias qhov tshwm sim nyob ntawm koj cov yeeb yam. Muaj ob qho kev xaiv: nthuav tawm qhov kawg ntawm tus txiv neej, los sis ua kom zoo dua ntawm koj tus poj niam, siv cov kev txawj ntse thiab kev xav.
Tab sis koj tseem xav tau lub sij hawm zoo, ua li cas rau txoj kev ..., txhua yam nyob ntawm qhov teeb meem no, nws tshwm sim uas ob txoj kev yog ob qho zoo. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog kom tsis txhob cuam tshuam rau lawv, thiab tsis txhob ua rau kom qhov teeb meem tsis zoo, vim qhov ntawd, koj tus txiv neej yuav tsis ua raws li nws cov lus cog tseg, thiab txoj cai: "tus txiv neej cog lus thiab tsis rov qab cog lus" yuav rov qab hais dua.
Piv txwv li: ib tug ntxhais tuaj yeem tos ib lub sijhawm zoo, thaum tus txiv rov qab "tsis ua" txoj hauj lwm, thiab hais tias: "Kuv paub tias koj tsis ntseeg dab tsi" - qhov no yuav ua kom nws tuav cov lus cog tseg. Nws yuav sim noj cov kua zaub ntsuab rau nws vim nws tsis ntseeg nws lub zog thiab kev muaj peev xwm. Vim li ntawd nws yuav tsis xav tu siab rau nws thiab yuav pib pab nws rau txhua qhov nws tau thov.
Tiam sis, tus ntxhais tau mloog nws tus txiv, nkag mus rau hauv nws txoj hauj lwm, tom qab nws piav qhia nws vim nws tsis ua txoj hauj lwm rau nws. "Tau kawg! ": Koj hais. Yog, peb pom zoo, nws muaj peev xwm teb tau "Kuv tsis xav", tab sis qhov no yuav tsis yog ib tug txiv neej cov lus teb txhua. Hauv kev teb, koj tuaj yeem hais rau nws tias: "Nws tsis zoo li ib tug txiv neej". Nws yuav nco ntsoov qhov no kom paub meej. Yog hais tias nws ua cov lus sib cav loj thiab cog lus tias yuav ua tiav cov lus cog tseg tom qab, nws txhais tau tias koj tau tswj hwm nws nrog kev sib txuas lus yooj yim thiab kev sib tham. Tab sis tsis txhob hnov qab tias tus txiv yuav tsis nco qab, yog li tsis tam sim ntawd qw rau nws. Lub sijhawm tom ntej no koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov, thiab txhua yam yuav zoo.
Lwm txoj cai "tus txiv neej cog lus thiab tsis nco qab cog lus" yuav tsis raug to taub zoo, vim hais tias ib tug txiv neej tsis xav ua rau nws tus khub ua rau nws siab, vim nws cog lus, yog tias nws tsis tuaj yeem cuam tshuam tam sim ntawd. Thiab yog vim li cas qhov no yog kev hlub, vim hais tias nws tsis pom nws tus neeg tu siab, thiab nws siv ntau tshaj li qhov nws muaj peev xwm them taus. Yog, tus txiv neej no tsis tsim txoj cai, tab sis tseem ... Yog tias koj muaj qhov teeb meem no, ces, qhov tseeb, qhov yuav ua tau raws li nws cog lus qis.
Koj yuav tsum to taub meej meej tias ib tus neeg yuav tsum muaj kev ywj pheej xaiv, thiab tej lus cog tseg uas nws muab rau koj thaum muaj kev nyuaj siab tsis cog lus tias yuav ua tiav.
Dab tsi uas koj nyuam qhuav nyeem ntawv tsis yog qhov ua tau, vim tias tseem tshua nyob ntawm qhov teeb meem no. Piv txwv, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob hnov qab txog kev phooj ywg txiv neej. Koj tuaj yeem muab nws mus rau hauv chav noj mov rau ib lub sijhawm, tabsis nws yuav ntsib nws tus phoojywg qub thiab qub. Tsis yog, nws yuav tsis hloov koj, tab sis nws kuj yuav tsum nrog nws tham me me, kom paub tias nws lub neej mus li cas. Thiab qhov no yog qhov tseeb. Koj yuav, nyob rau hauv nws qhov chaw, ua tib yam, tiam sis tsuas yog qhov txawv me me xwb. Koj tus txiv yuav tsis tau hais ib lo lus rau koj, thiab koj yuav chim vim qhov no koj yuav pib tsim koj tus txiv.
Ib qho ntxiv yog kom nkag siab txog lub sij hawm no: lub sij hawm uas dhau los ntawm lub sijhawm "kos npe rau daim ntawv cog lus" thiab nws qhov kev siv - qhov no yog lub sij hawm thaum tus poj niam muab nws tus txiv rau kev ntseeg, koj, thaum lub sij hawm no, muab nws ua lub neej zoo dua. Thaum lub sijhawm no, nws xav tias nws tus kheej zoo li nws twb muaj tiav raws li tau cog lus tseg, koj ua zoo rau nws.
Ntawm no yog tib lub ntsiab cai yog siv rau kev siv yeeb siv tshuaj, thawj zaug ntawm tus txiv tau "siab", thiab tom qab ntawd - "tawg", uas yuav nyob rau hauv ob qho tib si.
Ua tau, nws yog lub sij hawm kos ib qho xaus los ntawm qhov tseeb-nyeem:
Ib tug txiv neej tsis yog neeg hlau, nws ua txhua yam kom tsis txhob chim rau koj, tab sis nws tsis tas ua tiav, thiab qhov ntawd yog qhov tseeb. Nws tsis yog qhov yuav tsum tau thov ntawm ib tug txiv neej cov kev ua haujlwm uas nws yuav tsis meej meej ua, thiab nws tsis txawm nyob hauv txoj haujlwm ntawm txoj hauj lwm no, tiam sis tsis muaj teeb meem ntawm tag nrho cov hauj lwm uas nws xav tau kom ua dhau ib lub sijhawm.
Tej zaum, txawm tias tib neeg tsis muaj kev ntseeg txaus rau lawv. Lawv tsis txaus kom tau zaub mov thiab sib deev ntawm koj. Lawv xav paub qhov tseeb thiab to taub tias koj txaus siab rau lawv, koj yuav tsum txaus siab rau nws. Cia nws, tsawg kawg yog siv qee zaus, thiab tom qab ntawd nws yuav zoo siab rau koj cov yeeb yam.