Vim li cas peb cov me nyuam pom kev ntshaw, thiab peb yuav pab lawv li cas, kom tus menyuam loj hlob tuaj ua ib tus neeg zoo thiab qhib siab.
Muaj kev zoo siab rau txhua tus me nyuam, peb pom tau tias thaum ib tug me nyuam tsis xav sib qiv nrog nws tus muam los yog tsis cia cov me nyuam hauv qib kindergarten nrog lawv cov khoom ua si. Qhov kev zoo no tsis yog kev xeeb menyuam, nws pom tau nws tus kheej txij ua ke mus ua ke, qhov tseeb, tus me nyuam tsis yog qhov tsim nyog. Raws li txoj cai, cov menyuam yaus muaj kev siab hlob ntawm tej lub sijhawm tshwj xeeb thiab rau qhov laj thawj tshwj xeeb. Peb, cov laus, yog, confuse greed thiab lwm yam manifestations ntawm childish xwm.
Nkag mus rau lub sijhawm
Puas yog koj xav tsis thoob tias koj tus menyuam qhib siab thiab txhua tus menyuam yaus uas npaj txhij muab cov khoom qab zib dhau los thiab hauv qhov chaw pub nws tus phooj ywg tshiab tsis khoom ua si tsis zoo li lub siab ntshaw zaum kawg? Nws tshwm sim rau cov me nyuam pom kev ntshaw rau cov neeg tsis txaus siab rau lawv los yog cov uas tsis ntseeg nrog. Tus me nyuam sib koom nrog txhua tus tsuas yog niam txiv xwb? Lawv tsis tau nrog ib zaug, tab sis tseem muaj kev sib koom ua ke los qhia lawv tus cwj pwm. Nyob rau hauv xws li ib qho teeb meem, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tau teb cov lus nug.
Qee lub sij hawm ib tug me nyuam yaus pom kev ntshaw thaum nws nyob hauv ib qho kev phem, thiab nws tsis zoo, ntawm qhov no, txhua tus me nyuam yuav tsis koom. Thaum muaj kev tshwm sim ntawm kev ntshaw, nws tsis tsim nyog los hais meej txog qhov kev nkag siab, tus me nyuam nws tus kheej tom qab ib ntus yuav nkag siab tias nws tsis muaj peev xwm ua tau li ntawd.
Lub siab xav "noj qab haus huv lub ntsiav tshuaj"
Yog tias cov niam txiv tsis tshua mloog zoo rau tus me nyuam, nws tsis muaj kev hlub, nws feem ntau raug txim los yog ua txhaum txoj kev sib raug zoo ntawm niam txiv thiab tus me nyuam, nws xav tau ib yam uas nws tsis muaj, hloov nrog lwm yam. Qee cov neeg raug pab los ntawm khoom qab zib, thiab qee cov khoom plig. Tus me nyuam nyob rau hauv cov khoom siv xav nrhiav kom tau thiab pab kom them nyiaj rau kev hlub uas niam txiv tsis muaj.
Hauv qhov no, tsis txhob cuam tshuam nrog kev coj tus cwj pwm. Tiam sis, koj yuav tsum xav txog seb koj coj li cas, koj xav li cas txog koj tus ntxhais los yog tus tub. Thaum twg koj hloov koj txoj kev sib raug zoo, tom qab ntawd los ntawm kev ntshaw thiab qhov cim tseg yuav txias.
Tus menyuam xav ua tus coj
Ib tug crumb los ntawm ib tug me me hnub nyoog xav ua thawj zaug nyob rau hauv txhua yam, tab sis tseem me me, yog li nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas coj kom raug. Hauv qhov no, nws pib tawm hauv qhov grey pawg nrog lwm cov me nyuam tsis muaj. Nws txaus siab txog cov ntsiab lus no, thiab qhov no nce nws tus kheej. Ntxiv mus, tus me nyuam attracts mloog! Tom qab tag nrho, qhov kev siab hlob yeej ib txwm nyob hauv qhov chaw, nws tau yaum, hais kom muab saib los yog ua si ib qho khoom ua si, nws ua nkees thiab nws muaj nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw, nws pom nws tus kheej ib tug huab tais hauv qhov tseeb ntawm lo lus.
Yuav ua li cas rau qhov no? Pab tus me nyuam pom nws tus kheej zoo li lwm txoj hauv kev, qhia nws tus kheej yog ib tug thawj coj, tab sis nrog ib tug zoo tes. Thov kom nws ua hauj lwm, uas nws yuav pab tiv thaiv zoo, qhuas nws rau txhua txoj haujlwm ua tiav. Tom qab ntawd nws yuav sai sai ua dav thiab qhib.
Hom khib nyiab
Qee lub sij hawm tus me nyuam ua rau nws ntshaw, thaum tsev neeg yug me nyuam yaus los yog tus kwv tij. Ntxiv mus, kev tawm tsam ntawm txoj kev ntshaw tsis pib sai sai, tab sis thaum tus me nyuam hlob tuaj thiab pib ua kom paub nws tus cwj pwm. Ntawm no nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los mus ua tsis tau ntawm qhov nuj nqis ntawm kev ntshaw, tab sis ntawm tus nqi ntawm xam khib.
Kev ua lag luam
Koj tus me nyuam tau muaj ntau yam kev lom zem, nws nyiam saib Disney cartoons and movies, qhov twg nyiaj txiag tsis ua lub luag haujlwm li peb lub neej, nws nyiam ua si Monopoly, thiab tam sim no, thaum nws mus kawm ntawv thiab pib koom nrog kev lag luam ... Yog tias koj saib qhov no yog ib zaug xwb, nws tsis yog phem, tiam sis muaj qee zaum koj yuav tsis raug mob siab. Xav txog ib qhov teeb meem, thiab qhov no yeej tshwm sim: leej txiv tsis muab nws cov nyiaj hli, ces nws tau thov nws tus tub rau nyiaj. Cov menyuam yaus tsis yog ib yam uas tsis nyiam nws, tab sis nws nyiam heev, tab sis tom qab ib ntus nws coj nws tus kheej los rau hauv tes thiab hais tias: "Zoo, tab sis koj yuav muab nrog rau kev txaus siab". Qhov tseeb, qhov teeb meem yog tawm ntawm qhov dog dig, tab sis tus tub tseem tsis nkag siab tias nws txiv tsis yog qhov tsis kaj siab, nws nyob hauv kev poob siab. Pib qhia txoj kev pab cuam kom khov kho nrog txoj cai tam sim no. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tsis pub lag luam kev sib raug zoo ntawm tsev neeg thiab cov neeg nyob ze.
Xav kom muaj ntau ntau
Ntau tus neeg tau siv ntau yam tshaj li lwm tus. Lawv nyiam, sau cov thwj cim, daim qhia hnub hli, cov nyiaj npib, sau ib yam dab tsi, thaum nws nyuab nyuab siv nyiaj, lawv zoo li zawm lawv tus kheej tawm ntawm lub plawv thiab tawm ntawm qhov "zoo tshaj plaws", uas feem ntau tsis tuaj. Feem ntau xws li cov neeg muaj pedantry.
Txawm li cas los xij, tsis yog tag nrho cov me nyuam yaus uas tuaj yeem mus sau cov neeg idolaters yuav loj hlob tuaj ua neeg siab hlob thiab chim siab. Niam txiv yuav tsum to taub tias lawv tus menyuam muaj qhov "lub qhov ncauj," tsis txhob txhawj txog nws cov kev ua txhaum thiab tsis txhob thuam. Yog hais tias koj coj cov crumbs nrog lub siab, ces greed yuav tig mus rau lub thrift los ntawm lub xyoo, thiab qhov no yog qhov zoo heev.
Kawm muab
Caw tag nrho cov phooj ywg ntawm koj tus me nyuam rau hauv koj lub tsev thiab teem caij rau lawv ib hnub ntawm kev nthuav dav thiab kev tshav ntuj. Qhov no tsis tau them nqi tshwj xeeb. Siv khoom qab zib, tshuaj yej, kua txiv hmab txiv ntoo, khoom qab zib, thiab qee yam zoo me me khoom qab zib, uas yog xim xaum, ntxim hlub, khoom ua si ntawm ikinder surprises, ordinary postcards, coloured crayons thiab balloons. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas nws tus kheej karapuz xaiv khoom plig thiab nthuav tawm lawv.
Cov tswv yim uas muaj peev xwm kawm txog kev siab hlob
- Paub hais tias tus me nyuam muaj txoj cai rau lub zos Yangibushki, uas koj yuav thiab muab rau nws. Txhua tus neeg laus muaj tej yam uas nws tsis xav pub rau lwm tus, piv txwv, nyiaj, tsheb, laptop, xov tooj, thiab lwm yam. Cia koj tus me nyuam muaj ib qho khoom ua si tsis tau lub xov tooj uas tau tawg ntev heev, lub cav uas nws lub log tau poob, tab sis qhov no yog nws cov khoom ua si, nws muaj cai tau khoom. Xav txog yuav ua li cas yuav ua rau kev sib pauv sib pab tau zoo. Piv txwv li, hauv lub tshav puam muab pob zeb: "Cia peb qhia Catekukolku, thiab thaum koj ua si nrog lub tsheb ciav hlau." Rau qee tus me nyuam, qhov no yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws.
- Nrog koj tus menyuam tham ntau dua kom nws sib koom, nws pab. Hais rau nws tias: "Qhov khoom qab zib no yog rau koj, thiab muab cov khoom qab zib rau Masha no." Yog li ntawd koj yuav tsis xyeem dab tsi, tab sis tus me nyuam yuav kawm paub yuav ua li cas dav dav, nws tsis tsuas ua raws li koj cov lus qhia, tab sis kuj txaus siab ua tiav koj txoj hauj lwm thiab nqa zoo siab rau Masha.
- Tsis txhob tsim teeb meem nyob rau hauv qhov yuav tsum tau "rhuav tshem" tej yam. Piv txwv li, nws tau thov ntev rau koj lub computer, thiab koj yuav nws tsis yog rau koj tus me nyuam, tab sis rau khoom plig rau koj tus vaj tswv. Txhob xav tsis thoob tias tus menyuam tau tawm tsam nrog lub ntsej muag tsis zoo. Thiab qhov no yog tsis ncaj ncees thiab tsis ntshaw! Yog tias koj tsis muaj peev xwm them taus, qhov uas tus me nyuam xav tau, yuav tus vajtswv li koj tus me nyuam twb muaj lawm.
- Ua ib qho piv txwv rau cov kab txi. Yog hais tias koj pheej hais rau koj tus ntxhais: "Sasha, cia peb noj sai sai, los yog tus luav (tij laug, niam tais) tuaj thiab tag nrho cov yuav noj!", Yog li koj tus kheej tsim muaj kev ntshaw hauv tus menyuam, vim nws tsis xav noj carrots, tab sis yuav noj txhua yam Yog li ntawd, qhia rau tus menyuam paub tias txhua tus neeg yuav tsum sib koom, ces nws yuav pib rov hais dua rau koj.
- Psychologists hais tias thaum tus me nyuam thib ob tshwm hauv tsev neeg, tus me nyuam thawj zaug qhia kev khib siab, tab sis, ces nws tsuas tau sib faib.
- Nyeem ntawv rau koj tus menyuam cov lus zoo uas qhia txog txoj cai kom pom lub ntiaj teb, ua siab dawb siab zoo.