Cov kev xav tau kev paub thiab kev hlub yog kev xav tau ntawm tib neeg. Nyob hauv nto moo Maslow pyramid, lawv sawv ntsug ntawm plaub thiab thib peb txoj haujlwm ntsig txog, i.e. yog tom qab kev nyab xeeb thiab kev txwv kev xav tau ntawm banal.
Lawm, cov me nyuam yaus uas nyuam qhuav pib lub neej, kev hlub thiab kev paub, tseem ceeb dua cov laus, uas tau ua dhau los lawm thiab tau tiav. Tab sis feem ntau yog "paj ntawm lub neej" tsis tau txais kev saib xyuas thiab kev saib xyuas kom txaus. Niaj hnub no, cov niam txiv tau ua rau lawv txoj haujlwm hnyav tiav. Cov niam tsev tso ntxov thaum ntxov, kom tsis txhob "ua kom puas" rau lawv txoj haujlwm lossis tsis yog kom tsis txhob poob siab tom tsev, txiv ua hauj lwm los ntawm yav sawv ntxov mus txog thaum hmo ntuj, thiab feem ntau zaum hauv computer games, tag nrho cov me nyuam yaus. Yog li ntawd, cov me nyuam pom lawv tus kheej hauv kev saib xyuas ntawm feem ntau yog cov laus pog laus yawg uas tsis ua raws li lawv cov xeeb ntxwv, thiab feem ntau lawv kuj tau los ntawm cov neeg sab nraud - cov neeg tswj hwm, cov kav tswj hwm thiab cov kws qhia ntawv ntawm cov chaw tu me nyuam thiab cov kindergarten.
Dab tsi yog sab laug rau tus me nyuam hauv qhov teeb meem no? Nws yuav ua li cas thiaj li tau txais kev hlub thiab kev saib xyuas ntawm cov neeg tshaj plaws rau nws? Tus kab mob hauv tus menyuam yog ib txoj hau kev nyiam nws? Cov lus teb yog ib qho - mob mob. Firstly: nws tsis yog nyuaj, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau hauv Lavxias teb sab kev nyab xeeb, thiab nws yog yooj yim feign nrog ib lub teb chaws tsis zoo rau cov kws kho mob. Thiab ob tus: nws zaum nco ntsoov tias thaum nws poob mob lub sij hawm dhau los, tag nrho tsev neeg tau tig ncig nws, ua tiav nws txhua qhov xav tau thiab xav tau. Tias li cas tus me nyuam pib mob tau txhua lub sij hawm tsis hais txog huab cua thiab qhov teeb meem ntawm epidemic.
Qhov no tsis txhais tias cov me nyuam yuav tsum tau cem kom txhua lub qhov ntswg los yog hnoos, tsis paub dab tsi tsis yog lawm. Qhov no txhais tau hais tias lawv yuav tsum tau hlub, tsis yog (thiab tsis heev) thaum lawv mob, tab sis nco ntsoov. Hlub txoj kev lawv, rau qhov lawv yog. Ntxiv mus, menyuam yuav tsum tau txais kev pom zoo los ntawm ob leeg niam txiv, yog tias ua tau. Cov niam muaj lub luag haujlwm pabcuam teebmeem ntawm kev nyuajsiab, thiab cov popes - kev qhia nyeem ntawv, sau ntawv, qee yam kev ua haujlwm ...
Hais lus zoo rau koj tus menyuam, nws txhaws nws lub taub hau, hnia thiab puag nws. Psychologists hais tias kom cia li muaj sia nyob, koj tus me nyuam xav tau plaub lub sij hawm hauv ib hnub, thiab nws xav tias nws zoo siab - nws yuav tsum puag yim lub sij hawm! Muaj pes tsawg zaug koj puag koj tus menyuam hnub no?
Peb yuav tsum qhuas peb cov xeeb ntxwv thiab txhawb txhua yam ntawm nws txoj haujlwm, peb yuav tsum txaus siab thiab khav theeb txog nws, tsis muaj dab tsi txhawj txog, tus me nyuam yuav tsum tau hnov thiab paub tias nws muaj nuj nqis rau koj thiab tsis ua rau koj. Txaus siab rau thiab txhawj xeeb nrog koj cov me nyuam, koom nrog lawv, lawv ua hauj lwm, vim hais tias cov me nyuam txoj hauj lwm tseem ceeb, thiab tej zaum tseem ceeb, tseem ceeb dua cov neeg laus.
Nov yog qee cov lus qhia ntxiv los ntawm kws kho kev mob hlwb:
- Tsis tas li qhia rau cov me nyuam tias lawv yuav tsum mob yog tias lawv ko taw ntub, lawv tsis muab tso rau hauv txoj phuam, khiav mus ua cua txias ua ntej taug kev, thiab lwm yam. - nws tuaj yeem thawb lawv los tshawb nrhiav rau lawv tus kheej txhawj xeeb ntawm cov kab mob tsis zoo, thiab txawm tias lawv qhov muag.
- Kho tus me nyuam nrog kev kho neeg (ntawm chav kawm, yog tias nws muaj mob khaub thuas, thiab tsis muaj qhov laj thawj tshwj xeeb rau kev xyiv fab). Qhov no pab tau ntau tshaj, thiab yuav muab koj tus me nyuam to taub tias cov tshuaj tsis yog ib qho kev xav. Nws kuj yog qhov tseem ceeb rau cov me nyuam txoj cai ntawm txoj kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev paub txog kev mob nkeeg ntawm tus kheej.
- Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog los qhia cov me nyuam kom meej meej txog lawv txoj kev xav, tsis txhob ua siab deb qhia lawv. Ntsuas tus me nyuam cov lus nrog txhua yam kev ua siab loj, tsis muaj kev tso dag, nws kuj muaj teeb meem loj. Nws zoo dua tuaj mloog: "Kuv muaj mob", "Kuv tu siab", "Kuv ntshai" dua li "Kuv muaj mob", thaum koj tus menyuam xav tau kev saib xyuas thiab mloog zoo.
- Yog tias koj xav tias tsam koj tus menyuam tsis paub tias nws raug kabmob - tsis txhob thuam nws, tsis txhob rau txim rau nws, tsis txhob qw rau nws, vim tias koj tsuas ua rau nws thiab koj tus kheej tuaj. Tsis txhob ua kev tawm tsam, cia li maj mam nug: "Tej zaum koj tsis yog txhua yam zoo? Tej zaum tej yam tsis yog lawm? Tej zaum koj xav mus txhawb siab los ntawm koj cov teeb meem? Kuv tuaj yeem mloog koj thiab pab tau koj, yog tias, tsis yog, koj tsis tawm tsam nws. "
- Nco ntsoov, me nyuam yaus luam tus cwj pwm ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv. Li ntawd nws yog tsim nyog tsom xam koj tus kheej tus cwj pwm thaum mob. Koj tuaj yeem tswj cov neeg koj tus kheej nrog kev pab ntawm koj tus mob mob? Nws tsis tas yuav npaj kom muaj teeb meem los ntawm txoj kev ntswg los yoojyim thiab quab yuam kom haum rau koj nyob ntawm qhov tis me me.
Ntawm chav kawm, tsis txhob hnov qab tias cov me nyuam feem ntau muaj mob, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau ntawm ib tug me nyuam thaum ntxov, rau heev somatic, tsis yog vim li cas lub hlwb. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj tus menyuam muaj mob, tsis txhob lam xav tias koj yog ib tus niam txiv tsis zoo thiab tsis muab nws sov so txaus, tej zaum nws cia li tso rau hauv ice cream los yog nqa ib co kab mob ntawm cov neeg nyob ze, taug kev hauv vaj tsev. Thiab txawm tias nws tshwm sim los ntawm kev rov qab los tsuas yog ua tsaug rau ib txoj kev hlub thiab kev hlub, me nyuam tseem yuav tsum tau txais kev kho mob nrog kev cai thiab cov tshuaj uas tus kws kho mob saib xyuas.