Qhov tseeb uas ib tug txiv neej xav tau zoo dua thaum tus me nyuam yug los, muaj kev sib yuav, nyob ntawm ntau qhov xwm txheej: los ntawm tus txiv neej nws tus kheej, nws tus cwj pwm, qhov tseem ceeb, kev coj tus cwj pwm thiab qhov tseem ceeb, tus cwj pwm zoo rau nws tus poj niam, nws tus cwj pwm. Ntawm no tus cwj pwm rau nws tus poj niam yuav ua si tshwj xeeb. Yog tias thawj zaug ntawm kev sib yuav rau ib tug txiv neej tsis zoo rau nws vim tias nws tau sib yuav los ntawm kev ua yuam kev thiab nws tsis muaj txoj kev hlub rau nws, ces tus txiv neej thib ob yuav hloov nws tus cwj pwm kom zoo. Ntawd yog, tus cwj pwm ntawm ib tug poj niam muaj peev xwm hloov tau txhua yam uas nws tseem yog nyob ntawm nws tus cwj pwm, verifiable. Muaj cov poj niam uas zoo li cia ib tug txiv neej ua txhua yam lawv xav tau, los kho tus poj niam phem heev, tsis txhob ua tiav lawv txoj hauj lwm. Cov poj niam tsis muaj zog ntawm hom no yuav tag nrho nws zam txim rau nws tus txiv, ua txhua yam hauj lwm rau nws, tsis txhob mloog nws cov me yuam kev. Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej muaj txoj kev xav rau tus cwj pwm li no, nws yuav siv lub sijhawm no thiab tsuas yog ua rau nws tus kheej nyiam xwb. Tab sis yog ib tug txiv neej tam sim ntawd realizes hais tias ib tug poj niam rau qee yam tswj nws thiab txwv nws tus cwj pwm phem, tsis pub nws tus cwj pwm ntawm nws tus kheej, ces tus txiv neej uas ntshai poob nws tus poj niam yuav pom zoo nrog nws cov cai uas yuav tswj nws tus cwj pwm thiab tsim txheej txheem tshiab.
Tom qab ntawd, muaj peev xwm ib tug txiv neej hloov, nyob ntawm seb koj xav kom hloov hauv nws li cas? Nws tus kheej, nws qhov kev ntseeg lossis tus cwj pwm, kev coj cwj pwm phem? Muaj ntau yam uas yuav kho tau, uas koj txawm yuav tsum tau kho. Nug koj tus kheej rau lo lus nug uas koj tsis haum nrog ib tug txiv neej thiab yam twg koj xav tau. Yog tias nws txhawj xeeb txog tus txiv, nws tus cwj pwm tsim, ces nws yuav luag tsis hloov nws nrog tus me nyuam yug, los sis nrog rau cov tsos ntawm tus hlub tshiab tus poj niam. Qhov no twb yog ib tus neeg paub tab, nws muaj nws tus cwj pwm, cov cai ntawm tus cwj pwm, qhov tseem ceeb. Yog hais tias koj hlub koj tus txiv, tab sis koj yog khib los ntawm ib co ntawm nws tus cwj pwm zoo, xav txog seb qhov no yog tiag tiag hlub? Yog tias peb nyiam ib tug neeg, ces peb kawm coj nws zoo, xws li nws yog. Yog hais tias nws tus cwj pwm hinders koj, irritates nws - qhia nws txog nws, hint ntawm qhov shortcomings hauv nws cwm pwm, thiab yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej hlub thiab to taub koj, nws yuav sim kho lawv, tswj nyob rau hauv koj lub xub ntiag. Ua kom koj hais lus nrog kev pab ntawm "Kuv - cov lus", qhia seb koj xav li cas thiab koj xav qhia dab tsi rau koj tus txiv. Feem ntau, nrog qee qhov kev coj tus cwj pwm, nws tsim nyog muaj kev sib raug zoo, thiab yug tus me nyuam tuaj yeem muag muag tau qee yam, thiab, hloov dua lwm tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus cwj pwm, xws li kev tsiv plawv.
Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej yog ib tug neeg tho kev thiab ib tus neeg ntxim hlub los ntawm nws lub neej, nws muaj peev xwm hloov ntau dua, ces tej kev sim no tsis muaj peev xwm ua tau, txawm tias tus neeg ntawd yuav muaj ib yim neeg, ib tus poj niam thiab me nyuam. Txoj kev coj tus cwj pwm no tuaj yeem hais lus ntawm ob qho kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab ib hom kev ua ntawm cov menyuam yaus. Piv txwv, yog tias leej txiv ntawm ib tug txiv neej yog ib tus neeg siab phem thiab tsa nws tus tub hauv tej kev phem thiab kev nyuaj siab, los sis tej zaum tus txiv tsuas pom kev ua nruj ua tsiv rau tus me nyuam tub, muaj ib lub sij hawm uas tus neeg yuav luam qhov kev xav ntawm tus cwj pwm ntawm ib tug niam txiv thiab yav tom ntej yuav rov qab nws cov hau kev thiab cov yeeb yam.
Hauv qhov no, lub hnub yug ntawm tus me nyuam yuav tsis hloov ib tug txiv neej, ntawm qhov nws tsis paub, nws tuaj yeem paub cov qauv qub thiab cov cai ntawm tus cwj pwm uas nws nkag siab hauv nws lub siab.
Tiam sis muaj qee zaus thaum ib tug txiv neej muaj peev xwm thiab yuav tsum tau hloov, thawb mus rau qhov kev txiav txim siab. Xws li, piv txwv, yog cov cwj pwm phem, kev siv cov tshuaj yeeb dej caw thiab lwm tus. Rau qhov ua piv txwv, noj cov dej cawv raws li ib tug kab mob uas tshwm sim ntawm thawj zaug thiab pib pom nws tus kheej nrog tus poj niam ob. Puas yog nws hloov tau tus neeg no? Ib qho tseem ceeb ntawm no kuj yog tus cwj pwm ntawm ib tus neeg rau nws tus kheej thiab nws qhov teeb meem yog tias nws muaj zog thiab npaj txhij nrog qhov teeb meem no yog tias nws pom tias qhov no yog ua rau koj mob. Thiab yog vim li cas nws xav hloov, txawm tias nws yog ib qho nyuaj rau nws, tab sis nws yuav siv thawj kauj ruam rau txoj kev yeej, thiab nws twb txhais tau ntau heev. Tsis muaj teeb meem npaum li cas nws yog, tab sis ib tug neeg ua rau sim, thiab koj muaj peev xwm twb thawb nws rau nws. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws kev xaiv yog kev koom tes nrog ib tug kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws, yog tias tus txiv neej muaj qhov muaj siab, ces nws yeej yuav ua tiav, nws yuav hloov thiab daws nws qhov teeb meem rau koj thiab tus me nyuam yav tom ntej. Qhov tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nws yug los yog ib lub sijhawm rau kev hloov, kom ncav cuag theem tshiab hauv kev ua neej, kom tshem tawm cov kev coj tsis zoo thiab kev ua tau zoo, yog li ntawd lawv tsis cuam tshuam rau tus menyuam. Ua ntej nws yug los, koj yuav tsum khwv tag nrho cov teeb meem, nrog koj tus kheej thiab txhim kho txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus poj niam. Tag nrho cov no yuav yuam tus txiv kom hloov siab rau qhov zoo, ua tiav nws cov hom phiaj.
Yog li, teb cov nqe lus nug: nyob rau hauv ib tug thib ob sib yuav, seb ib tug txiv neej muaj peev xwm hloov tom qab yug me nyuam, peb hais li ntawd. Tej zaum, tab sis txhua yam nyob ntawm ob tus poj niam thiab tus txiv neej nws tus kheej, nyob rau lub sijhawm thiab lub hom phiaj. Yuav kom hloov ib tug neeg yog ib qho kev paub daws teeb meem thiab nyuaj, qee zaus muaj ntau yam uas peb hloov tsis tau, lossis tus txiv neej nws tus kheej tsis xav tau nws. Tab sis cov kev coj tsis zoo los yog cov kev muaj peev xwm ua rau lub hlwb thiab qhov xwm ntawm tus me nyuam tuaj yeem kho tau zoo dua. Tham nrog tus txiv, piav rau nws qhov koj xav tau thiab ua siab mos siab muag, qhov ua rau nws txhais tau tias yog vim li cas nws yuav tsum tau hloov rau hauv qhov no los yog qhov ntawd. Vam tias nws yuav to taub thiab mloog koj hais, nws yuav tsis ploj, thaum nws hlub koj thiab saib koj zoo. Hauv kev sib ntaus tawm tsam kev haus cawv lossis kev haus cawv, tsis txhob poob siab thiab pab koj tus txiv hloov. Yog li, koj yuav pab tau kev noj qab haus huv ntawm koj tsev neeg.