Kev hlub ntawm niam txiv yog lub hauv paus tseem ceeb ntawm txoj kev kawm ntawm kev hlub rau cov me nyuam los ntawm tus neeg zej zog, qhov xwm, rau txhua yam uas nyob ib puag ncig nws.
Muaj ntau txoj kev xav rau kev kawm txog cov kev xav ntawm cov niam txiv. Qhov tseem ceeb ntawm txoj hau kev ntawm kev kawm yog tias kev hlub ntawm niam txiv yog qhov pib thiab qhov kawg ntawm tag nrho tsev neeg kev sib raug zoo, thiab txhua yam kev xav hauv kev sib yuav. Ib yam li txhua tus neeg yog tus neeg, raws li tus txij nkawm tus kheej txoj kev sib raug zoo rau ib leeg, kev sib raug zoo nrog lawv cov me nyuam kuj tsis yooj yim. Hauv koj tus me nyuam, peb tuaj yeem hlub tus kheej, qhov rov qab ntawm tus neeg koj hlub, los sis, zoo ib yam li ib tus neeg tsis txaus siab. Tus me nyuam tseem pom tau tias nws niam nws txiv txoj kev hlub ntawm lub menyuam txaj, thiab siv nws los ntawm leej niam lub mis. Cov menyuam yuav tsum qhia lawv txoj kev hlub tas li ntawm lub cev thiab lub cev. Lawv yuav tsum xav thiab nkag siab tias lawv nyiam. Qee lo lus "Kuv hlub koj tsis txaus."
Tau, hnub no nws nyuaj rau peb to taub peb cov menyuam, tiamsis qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws ntawm peb lub neej. Thiab qhov ntau koj them siab rau nws, qhov ntau koj yuav raug nyob ib puag ncig los ntawm kev hlub no rau yav tom ntej thiab cov neeg nyob ib ncig ntawm koj.
Yog tias tus me nyuam tau txais qhov tsim nyog ntawm niam txiv kev hlub, ces nws yuav hwm nws tus kheej thiab cov uas nyob ze rau nws, nws yuav taug txoj kev nyuaj hauv lub neej thiab dhau txoj kev xav rau cov neeg ua tau zoo.
Muaj qees thaum nws zoo li peb tsis tseem ceeb rau qhov tus me nyuam ntawm lub sij hawm ntawd yuav zoo li muaj kev txom nyem ntawm nws lub neej tag nrho. Hauv qhov no, tus me nyuam sim mus cuag peb, vim hais tias nws paub hais tias cov niam txiv yog tus pab txhawb thiab to taub, uas ces tig mus rau kev hlub.
Muaj ntau tus tau yuam kev thaum tus me nyuam raug mob hnyav, hais tias "nws ntshai - thaum ntawd respects." Qhov no yuav tsum tsis txhob ua rau txhua qhov teeb meem. Koj loj hlob maj mam nyob hauv tus me nyuam txoj kev ua phem, uas nws tau pov tseg tawm hauv neeg laus, rau nws cov me nyuam, tus txij nkawm los yog tus poj niam. Thiab nws yuav tsis hlub koj, nws yuav tsuas ntshai.
Ross Campbell, tus neeg uas tau kawm txog kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov menyuam thiab cov niam txiv tau tawm tswv yim, los nrhiav sijhawm rau lub cev ntau dua li thaum koj tsuas hloov lossis da dej ib tus menyuam, i.e. vim hais tias ntawm kev xav tau.
Ua kom tus me nyuam hnav lub taub hau, kov nws lub xub pwg kom ncav nws lub xub pwg, nyem nws tus cwj pwm - qhov no yuav yog qhov lus teb rau cov lus nug: "Niam txiv kev hlub yuav tsum zoo li cas." Touchings nqa ntau cov ntaub ntawv, piv txwv li, los ntawm kov, peb muaj peev xwm kev thim, vwm, mloog, ntxub thiab ntawm kev hlub.
Kev hlub ntawm niam txiv, yog ib qho tseem ceeb ntawm txoj kev kawm ntawm txoj kev hlub ntawm cov menyuam yaus yog nce los ntawm qhov tseem ceeb, lawv tau txais kev hlub thaum yau thiab muaj txaus ntau. Txawm hais tias muaj coob tus neeg uas tsis paub lawv niam lawv txiv lub neej hauv lub neej, tiv kev txhawj xeeb ntawm cov me nyuam thiab nqis peev pab lawv yam lawv xav tau lawv tus kheej.
Cov kos duab fostering kev hlub rau cov me nyuam yog los nqis peev pab rau tus me nyuam, tsis yog yam peb xav, ua kom zoo thiab nyiam, tab sis lawv xav tau dab tsi thiab yam lawv xav tau.
Nyob rau hauv peb lub sijhawm, lub neej hloov nrog furious ceev, lub qub nplooj, thiab nyob rau hauv nws qhov chaw tuaj txhua yam tshiab. Qhov no siv rau txoj kev tseem ceeb ntawm kev tu menyuam - kev hlub. Yog hais tias dhau los cov me nyuam paub lo lus "nws yog tsim nyog", tam sim no nws tau hloov los ntawm cov lus "cia sim, nws yuav ua hauj lwm tawm". Thiab qhov no yog los ntawm qhov tshaj ntawm kev hlub hauv tsev neeg. Raws li kev tsis muaj kev hlub, thiab qhov tshaj ntawm nws attracts ib tug xov tooj ntawm cov yam tseem ceeb uas muaj peev xwm hinder tus me nyuam nyob rau hauv lub neej tom ntej. Thaum ib tug me nyuam tau txais txhua yam, thiab ib txhia niam txiv qhia lawv txoj kev hlub, nws ua qia dub, hauv ntiaj teb no rau nws tsis muaj leej twg. Nws kuj tso nws tus kheej saum nws niam nws txiv, thiab ua rau lawv zoo li ib tug khawv koob uas ua tiav txhua yam uas nws xav tau. Tab sis qhov no wand yuav ib hnub poob nws lub hwj chim thiab ces tus tshaj plaws txaus ntshai yuav pib. Cov menyuam yaus tsis muaj phoojywg, thiab yog tias lawv yog phooj ywg xwb vim qee yam nyiaj pab. Nyob rau hauv lawv lub neej nws yuav nyuaj heev rau lawv tau teem. Ntau tus tab tom nrhiav kev pab hauv cov tuam txhab tsis zoo, uas lwm tus tsis quav ntsej txog qia dub lossis tsis. Qhov no yog thaum cov niam txiv pib nug "vim li cas", "thiab vim li cas, vim hais tias peb txhua tus nws." Thiab qhov teeb meem tsuas yog hauv niam txiv lawv tus kheej xwb.
Cov me nyuam tsis yog porridge, uas koj yuav tsis lwj nrog roj. Nyob rau hauv kev kawm yuav tsum tau txhais meej kom meej meej raws li ib tug kev hlub ntawm thiaj li nruj, ob leeg affectionate thiab exacting. Tab sis qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws uas koj xav tau thaum koj tus me nyuam xav tau kev pab, thiab thaum twg koj xav tau. Thiab koj yuav tsum yog thawj tus tuaj pab cawm lawv thiab muab tswv yim los yog ua lwm yam los ua txhua yam hauv nws qhov chaw thiab thov kev piav qhia. Tsuas tsis txhob sib zog!
Tsis xav hais tias lawv hais tias "Me nyuam yog paj ntawm lub neej"! Tom qab tag nrho, paj kuj ua rau tib neeg txoj kev xav zoo - kev xav, kev xav, kev xyiv fab. Thiab thaum twg hauv peb lub neej muaj li lub sijhawm tseem ceeb heev li thaum yug tus me nyuam - peb txhua tus yuav tsum to taub tias qhov no yog lub paj me me uas ua tiav tag nrho cov paj ntawm lub paj, thiab tseem hais tias nws yog ib qhov txuas rau peb txoj kev sib koom ntawm zej tsoom uas peb qhia peb tus kheej. Yog li ntawd, qhov tseem ceeb thiab kev hlub tseem ceeb yog niam txiv, zoo li peb yuav muab qhia rau peb cov me nyuam, yog li ntawd nws yuav hais lus, ua kom tiav txhua qhov chaw ntawm peb.