Cov me nyuam tuaj yeem sib pom ntawm ib tus yeeb ncuab rau ib qho kev npau taws heev heev uas nws tsis tuaj yeem saib xyuas lawv cov kev sib ntsib tas li. Nyob rau hauv no qhov teeb meem txhua leej txhua tus suffers. Qhov no ncua li cas? Kuv yuav ua li cas? Kuv puas xav tau kev pabcuam niam txiv? Koj tuaj yeem pab cov me nyuam ua kom sib cuag nrog qee qhov kev nqis tes ua.
Vim li cas cov me nyuam sib cav?
Muaj ntau qhov laj thawj rau qhov no. Feem ntau, cov kwv tij thiab cov muam muaj kev sib luag thiab / orarity, thiab qhov no ua rau cov quarrels thiab scandals. Tab sis kuj muaj lwm yam laj thawj rau me nyuam yaus txoj kev sib cav.
- Yuav tsum muaj qhov loj hlob tuaj. Nrog rau lub hnub nyoog, txhua tus neeg hloov, nrog rau tus me nyuam, ntxiv rau, kev ntshai hloov thiab tus me nyuam loj hlob raws li ib tus neeg - nws cuam tshuam rau kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov me nyuam. Piv txwv li, cov me nyuam yaus uas muaj hnub nyoog 1 thiab 3 yeej niaj hnub sim tiv thaiv lawv cov khoom ua si thiab lwm yam tseem ceeb ntawm cov neeg tsis paub, lawv kawm txog lawv tus kheej. Yog li, yog tias tus menyuam tus muam / tus kwv tij coj ib qho khoom ua si, ib phau ntawv los yog lwm yam khoom, nws teb nrog cov lus teb. Cov menyuam yaus uas twb kawm ntawv lawm, tiv thaiv kev ncaj ncees, yog li lawv tsis nkag siab tias vim li cas cov niam txiv thiab lwm tus neeg txawv dua li lawv tus tij laug los yog tus muam, dua li, nws xav tias nws tus kheej tseem ceeb. Tab sis cov tub ntxhais hluas, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, feem ntau yog qhov kev paub ntawm tus kheej thiab kev ywj pheej, vim qhov no lawv tsis kam pab nyob ib ncig hauv tsev, siv sij hawm nrog tsev neeg los yog saib xyuas cov me nyuam yau. Tag nrho cov no cuam tshuam rau kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov me nyuam nrog ib tug phooj ywg.
- Tsa. Txhua tus me nyuam muaj tus cim ntxiv rau qhov kev xav, kev coj tus cwj pwm, kev muaj peev xwm hloov tau rau ntau yam, qhov xwm txheej - nws tseem ua lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb hauv kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov menyuam. Piv txwv, yog tias ib tug me nyuam muaj kev kub ntxhov thiab txob siab, thiab lwm tus nyob twj ywm, ces lawv yuav tsis sib haum xeeb ntev. Ib tug me nyuam uas nyob puag ncig los ntawm niam txiv txoj kev tu siab thiab kev saib xyuas tsis tuaj yeem nrhiav ib hom lus nrog tus viv ncaus uas tseem xav tau kev hlub thiab kev nplij siab.
- Cov kev xav tau tshwj xeeb. Qee zaum, vim tias muaj mob, muaj teeb meem rau kev kawm lossis kev loj hlob siab, tus menyuam yuav tsum tau txais kev tshwj xeeb thiab kev ceeb toom rau niam txiv. Lwm cov me nyuam yuav tsis nkag siab txog tej kev tsis sib npaug li no thiab muaj peev xwm coj tus cwj pwm tsis zoo thiab txhawj, kom cov niam txiv them nyiaj rau nws.
- Ib qho piv txwv ntawm tus cwj pwm. Cov niam txiv txoj kev daws teeb meem ntawm lawv tus kheej ua piv txwv rau cov me nyuam. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj muaj teeb meem ntawm cov txiv tsis muaj kev chim siab thiab nrog kev sib hwm, ces, feem ntau, lawv yuav coj tib txoj hauv kev sib raug zoo rau ib leeg. Thiab yog hais tias lawv, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, nco ntsoov ntsia lub suab nrov, tawm tsam thiab khoob ntawm qhov rooj, npaj rau qhov tseeb tias lawv yuav coj tib txoj kev.
Yuav ua licas thaum muaj kev sib cav sib ceg?
Kev sib cav ntawm cov kwv tij thiab cov muam - yog qhov tshwm sim ncaj ncees, txawm tias lawv tsis nyiam nws. Tsis tas li ntawd, tag nrho cov pejxeem tuaj yeem zam qhov no rau lub sijhawm xwb. Yuav ua li cas nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem no? Yuav ua li cas thaum muaj kev sib cav tshwm sim?
Yog tias koj tuaj yeem, tsis txhob cuam tshuam. Yog tias tsuas yog koj pom tias muaj kev hem thawj ntawm kev siv lub cev quab yuam, ces koj yuav tsum tau cuam tshuam. Yog tias koj tsis muaj xwm txheej, ces koj yuav muaj teeb meem sib txawv kiag li. Cov menyuam yaus yuav tos kom koj rov los nrog lawv, tab sis lawv yuav tsis paub daws cov teeb meem ntawm lawv tus kheej, cov menyuam yaus yuav xav tias koj tsis tiv thaiv nws, tab sis sab ntawm lwm qhov kev sib ceg, thiab koj yuav tsis daws qhov teeb meem, tsuas yog hnyav dua. Tsis tas li ntawd, tus me nyuam uas koj tau tiv thaiv yuav pom tau tias qhov kev tso cai thiab qhov muaj feem xyuam rau txim, vim cov niam txiv yeej tuaj pab nws.
Yog tias koj pom tias koj cov me nyuam tas li sib tham, ces koj yuav tsum qhia lawv los qhia lawv cov kev xav thiab kev xav hauv cov lus zoo. Qhov no yuav ua rau muaj kev cuam tshuam ntau dua li yog tias koj tso cov me nyuam nyob rau hauv kaum tsev. Txawm tias tom qab ntawd, koj tuaj yeem qhia me nyuam kom daws tau qhov teeb meem ntawm nws tus kheej. Yog tias koj txiav txim siab los cuam tshuam, ces daws qhov teeb meem nrog lawv, tsis yog siv lawv.
Yuav tsum tau ntsuas dab tsi nrog kev cuam tshuam?
- Faib cov me nyuam kom lawv tuaj cuag lawv txoj kev xav thiab nyob twj ywm. Txawm tias zoo, yog tias koj muab rau lawv ib qho chaw me me thiab sijhawm, ces mam li pib tham. Yog tias koj xav qhia ib yam dab tsi rau cov menyuam yaus, mam li tos qhov kev xav rau hauv.
- Nws tsis yog qhov yuav tsum tau paub tias leej twg yog tus coj. Yog hais tias lawv yog ob qho tib si hauv ib platoon thiab ob qho tib si sib cav, nws txhais tau tias lawv tau ua txhaum ib yam nkaus thiab.
- Sim ua txhua yam kom nws yuav tsum muaj txiaj ntsig rau txhua tus neeg. Piv txwv, yog tias lawv sib cav dhau ib qho khoom ua si, mam li caw lawv los pib sib tw ua ke.
- Thaum ntsib teeb meem, lawv tau txais cov kev txawj tsim nyog uas yuav pab tau rau cov neeg laus lub neej. Txhua tus me nyuam yuav tsum kawm kom hnov thiab ua zoo rau lwm tus neeg lub tswv yim, muaj peev xwm sib tham, tsim kev ywj pheej thiab tswj lawv txoj kev ua phem.
Ib txhia tswv yim uas koj tuaj yeem tiv thaiv kev sib cav sib ceg:
- Nws yog tsim nyog los tsim ib co kev cai ntawm tus cwj pwm. Sim qhia rau cov me nyuam tias koj tsis tuaj yeem hu koj tus phooj ywg, qw, sib ntaus thiab kaw qhov rooj. Piav rau lawv hais tias, tsis li ntawd, yuav tsis raug rau txim. Yog li koj qhia me nyuam kom ua lub luag haujlwm rau lawv cov yeeb yam, tsis hais txog qhov teeb meem twg.
- Tsis txhob cia cov me nyuam xav tias txhua yam yuav tsum yog txawm. Qhov no tsis yog. Hauv qee qhov teeb meem, ib tug me nyuam xav tau ib yam dab tsi ntxiv.
- Sim siv sijhawm nrog txhua tus me nyuam raws li lawv cov kev xav tau thiab cov kev nyiam. Piv txwv, yog tias ib tug me nyuam nyiam kos, tsis txhob cia nws ua, thiab yog tias lwm tus nyiam taug kev, ces nrog nws mus rau tom phoj.
- Nco ntsoov tias txhua tus me nyuam nyias muaj nyias qhov chaw rau tus kheej nyiam - kos, nyeem ntawv los yog ua si nrog phooj ywg.
- Piav rau cov me nyuam tias, txawm tias qhov tseeb hais tias koj tsim txoj cai tswj hwm thiab thuam lawv rau tus cwj pwm phem, koj tseem hlub lawv heev.
- Yog hais tias cov me nyuam freak vim yog ib yam (khoom ua si, console, cov phau ntawv), mam li teem caij rau kev siv - hnub no ib, tag kis lwm tus. Thiab yog tias qhov ntawd tsis pab, ces cia li muab tus tshaj plaws, coj nws.
- Sau tag nrho tsev neeg thiab muaj kev lom zem. Saib cov yeeb yaj kiab, kev ua si hauv kev sib tw ua si, kos, nyeem, ua si pob. Feem ntau cov me nyuam yeej nyuaj rau kev txhawj xeeb ntawm niam txiv, yog li muab rau lawv.
- Yog tias quarrels tsis nres, ces txhua lub hnub so sib tham nrog cov me nyuam. Rov hais dua cov cai ntawm tus cwj pwm, qhuas cov me nyuam rau lawv tau kawm kom tsis txhob muaj teeb meem.
- Xav txog cov kev ua si uas cov me nyuam yuav tau txais cov ntsiab lus rau tus cwj pwm zoo, thiab kev sib tw tsis sib haum los ntawm kev sib cav.
- Kawm kom txais lub sij hawm thaum cov me nyuam xav tau kev cuam tshuam los ntawm ib leeg thiab nyob ib leeg. Thaum ib tug me nyuam ua si nrog phooj ywg, koj ua si nrog lwm tus.
Nco ntsoov tias koj qhov kev xav yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws rau koj cov me nyuam, yog li ntawd lawv sib tw rau nws. Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub ntawd, siv sij hawm tawm koj tus kheej. Yog tias koj tsis them nyiaj rau leej twg. Qhov ntawd yuav tsis raug txiav rau vim yog dab tsi.