Lwm txoj kev kawm loj yog qhov ntau tshaj nrog tus me nyuam. Hauv qhov no, tus me nyuam raug txwv los ntawm txhua yam. Qhov no tsim nyob rau hauv nws tus cwj pwm kaw, ntau hnav khaub ncaws hnyav thiab mob shyly.
Yuav ua li cas thiaj nrhiav tau qhov "Golden txhais" hauv kev tu me nyuam?
Feem ntau muaj kev hlub ntau tshaj rau tus me nyuam yog pom los ntawm niam tais yawm txiv thiab yawm txiv uas nug cov khoom ua si thiab cov khoom qab zib. Cov me nyuam paub hais tias nws muaj peev xwm ua tiav txhua yam los ntawm lawv nrog nws cov whims, thiab lub xeev ntawm qhov kev thov yuav nws lub xeev li ib txwm.
Yog hais tias ib tug me nyuam raug tsis tau ib yam dab tsi, nws pib ntxeev siab rau nws niam nws txiv vim nws tsis hlub nws, tuaj yeem quaj, ua kom muaj kev nyuj siab. Thaum zoo li no, nws yog qhov tsim nyog los piav rau tus me nyuam, raws li qhov yooj yim thiab yooj yim li qhov ua tau, qhov laj thawj rau qhov kev tsis pom zoo, tsis ua rau nws poob ntsej muag thiab tsis muaj kev zam. Tias tus me nyuam tsis tau tig mus rau tus tswj hwm, nws yog ib qho tsim nyog kom nws paub meej tias lo lus ntawm niam txiv yog txoj cai, sib ceg nrog lawv thiab nws tsis zoo. Nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau ua kom cov niam txiv muaj cai ua tau ntxov li sai tau, yog li ntawd tus me nyuam yuav rov qab coj tus niam txiv nrog kev hwm, kom koj lub tswv yim muaj feem xyuam rau nws.
Nws tsis tas yuav lwj kev sib raug zoo nrog tus me nyuam. Coob tus me nyuam to taub cov laus yog tias lawv pom tseeb tias lawv tus cwj pwm yog dab tuag. Txhawb kom muaj tus cwj pwm zoo ntawm tus me nyuam, ua rau nws ua siab zoo, hlub, ua siab dawb. Xws li cov yeeb yam, tsis txaus ntseeg, feem ntau muaj txiaj ntsig rau tus xeeb ceem ntawm tus neeg me me. Yog tias tus menyuam ntxov kawm txog kev sib qiv nrog cov khoom qab zib thiab cov khoom ua si, nws yuav cawm nws ntawm ntau yam teeb meem hauv kev sib txuas lus hauv lub neej tom ntej.
Tsis txhob xyaum lwm txoj kev kawm ntawv. Qee cov niam txiv zov me nyuam kom puv npo thiab pub lawv tus kheej nrog kev sib txuas lus nrog lawv cov lus xws li: "Kaw!", "Tsis txhob nce!", "Cia!", "Mus tawm!". Qhov no yuav ua tsis tau, vim hais tias txoj kev sib txuas lus no yuav ua rau tus me nyuam muaj kev ntxhov siab. Nws pib ntshai tib neeg, yuav raug cais nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej, tau txais ib pawg ntawm ntau ceg. Feem ntau, cov me nyuam uas raug coj los rau hauv tej lub caij no pib ua tsis ncaj rau lawv niam lawv txiv, kom lawv ntshai. Peb yuav tsum to taub tias tus me nyuam yog ib tus neeg me me. Tsis yog txhua yam ntawm nws xav tau yog tsis muaj qab hau thiab qia dub.
Yuav kom tsis txhob muaj qhov ob sab tshaj ntawm kev kawm ntawv, ua raws li cov cai hauv qab no nrog rau cov me nyuam.
- Ua tib zoo saib xyuas txhua yam ntawm tus menyuam. Txaus siab rau nws cov kev xav tau tiag tiag. Txhob nco lub pob ntseg ntawm tus me nyuam daim ntawv thov.
- Sawv ruaj khov rau ntawm koj tus kheej, tsis kam ua raws li tus me nyuam muaj peev xwm. Tsuas yog tom qab paub tias nws tsis sib ceg nrog leej niam leej txiv, tus me nyuam yuav nyob twj ywm thiab paub tias yog niam los yog txiv hais "tsis muaj", ces nws txhais hais tias "tsis tau." Yog tias koj pom tias txoj kev vam meej ntawm tus me nyuam, nco ntsoov qhia nws qhov no, ua tsaug rau nws.
- Nrog koj tus menyuam tham ntau dua. Qhia nws tias nws txhais tau li cas "coj zoo rau koj tus kheej" thiab dab tsi "coj phem heev". Muab nws piv txwv ntawm cov cwj pwm txawv ntawm lwm cov menyuam hauv txoj kev, hauv khw, hauv kindergarten. Feem ntau xws li "nyob" piv txwv ntawm kev coj cwj pwm phem muaj kev kawm zoo heev.
- Tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog tus menyuam. Ua tus phooj ywg rau koj tus me nyuam thaum nws muaj hnub nyoog, vim nws yuav pab koj nrog kev sib raug zoo thiab kev nkag siab hauv nws tus hluas, uas yog qhov tseem ceeb heev. Cov me nyuam tsis nyiam cov xib fwb nruj, tab sis lawv mloog txhua lo lus ntawm lawv cov qub phooj ywg.
Leej twg yog koj yuav ua rau koj tus me nyuam nyob ntawm koj.