Raws li nws tau tshwm sim, tom qab tsis tshua zoo siab, txawm tias nws yog neeg mob ruas, lo lus pov tseg los yog nrog ib tus neeg hlub, ib ntus, uas yuav luag, xav txog ntau yam. Thiab nws yog qhov zoo yog tias nws yog ib qho kev paub ntawm lub siab los yog ib yam dab tsi zoo li ntawd, tiam sis qhov teeb meem yog tias nws feem ntau loj zuj zus ntxiv: tus paranoia tias nws tsis pom zoo nrog. Nrog ib lub cim xeeb ntawm qhov xwm txheej tam sim ntawd dov siab, thiab yog li koj ua tau ntev ntev rau lub cev qhuav dej thiab poob mus rau kev nyuaj siab, yog tias tsis tau tshem ntawm lub siab xav tsis zoo.
1. Phom sij los yog sib koom nrog ib tus neeg hlub
Piv Txwv:
Tus ntxhais tawg nrog nws tus tub hluas. Hnub tom qab hnub ntawd nws tau sib sib zog nqus siab, nws tau noj thiab pw tsaug zog heev, tas li ntsia cov duab ua ke, quaj qw, khib txhua tus nws tau ntsib, thiab nws yuav tsis hnov qab nws lub siab, xav txog nws dua.
Txav tawm ntawm kuv lub taub hau qhov kev xav ntawm kuv qhov thib ib nrab yog nyuaj, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau cov ntxhais, tab sis qee zaus cov me nyuam tuaj yeem raug kev txom nyem rau lawv cov ex, tab sis lawv tsis manifest nws dhau openly. Txhob tsis nco qab txog koj tus hlub (yog qhov no tsuas yog koom nrog, thiab tsis sib ceg), koj yuav tsum hloov koj kev xav rau lwm yam. Qhov zoo tshaj nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no yuav yog ib tug tshiab acquaintance. Nws yog tus tsim tau tias tus txiv leej tub tshiab tsis paub txog koj tus ex, txwv tsis pub koj yuav pib ua txhua yam demonstratively, subconsciously sim ua rau nkawv qub qub khib. Tej zaum ib qho kev paub ntawm ib ntus hauv Internet yuav yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws tov: ua ntej, koj tsis tas rau tus txiv neej tshiab rau thawj hnub kom tis lub qub; ob zaug, koj mus tsis tau dhau qhov ntawd, thaum koj txoj kev xav dhau los, tab sis qee lub sij hawm tus neeg tshiab koj tau raug coj mus, thiab qhov no yuav pab tsis nco txog cov laus.
Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub ntawm kev sib cav, txhua yam yog ntau yooj yim: yog hais tias koj tsis muaj peev xwm kov yeej koj tus kheej muaj nuj nqis thiab mus ua thawj zaug, cuam tshuam cov tsos. Ib cov yeeb yaj kiab zoo yog muaj kev cuam tshuam los ntawm txhua yam, los ntawm kev sib cav sib ceg: nrog ib tug phooj ywg, niam txiv, phooj ywg. Qhov no suav nrog cov phau ntawv thiab tej yam haujlwm uas koj tau muaj (khawm, kev kos, qauv, thiab lwm yam). Tab sis nws yog qhov zoo tshaj los paub tias nws tsis zoo los sib cav, thiab kom tau raws li koj tus neeg hlub ua ntej. Nws txhawb nqa koj hauv nws lub qhov muag.
2. Cov lus tsis txaus ntseeg, ua rau poob ib tug neeg
Piv Txwv:
"Kuv ntxub koj, Kuv ntxub koj!" Kuv tsis xav tau koj txhua zaug, Kuv yeej tsis hlub koj, ib hnub kuv yuav tawm hauv koj lub tsev thiab tsis txhob rov qab los! Cried tus tub ntxhais hluas kaum tsib xyoos thiab tau tawm tsam lub qhov rooj nrov nrov thiab kev sib tw, zoo rau hauv nws chav. Kaum tsib feeb tom qab, leej niam thiab tus tub sib raug zoo, tab sis los ntawm lub taub hau ntawm tus boyishnikak tsis tau tso tseg cov lus ntawm kev sib ntxub, thiab nws tau quaj ntsuag ntawd hmo ntuj nrog ib tug tsis zoo.
Ib qho teeb meem tsis kaj siab, tsis muaj kev sib cav, tiam sis, qhov piv txwv yog qhov feem ntau kev tsis sib haum, thiab lo lus tsis yog ib tug sparrow, yog li cov kab lus uas tau tso tawm tau tom qab tig kev. Tab sis feem ntau, tus kheej tus kheej cua. Muaj ob qho kev xaiv rau kev tsim cov txheej xwm:
a) Qee lub sij hawm cov tib neeg tsis muaj peev xwm them taus yog hais tias lawv hais tej yam tsis kaj siab, vim lawv to taub tias nws yog tsis paub los yog xav txog. Tog twg los yeej ua rau tu siab, tab sis tsis ntev ntev. Yog li, ntawm no koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias yog tias koj tsis pom qhov hloov ntawm koj tus kheej hauv ib hnub lossis peb, koj yuav ntseeg tau tias tus neeg tau nco qab txog qhov teeb meem yav dhau los thiab cov kev xav tsis muaj qab hau.
b) Tau kawg, muaj ntau tus neeg los ua khab nias. Yog hais tias koj subconsciously xav tias tej yam tsis yog lawm, ib lub lim tiam tau dhau mus, thiab koj muaj qee zaus saib xyuas askance, teb cov lus phem, kom tau khaus ntawm lub sijhawm tsawg, thiab lwm yam., Nws yog worthwhile tham. Nws yuav tsum zoo li kev sib tham tsis sib haum, tsis yog kev sib tham ua ntej. Koj yuav tsum nco qab tias koj tau rov qab hais li cas (ib tug neeg yuav zaum tau hais tias nws twb tsis nco qab lawm, tab sis yog tias koj yeej muaj qhov hloov tsis zoo - qhov no tsis muaj tseeb), thiab tom qab ntawd - thov zam txim, hais li cas kev tsis ncaj ncees, thiab tseem Yog tias koj hais txhua yam tseeb, ib tug neeg yuav ntseeg koj, thiab tom qab ntawd koj yuav xav tias txhua yam raug muab txum tim rov qab los. Thiab yog hais tias nws tsis zam txim rau koj - yog vim li cas koj muaj xws li ib tug phooj ywg (niam txiv, raws li nyob rau hauv qhov piv txwv, tsuas zam txim rau, lawv tsis muaj xaiv)?
3. Kev saib tsis taus, kev txaj muag lossis kev ua phem
Piv txwv 1:
Tus ntxhais tuaj rau hauv tsev kawm ntawv, tau coj nws qhov chaw, qhov uas cov tub ntxhais kawm yav tas los "zoo" tau muab tso rau hauv chocolate. Yog li ntawd, tus ntxhais lub teeb lub teeb pom tsis zoo heev, thiab tus tub kawm ntawv nws tus kheej tsis tuaj rau hauv lub tsev kho mob rau ib lub lim tiam, hlawv nrog kev txaj muag hauv nws lub tsev.
Piv txwv 2:
- Peb cia lub ncuav nplej rau lub rooj zaum, thiab thaum [Lub npe] los thiab zaum saum lub rooj zaum, nws tau them! - muaj kev zoo siab rau ib tus menyuam kawm ntawv uas xav ua tus phoojywg.
- Thiab tuaj! - pom zoo qhov thib ob, txawm qhov tseeb tias nws tsis tau xav ua nws. Yog li ntawd, qhov "surprise" yog ib qho kev vam meej: tus ntxhais luag ntawm tus ntxhais, nws tau ua tsis zoo siab thiab tsis tuaj yeem tshwm hauv lub tsev kawm ntawv. Thiab tus phooj ywg thib ob yog txhawj xeeb, tshee, regretted nws tau ua dab tsi thiab xav rov qab txhua yam.
1) Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub thawj zaug, koj yuav tsum tau txais me ntsis tob tob rau hauv kev xav txog psychology First: tag nrho cov neeg muaj qia dub. Lawv ntsia ib yam dab tsi funny, luag thiab tsoo, yog tias tsis muaj qhov ua rau pheej tawg tshiab los yog vim li cas. Ntawm no ua qhov thib ob: qhov ntau dua ib tug neeg ua ntsej muag mus rau qhov teeb meem tsis kaj siab, qhov sib zog ua kom zoo dua. Xav tias ib tug ntxhais rov qab mus rau hauv tsev kawm ntawv, nws txaj muag, tab sis nws paub tias nws tsis nco qab txhua yam. Tau, tej zaum yuav muaj ib tug neeg uas nco txog dab tsi tshwm sim, tab sis nws nyob ntawm nws yog nyob ntawm nws, ntawm tus tub ntxhais kawm: yog nws tsis hnov mob los yog luag maj mam, txhua tus yuav tsis tu. Tsis muaj leej twg yuav rov qab dua thiab qhia nws txhua xyoo txog dab tsi tshwm sim. Yog hais tias nws lov, ua rau muaj teeb meem los yog qhia tias mob heev, mob siab thiab tsis kaj siab, txhua leej txhua tus muaj cuab kav tuaj yeem tua zoo li ib rab koob. Qhov no tsis tuaj yeem tso cai.
Yog li, thaum koj to taub tias txhua tus tsis muaj kev txhawj xeeb txog qhov tau tshwm sim, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob cia nws tus kheej poob qis.
2) Yog tias, peb ua tsis tau dab tsi lawm, tsis muaj dab tsi hloov, tab sis qhov no tsis muaj kev cia siab thiab kev tu siab ib zaug rau qhov tsis zoo. Apology yog qhov kev xaiv zoo tshaj plaws. Qhov tseeb tiag nws zoo li, qhov zoo dua. Yog tias ua tau - muab me me rau thaum koj thov kev zam txim. Tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi qia dub nws yuav sound, koj yuav tsum tsis muaj dab tsi, ua tsaug yog tias koj raug zam txim, yog tias nws tsis yog koj tus phooj ywg, nrog tus neeg uas koj them rau yav tom ntej kom muaj kev sib raug zoo. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog rau koj hais tias, koj tau txais kev zam txim (neeg feem coob hais nws lawm). Nws yuav ua tau yooj yim vigaranted.
4. Ntshai heev
Piv Txwv:
Tus txiv leej tub tau ntshai tawm hauv tsev, vim nws muaj kev xav xav tau. Nws pom hais tias nws yuav tsum nqis tes rau ntawm nws lub tsev, raws li ib yam dab tsi uas yuav tshwm sim rau nws: lub tsheb yuav tsum tawg, lub cib taub hau yuav poob, nws tus kheej yuav poob mus rau hauv cov lim dej daug, thiab lwm yam. Vim li no, nkawm nkawd zaum saum lawv niam txiv lub caj dab, tsis muaj dab tsi, tab sis pheej xav txog qhov phem npaum li cas nws nyob.
Tej zaum qhov no yog qhov feem ntau neglected. Nov yog teeb meem tiag tiag hauv kuv lub taub hau. Muaj tseeb tiag, nws tsis yog qhov tseeb hais tias qhov no tsis yog qhov tseeb, vim qee cov neeg tsis kam koom ib lub davhlau tagnrho, txawm tias qhov pib yuav khoom, tab sis feem ntau nws yog tag nrho hauv lub taub hau.
Cov lus qhia abstract tsis pom zoo, koj yuav tsum yuam kom koj tus kheej ua ib yam dab tsi. Txawm tias ntshai, koj yuav tsum yuam kom koj tus kheej tawm mus rau tom txoj kev. Quab yuam kom hla txoj kev. Tas mus quab yuam. Feem ntau cov teeb meem no yog kev txhawj xeeb rau cov neeg tsis tu ncua mus qhov twg, xws li kev xav tshwm sim hauv cov neeg uas tsis ua dab tsi zoo rau nws. Ib tug neeg xav tau ib txoj hauj lwm, nrhiav phooj ywg thiab ib txoj kev nyiam nyiam, thiab nws yuav tsis pom tias kev xav li cas nws tso nws tawm.
Ib txhia tswv yim kawg lus
Ua ntej, kuv xav kom koj nco qab tias tib neeg feem ntau yog qia dub. Xijpeem ib tus neeg tau ua, txawm nws tsis paub nws npaum li cas los nws tsis txhawj txog nws, nws tsis zoo li tias txhua leej txhua tus yuav tsum tau kho txhua yam ntawm nws lub misdemeanor, vim nws tsis tu. Tom qab paub qhov no, nws ua tau yooj yim dua mus nyob. Tau, ib ntus, saib tsam, txhua tus yuav tsum nco txog dab tsi tshwm sim los yog tau ib tug txiv neej tawm ntawm nws tus kheej, tab sis, yog tias koj tsis mloog cov neeg zoo sib xws, txhua yam yuav tsis nco qab sai sai.
Qhov thib ob, qhov zoo tshaj plaws ib ntus (thiab qee zaum tsis yog ib ntus) kev kho rau ib tus kheej kev xav yog kev cuam tshuam. Koj tuaj yeem cuam tshuam koj tus kheej los ntawm txhua yam los yog tus neeg, ua suab paj nruag, ntawv nyeem, ua yeeb yaj kiab, neeg, haujlwm me, tu, thiab lwm yam. Qhov no yuav pab tau.