Ntau tus niam txiv tig mus rau ib tus kws paub qab hau nrog lo lus nug: vim li cas tus me nyuam ntshai lwm cov me nyuam? Qhov tseeb, qhov teeb meem no tsis tshwm sim los ntawm kos. Pib ntawm txhua tus me nyuam noj qab nyob zoo qhib rau kev sib txuas lus. Txawm li cas los xij, lub ntiaj teb ntawm cov menyuam yaus txawv ntawm cov laus neeg ntiaj teb. Thiab yog tias koj tus me nyuam ntshai, ces muaj qhov laj thawj rau qhov ntawd. Feem ntau, tus me nyuam yuav pib ntshai lwm tus me nyuam yog tias nws tau txais kev tsis zoo hauv kev sib txuas lus.
Qhov tseeb yog tias thaum muaj hnub nyoog yau, cov menyuam yaus tseem tsis tau muaj kev tsim txig tsim muaj txiaj ntsim zoo. Yog li ntawd, thaum ib tug me nyuam pib sib txuas lus nrog cov phooj ywg, nws ntseeg hais tias txhua tus yuav hlub nws, tab sis tib lub sij hawm nws tsis tshua xav xav txog nws tus cwj pwm. Thaum koj pom tias tus me nyuam ntshai lwm cov me nyuam, nws txhais tau tias lawv tau ua txhaum nws, thiab tam sim no nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas. Raws li, nws tsis tswj kom daws tau cov teeb meem kom raug, vim hais tias nrog nws no tsis tau tshwm sim ua ntej, nws yog ntshai los ntawm tsis paub.
Yuav ua li cas kov yeej kev ntshai?
Yuav kom tiv thaiv kev ntshai me nyuam yaus, cov niam txiv yuav tsum to taub tias qhov no tsis yog qhov dag los yog kev phem. Thaum muaj hnub nyoog li no, cov me nyuam mos tsis tshua muaj siab. Cwj pwm ntawm lwm tus neeg tseem ceeb heev rau lawv thaum lub hnub nyoog no. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem tiv nrog txoj kev ntshai ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog tus me nyuam, ces nws tuaj yeem loj hlob tuaj thiab tsis muaj kev ruaj ntseg. Tus kws txiav txim plaub ntug rau koj tus kheej, vim hais tias rau ib tug me nyuam tus tshuab los ntawm lwm tus me nyuam los yog nqa cov khoom ua si nws yog ib qho kev poob siab tiag, vim nws tsis yog siv tag nrho rau hauv tsev neeg. Yog li ntawd, hauv thawj qhov chaw, cov niam txiv yuav tsum qhia tus me nyuam tias nws tsis muaj dab tsi ntshai, vim hais tias koj tuaj yeem pab nws. Tab sis ntawm no nws yog tus nqi tsim nyog tseem ceeb: tsis txhob pib daws cov teeb meem tsis muaj menyuam. Yog tias koj pheej mus rau cov niam txiv ntawm lwm cov me nyuam thiab yws, tus me nyuam yuav tsis kawm nrog nws cov teeb meem ntawm nws tus kheej. Txawm tias thaum nws loj tuaj, nws lub siab lub ntsws yuav muaj lub siab xav ua zoo rau kev daws teeb meem. Yog li, koj yuav tsum qhia tus me nyuam txog kev daws teeb meem, tiam sis koj tuaj yeem coj ncaj nraim rau tus niam txiv no tsuas yog qhov chaw kawg nkaus xwb.
Piv txwv, yog tias koj tus me nyuam muaj lwm tus me nyuam uas xav siv cov khoom ua si tsis xav tau, nug nws: "Koj puas tau tso cai?" Qhov no, cov menyuam yaus tawm los yog pib tham nrog koj tus menyuam. Ntawm chav kawm, qhov thib ob xaiv zoo dua, raws li qhov kev sib tham pib ntawm cov me nyuam. Los ntawm txoj kev, yog tias koj tus me nyuam tsis kam muab khoom ua si, koj tsis tas yuav muab siab rau nws. Nws muaj txhua txoj cai rau ob leeg daws thiab tsis tso cai. Qhov no yuav tsum to taub koj thiab lwm cov me nyuam. Txawm li cas los xij, ib tus tuaj yeem nug yog vim li cas nws tsis xav muab khoom ua si thiab nws nyob ntawm nws cov lus teb, kom nws lees tias nws ua si lwm tus menyuam los yog pom zoo nrog nws tus menyuam. Nco ntsoov hais tias tiv thaiv koj cov kev xav thiab ua siab hlob yog qhov txawv ntawm txhua yam.
Kev xav ntawm cov niam txiv
Thaum me nyuam me me lawm, nws yuav tsum muaj kev txhawb zog los ntawm nws niam nws txiv. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau hauv rooj plaub thaum lwm tus me nyuam sim nws. Los ntawm txoj kev, coob tus nug txog seb tus me nyuam yuav tsum raug qhia kom "muab hloov". Qhov tseeb, lo lus nug no tsis tuaj yeem yuav teb tsis tau li, vim yog me nyuam tsis muaj zog tshaj nws tus yeeb ncuab, nws yuav yog tus neeg poob. Tab sis ntawm qhov tod tes, nws tseem tsis tuaj yeem nyob twj ywm thiab tsis tawm tsam. Yog li, thaum tus me nyuam tseem hluas heev (nws muaj hnub nyoog tsawg dua peb xyoos), tom qab pom tias lawv ntaus nws, niam txiv yuav tsum nres qhov kev sib ntaus thiab qhia rau lwm cov me nyuam tias qhov no tsis tuaj yeem ua. Thaum menyuam loj tuaj, koj tuaj yeem muab rau lawv mus rau ntau yam kev ua si. Qhov no yog qhov tseeb ntawm cov tub. Hauv qhov no, tus me nyuam yeej ib txwm muaj peev xwm sawv tau nws tus kheej. Txawm li cas los xij, cov niam txiv yuav tsum tau qhia nws tias ua ntej qhov kev yuam deev no tsuas yog thaum lub caij nyoog kawg nkaus. Qhia rau koj tus tub los yog tus ntxhais paub tias feem ntau, kev sib haum xeeb muaj peev xwm daws tau qhov teeb meem, nrog kev pab ntawm cov lus, kev lom zem ntawm irony thiab lub siab lub ntsws. Zoo, thaum tus me nyuam me, cia li qhia nws tias koj yeej ib txwm nyob ntawm nws sab, txhawb thiab to taub, yog li tsis muaj dab tsi ntshai. Yog tias nws xav tias nws niam nws txiv yeej yuav pab tau nws, nws yuav loj hlob tsis muaj ntau yam thiab muaj kev tsis zoo.