Tsis muaj kev pom meej ntawm cov me nyuam txoj kev loj hlob, muaj cov lus tseem ceeb thiab kev cai ntawm kev loj hlob, uas yog txhua yam. Kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus ntawm tus menyuam yaus yog ib txoj haujlwm nyuaj, nyob ntawm ntau yam tseem ceeb, ob qho tib si ntawm caj ces thiab kev kawm. Yog hais tias qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib txuas lus rau kev sib tham thaum ntxov yog qhov tshwm sim tsis hloov, qhov kev tsim kho rau kev loj hlob thiab kev txhim kho yuav ncaj qha rau niam txiv ntawm tus me nyuam. Kuv xav tias txhua leej txhua tus paub tias hauv cov tsev neeg tsis muaj teeb meem, cov me nyuam poob qab rau hauv txoj kev loj hlob - lawv pib hais lus lig, nyeem ntawv, thiab lwm yam. Thiab qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb, ua ntej txhua yam, qhov tseeb tias tus me nyuam raug muab tso rau hauv nws pov tseg, tsis muaj leej twg koom nrog nws , tsis muaj leej twg qhia nws. Qee tus kuv cov phooj ywg tau txais ib tug me nyuam, yog li ntawd nws txhais tau tias ib lub hlis tom qab pib hais lus thiab yav tom ntej rau txhua tus neeg nrog nws lub peev xwm. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam muaj peev xwm hais lus thaum ntxov, tom qab ntawd nws ua rau nws zoo siab thiab kev loj hlob, nws pib hais lus.
Tab sis tseem, nyob rau hauv ntau lub ntsiab lus nyob rau hauv kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus tus me nyuam yuav cuam tshuam. Rau qhov no, ua ntej txhua yam, koj yuav tsum sib txuas lus kom ntau li ntau tau nrog koj tus menyuam. Tsis yog qhov tsis muaj dab tsi lawv xav kom tham nrog ib tug me nyuam hauv plab, piav qhov no los ntawm qhov tseeb tias tus me nyuam hnov txhua yam thiab nkag siab txaus. Qhov no muaj nws feem ntawm qhov tseeb. Lub cev ntawm tus me nyuam lub rooj sib hais yog tsim nyog los ntawm lub caij yug, yog li ntawd nws yuav tsum nrog tus me nyuam tham ntau npaum li tsim nyog. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tsis txhob nrog tus me nyuam mos, tab sis los tham txog txhua yam nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb, ib yam li ib tus neeg laus. Qhia koj tus menyuam tias koj hlub nws npaum li cas, tom qab qhia koj tias koj ua dab tsi, lub suab, kev ua yeeb yam, kev xav. Yog li, koj tus menyuam yuav tsis xav tias nws tseem ceeb, tab sis kuj tau txais cov ntaub ntawv tseem ceeb thiab tseem ceeb, thiab, qhov tseeb, kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus ntawm ib tug me txiv neej yuav tshwm sim.
Feem ntau, tag nrho cov me nyuam yaus uas muaj hnub nyug (txij thaum yug txog 3 xyoos) kuj tau siv tib theem kev txhim kho ntawm kev hais lus . Thaum xyoo dhau los, tus me nyuam twb tau hais txog kaum lo lus yooj yooj yim, ua ntej ntawm txhua yam, xws li "niam", "baba", "dad", "give", etc. Ob xyoos, muaj ntau tus me nyuam muaj peev xwm hais tau kab lus ntawm ob los yog peb cov lus, thiab thaum muaj hnub nyoog plaub xyoos, cov me nyuam tuaj yeem hais lus meej thiab zoo, zoo li cov laus. Tab sis, kuv rov hais dua, cov no yog cov kev cai ntawm txoj kev loj hlob, thiab qee qhov txawv me ntsis los ntawm lawv tsis yog ib qho txawv txav.
Yog li, peb tuaj yeem paub qhov txawv peb theem hauv kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus ntawm tus menyuam yaus:
· Doverbal yog lub sij hawm ntawm kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus ntawm tus me nyuam ntawm thawj xyoo ntawm lub neej. Nyob rau theem no tus me nyuam tsis hnov dab tsi, tiam sis tus txheej txheem ntawm kev hais lus yog qhov chaw. Tus me nyuam muaj peev xwm hais tau qhov sib txawv ntawm lwm cov suab, qhov kev loj hlob ntawm qhov kev hais lus ntawm nws tus kheej hais lus.
· Kev hloov mus rau kev hais lus yog qhov kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus ntawm tus me nyuam ntawm xyoo ob ntawm lub neej. Tus me nyuam tau hais cov lus thawj lo lus thiab lo lus ob peb lo lus yooj yim. Nws tsuas yog thaum lub sijhawm no tias nws yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws rau tus menyuam tau txais kev sib raug zoo thiab kev sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg laus, ua ntej tshaj, nrog niam txiv.
· Perfection kev hais lus. Thaum tus me nyuam twb tau txais cov kev txawj sib txuas lus lawm, nws cov lus kwv yees txog 300 lo lus tseem ceeb, muaj kev sib tw tshiab rau kev hais lus. Cov me nyuam ntau thiab ntau pib qhia nws cov kev xav, tseem pheej nce nws cov lus ntxiv, txhim kho cov lus ntawm lo lus.
Tus me nyuam hais lus tau thiab tsim nyog, tsis yog los ntawm kev sib txuas lus, tab sis kuj tau los ntawm kev ua tshwj xeeb . Qee tus ntseeg hais tias kev xyaum hais lus yuav tsum muaj kev qhia tshwj xeeb, thiab nws yog lub hom phiaj ntawm tus kws kho mob hais lus kom daws tus menyuam uas muaj qhov teeb meem hais lus. Qhov tseeb, qhov no tsis yog li ntawd. Ntau yam teeb meem tshwm sim, ua ntej ntawm tag nrho, los ntawm qhov kev sib txuas lus tsis zoo ntawm cov neeg laus thiab lawv cov me nyuam. Slyukanie, tsis ncaj ncees lawm hais lus - tus preconditions rau qhov tsis ncaj ncees hais lus ntawm koj tus me nyuam. Cov me nyuam mos liab, zoo li ib daim txhuam cev, nqes tag nrho cov ntaub ntawv, txoj cai thiab tsis yog. Cov me nyuam yaus paub cov suab lus nrov heev, yog li, ua ntej txhua tus, xyuam xim rau koj hais lus, thiab tom qab ntawd twb nrhiav tau qhov yuam kev ntawm koj tus menyuam.
Txoj kev loj hlob ntawm tus me nyuam txij thaum yug los yog ib qho nyuaj thiab tib lub sijhawm kev nthuav dav. Kev ua tiav loj thiab me me ntawm tus me nyuam feem ntau yog nyob ntawm seb "kev mob siab" ntawm cov laus, tib yam siv rau kev loj hlob ntawm tus me nyuam txoj kev hais lus. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb tsis yog sib txuas lus nrog koj tus me nyuam xwb, tab sis kuj yuav txhawb nws txoj kev hais lus hauv txhua txoj kev tau. Ua li no, nws yuav tsis mob siab ua raws li cov lus qhia ntawm cov kws tshwj xeeb:
· Hais lus, hais lus thiab tham nrog koj tus me nyuam dua: hais koj cov yeeb yam, kev txhawj xeeb thiab kev xav.
· Rov qab nrog tus menyuam mos-nws thawj cov suab-suab hu ua "ma-ma-ma", "mu-mu-mu", li ntawd, koj yuav txaus siab rau tus menyuam thiab kev txhawb nqa nrog nws "kev sib tham ua ntej".
· Nws muaj pov thawj pom tias kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus thiab kev ua kom tau zoo yog muaj kev sib raug zoo. Yog li, cia tus me nyuam "xav" ntau yam ntaub ntawv rau qhov kov, cov khoom sib txawv me me thiab cov duab.
• Sim teb tsis yog ntawm lub ntsej muag rau tus me nyuam, qhia qhov xav tau, tab sis kuj ua kom nws xav hais tias nws xav tau dabtsi, piv txwv li, "muab". Cia tus me nyuam tsis yog nws tus ntiv tes xwb nws xav tau dab tsi, tab sis kuj hu tej yam ntawm lawv cov npe.
· Yog koj tus menyuam nyiam cov phau ntawv - qhov no yog ib txoj kev ncaj ncaj rau kev hais lus. Tau txais cov phau ntawv duab thiab kawm nrog tus menyuam lub ntiaj teb puag ncig: cov khoom hauv tsev, cov tsiaj, kev ua, thiab lwm yam.
· Yog hais tias tus me nyuam cov phooj ywg tseem tab tom hais, nws yuav tsum tau qhia kom tus me nyuam mus rau hauv lub voj voog ntawm cov phooj ywg.
• Nyeem cov phau ntawv me me, hu nkauj thiab tsis txhob sim hloov chaw nyob nrog tham nrog cov khoom ua si.