Li ntawd, li cas qhov kev vam khom nyob rau tom khw tau qhia, yuav ua li cas yog lub siab nyiam mus kav khw nrog peb cov chaw?
Ua ntej, koj yuav tsum to taub qhov ua rau tus kab mob no. Yog li, kom tshem tau qhov teeb meem mus tas li, cia saib nws hauv paus. Wb to taub ib zaug thiab rau txhua yam li cas txhua yam pib thiab nrog dab tsi raws nraim li no mob siab rau.
Pib, kev pom ntawm ntau qhov khoom yuav tsis pom zoo. Tsuas yog ib tug poj niam, lub sij hawm tom qab, muab cov khaub ncaws thiab khau rau nws txaus siab. Nws nyiam txhua zaus kom nws nyiam nrog lub tsho tshiab los yog lub ntsej muag zoo nkauj. Tab sis, thaum lub sij hawm, tus poj niam ceeb toom txog tias ib yam dab tsi pib ua tsis ncaj ncees lawm, thiab nws lub siab nyiam mus khw. Nws xav kom tshem ntawm tus cwj pwm ntawm muas, thiab tsis muaj dab tsi tshwm sim. Nws pib tau txhawj ntshai los ntawm qhov tseeb tias nws tsis tau tshem ntawm nws xav xav tau. Tus pojniam paub tias nws xav tau khoom noj los yog khoom siv hauv tsev, tab sis, nws tsis yog khau los yog hnav khaub ncaws. Qhov no yuav ua rau kev quav tshuaj. Txhua zaus, tus poj niam cog lus tias nws yuav tsis muaj dua, thiab nws yuav pib nrog cov khoom yuav kav mus ib txhis. Tab sis tsis muaj dab tsi tshwm sim. Tus ntxhais to taub hais tias kev yuav khoom yog pointless, vim tias nws tsis txawm muaj sij hawm los coj txhua yam. Tab sis nws tsis tuaj yeem nres. Ntawm no yog qhov kev to taub hais tias txhua yam tau dhau los ua kev tiv thaiv, uas yuav tsum tiav ib zaug thiab rau tag nrho.
Yog li ntawd, vim li cas tib neeg thiaj ua rau yus mob siab rau tej yam? Vim li cas lawv thiaj li raug puas tsuaj los ntawm lub siab nyiam mus khw? Qhov tseeb, qhov no ua rau qhov teeb meem tshwm sim, thiab nws lus dag hauv peb lub caij nyoog. Thawj zaug ntawm tag nrho, xws li ib tug poj niam tsis paub yuav ua li cas tsis kam muag. Tej zaum nws yuav txaj muag heev los yog ua siab zoo. Qhov yuav tau txais qhov no yog nws tsis muaj peev xwm hais tau "tsis muaj", coj nws cov khaub ncaws thiab tawm hauv lub khw. Cov ntxhais ntawm hom no muaj kev txhawj xeeb heev thiab tsis nyiam tsis kam muag, vim lawv ntseeg hais tias nyob rau hauv no txoj kev lawv yuav chim. Nws yog rau cov neeg uas elementary psychological cov tswv yim siv los ntawm cov thawj coj thiab cov neeg muag khoom txhawb lawv cov khoom muaj txiaj ntsig zoo. Tsis tas li ntawd, lwm txoj kev ua lag luam yog qhia tawm. Nws yog txuas nrog lub fact tias ib tug poj niam tsis tau txais ib yam dab tsi hauv kev yau thiab kev hluas. Muaj ntau ntawm peb ciaj ciam qhov teeb meem, lub nyiaj tsawg, cov tshaib plab xyoo ntawm perestroika. Yog li ntawd, peb muaj lub siab xav tau txhua yam uas ib zaug tsis yog. Tias yog vim li cas poj niam shopaholics, feem ntau yuav tej yam los ua pov thawj rau tus neeg muag khoom: Kuv thiab kuv muaj nyiaj txaus rau qhov no thiab kuv tuaj yeem yuav tau txhua yam kuv xav tau.
Shopaholics, yuav tom ntej tshaj plaws, tsis txaus siab rau lub cev, tab sis kev xav tau kev xav. Lawv nyiam cov txheej txheem xaiv thiab haum, kev sib txuas lus nrog tus neeg muag khoom. Yog tias lub khw tseem muaj lub chaw zoo nkauj, lub suab paj nruag thiab cov neeg muag khoom zoo, ces tus poj niam yuav tawm tsam nrog ib pawg ntawm cov khoom tsis tseem ceeb. Cov neeg lag luam niaj hnub no twb kawm tau txaus los tsis txaus thiab, tib lub sij hawm, kev pom zoo. Yog li ntawd, ntau tus tub lag luam pom lawv li cov phooj ywg suab. Hauv qhov no, koj yuav tsum muab tso rau ib qho loj ntxiv rau cov lag luam niaj hnub tam sim no. Tab sis, ntawm chav kawm, qhov no tsis pab shopaholics. Lawv qhov teeb meem feem ntau yog cuam tshuam nrog kev coj cwj pwm ntawm cov neeg ua hauj lwm tom khw.
Yuav ua li cas thiaj li tau tshem ntawm tus kab mob no thiab xws li ib tug yees rau kev yuav khoom. Ua ntej, cov ntxhais uas muaj kev sib sib zog nqus thiab tsis muaj kev ruaj ntseg nyob rau hauv lawv tus kheej feem ntau raug kev txom nyem los ntawm kev siv khoom lag luam. Txij li thaum yau lawv tsis nyiam thiab lawv tab tom sim kom sawv daws pom zoo. Ntawm chav kawm, lawv yeej tsis tau txais nws. Thiab ces ib tug neeg muag khoom muag zoo li hauv qhov chaw, leej twg compliments, mloog thiab txawm txhawb cov kev sib tham. Lawm, tus ntxhais hauv theem qis tshaj pib pom nws yog ib tug phooj ywg. Thiab peb tsis ua phem rau cov phooj ywg thiab tsis kam lawv pab. Yog li, thaum tus muag khoom pib qhuas nws thiab muab nws mus rau ib tug poj niam, nws ntshai tsis kam nws, yog li tsis txhob offend thiab tsis txo nws tus kheej. Nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem no, tus ntxhais yeej xav tias tus neeg muag khoom siv nws txoj hauv kev tshwj xeeb, thiab nws tsuas yog tsis muaj cai thuam nws thiab ua rau nws poob siab. Yog li ntawd, lawv rov qab tuaj tshiab thiab yuav khoom tshiab. Qhov no, koj yuav tsum kawm kom tsis txhob dag ntxias koj tus kheej. Tus neeg muag khoom mloog thiab hais lus rau koj vim nws xav tau muag cov khoom. Lawm, nws yuav ua tau ib tus neeg zoo, tab sis koj rau nws tsis muaj leej twg thiab nws tus cwj pwm - tsis pub tshaj ib qho kev siv uas koj tuaj yeem muag qhov no los yog qhov ntawd. Yog li, yog tias koj paub tias koj tau txais ntau txoj kev muag khoom rau cov neeg muag khoom, nco ntsoov ib yam: koj tsis txhob txwm thiab tsis txhob txwm - uas txhais tau tias hwm. Tab sis, tib lub sij hawm, koj muaj cai xaiv thiab tsis tas yuav khoom dab tsi, tsuas yog thov ib tug neeg xwb. Tsis txhob xav tias tus neeg muag khoom yuav xav phem txog koj lossis hais ib yam dab tsi. Yog tias nws yog ib tus neeg zoo, nws yeej ib txwm to taub tias qhov koj xaiv tsis nyob ntawm seb nws tus kheej zoo li cas. Yog tias, txawm li cas los xij, tus neeg no tau ua txhaum, qhov no yuav tsis txhawj txog koj. Nws tsis muaj leej twg thiab tsis muaj leej twg yuav nrog koj. Koj tuaj yeem tsis mus rau tom khw thiab tsis ntsib nws ntawm txoj kev. Ntxiv thiab, tus neeg muag khoom, feem ntau, yuav hnov qab txog koj txoj cai muaj, thaum tus neeg tshiab yuav nkag mus rau qhov rooj. Yog li ntawd, nws yeej tsim nyog muaj kev txhawj xeeb thiab tshee txog nws.
Ntxiv thiab, tsis txhob txhawj txog tus muag khoom xav, zoo li koj tsis tuaj yeem yuav khoom. Nws yog rau koj tsis muaj leej twg thiab ua pov thawj rau nws ib yam dab tsi koj tseem tsis tas yuav. Sim ua kom sib ntaus nrog koj cov khoom, uas tau tso rau thaum yau. Koj tsis tas yuav muaj txoj kev hlub ntawm neeg thoj thiab ua pov thawj rau ib yam dab tsi rau lawv. Qhia rau koj tus kheej tias koj yog ib tus neeg txaus siab uas muaj cov txheeb ze thiab txheeb ze uas nyiam thiab txaus siab rau nws. Cov neeg muag khoom hauv cov khw muag khoom tsis pom zoo rau qhov no. Yog li ntawd, koj, dhau lawm, tsis txhob hlub lawv thiab pab lawv.
Yog tias koj tus kheej tsis tuaj yeem ua siab zoo rau koj tus kheej tias koj zoo txaus thiab txaus nyiam, thiab koj tsis tas nrhiav kev hlub los ntawm neeg txawv teb chaws, ces nws tseem yuav tsum tau nrhiav tswv yim ntawm ib tus kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws. Qhov tseeb, tsis muaj dab tsi txawv txawv, txaus ntshai thiab txaj muag nyob rau hauv no. Xws li ib tug neeg yuav pab koj kov yeej cov txheej txheem uas ua teeb meem ntawm kev puas siab ntsws nrog cov txheeb ze uas tshwm sim rau ntawm koj cov khoom siv tsis tag.