Txhua tus neeg muaj nws tus kheej "pluses" thiab "minuses". Tsis txhob muab koj tus menyuam sib piv rau lwm tus, tsis li ntawd qhov koj tau teeb tsa yuav cuam tshuam nrog lawv tus kheej txoj kev loj hlob. Hauv tsev neeg lub cuab tam, tsis txhob ua yuam kev, tsis zoo siab "tawg" thiab nws yog "tsis ua ke". Nco ntsoov nrhiav hom lus sib thooj thiab tsis txhob hais lus tsis sib haum xeeb rau ib leeg. Tau, nerves tsis "iron", txhua yam yuav tshwm sim. Yog hais tias nyob rau hauv ib tug muaj kev npau taws tau hais tias ib yam dab tsi insulting, nws tsis xav rau nws tus txiv los yog cov me nyuam, nco ntsoov thov zam txim.
Lwm daim card tseem ceeb ntawm tsev neeg kev noj qab haus huv yog qhov tseem ceeb. Qhov no txhais li cas? Hauv kev zoo siab, tsev neeg xav tau kev pab rau ob tus txij nkawm tseem ceeb dua kev sib txuas lus nrog phooj ywg, kev ua haujlwm, kev sib txuas lus nrog cov txheeb ze. Ib khub niam txiv yuav tsum npaj txi ua ke, vim lawv tsev neeg, txhua tus me nyuam. Ntawd yog, qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog: tsev neeg yog qhov tseem ceeb, txhua tsav txhua yam yog theem nrab. Qhov no yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tib neeg tsis txhob txiav txim siab thaum lub sij hawm sib yuav, thiab ua tib zoo xav txog qhov teeb meem no, ces yuav muaj tsev neeg zoo siab. Koj puas tau so nrog koj tsev neeg ntau npaum li cas? Koj tsev neeg puas muaj cov hnub caiv me me? Koj tuaj yeem ua ntau yam ua ke? Cov neeg mob twg yog "nyiag" koj "tsev neeg lub sijhawm"? Yog hais tias tsev neeg tsis yog lo lus tab sis ua tau hauv thawj qhov chaw, xav tias koj nyob ntawm txoj kev khiav.
Ib qho tshwj xeeb ntawm tsev neeg txoj kev noj qab haus huv yog qhov peev xwm daws teeb meem thaum lawv tshwm sim, thiab tsis txhob muab tso rau hauv "lub npov ntev". Nyob rau hauv xws li ib tsev neeg tsis muaj qhov chaw rau quarrels thiab scandals, txhua yam yog daws diplomatically thiab ua siab zoo. Cov txij nkawm nyob rau hauv txoj kev sib yuav zoo siab tsis cia qhov kev xav ntawm txoj kev sib nrauj, lawv muaj feem cuam tshuam rau ib leeg, ib leeg rau siab. Cov lus cog tseg hais tias "ua ke nyob hauv kev xyiv fab thiab kev tu siab," lawv cog lus rau kev sib raug zoo, yog tias ib tug neeg mob, thib ob yuav tuaj rau nws txoj kev cawm seej, thiab yog tias ib tug neeg zoo, ces nws npaj siab koom nrog txoj kev zoo siab no.
Phau vaj lug kub hais txog "ib tug cev nqaij daim tawv" qhia tias kev sib raug zoo ntawm txoj kev sib raug zoo. Nws yog lub koom haum ntawm ib tug txiv neej thiab ib tug poj niam uas yog tsev neeg zoo. Ib khub niam txiv, ua ib pawg, yooj yim overcomes tej teeb meem. Nws ua haujlwm kom meej thiab ua haujlwm zoo, nws ua raws li ib hoob kawm. Yog hais tias muaj kev tsis pom zoo, ces yeej muaj kev sib haum xeeb, vim hais tias tib neeg tau cog lus rau kev sib raug zoo, sib raug zoo ntawm cov teeb meem. Tus txiv neej thiab poj niam, ua ntej txiav txim siab, sib tham nrog lwm tus.
Cov hom phiaj ntawm kev sib koom tes kuj yog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev zoo siab ntawm tsev neeg. Lawv txawm ntau rally tus txiv neej thiab tus poj niam. Kev sib koom tes ntawm cov hom phiaj tau tso cai rau kev paub zoo dua ntawm ib leeg, muaj kev ntseeg tshwj xeeb, kev cia siab rau kev cia siab ntawm tus neeg no.
Paub tias yuav ua li cas los zam qhov txhaum! Txheeb rau hauv ib leeg yog ib qho tseem ceeb hauv txoj kev sib raug zoo. Tsis muaj ib tug yog "tus neeg tuav pov hwm" tawm tsam kev ua yuam kev. Qhia cov me nyuam kom sib koom ua ke, vim lawv tsis yog cov sib tw, tab sis cov neeg hauv zos. Ua siab plhuav rau kev tu me nyuam. Saib xyuas kom tsis txhob indulge tag nrho cov whims. Txhais rau lawv cov luag num uas yuav ua tau raws li lub hnub nyoog. Qhuas koj cov menyuam kom pab nrog kev ua haujlwm hauv tsev thiab tsis nco qab tias koj yuav tsum hais lawv. Cov me nyuam yuav loj hlob ntawm txoj hauj lwm, kev lav phib xauj, lawv yuav paub tseeb tias lawv txoj haujlwm tseem ceeb rau tsev neeg, tias lawv yog cov neeg pabcuam rau lawv niam lawv txiv.
Cov lus zoo ntawm tsev neeg muaj kev noj qab haus huv tsawg thiab lawv txhua tus tuaj yeem pab txhawb qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws-kev hlub hauv koj tsev neeg!