Cov lus nug ntawm kev zam txim los yog tsis zam txim rau kev thuam yog nyob ntawm ntau yam, thiab feem ntau ntawm lawv txhua tus yuav tsum raug xam tias yog ib tus zuj zus, hauv txhua kis. Hauv qab no peb yuav xav txog ob peb yam tseem ceeb hauv qhov teeb meem no, raws li koj tus kheej tuaj yeem muab koj tus kheej teb, yog tias koj xav thov zam txim rau cov neeg thuam los yog tsis xav ua qhov no. Li ntawd, xav txog ntau yam.
Kev soj ntsuam ntawm kev sib cav.
Cov txiv neej paub cov tsiaj los ntawm lwm lub ntiaj teb thiab nws yog qhov nyuaj rau peb to taub ib leeg lub siab xav thiab kev txhawb zog. Qhov no yuav tsum nco ntsoov nco ntsoov thaum koj ntsuam xyuas seb nws ua phem npaum li cas nws thuam. Tom qab txhua zaus, qee zaum, qhov uas kub peb, thiab tom qab ntawd mob siab heev, tus txiv neej tsis paub (lossis nws tsis to taub qhov no), nws tsuas yog tus menyuam yaus xwb thiab tsis yog cov kab lus tseem ceeb lossis ua yeeb yam. Hauv qhov no, nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau piav rau nws hais tias nws lub npe (los yog daim ntawv) yog thuam thiab raug mob rau peb, tab sis feem ntau nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem no, ib tug neeg hlub yuav raug zam tag nrho.
Muaj kev kub ntxhov, lossis kev nyab xeeb.
Raws li nws muaj tseeb los ntawm yav dhau los, yuav ua li cas yuav raug kev tu siab los ntawm ib tug neeg hlub, thiab tsis yog, tab sis los ntawm kev sib tsoo los ntawm ib lub misunderstanding thiab ignorance. Qhov no yog tsis kaj siab, tab sis nws muaj peev xwm raug zam txim yog tias nws tsis tshwm sim ntau zaus. Tab sis txawm tias tom qab piav qhia, tias nws cov lus los yog kev ua tsis tsim nyog, nws tseem thuam koj. Kev txhawb siab los ntawm qhov tseeb tias koj yog txawv xwb thiab nws tsis xav txog nws qhov kev ua txhaum. Ces nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no nws yog ib lub sijhawm kom muaj kev cuam tshuam ntawm seb koj puas sib. Tom qab tag nrho, qhov no yog txoj kev tsis pom zoo rau koj cov kev xav thiab koj lub tswv yim. Tom qab tag nrho, txawm tias nws tsis pom zoo nrog koj qhov kev xam pom, nws yuav tsum hwm nws.
Kuv puas yuav tau txais ib qho kev thov txim?
Tom qab ib lub sij hawm ntawm qhov mob thiab kev sib cav, raws li txoj cai, lub sij hawm thov zam txim los. Thiab pom kev hloov siab lees txim hauv nws qhov muag zoo nkauj, peb muaj lub siab xav ntseeg nws, zam txim rau thiab tsis nco qab. Cov lus nug yog seb nws yuav tsum ua tiav li cas? Ntawm no nws yog qhov tsim nyog, ua ntej txhua yam, kom nkag siab tias puas tau ib tus neeg tau hlub tau pom hais tias nws tau ua phem npaum li cas, nws puas to taub tias nws tsis tsim nyog ua li ntawd. Tom qab tag nrho, qee zaum ntau tus txiv neej thov kev zam txim, tsis muaj kev tu siab, thiab thaum koj to taub, peb yuav tsum to taub cov laj thawj, ntawm nws qhov. Yog tias peb saib qhov no los ntawm qhov kev xav tau los, peb thiaj li xaus tias nws zoo dua yog zam txim rau ib tug neeg hlub rau thawj zaug, tab sis yog kev sib ceg thiab kev txhawj xeeb, qhov no qhia peb tias tsis muaj kev nkag siab ntawm lawv qhov yuam kev, thiab tsis tas yuav zam txim.
Cov xwm txheej ntawm cov thuam.
Ib qho tseem ceeb hauv kev zam txim los sis tsis zam txim yog qhov xwm txheej. Tom qab tag nrho, qee zaum peb tsis qab qab zib, dhau mus, thiab peb tuaj yeem ua kom txaj muag los yog txaj muag cov neeg peb hlub. Qhov no yuav tshwm sim los ntawm kev sib tsoo los yog hauv qhov fuse ntawm kev sib cav. Hauv qhov no, ib tug yuav tsum nkag siab tias tsis yog txhua yam uas nws tau hais lossis tsis tau ua raws li nws siab, lawv muaj kev xav. Tau, thiab koj tuaj yeem yog ib feem ntawm qhov kev tsim txom rau kev thuam, nyob rau hauv no tej zaum, txawm tias yuav tsum tau ua thawj kauj ruam rau reconciliation thiab zam txim rau nws.
Thaum peb pom los ntawm cov saum toj no, zam txim rau los yog tsis zam txim rau ib qho kev thuam, nyob ntawm qhov xwm txheej. Qee zaum nws yuav tsum tau ua, qee zaum categorically, tsis yog, nyob rau hauv txhua rooj plaub, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas muaj kev thuam yog tham, koj piav qhia tias nws tu siab rau koj, thiab nws sim tsis ua nws dua. Raws li lawv hais, koj yuav tsum kawm ib zaj lus qhia los ntawm koj qhov kev txhaum!