Peb sawv daws feem ntau ua tib zoo saib xyuas kev noj qab haus huv ntawm peb cov menyuam: nws yog ib qhov tsim nyog yuav tau tshwm sim hnoos yooj yim - thiab peb twb npaj tau cov ntsiav tshuaj thiab kua zaub. Peb saib xyuas kev ua haujlwm ntawm txhua tus kabmob thiab lub cev ntawm tus menyuam lub cev nrog rau tsuas yog ib yam nkaus xwb: qhov kev xav ntawm peb cov menyuam yog thawj qhov kev txiav txim. Tab sis nws yog li ntawd? Cov kev mob hauv cov menyuam yaus thiab lawv cov cim qhia yog lub ntsiab lus ntawm kev sib tham rau hnub no.
Nws tag nrho pib nrog me nyuam mos. Vim li cas tus menyuam quaj heev? Raws li txoj cai, lawv piav qhia nws: nws muaj peev xwm tus cwj pwm. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, nws quaj rau lub hom phiaj ua tiav. Yog nws tsis ua raws li, los yog nws lub cev tsis zoo, los yog nws lub hlwb raug mob. Ntawd yog, tsis muaj ib yam khoom zoo li cov ntxias. Yuav ua li cas peb hu ib tus neeg phem, raws li txoj cai, txhais tau hais tias ib tug neeg muaj mob nrog ib tus neurosis. Alas, hnub no qhov kev txheeb cais ntawm cov kabmob hauv cov menyuam yaus yog tu siab: ntau dua li ib nrab ntawm cov menyuam kawm ntawv tuaj yeem kuaj tau tias "kev poobsiab" yog tias lawv niam lawv txiv tau xav mus cuag kws kho mob. Tab sis, hmoov tsis, tsuas yog feem ntau cov neeg tsis saib xyuas tau tig mus rau chaw kho mob.
NERVOUS TUS CWJ PWM: HAUJLWM YOG TSIS TXHOB KHO MOB ...
Feem ntau lawv hais tias: "Nws yog tshee." Qhov tseeb, qhov tswvyim no muaj xws li txhua yam uas koj nyiam, vim hais tias daim ntawv teev cov kab mob uas nws cov tsos mob muab ib daim duab ntawm "lub siab lub ntsws" tsis yog loj xwb, tab sis kuj txawv rau sab hauv. Kev hloov yog muaj menyuam (piv txwv li, xws li hauv cov menyuam yaus-neuropaths), muaj nyob rau hauv daim ntawv ua ntej, thiab tej zaum yuav tau txais los ntawm cov kev xeem loj lub neej los yog kev kawm tsis zoo. Tam sim ntawd hloov khoom nruab nrab ntawm kev puas tsuaj yog ib feem ntawm lub paj hlwb, nrog rau txoj kev xav ntawm lub paj hlwb los yog kev puas hlwb. Hauv qhov no, hom mob hlwb hauv cov menyuam yaus thiab lawv cov cim qhia tau los ntawm tus kws kho mob nkaus xwb.
XIM: NEUROSE!
Dab tsi inevitably ua ib feem tseem ceeb ntawm txhua tus neeg lub neej? Tsev neeg cov teeb meem, lub neej muaj teeb meem thiab kev ntxhov siab. Tsis yog txhua yam kabmob, tiv thaiv nrog lawv, yuav sawv kev tivthaiv (tom qab tag nrho, qee cov neeg, txawm tias tom qab ntog hauv qab huab cua, tam sim ntawd ntes txias). Li ntawd, tus me nyuam, thaum nws pom nws tus kheej hauv ib qho nyuaj, nws muaj peev xwm muab qhov kev sib tw paj hlwb (npaj ib lub cev, nws tus kheej, thiab lwm yam). Yog tias zoo li qhov tsis zoo li no, ces feem ntau tus me nyuam muaj tus kab mob neurosis (hauv Greek - "kab mob hlab ntsha"), tus kab mob uas yuav tsum tau kho los ntawm ib tug kws kho paj hlwb. Cov kws txawj ntseeg tias nws yog ib txwm raws li sab hauv kev sib haum xeeb: nws yog nws leej twg "doubles" tus me nyuam thiab ua rau nws siab ntsws tsis ruaj tsis khov. Feem ntau tshwm sim rau cov me nyuam tshwm sim hu ua monosymptomatic neuroses, uas yog tsuas yog ib qho xwb, tiam sis qhov teeb meem zoo nkauj (stammering, zuam, enuresis, thiab lwm yam). Feem ntau, cov niam txiv lawv tus kheej ua rau tus menyuam txoj kev loj hlob ntawm txoj kev nyuab siab los ntawm kev ua txhaum.
NIAM TXIV COV NIAM TXIV
♦ Cov niam txiv muab tus menyuam nce ntxiv, muab rau ob lub tsev kawm ntawv, voj voog sib txawv, thiab lwm yam.
♦ Cov niam txiv pom lawv tus kheej qhov tsis muaj teebmeem hauv tus menyuam thiab sim ua kom lawv sib ntaus.
♦ Leej niam tsis qhia nws txoj kev hlub rau tus menyuam, ua kom nws paub tias qhov nws xav tau yuav tsum tau ua.
♦ Cov niam txiv uas tsis muaj hauj lwm nyob puag ncig tus me nyuam nrog kev zov me nyuam ntau heev.
♦ Tus menyuam tau los ua pov thawj txog kev thuam hauv tsev neeg.
Koj ua:
Qhov tseeb tiag, tsuas yog ib qho tshuaj tiv thaiv kev txhawj xeeb tsis kho. Feem ntau, nrog kev pab los ntawm ib tus kws kho mob koj yuav tau rov ua zoo dua koj txoj kev ua neej. Tom qab tag nrho, kom thiaj li tiv thaiv tau tus menyuam qhov kev nyuab siab, koj yuav tsum xub ua txhua yam tswj koj tus cwj pwm. Muaj cov cai uas yuav tsum tau pom:
♦ Txhob txwv cov kev mob tshwm sim thiab cov tsos mob ntawm cov hlab ntsws (kev mob pw tsaug zog, kev kub ntxhov, lwm yam) - Nws tseem ceeb heev kom paub cov teeb meem.
♦ Yog tias koj tus kheej muaj kev puas tsuaj ntawm kev poob siab, sim kho kom zoo rau yam tsawg kawg rau tus menyuam.
♦ Yog tias koj tus kheej muaj teeb meem nrog koj niam koj txiv thaum koj tus menyuam, sim tsis txhob pub qhov no nrog koj cov menyuam.
TIAS YUAV TSUM CEEV FAJ:
♦ overestimation ntawm cov phooj ywg nyob hauv kev puas hlwb;
♦ kev ua plees kev yau ntawm tus me nyuam nrog qee yam khoom (piv txwv, tsuas yog suav ua lus Suav los yog hauv kev ua lej siab dua);
♦ Yog hais tias tus me nyuam mus rau lub taub hau nrog rau qhov kev ua si thiab hloov qhov tseeb nrog nws (piv txwv li, nws qhia txhua tus tias nws tau ua dog ua ke, thiab taug txhua txhua hnub rau tag nrho cov plaub);
♦ Yog tias nws poob siab rau lub neej, tsis ua raws li nws tus kheej;
♦ Yog tus menyuam muaj kev xav txog nws tus kheej (nws hais lus rau nws tus kheej, mloog ib yam dab tsi);
♦ Yog me nyuam yaus dag thiab dag ntxias hauv kev ua txhua yam loj (piv txwv li, thaum hmo ntuj lawv coj neeg tuaj yeem los yog nws tau kis cov huab).
NWS YOG XAV TAU:
Txog "physicists" thiab "lyricists"
Hauv kev xam phaj ntawm ntau txhiab tus niam txiv, nws tau pom tias qhov tshwm sim ntawm cov kab mob neuroses yog hnub nyoog thaum cov me nyuam mus kawm ntawv (8-12 xyoos). Cov kws kho teebmeem kev xav no tsis yog los ntawm kev hloov hauv txoj kev ua neej thiab qhov kev nce hauv lub sijhawm no, tabsis tseem yog lub peevxwm ntawm txoj kev qhia hauv cov tsev kawm ntawv, uas yog raws li txoj cai, ntawm "left hemisphere" (uas yog, ntau ntxiv rau cov neeg kawm ua lej thiab cov kws lis haujlwm). Txoj cai - cov humanitarian - hemisphere tsim ntau yam qeeb qeeb nyob rau hauv tus txheej txheem ntawm kev kawm, tab sis cov me nyuam nrog xws li ib tug orientation yog tsis muaj tsawg.
"Nees thiab quaj rau mos lwj"
Psychologists tau ua tib zoo faib cov neeg los ua pawg: raws li hom kev coj, raws li qhov kev xav uas dominates lawv, thiab li ntawd. Thaum koj paub txog cov ntawv no, koj yuav pom tau tias koj tus menyuam zoo li cas thiab qhia nws zoo. Piv txwv li, tsis hais txog kev sib deev ntawm tus "ego" (siab tawv) tus me nyuam, nws yuav tsum tswj hwm nws ntawm kev txhoj puab heev, thiab "genophilic" (poj niam), ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, los tiv thaiv ntawm cov paj hlwb thiab tsis txhob thab nws tus kheej. Ib yam li ntawd, tsis txhob pheej hais lus thiab kho cov phlegmatic, sim ua kom tsis txhob muaj kev choleric uas tsis muaj dab tsi, cheer melancholic. Yog tias koj sim kho tus me nyuam rau cov qauv kawm ntawv, nws yuav tsis ua rau kev poob cev qhev thiab kev tsis sib haum xeeb.
Neuroses - leej twg yuav raug teeb meem
♦ cov menyuam uas tsis tuaj yeem paub txog lawv tus kheej;
♦ cov menyuam yaus uas tsis tau txais kev ywj pheej;
♦ cuam tshuam los ntawm cov xwm txheej, cov me nyuam muaj kev txhawj xeeb;
♦ cov miv nyuas yau, cov miv nyuas "tau txais kev qha" (muaj kev xaav nce);
♦ Cov menyuam yaus txo lossis, dua li, ua haujlwm ntxiv;
♦ cov me nyuam tsis paub uas tsis paub tias yuav tsum sawv ntsug li cas rau lawv tus kheej;
♦ cov me nyuam yaus muaj kev txawj ntse ntawm qhov ua rau me nyuam yaus (los sis hmoo);
♦ Cov menyuam yaus "tsis xav ua" (piv txwv, "qhov tsis sib haum xeeb" lossis cov menyuam yaus uas yug rau lub sijhawm tsis haum rau cov niam txiv (qhov kub kub ntawm kev kawm, sib cog lus, thiab lwm yam).