Koj tus me nyuam 8 xyoo khiav nrog nws tus tail qab nws tus phooj ywg, thiab nws zoo siab heev thiab tsis zoo li yuav tsis them nyiaj rau nws. Los yog koj tus me nyuam 13 xyoo, uas yeej ib txwm me nyuam tub nyob ntsiag to, nws mam li sim ua kom muaj kev sib hawm nrog cov phooj ywg nrog kev pab cuam ntawm luam yeeb, kev sib tw thiab kev tsis sib haum nrog cov xib fwb. Puas tsim nyog nyob rau hauv xws li mob rau qhia rau me nyuam los yog muab lawv txoj cai rau lawv tus kheej nrog kev ua pob thiab kawm los ntawm lawv tus kheej yuam kev? Thiab, yog tias koj txiav txim siab tseem hais lus ntxiv, yuav ua li cas xaiv cov lus zoo, kom tus menyuam tsis txhob ua txhaum, tsis kaw thiab kiam koj rau poob qab thiab tsis to taub dab tsi? Yuav ua li cas yog tias tus me nyuam tsis mloog nws niam nws txiv thiab nws yuav ua li cas?
Muab tswv yim, yog tias koj tsis tau nug txog nws, nws yog ib txoj hauj lwm uas tsis ua hauj lwm tshaj plaws. Tab sis nws yog qhov nyuaj tshaj los qhia tus me nyuam, xws li yog ib tug khawv koob los ntawm nws tus hlub, tig mus rau ib tus neeg sab nraud. Txawm nag hmo nws tsis tuaj yeem nyob rau ob peb hnub tsis muaj koj, thiab hnub no nws xav kom koj tsis txhob hnia nws ntawm txoj kev thiab muab koj ob lub qhov muag txhua lub sijhawm koj sim qhia lub neej txoj kev txawj ntse. Ib tug neeg ntawm hom kev ywj pheej no tuaj yeem paub lawv tus kheej nyob rau hauv 8 xyoo, thiab ib tug neeg tsis tshaj 14 dua. Tab sis txhua qhov teeb meem, qhov no yuav yog ib qho tsis txaus ntseeg rau cov niam txiv. Kev ywj pheej yog qhov pheej ntog hauv kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov niam txiv nrog tus menyuam loj. Thiab, yog hais tias nyob rau qhov lus teb rau kev sib tham ntawm lub plawv mus rau siab, koj tau mob siab mob, quaj thiab txawm slamming lub qhov rooj, koj paub: koj tsis yog ib leeg. Tab sis, txawm tias me nyuam yaus tab tom muaj kev ywj pheej thiab ua lawv lub neej, nws yog thaum tseem hluas thaum lawv xav tau kev pab ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv feem ntau. Txhua txhua hnub lawv kawm txog tej yam tshiab txog lub ntiaj teb. Lawv yuav tsum txiav txim siab uas nyuaj rau kev sib raug zoo, thawj txoj kev hlub, kev sib raug zoo nrog cov laus. Thiab tsuas yog cov niam txiv tuaj yeem muab tswv yim tsim nyog. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog kom ua kom tus me nyuam hnov koj.
Cia li thuam koj tus kheej
Qhov teeb meem Psychologists feem ntau rov hais dua: yog tias koj xav kom tus neeg teb xov tooj hnov koj, koj yuav tsum tau tham nrog calmly thiab tsis qhia kev xav tsis zoo. Qhov no txhais tau hais tias hauv koj cov lus yuav tsum tsis txhob ua txhaum, tsis muaj kev npau taws, tsis muaj kev liam, tsis thuam. Ntseeg kuv, txawm tias muaj 5 xyoos me nyuam yaus muaj peev xwm ua tau yooj yim los ntawm kev sib tham, tus niam ntawv npau taws rau nws lossis tsis. Yuav ua li cas hais txog tub hluas ntxhais hluas! Ib qho ntxiv yog tias nws tsis yooj yim heev los tham nrog calmly, thaum koj rov hais tib lo lus ntau pua lub sij hawm, thiab qhov tshwm sim yog xoom. Anna, niam 12-xyoo-laus Artem: "Ib xyoo dhau los peb tsiv, thiab Ntsiab tau mus rau lub tsev kawm ntawv tshiab. Nyob rau hauv lub qub nws yog ib tug tub kawm zoo, nws cov xib hwb tau hlub nws thiab tau zam nws ntau yam kev ywj siab. Nws, piv txwv li, ntev plaub hau, hnav khaub ncaws nyob rau hauv ib tug ntaus pob ncaws pob thiab feem ntau yog heev ywj siab. Nyob rau hauv lub tsev kawm ntawv tshiab, nws tau nrhiav tau ib hom lus nrog cov hais mav, tab sis nrog tus kws qhia ntawv tom ib zaug, tib cov teeb meem pib. Vim nws cov plaub hau ntev thiab ris lub ris, nws tau sau nws mus rau hauv hooligans. Kwv yees tom qab thawj peb lub hlis twg yog qhia: qhov foursome hauv Lavxias teb sab, algebra thiab geometry, thiab raws li nws nyiam zaj dab neeg (uas yog tus xibfwb qhia ntawv xwb) - peb lub ntsiab lus. Thiab qhov no txawm tias qhov tseeb tiag tiag tiag tiag! Tiamsis qhov teebmeem ntawm lub tsev kawm ntawv qub nyob rau hauv lub tsev kawm ntawv qub, qhov no yog qhov teebmeem ntawm qhov teebmeem - nws tsis nco qab phau ntawv, nws hais ib yam dab tsi rau tus xib fwb ntse, ces "qhia nws lub tswv yim", tsis yog teb rau txoj hauj lwm. Rau tag nrho nws no nws txo qis. Kuv tau hais rau kuv tus tub ntau zaus tias koj yuav tsum coj tus cwj pwm zoo dua, zoo dua, thiab xav rau cov xib fwb. Nws yog txhua yam tsis zoo. Tab sis hnub so tom qab thawj peb lub hlis peb mus so, thiab kuv thaum kawg pom txoj kev mus kom ze. Tau hais zoo li no: "Sim muab koj tus kheej tso rau hauv tus kws qhia ntawv qhov chaw thiab saib tus tub ntxhais kawm ntawv tshiab ntawm sab nraud. Tus txiv neej no tau ntev plaub hau, nws ris yog dav thiab dai tsis yawg uas cov underpants tau pom los ntawm hauv qab. Cov xibfwb tseem tsis tau paub tias nws tabtom kawm tau zoo, tabsis twb paub tias nws muaj nws lub tswv yim zoo rau txhua yam teeb meem. Yuav ua li cas yuav koj coj cov neeg laus mus rau tus txiv no? "Artem ntsia kuv npau taws, thiab tom qab ntawd nws hais tias:" Zoo, Kuv mam li xav txog nws. " Nws yog kev vam meej, vim hais tias ua ntej nws txawm, thiab tsis xav hnov dab tsi! Thiab tom qab peb rov qab pib ua txuj ci tseem ceeb: tus tub tau mus rau tus kws tu plaub hau - thiab tsis tau, nws tsis txiav nws cov plaub hau luv luv, tab sis tsawg kawg nws cov plaub hau. Nws pib ntxuav lawv txhua txhua hnub. Nws kom kuv mus yuav khoom tshiab rau lub tsev kawm ntawv. Thiab thaum lub Kaum Ob Hlis Ntuj, tus kws qhia ntawv tau muaj hnub yug, thiab tus tub tau muab nws lub txiaj ntsim. Thaj, nws coj txawv hauv tsev kawm ntawv. Thaum kawg ntawm lub quarter thib ob, chav kawm hu kuv thiab hais tias kuv muaj ib tug me nyuam tub zoo nkauj, tias nws tau hloov ntawm nws tus kheej nws tau hloov ua ntej nws ob lub qhov muag, nws muab nws plaub tug hauv keeb kwm, tab sis, yog li, nws yuav tsib.
Cov zaj lus qhia koj xav kawm
Thaum muaj teeb meem nyuaj, koj, feem ntau, yuav raug ntxias kom muab siab rau tus me nyuam, vim hais tias cov neeg laus paub zoo dua! Tab sis qhov no yuav ua tsis tau. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws yog txhua yam, yog tias koj ua tiav hauv kev xav hauv lub siab tus menyuam: Kuv puas ua qhov yog? Yog tias tus me nyuam xav tias nws xav txog, ces, tej zaum, nws yuav ua qhov kev txiav txim siab zoo. Thiab - uas yog qhov tseem ceeb - nws yuav yog nws tus kheej txoj kev txiav txim siab, tsis yog cov neeg laus yuam. Thiab nco ntsoov qee yam kev cai ntawm kev sib tham: cov me nyuam tsis paub txog kev sib tham ntev ntev thiab kev sib txuas lus txog lub neej. Yog tias koj xav tau lub tsev kawm ntawv tuaj yeem hnov koj thiab sau lub tswv yim, hais lus luv luv, qhia meej thiab qhia tias koj tsis kiam nws.
Cia tus me nyuam txiav txim siab
Sib tham txog cov kev xaiv, thiab txawm hais tias tus ntxhais muaj ib yam dab tsi uas pom tseeb rau koj (mus txog ib nrab teev tom qab thiab npaj txhij mus kawm 10 feeb), cia nws sim ib lub lim tiam. Nws yog ib qho nyuaj rau cov niam txiv saib cov menyuam ua yuam kev li cas. Tab sis qee zaus yuam kev yog tsim nyog los kos cov lus xaus zoo. Yog tias tus ntxhais sim ua nws tus kheej thiab ua kom paub tseeb tias qhov no tsis ua haujlwm, lwm zaus nws yuav mloog zoo rau koj cov lus.
Nyob rau ntawm lub sijhawm, nyob rau hauv qhov chaw
Yog tias koj tswj tsis tau koj cov lus qhuab qhia hauv ib hnub sib tham, qhov uas koj yuav tau hnov nce zuj zus tuaj ntau zaus. Nco ntsoov thaum koj tus menyuam raug teeb tsa nrog koj tham. Qee leej hurries qhia lwm tus zoo tom qab tsev kawm ntawv, ib tug neeg nyiam tham nrog ua ntej yuav mus pw, thiab ib tus neeg pom lub zog rau qhov no tsuas yog hnub so. Yog hais tias qhov teeb meem yuav tsum tau tham txog yog qhov tseem ceeb, tos kom txog thaum neb ob leeg nyob twj ywm. Cov menyuam yaus muaj kev xav rau cov neeg laus lub siab lub ntsws, thiab kev tsoo tsuas ua rau koj tsis xav txog qhov tseeb. Thaum lub passions yog rhuab, nws yog zoo dua mus tos ob peb hnub. Thaum lub sij hawm no koj yuav nyob twj ywm thiab ua kom pom qhov teeb meem. Thiab tsuas yog tom qab uas pib sib tham txog qhov teeb meem tshwm sim.