Muaj pes tsawg tus neeg, ntau tus cim thiab hom. Txawm li cas los, introverts, uas yuav tau sib tham nyob rau hauv tsab xov xwm, yog tsis zoo li nyias tsim kev sib raug zoo, yooj yim rapprochement nrog ntau tus neeg thiab kev hlub rau nrov nrov, zoo kawg nkaus cov txheej xwm, qhov twg muaj yuav tsum muaj ntau ntawm cov neeg. Yog li ntawd, lawv yog leej twg, ntxeev siab? Dab tsi yog lawv lub zog thiab tsis muaj zog? Koj yuav kawm txog qhov no hauv tsab xov xwm.
Yog li, qhov no tsis yog ib phau ntawv, tab sis tsuas yog hauv cov lus nug:
- Koj tsis nyiam thaum muaj ntau tus neeg nyob ib ncig ntawm, preferring ib leeg kho siab los yog ib lub tuam txhab me me?
- Puas yog koj yog tus kiv cua ntawm lush festivities, nrov celebrations, nrov nrov tog twg los yog txheej xwm, qhov twg pawg neeg txhais tau tias yuav tau neeg coob heev?
- Koj tau siv rau ib tug txiv neej rau ib lub sij hawm ntev, thiab koj tau siv rau nws, tsis xav kom nws mus?
- Koj puas yog tus txaj muag, tus ntxhais hluas / pojniam paub txaj muag, ntshai txawm yuav mus ua ib tug neeg txawv mus nrhiav lub sijhawm?
- Koj tsis nyiam nyiam cov qhua, txawm tias nws yog ib tug neeg los yog tsawg tus neeg nyob ze?
- Koj puas nyiam siv sijhawm ib leeg saib cov yeeb yaj kiab, nyeem ntawv, kos duab los yog lwm yam kev nyiam ua si "ntawm ib qho"?
- Koj tsis nyiam nws thaum lwm tus neeg koom nrog lub tuam txhab niaj zaus ntawm cov phooj ywg?
- Koj puas ua tsis taus pa tom qab kev sib tham ntev nrog cov neeg?
- Koj puas xav hloov ib yam dab tsi, tab sis tsis txhob ua dab tsi uas yuav pab koj hauv qhov no?
Yog hais tias koj muaj tag nrho cov "yog", kuv zoo siab rau koj, feem ntau yuav yog, koj yog cov neeg tsis paub zoo Yog tias koj pom tau hais tias koj tau kawm hauv koj tus neeg koj tus phooj ywg los yog tus phooj ywg, feem ntau yuav muaj, nws yog ib qho kev tsis txaus siab.
Introvert thiab extrovert
Ib qho kev lag luam thiab cov extrovert txawv dua li lub ntuj thiab lub ntiaj teb. Ib tus neeg extraterrestrial yog ib qho tseem ceeb, txawb, tsis tas li them nqi hluav taws xob, tsis tuaj yeem zaum zaum ntawm kev ua haujlwm tsis zoo. Feem ntau, cov neeg mob tsis nyiam khwv tsis tau zoo, tsawg leej tib neeg nyiam lawv txhua lub sijhawm, tab sis feem ntau nws yog qhov pib ua rau cov neeg ua haujlwm niaj hnub ua. Tshwj xeeb yog thaum tib lub sij hawm tag nrho cov kev sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg yog qhov tsawg.
Kev mob siab ua rau lawv txoj kev xav hauv lawv tus kheej, lawv tsis nchuav tawm lawv qhov chaw. Yog hais tias lub introvert yog cuajkhaum, nws ua nws twj ywm. Yog tias nws mob siab thiab nws mob, nws yuav quaj, saib tsam thaum tsis muaj leej twg pom, tab sis tus neeg ua txhaum tsis zoo yuav hais ib yam dab tsi ntawm tus neeg. Ib qho extrovert kuj txav mus rau sab xis thiab sab laug, ua kom nrov nrov, qhia tau qee zaum, qhia qee zaum.
Introvert hlub kev kho siab, paub txog kev txaus siab thiab kev lom zem, tsis zoo li lub extrovert, rau leej twg ib lub lim tiam tsis muaj tib neeg tuaj yeem zoo li lub ntuj raug txim. Feem ntau cov neeg ntawm hom no ua cov ua yeeb yaj kiab, sau ntawv lossis xaiv lwm txoj hauj lwm (tsuas yog tsis yog cov tshuab raj xwb, qhov no yog ib qho ntawm cov kev xav uas tsis tuaj yeem pom tseeb hauv kev xyaum vim qhov tsis zoo ntawm coob tus neeg saib). Qhov no tsis tsuas yog pab qhia kom pom lub hauv paus "Kuv", tab sis kuj tshaj tawm cov thawj coj thiab cov npoj yaig ua haujlwm nrog, uas yuav tsum sib txuas lus txhua hnub.
Introvert feem ntau raug kaw. Qhov no tsis txhais hais tias koj tsis xav haus ntau heev thiab tsis xav haus cawv thiab taug kev, mus taug kev thiab muaj kev lom zem li txhua tus neeg, tab sis hauv 90% ntawm cov neeg mob hlwb tsis yog "tus tswv ntawm lub tuam txhab." Tsis tas li ntawd, thaum tsuas yog ob peb tug neeg, cov phooj ywg zoo, ces cov neeg tuaj yeem pom ntau yam ; lawv dag, ua rau muaj kev lom zem thiab muaj kev lom zem, thiab tawm ntawm qhov chaw ua ib lub tswv yim ntawm cov neeg tsis sib haum. Muaj tseeb, nws muaj nqis tsawg kawg yog ib tus phooj ywg, ib tug tshiab, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tus neeg tuaj tshiab los koom nrog nws tus phooj ywg, ua ib qho kev nkag mus rau nws lub plhaub, rov qab rau nws tus kheej zamyrkas.
Kev mob sab nrhau yuav tsum muaj lub sijhawm ntev tom qab sib tham nrog cov neeg. Lawv tuaj yeem mloog, lawv tuaj yeem tawm mus thiab txawm muab ob peb lub tswv yim, tab sis yog lawv siv sijhawm hmo ntuj mloog, thiab sim sib txuas lus, lawv yuav zoo li cov txiv qaub qaub thaum sawv ntxov. Tom qab ntawd lawv yuav tsum thim mus rau lawv tus kheej, so ntawm tag nrho cov, ces rov qab mus rau lub niaj zaus ib nrab.
Tag nrho cov saum toj no tsis tau txhais hais tias tag nrho cov neeg nkag mus tsis tiav cov tsiaj qus, ntshai tawm hauv tsev. Tsis yog, nws tsis yog li (tab sis muaj xws li), lawv tsuas yog kaw ntau dua extrovert, thiab lawv xav tuaj rau ib qho kev xav hauv tog tsim hauv lub taub hau ntawm lub taub hau tsis yog qhov tiag.
Tab sis tseem muaj qhov nyuaj rau txhua tus neeg uas tsuas yog qhia ib nrab xwb, qhov no tshwm sim heev, tsis tshua muaj heev, feem ntau extraversion thiab introversion yog ib qho ua ke, , tej zaum kuj dhau lawm.
Ntseeg
- Kev txo hwj chim, kev txaj muag, kev tsis sib haum xeeb thiab tsis muaj tseeb. Vim tias cov kev zoo no, cov neeg tsis muaj peev xwm ua tsis tau thawj tus neeg tau ntsib, thiab txawm tias lawv ua rau lawv, lawv tuaj yeem ua kom ntshai, unwittingly, lawv "tsis muaj peev xwm".
- Kev nyuab siab, kev cuam tshuam thiab kev rhuav tshem kev phem. Vim tias feem coob ntawm cov neeg nkag mus txhua yam hauv lawv tus kheej, tag nrho lawv cov kev paub thiab cov teeb meem, qhov no yog qhov phem rau lawv. Txhua tus paub tias kev hais lus tawm tsis tshua muaj txiaj ntsig, rau qhov no, cov kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsoog yog tsim muaj, feem ntau. Thiab yog hais tias tus extrovert tau pov tag nrho cov teeb meem mus rau lub xub pwg ntawm ib tug tshiab acquaintance, thiab ces mus txuas ntxiv txaus siab rau lub neej, lub Wintrovert yuav tsis tuaj tawm.
- Kev ntshai, kev xav tsis zoo, kev xav tsis zoo rau cov menyuam yaus. Qhov no tsis yog qhov tshwj xeeb hais txog poj niam, feem ntau ntawm cov tub ntxhais hluas tej kev txhaum, suav ntawm cov kauj ruam ua haujlwm tsuas yog los ntawm txiv neej sab, qhov no ntshai thiab paranoia. Introverts xav hais tias lawv yog. Feem ntau nws tsuas yog rau lawv, tab sis nws yog qhov nyuaj rau convince lawv.
- Kev mob siab. Cov phooj ywg, cov phooj ywg, tus hlub, thaum kawg, peb txhua tus to taub hais tias tsis muaj dab tsi kav ib si. Cov neeg tsis txaus siab, tom qab kev txom nyem me ntsis, nws yooj yim los nrhiav kev hloov, tab sis introverts yog problematic.Thaum lawv siv mus rau nws ntev thiab tau ntau tshaj tawm ntawm tus txiv neej.
Tshaj tawm
- Tshaj tawm, raws li tau hais tseg, ntev ntev tau siv rau lwm tus neeg. Tab sis yog tias lawv tau siv los, yog tias koj tau txais rau hauv cov phooj ywg ib tug neeg ntxim nyiam, koj muaj hmoo, vim lawv yog cov phooj ywg zoo tshaj plaws. Tau, koj tsis tuaj yeem mus rau lub khws lossis cov koomhaum, vim tias cov neeg nkag mus tsis nyiam qhov no, tabsis yog tias koj xav tau kev pabcuam ncajncees, koj yuav tau txais ib daim ntawv qhia tag nrho.
- Kev qhia yog ywj siab thiab txawj ntse. Vim yog qhov tseeb tias lawv siv ntau lub sijhawm xwb, lawv yuav nyob ntawm qee qhov taw tes zoo li lawv tus kheej txoj kev kawm, tus kheej txoj kev loj hlob. Thiab lawv muaj peev xwm ntawm no, vim lawv tsis xav tau cov neeg tiag tiag rau qhov no, npaj los piav tias, yog li cas, introvertsami lawv yuav ua txhua yam yog lawv xav tau. Lawv tsis xav tau kev pab lwm tus neeg, lawv xav daws lawv cov teeb meem (txawm tias nyob ze, niam txiv, piv txwv, lawv tuaj yeem cuam lawv cov teeb meem).
- Kev qhia yog feem ntau, dua li, tau hais ua ntej, muaj tswv yim zoo. Qhov no yog twv yuav raug hu ib qho loj ntxiv. Qee zaum qhov no tshwm sim vim yog kev txawj ntse, tab sis vim muaj kev zoo siab, kev kho siab thiab muaj lub siab xav ua rau koj lub ntiaj teb zoo dua thiab zoo nkauj dua. Thaum cov neeg tseem tab tom taug, cov neeg laus, zaum hauv tsev, coj tus cwj mem thiab kawm kos. Ib zaug dua, yog tias nws tsis ua haujlwm, kom txog thaum kos duab tau txais cov lus qhia zoo.
- Kev qhia yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws thiab nyiam mloog. Lawv txaus siab mloog cov teeb meem tsis yog ntawm lawv tus kheej xwb, tab sis kuj yog neeg txawv tebchaws. Ib qho ntxiv yog tias lawv tsis tshua muab tswv yim zoo, tab sis mloog - nco ntsoov thov. Lawv yuav tsis cuam tshuam koj mus ntxig koj cov lus los yog lwm zaj dab neeg, lawv yuav mloog tag nrho koj cov lus hais. Tias yog vim li cas cov extroverts thiab cov introverts haum zoo ua ke, vim ob lub introverts yuav hnov tsis xis: ob leeg yog cov uas ntsiag to, ob leeg yog sim ua kom xav txog ib yam dab tsi hais nrov nrov thiab tsis zoo ruam, ob leeg cua li lawv tus kheej, hlwb repeating "Nws yog kuv liam" los yog ib yam dab tsi li ntawd . Nyob rau hauv dav dav, ib tug neeg uas npaj txhij mus rau chatter yam tsis cuam tshuam, thiab introvert txig haum txhua lwm yam. Ib qho ntxiv yog tias tus pas tsis xav txav, tsis muaj leej twg yog hlau.
Qhov no
Raws li koj tau pom, muaj kev tshaj lij thiab cov quab yuam nyob rau hauv kev tawm tsam. Ntau tus neeg nyob hauv ib puag ncig ntawm ib tug neeg, los ntawm nws cov phooj ywg, cov txheeb ze thiab cov phooj ywg thiab lawv cov kev txhawb nqa, tab sis zoo li yog tus introvert tsis tau sim ua extrovert, nws yuav tsuas yog ib lub npog ncauj, yog li nws yooj yim dua reconcile thiab tsim koj zoo.