Lub chaw ua si me nyuam yaus yog dab tsi?

Thawj qhov tawm yog cov kev taug hauv cov vaj tsev. Ib qho chaw ua si nrog nws cov sandbox, kev ua viav vias thiab cov pej xeem me yog tus qauv txo ntawm ib haiv neeg uas nyob ntawm nws cov cai. Nws nyob ntawm no hais tias tus me nyuam kawm tau ntau yam tseem ceeb thiab yuav tsum muaj: sib tham, sib qhia, sib pab, pab, to taub nws thiab lwm tus lub siab xav. Tus me nyuam qhov chaw ua si yog dab tsi thiab dab tsi yuav tsum yog tus me nyuam txoj kev nyab xeeb ntsuas rau nws?

Tsim kev ruaj ntseg

Yuav pib, ua tib zoo tshuaj xyuas qhov chaw ua si. Tus neeg laus xav tias tsis muaj dab tsi txaus ntshai rau nws, tab sis qhov kev xav no yog kev dag ntxias. Kev raug mob ntawm cov chaw ua si yog qhov teeb meem loj heev. Cov pob txha, qhov puas, qhov txhab rau qhov mob, qhov muag raug mob ntau heev.

Hooligans hauv cov pawm

Yuav luag txhua tus me nyuam tsis tau muaj hnub nyoog peb tau nyob rau ntawm lub luag hauj lwm ntawm tus neeg dag. Kev sib tw, kev sib tw thiab tweaking ntawm lub hnub nyoog no yog qhov zoo tshaj qub. Tus me nyuam tsis tau to taub qhov mob siab, thiab nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas hnov ​​lwm tus neeg mob li nws tus kheej. Kom lawv paub txog lawv txoj kev xav, lawv tuaj yeem tsis hais lawv cov lus los yog: lawv tau rho cov khoom ua si - nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum thim tus neeg ua txhaum, nyiam lwm lub tshuab - rub tawm thiab khiav mus kawm nws. Cov niam txiv feem ntau kov los ntawm "disassembly" ntawm lawv cov hluas: nws zoo li ntxim nyiam los ntawm sab, raws li ob lub xyoo ua ke sib. Tab sis cov brawls zoo li no tsis yog vim li cas rau kev lom zem. Tus me nyuam siv nws niam txoj kev luag nyav ua ib qho kev tsis txaus siab, ces sim piav rau nws yog vim li cas nws tsis zoo rau kev sib ntaus. Tab sis punishing tus me nyuam rau kev cwj pwm nruj nruj yog siv tsis tau: nws tsuas yog tsis to taub nws tau txais dab tsi. Nws yog qhov zoo dua los ua "ua ntej ntawm txoj kev nkhaus". Tsis tas yuav zaum zaum ntawm ib qho chaw khawb hauv sandbox thiab lob nws txhais tes ntawm kev cia li txav - cia li nyob ze txaus los cuam tshuam rau lub sijhawm. Qhia koj tus menyuam kom tso cai ua ntej koj coj lwm tus khoom ua si, piav qhia seb yog vim li cas koj thiaj yuav tsum tau ua siab ntev rau koj lem thiab vim li cas koj yuav tsum ua siab ntev rau ntawm cov karapuzes. Ib tug me nyuam yuav tsum raug qhia kom ua si nrog lwm cov me nyuam. Txoj hauj lwm ntawm cov kev cuam tshuam tsis yog yuav ua rau qhov tseeb hais tias ib txhia yuav ua rau kev nkag siab ntawm qhov kev tso cai, thiab lwm cov neeg yuav ua cov neeg raug tsim txom. Thiab tag nrho cov no - nrog rau kev pom zoo ntawm cov niam tsev uas ntseeg hais tias cov me nyuam yuav to taub.

Yog tias tus me nyuam tau ua phem rau:

• Tsis txhob cem nws rau ntawm lwm tus me nyuam - hla tus neeg ua txhaum rau sab nraub qeeb;

• Nrhiav qhov teeb meem ntawm qhov teeb meem ("Kuv thawb vim tias kuv nyiam lub tsheb thiab kuv xav ua si nrog nws");

• Qhia qhov zoo li cas ntawm kev sib cav zoo li: "Saib seb, tus me nyuam raug mob, nws quaj";

• Qhia txog txoj hauv kev tsis sib haum xeeb: koj yuav tsum tau thov kev zam txim, kev khuv xim, xa cov khoom ua si rov qab;

• Piav seb yuav ua li cas: nug kom tau ib lub tsheb, hais kom hloov cov khoom ua si lossis ua si ua ke.

Yog tias koj tus me nyuam yog kev thab plaub, tsis qhia nws kom hloov. Nyob rau hauv cov me nyuam, lub tswv yim ntawm "cia mus mus" tsis muaj dab tsi ua nrog "sawv rau koj tus kheej." Tus me nyuam tsis tau to taub zoo heev thaum qhov "hloov" no "tau muab" thiab nrog rau qhov kev quab yuam. Lub puab tsaig muaj peev xwm "hloov siab" yog tias koj tsis tso cai rau nws mus koom cov xuab zeb mus taug kev los yog ib tug neeg ua ntej nws coj cov khoom ua si nws xav noj. Qhia koj tus menyuam kom ua raws li cov lus hais: "Koj tsis tau ua, kuv tsis nyiam nws," mus ib ntus thiab tsis txhob mloog tus neeg dag ntxias.

Cov tswv me me

Txoj cai ntawm lub sandbox tseem ceeb - txhua yam khoom ua si hauv nws muaj ntau, txhua tus muaj cai los ua si nrog lawv. Tab sis, yuav tsum tau qhia rau tus me nyuam yog ib qho txuj tshawb fawb. Hauv ob los yog peb lub xyoos, cov me nyuam muaj kev paub txog cov tswv cuab: tus me nyuam pom tias muaj tej yam uas muaj rau nws xwb; Lo lus "mine" tshwm sim, tus me nyuam nquag tawm tsam tiv thaiv nws cov khoom ntiag tug. Kroha tsis tau to taub tias nws cov khoom ua si tau muab rau ib ntus, thiab tsis mus ib txhis, ces nws tau npau taws thiab chim siab. Tsis txhob hu rau tus me nyuam hlob. Tab sis qhia kom qhia - nws yog ntshaw. Ua kev ywj siab rau koj tus me nyuam: koj zoo heev, yog li koj yuav tsum sib koom nrog cov menyuam thaum koj xav tau. Hu mob siab: lwm tus menyuam tsis muaj lub tsheb zoo nkauj, thiab nws xav ua kom nws caij. Muab kev pauv: koj bark mus ua si duav, thiab koj muab dej zoo nkauj tuaj yeem ua! Cia tus me nyuam sib koom nrog kev xyiv fab, tsis nrog kev khuv xim. Qhuas thiab nquag zoo siab thaum thawj zaug txiav txim siab los qiv koj nyiam khoom ua si. Txhawb nqa lub peev xwm tshiab nrog kev xav zoo. Nyob rau ntawm qhov piv txwv ntawm cov neeg fairy tales thiab cartoons, qhia seb nws zoo npaum licas (cov cim qhia meej meej rau tus menyuam qhov "zoo" thiab "phem"). Koj tuaj yeem qhia kev ua siab zoo los ntawm cov khoom ua si. Yog tias tag nrho tib tug me nyuam tsis xav nrog cov khoom ntiag tug, tsis txhob yuam nws. Ntau tus niam, ntseeg hais tias tus menyuam yuav tsum sib koom lawv cov khoom ua si, nrog lawv tus kheej tig nws mus rau hauv lub cev. Ib qho duab: Niam yuav siv nws cov khoom ua si ntawm nws tus tub nrog cov lus: "Tsis txhob ua siab loj, tus tub hluas xav ua si," Tus me nyuam tau txais ob npaug ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws: thawj zaug, nws muaj kev xav tsis zoo thiab tom ntej nrog kev mob siab ntau dua yuav tiv thaiv nws lub vaj tse; ob zaug, nws zoo nkaus li nws tias tus neeg ze tshaj plaws yog tus neeg ntxeev siab rau nws, nws yuav siv rau ntawm tus neeg ua txhaum. Nco ntsoov rau ntawm koj tus me nyuam sab! Qhov tseeb tiag, tus menyuam yuav tsum sib faib, tab sis tsis yog lub nra ntawm nws tus kheej. Lwm cov me nyuam yuav tsum lees tias thaum koj tus me nyuam xav ua si nrog nws tus kheej khoom ua si, tsis muaj leej twg muaj cai thov nws. Yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob muaj lub hiav txwv ntawm kua muag? Tsis txhob nqa cov khoom ua si kim rau qhov chaw. Cov khoom ua si nyiam tshaj plaws ntawm tus me nyuam, dhau lawm, yuav tsum tau nyob hauv tsev - qhov tseeb rau lwm tus me nyuam qhov no tsis yog qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis tsuas yog tej yam uas yuav ua rau lub cev tsis zoo, ploj, muab rhuav tshem, muab faus, coj mus pov tseg. Qhov tshwj xeeb rau cov menyuam yaus kuv ua tau! hloov, xav txog qhov no. Yog tias hnub no nyiam tsav tsheb kauj vab, taug kev nrog nws, hla lub tsev kawm ntawv nrog ib tog twg, txwv tsis pub tag nrho txoj kev taug yuav raug tso tawm los ntawm cov neeg nyiam tsav tsheb. Nws yog ib qho yooj yim kom khaws pob nrog cov khoom ua si rau hauv txoj kev hauv txoj kev hauv tsev - thiab koj tsis tas yuav ntxuav lawv txhua lub sijhawm, thiab yuav tsis muaj cov khoom foamy tshwj xeeb tshaj plaws hauv cov pob.

Niam-irritant

Niam ntawv nyob ntawm chaw ua si feem ntau lawv tus kheej yuav luam cov kev tsis sib haum xeeb. Yuav kom tsis txhob taug kev mus rau hauv ib qho chaw uas tsis pom zoo, tsis txhob pom txoj kev ua yeeb yam ntawm kev ua tub rog hauv lub sandbox. Yog, koj tus me nyuam yuav tsum raug thawb, tshem nws cov khoom ua si, rhuav tshem kulichiki, tab sis qhov no tsis yog kev sib koom tes ntawm kev xiam hlwb, tab sis tus cwj pwm coj txawv ntawm cov me nyuam yaus. Nco ntsoov saib tom qab tus menyuam. Rau cov niam, qhov chaw ua si yog qhov chaw nyob qhov twg "domestic hermits" ua ib lub neej zoo heev rau lub neej. Tab sis, thaum koj tau cog lus nrog tus "colleague", koj tsis yog kev saib xyuas qhov teeb meem txaus ntshai, tab sis tsis nco qab qhia rau qhov txawv txav ib qho tseem ceeb. Yog tsis muaj koj, nws tsis paub hais tias yuav ua viav vias rau ib teev - qia dub, thiab muaj xuab zeb - ua tsis ncaj. Muab txiv neej txoj kev ywj pheej! Tsis txhob yank ntawm txhua lub sij hawm koj tus me nyuam - tom qab tag nrho, nws ua rau cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig koj. Kev tsis sib haum xeeb yog thawj zaug ntawm cov me nyuam, thiab yog tias lawv tsis dhau, cov niam txiv tuaj pab. Cov menyuam yaus yuav tsum kawm nrog kev sib raug zoo. Niam ntawv txoj kev txuam yog qhov tsim nyog yog tus me nyuam coj tus cwj pwm ua rau nws tus kheej los yog lwm tus me nyuam raug mob. Tag nrho cov teeb meem tsis sib haum xeeb yuav tsum tau hais kom tsis txhob nrog cov me nyuam, tab sis nrog lawv niam lawv txiv. Tsis txhob tsa koj lub suab thiab tsis tsa koj txhais tes mus rau lwm tus menyuam (rau koj tus kheej, txawm li ntawd los, los xij). Hauv kev sib cav nrog tus niam txiv ntawm lwm tus me nyuam, koj tuaj yeem tsis tau kev tshaj tawm tus kheej kev tsis txaus siab lossis kev sib liam. Cia lo lus "peb" tshwm hauv koj qhov kev sib tham, nws tso cai rau tus neeg tuaj nkag teb chaws nkag siab tias koj npaj txhij rau kev sib tham. Qhia peb seb koj pom qhov teeb meem li cas, thiab mloog rau lwm sab. Ua ke, sib tham txog txoj hau kev. Thiab yog tias nws yog lo lus txib ntawm koj tus me nyuam uas ua rau qhov teeb meem, qhia rau cov neeg tau ua phem qhia kev npau taws. Tom qab lub siab tus, theem saum toj kawg nkaus thov txim, yog tias muaj dab tsi. Yog tias koj tsis xav txog koj tus menyuam txhaum, tsis txhob "khiav mus" hauv kev teb. Qhia koj lub tswv yim. Es tsis txhob sib tham koj hnov ​​curses? Tig ib ncig thiab tawm mus. Thiab sim tsis tshuam nrog rau tsev neeg no lawm.