Yuav ua li cas tsa ib tug txiv neej tiag

Ntawm cov hoob kawm, txhua txhua tus ntxhais npau suav ntawm nws ntsib "tus txiv neej tiag tiag". Muaj tseeb tiag, txhua yam muab tso rau hauv nws cov lus, vim hais tias peb txhua tus nyias muaj nyias lub ntsiab lus ntawm "tam sim no." Tab sis cov txiv neej zoo no tsis poob saum ntuj, lawv tau ua los ntawm ib tug neeg zoo li ntawd. Thiab qhov no yog nws niam nws txiv. Li ntawd, koj yuav tsa ib tus "txiv neej tiag" los ntawm ib tug tub hluas li cas? Cia peb to taub. Thaum koj xub tuaj tos koj cov me nyuam me, koj thawj zaug ntshaw yog los tiv thaiv nws, tiv thaiv nws ntawm qhov teeb meem thiab teeb meem, tsis txhob cia koj tus kheej mus rau ib pliag. Tom qab tag nrho, lub ntiaj teb nyob ib puag ncig ces loj thiab txaus ntshai, thiab koj tus me nyuam yog me me, tsis paub thiab tsis muaj kev tiv thaiv. Xwb, thawj xyoo ntawm tus me nyuam lub neej, thiab tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau thawj lub hlis, koj tus me nyuam yuav nyob ntawm koj xwb, nws ua tsis tau dab tsi ntawm nws tus kheej. Tab sis lub sij hawm dhau mus, thiab nrog nws muaj kev hloov nrog koj tus menyuam: nws loj hlob, txais cov kev txawj tshiab thiab peev xwm. Nws twb kawm lawm tias yuav ua licas taub hau xwb, tab sis thawj zaug nws zaum thiab nkag, qhov thawj tus hniav tau tawm los lawm, tus me nyuam tab tom ua nws thawj kauj ruam thiab koj to taub tias koj tus me nyuam tsis yog nws tus kheej thaum nws tsuas yog ob peb hlis dhau los. Nws pib tshaj tawm nws tus kheej ua cim, nws muaj nws tus kheej kev xav thiab kev ntshaw, uas tej zaum yuav txawv los ntawm koj li.

Tsis muaj kev tswj tag nrho
Qee tus ntseeg tias "niam ntawv tub" loj hlob tawm ntawm cov tub hluas uas tau hlub heev dhau thaum yau. Qhov no tsis muaj tseeb. Kev hlub tsis tuaj yeem ua pauj los ntawm ib tug neeg, tsuas yog lwm tus neeg xwb. Tab sis nws tseem tsis tas yuav puag ncig tus me nyuam nrog lub hyperopeak thiab dai nws zoo li ib tug qaib ntawm chickens, tswj txhua kauj ruam. Qee lub sij hawm nws tsim nyog tawm ntawm tus me nyuam ib ntus xwb, vim tias nws tus me nyuam xav tau nws qhov chaw thiab lub sij hawm rau nws tus kheej txoj kev kawm thiab kev paub txog lub ntiaj teb nyob ib puag ncig nws.

Txiv thiab tus tub
Psychologists tshawb nrhiav kev tshawb fawb ntawm cov menyuam yaus kindergarten thiab pom tias qhov lus nug nyuaj tshaj plaws rau cov me nyuam muaj hnub nyoog kawm ntawv yog: "Koj puas nyiam koj niam los yog leej txiv ntxiv?" Ib tug poj niam feem ntau ceev nrooj tau siv rau qhov tseeb tias nws tus tub me yeej ib txwm nrog nws, vim nws siv tus kheej nrog tus menyuam 23 teev ntawm 24 ntawm. Thiab Papa ua tus thib ob thiab zoo li thaum tuaj tos menyuam: ua si nrog menyuam thaum koj tseem ua noj ua haus, hloov nws daim pawj, mus taug kev nrog lub nraub qaum, yog li koj tuaj yeem tseg sijhawm me ntsis. Thiab nws tsis yog ib qho txawv heev uas thaum me nyuam loj me ntsis, koj pib xav tias khib nyiab ntawm tus tub mus rau nws txiv, thaum tus me nyuam muaj kev txaus siab pib nrog cov yawg los yog thaum lawv sib tw ua si thiab ua si "shchekokalka" thiab tus menyuam yaus nws luag thiab hugs tus txiv. Yog tias koj xav kom tus tub tsis txhob los ua "leej niam tus tub", tab sis hlob tuaj ua ib tus txiv neej tiag, ces koj yuav tsum tsis txhob cuam tshuam nrog lawv. Lawv yuav tsum muaj ib lub sij hawm thaum lawv tuaj yeem nyob ua ke, tsis muaj koj: mus rau ib qho chaw taug kev, mus rau dej los yog nuv ntses, mus rau tom hav zoov kom nceb los yog mus rau qhov chaw ua si pub zaub mov, mus koom nrog tej yam kev ua haujlwm. Yog li ntawd, tus tub yuav tso siab tau nrog nws txiv qee yam ntawm nws cov kev paub me me, tsis yog muab rau koj. Yog li ntawd tus txiv yuav qhia tau tus me nyuam lub tswv yim ntawm nws lub neej, uas tus tub kawm tau thiab to taub qhov zoo thiab qhov phem. Qhia rau kuv saib zoo li cas thaum muaj kev sib ntaus sib tua, thiab qhov chaw koj yuav tsum nyob twj ywm ntsiag to thiab kis los ntawm los yog yuav ua li cas koj tus hluas nkauj nyiam nrog nws, leej txiv yuav tsum qhia raws nraim. Yog li, kev sib raug zoo yog tsim los ntawm leej txiv thiab tus tub.

Kev sib raug zoo hauv tsev neeg
Cov me nyuam yaus nqus txhua yam ntaub ntawv xws li daim txhuam cev. Lawv tseem tsis tau tsim lawv tus cwj pwm mus rau lub ntiaj teb puag ncig lawv thiab yog li ntawd lawv ua raws li tus cwj pwm ntawm cov laus, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov niam txiv. Nws tsis tsim nyog dua ib zaug ntxiv nrog tus poj niam ntawm qhov chaw thiab paub qhov kev sib raug zoo - qhov tseeb ntawm tus me nyuam pom txhua yam, thiab cov kev xav tsis zoo no cuam tshuam nws lub xeev thiab kev ntxhov siab. Yog tias tus me nyuam pom li cas cov niam txiv ib leeg hlub ib leeg, raug kho nrog txoj kev to taub thiab kev hlub, ces qhov no yog hom kev coj tus me nyuam yuav ua raws li txoj cai.

Cov txiv neej tsis quaj
Lawv quaj, thiab tseem, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias nws yog ib tug me nyuam tub. Nws tsuas yog ib txoj hauv kev qhia koj tus mob thiab kev xav. Thiab yog hais tias txij thaum yau los nyob hauv ib lub taub hau rau tus me nyuam, tus ntxhais tsuas tuaj yeem quaj, nws ua rau kev nyuaj siab thiab kev yuam cai rau kev quaj ntsuag hauv tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus txiv neej yav tom ntej. Thiab tom qab ntawd peb cov poj niam, peb tus kheej thiab xav paub yog vim li cas qhov no yog peb tus tub hluas poob mus rau ib qho tsis zoo los yog loj dua, pib pib npau taws thiab ntxhov siab thaum peb quaj. Txhua yam los ntawm me nyuam yaus thiab kev coj tsis ncaj.

Qhuas tus menyuam
Hmoov tsis zoo, peb kuj muaj lwm tus qauv - tias tus tub hluas xav tau kev kawm tsis tas li, thiab tsawg dua nws yog qhuas thiab poob siab, zoo dua. Thiab tom qab ntawd peb quaj tias peb cov txiv neej yog kev mob siab. Tsis txhob ntshai los txhawb tus mos ab rau ntau yam haujlwm zoo. Thiab yog tias koj ua yuam kev ntawm tus menyuam - ntaus los yog qw, vim txhua yam tshwm sim - ces koj yuav tsum tau thov tus menyuam rau kev zam txim thiab piav qhia rau nws vim li cas koj coj zoo li qhov ntawd (nkees, tsis xav). Tom qab tag nrho, kev muaj peev xwm kev khuv xim thiab kev txhawj xeeb yuav tsis ua rau koj tus tub tsis tshua muaj siab ntseeg, tab sis tsuas yog mus rau nws qhov zoo xwb.

Pluaj plob - tsis tas rau txoj kev zoo
Cov neeg txhawb zog thiab tw tw ntawm "muab txoj siv" rau ib tug tub loj hlob, nws zoo li, yuav tsis pom ib hom lus. Thiab tsis tau, tsis txhob maj thaum thawj rooj plaub tau thev tus me nyuam mos. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam tub pib ua siab phem, sim ua kom pom tseeb txog thaj tsam ntawm qhov uas tau tso cai, tom qab dhau qhov uas yuav siv tau qhov kev rau txim rau punitive. Tab sis tag nrho cov no yuav tsum tau piav qhia rau tus me nyuam, yog tias nws tsis zoo li qub dua lwm zaus, nws yuav raug txim. Tus me nyuam yuav tsum raug ceeb toom, vim li cas nws raug txim thiab vim li cas. Thiab nws yog qhov zoo uas yuav tau sim ua kom tsis muaj kev siv dag zog. Tom qab tag nrho, aggression tsuas yog tau ua kom muaj kev sib ceg. Thiab qhov no yog li cas, feem ntau, cov tyrants yug.

Yog tias koj tsa ib tug tub, ces koj muaj lub cib fim-kom muab lub ntiaj teb no tsim nyog. Thiab ces muaj ib hnub ib txhia ntxhais yuav hais rau koj tias: "Ua tsaug, koj tus tub yog ib tus txiv neej tiag!".