Complexes yeej tsis tuaj ua ke nrog yug, lawv tau tsim thoob plaws lub neej. Thiab qee cov tau ploj, thaum lwm tus tuaj yeem tshwm ntsej tshwm muag.
Yog tias tus me nyuam muaj qee yam nyuaj, nws tuaj yeem pom sai li sai tau, nrog lub qhov muag liab qab. Nco ntsoov tias cov me nyuam yuav tsis nrog koj cov ntaub ntawv tseem ceeb xws li cuam tshuam lawv cov complexes. Lawv yuav ua kom tag nrho hauv lawv tus kheej, tus me nyuam yuav tsis qhia qhov no nrog leej twg. Koj yuav tsum nres nws, thiab tsis txhob pom ntau ceg yav tom ntej. Sim nrhiav kom paub tias qhov sib txawv ua kom koj tus menyuam zoo siab. Tsuas ua nws zoo zoo, koj tsis tas yuav txhawj xeeb rau tus menyuam, lossis lwm tus koj tuaj yeem khiav ntawm lub teb ntau dua.
Yog tias koj tswj kom paub tias yam dab tsi nws yog, ces pib ua txhua yam kom koj txov cov no. Yog tias tus me nyuam xav tias nws yog ugly, convince nws txwv tsis pub, nrhiav txoj hau kev los ua pov thawj rau nws.
Dab tsi, ces. Yog tias koj tsis paub ntau ntxiv txog nws txoj hauv kev, ces koj yuav tsum tau ua haujlwm me ntsis thiab sim tshem tag nrho cov complexes ib zaug. Yuav ua li cas ua nws, tam sim no peb yuav qhia rau koj. Cia peb pib thiab txheeb tawm qhov teeb meem ntawm "Yuav ua li cas nce ib tug me nyuam tsis muaj ntau yam? "
Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj pom tias koj tus menyuam muaj kev kho siab, nws txaj muag, txhawj xeeb, tsis paub txog nws lub tswvyim, yog tias nws tsis paub zoo thiab tsis muaj peev xwm qhia nws cov txuj ci zais zais, ces koj tsuas yog yuav tsum pab tus me nyuam kom kov yeej txhua yam hauv nws lub hlwb!
Yuav pib nrog, koj yuav tsum muab tus me nyuam ntau dua kev hlub, koj yuav tsum qhia nws tias koj hlub nws. Txhua tus neeg xav tau kev hlub, nws xav tau ib tug neeg xav tau. Qhia nws tias nws muaj kev hlub tshua rau koj, tias nws yog tus tub zoo tshaj plaws. Nws tuaj yeem hais tawm hauv cov lus yooj yim, thiab nrog kev sib tham thiab ntsia.
Feem ntau, cov kws kho mob pom zoo kom khom tus menyuam tsis pub tsawg tshaj 4 zaug hauv ib hnub - nws tsis yog tias nws xav zoo, nws yuav tsum muaj kev vam meej, zoo, txog 8 zaug ib hnub twg - qhov no yog qhov zoo rau qhov zoo. Hla koj tus menyuam kom ntau li ntau tau. Kov yog ib txoj kev sib txuas nrog tib neeg, thiab koj yuav tsum siv nrog koj tus me nyuam ua muaj qhov xwm txheej. Kev kov yuav tsis cia nws mus ntawm nws tus kheej, tsis txhob cia tus menyuam nyob ib leeg lossis / lossis poob. Nws tseem yuav raug sau tseg tias kov tau raug muab rau kev xyiv fab, thiab paub tseeb tias lub cev muaj tseeb ntawm yam peb tseem muaj. Yuav ua li cas hais txog kev khawm yog kev xyiv fab tshwj xeeb rau cov niam txiv, uas yuav ua rau lawv lom zem heev. Tab sis qee tus niam txiv mus ua raws li txoj cai thiab tsis txhob cia tus me nyuam, ntseeg tias nws twb laus lawm, thiab lub sij hawm "hugs" twb dhau los lawm.
Tau, nws yog ib qho ua tau kom khaus thiab siv cov xeeb nraug nrog me nyuam yaus - qhov no nyuaj rau koj, tiam sis dhau ntawm qhov no koj yuav tsum tau khawm thiab qhia tias muaj mob rau koj tus menyuam.
Tsis txhob ua siab deb los qhia koj tus menyuam, nws yuav muaj peev xwm teb tau koj ib yam, vim nws xav tau nws. Yog tias koj tsis muab tus me nyuam los qhia kev mob nkeeg, ces qhov txhaum yuav hle koj, tsis yog rau nws.
Tsis txhob coj koj tus menyuam mus rau lwm yam tshwj xeeb, coj nws vim nws yog koj tus menyuam, nws feem ntau muaj ib qho. Thiab nco ntsoov, nws yog ib qho zoo li no, hauv lub ntiaj teb, txawm tias tus menyuam muaj qhov sib txawv.
Tam sim no cia peb tham txog tus kheej, vim tias nws tseem ceeb heev kom txhawm rau me nyuam yaus kom yog. Kev ntseeg tus kheej zoo tshaj plaws txog cov complexes. Koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias cov neeg uas muaj kev khaum siab yuav tsis chim siab thaum ib tus neeg thuam lawv, lawv tsis ntshai yuav tsum tsis lees paub. Tiam sis yog tias ib tug neeg tsis tshua muaj kev ntseeg tus kheej, ces nws yuav ploj lawm, nws yuav ua tiag tiag rau txoj kev thuam uas los ntawm lwm tus neeg. Txhua tus me nyuam muaj ntau nyob ntawm qhov khoom plig uas peb muab rau nws. Tom qab tag nrho, koj xav tias, koj yuav qhuas koj tus menyuam npaum li cas? Feem ntau cov yuav, nws tsis tshua muaj, vim hais tias koj xav tias taw rau nws cov shortcomings, nws yuav tua lawv. Tau, nws yuav ntshe yuav, tab sis nws tsis zoo li tias nws yuav ua hauj lwm zoo, tab sis ntau yuav tsim tau ntau yam.
Koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias tus me nyuam tsis yog tus neeg tau nyiaj tag nrho. Thaum koj taw qhia qhov kev poob haujlwm, koj yuav xav tias nws zoo dua, vim tias koj paub zoo txog koj cov kev tsis haum, tab sis tus me nyuam ..., nws tseem hluas dhau lawm thiab tsuas yog mloog rau lwm tus, tab sis tsis yog nws tus kheej.
Nyob rau ntawm qhov no, koj twv yuav raug hu yuav tsum xyuas kom meej tias koj tus me nyuam zoo, thiab tsis muaj dab tsi ntxiv. Zaum nrog nws thiab txiav txim siab tias nws muaj kev zoo nyob hauv nws, nrhiav kiag li txhua yam ntawm nws txoj kev zoo. Pib hnub no, pib qhuas tus menyuam rau txhua yam. Nws zoo dua hais tias: "Kuv xav tias koj tsuas kawm tau nqe no zoo heev" dua "Kuv xav hais tias koj kawm tau qhov paj huam no zoo nkauj zoo." Raws li koj pom, muaj qhov sib txawv hauv ib lo lus, tab sis tus me nyuam yuav paub nws zoo thiab pom nws.
Tab sis saib, hais tias nws tseem ntsia sincere. Tom qab tag nrho, tus me nyuam tam sim ntawd pom, yog tias koj "fake", qhov no yuav ntau dua oppress nws, uas koj obviously tsis nyiam.
Ntau hom lus peb qhia koj kom txo kom tsawg kawg nkaus. Tsis txhob hnov qab tias swearing tsis ua kom tau zoo dua. Nws yuav cia li ua zuj zus yog tias koj cem nws txhua lub sijhawm. Yog tias koj npau taws heev rau nws, ces nws zoo dua yog tias koj tsis txaus siab rau txoj cai, tab sis tsis yog rau nws. Uas yog, tsis txhob hais tias nws yog phem - qhov no yog lub ntsiab cai! Yog tias koj qhia tus me nyuam txhua hnub tias nws yog tub nkeeg, nws yuav ua rau nws nyuaj rau nws nrog nws txoj kev ua haujlwm, thiab qhov no yog qhov tseeb.
Peb tau sau cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb. Koj tuaj yeem ua raws li peb lub tswv yim, los sis koj yuav tsis ua raws li nws, tab sis koj yuav tsum paub kom tau ib tug me nyuam tsis muaj ntau yam, nws yuav tsum raug tsa los ntawm qhov pib thaum pib. Tsis txhob tso nws tag nrho rau tus me nyuam nws tus kheej, pab nws. Thiab yog tias koj tsis ua, ces tam sim no lub neej yuav ua rau koj, tab sis tsuas yog nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej txoj kev.