Nws feem ntau tshwm sim hais tias ib tug txiv neej tau ntsib nrog ib tug ntxhais, nws nyiam nws heev, nws yog npaj rau kev sib raug zoo nrog nws, thiab nws zoo li dhau lawm. Xws li, ob leeg yeej dhau los ua ib tug khub zoo, thiab lawv tsis hindered ntawm no. Tab sis tus txiv neej, rau cov tsis paub hais tias vim li cas, nkag mus rau hauv lub xeev ntawm "pause", nyob rau hauv uas nws yog dawb, tab sis nws xav rau tus ntxhais tseem tsim. Tab sis, nyob rau hauv lub neej, nws thiaj li tau tshwm sim tias cov ntxhais tsis muaj xws li ib tug tsoom fwv, uas yog, lawv tsis muaj ib tug "pause" hom. Thiab qhov no txhais li cas?
Vim tus ntxhais tsis tuaj yeem kauj ruam nws tus kheej, tsis muaj dab tsi tshwm sim, tab sis nws txoj kev xav rau nws ... Nws yuav maj mam ua ib tus phooj ywg rau nws. Thiab xws li ib tug txiv neej kev sib raug zoo yuav tsis npaj. Lawv yuav ua phooj ywg zoo rau ntau xyoo, tab sis tom qab ob peb xyoos nws tseem yuav sim kom ze rau nws, txawm nws ntau yam complexes. Vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim? Vim hais tias tus txiv neej twb pom tus ntxhais zoo, nws paub nws zoo heev tam sim no. Nws yeej ib txwm txhawb nyob rau hauv ib qho teeb meem nyuaj, tab sis tus ntxhais tsis xav tau nws ... Muaj ib qho zoo nkauj zoo nkauj uas kuj piav qhia txog vim li cas txiv neej nyiam rov qab mus rau qub.
Ntawd yog, koj yuav tsum to taub tias cov poj niam nyiam kawm tej yam tshiab, thiab rau cov txiv neej nws tsis txaus siab, lawv npaj rau kev sib raug zoo nrog tus ntxhais tsuas yog tom qab lawv paub nws zoo, vim tias yuav ua teeb meem tsawg.
Tsis txhob xav hais tias txhua tus txiv neej ntsib lawv tus khub niam txiv lub siab - qhov no tsis yog. Txiv neej tuaj yeem pib siv cov kauj ruam loj thiab pib thaum pib - qhov no tshwm sim feem ntau. Thiab nws yog ob tug khub uas tsis sib haum xeeb, thiab tus ntxhais pib nug nws tus kheej rau nws tus kheej tom qab tus txiv yawg tawm: "Vim li cas tus txiv neej xav rov qab mus rau qub dua? ".
Cov txiv neej nyiam xav rov qab mus rau yav tas los vim qhov laj thawj zoo. Muaj ntau ntau cov lus piav qhia rau qhov no, tab sis tam sim no peb yuav sim los xyuas seb dab tsi tuaj rau peb tom qab tag nrho.
Peb thaum xub thawj tsis tau hais txog kev ua txhaum ntawm tib neeg, nco ntsoov? Txog nws tau ua phooj ywg nrog lub sijhawm thiab khoom. Tib txoj ntsiab cai no kuj sib nrauj. Cia peb xav txog qhov teeb meem no: koj nyob nrog koj tus txiv 2 xyoos, txhua yam zoo; nws tau 6 xyoo lawm, koj tab tom tau txais bored, koj tus txiv pib enrle koj, zoo, thiab lwm cov lus qhia tsis zoo uas tshwm sim tau ntev dhau ib lub neej nrog txhua lwm. Tom qab 10 xyoo nyob ua ke, koj to taub tias koj tsis haum ua ke. Muaj ob hom kab ke ntawm kev loj hlob ntawm cov xwm txheej: koj muaj me nyuam, koj nyob ib leeg. Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws uas yog qhov tseem ceeb hauv kev sib nrauj. Yog tias koj muaj me nyuam, koj yuav muaj kev tu siab rau lawv, thiab koj yuav tsis muaj feem, thiab thaum kawg koj yuav to taub tias koj tau ua txhua yam zoo. Tab sis yog tias koj yog ib tug me nyuam tsis muaj tsev nyob ... txhua yam muaj peev xwm xaus tau txoj kev sib nrauj.
Yog li, tam sim no peb xav tau kab txoj kab ntawm txhua tus txij nkawm tom qab sib nrauj. Tus ntxhais muaj ntau txoj kev yuav tau txais kev sib deev, nws yuav tsis tsum nres. Nws, feem ntau, yuav ua li ntawd. Raws li rau cov txiv neej, ces txhua yam yog ntau nyuaj. Tab sis txawm nws yuav xav tau qhov no, vim hais tias nws thawj zaug sib yuav xaus hauv kev tsis ua hauj lwm, muaj ib qho ploj mus nrog ob qhov nws yuav xaus li no. Nws tsis nyiam qhov no, nws pib xav txog tias nws yuav siv nws lub neej li cas. Nws pib nco lub sij hawm zoo ntawm lub neej nrog nws tus qub hluas nkauj, ua txhua yam zoo, thiab nws paub tias nws, ib tug thiab tsuas, xav tau nws. Nws pib hu nws, lawv pib sib txuas lus thiab txhua yam pib tau zoo, thiab txawm tias lawv muaj hmoo, lawv yuav rov qab sib yuav dua lawv txoj kev sib yuav dua. Tom qab ntawd txhua yam yuav tsum "zoo li kev ua haujlwm", yog li nws feem ntau tshwm sim. Qhov no yog thawj qhov kev xaiv.
Muaj lwm yam yog vim li cas koj sib nrauj, zoo, txiv neej xav rov qab mus rau qub dua. Nws yog txhua yam txog tib txoj ntsiab cai. Nws tau nyob ua ke rau qee lub sijhawm, nws paub tias nws tau kawm koj zoo heev, nws muaj peev xwm ua txhua yam uas yuav zoo rau koj. Nws sau tag nrho cov ntaub ntawv no tau ntau xyoo, thiab nws tau ua tiav. Tam sim no nws, rau lub sij hawm ua, nyob hauv nws tus kheej thiab to taub hais tias nrog tus ntxhais tshiab yuav tau sau cov ntaub ntawv no dua. Tab sis yog vim li cas nws ua, vim hais tias muaj twb yog ib tug ntxhais uas nws paub zoo heev, thiab nws dhau lawm? Tom qab tag nrho, koj tuaj yeem rov qab sib txheeb thiab txuas mus nyob, zoo li yog tias tsis muaj dab tsi tshwm sim. Li ntawd, dhau mus ntau zaus, thiab nws suits txhua leej txhua tus, vim hais tias nws tsis ua rau leej twg muaj mob loj dua.
Txoj kev sib nrauj yog ib qho zoo li "hom". Koj nyob nrog ib leeg ntev heev, koj nkees nkees ib leeg, koj xav tau yam tsawg kawg nkaus. Muaj kev sib nrauj, thiab rov pib dua, qee zaum, tsis muaj peev xwm. Yuav kom tsis txhob muaj qhov no, koj yuav tsum nyob rau hauv kev sib yuav kom yog. Ua kom tsawg kawg hauv koj lub neej ua ke. Sim ua tej yam tshiab. Tom qab tag nrho, cov txiv neej muaj kev ncaj ncees heev, lawv xav nrog lwm tus ntxhais pw, tab sis lawv ua tsis tau qhov no. Thiab koj, ntawm chav kawm, tsis txhob cia nws ua li no. Tom qab ntawd nws, tob nyob rau hauv pem, muaj ib lub tswv yim. Kuv mam li nrog koj ib ntus, taug kev tsawg, thiab rov qab los rau koj. Ntawd yog, nws yog tseeb tias nws tus txiv yuav xav rov qab, vim nws tau ua nws ib ntus. Nws haum txhua yam nyob rau hauv kev sib yuav, nws cia li xav tau hloov, uas yog tag nrho.
Yog li ntawd, cov poj niam hauv cov kev sib raug zoo yuav tsum tau ua tib zoo saib xyuas qhov nws xav tau ntawm nws tus txiv. Tom qab tag nrho, tsis tsuas yog koj li, tab sis kuj nws lub siab nyiam yuav tsum tau fulfilled. Tom qab ntawd qhov uas muaj feem rau txoj kev sib tsoo ntawm txoj kev sib yuav muaj tsawg dua. Koj tuaj yeem zam qhov tsis sib haum tsis sib haum xeeb uas tshwm sim los ntawm qhov tsis tseem ceeb.
Peb tau tshuaj xyuas lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb vim li cas txiv neej tawm ntawm cov poj niam thiab sim rov qab los. Cov laj thawj no yog tsim rau cov khub niam txiv uas zoo rau txoj kev sib raug zoo, thiab lawv haum ua ke, tab sis kev ua txij ua nkawm tam sim no yog ib qho tsis tshua pom. Lub tswv yim tseem ceeb: tom qab sib nrauj tsis txhob hnov qab txog koj tus hlub, tos kom nws hu, los yog, txawm tias nws muaj nuj nqis tsis cia, hu nws koj tus kheej. Tham nrog nws txog lub neej, nug nws tsis nyiam txog kev nyob nrog koj, tej zaum koj tuaj yeem kho cov kev tsis txaus siab no thiab txhua yam yuav zoo rau koj.