Qhov ntawd yog, thaum sawv ntsug ntawm qhov chaw nyob hauv lub chaw hla tebchaws, koj tuaj yeem ua rau thawj zaug tsis txaus siab rau cov neeg ua haujlwm, thiab ib teev tomqab - muaj kev npau taws ntawm cov poj niam tuaj rau hauv chaw ua haujlwm yam tsis tos "cia li thov". Txoj kev sib ntxub feem ntau pom los ntawm psychologists ua lwm txoj kev nyuab siab, vim hais tias thaum tsis ua hauj lwm nws tso cai rau lwm tus neeg ua txhaum rau dab tsi tshwm sim, thiab tsis rau yus tus kheej. Piv txwv, thaum peb raug pov tseg, npau taws npog qhov mob ntawm so. Instinctively, nyob rau hauv teb rau kev txom nyem, npau taws tshwm sim, ib lub siab xav thim rov qab. Txij li thaum muaj kev kub ntxhov yog kev xav tias yooj yim rau kev paub (piv txwv nrog kev ntshai los yog mob), nws feem ntau hides qab nws tus kheej yog dab tsi nyuaj tshaj rau kev kawm. Thiab yog hais tias nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no pib ua yeeb yam los ntawm kev ua phem (thiab tsis yog thawj kev xav), kev ua yuam kev yog kev tsis pom kev. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tau pom dab tsi (tej zaum) nraim sab hauv qab. Npau taws, coj mus rau lub pob kub npau taws - kev ua tsov rog phem.
Yuav ua li cas kom qhia kev npau taws?
Tsuas yog thaum pom kev npau taws thawj zaug yog kev tsis zoo los yog kev tsim txom. Xws li cov lus xaus tsis siv nyiaj rau cov haujlwm tseem ceeb. Tom qab tag nrho, kev npau taws yuav txhawb peb kom tshem tawm lossis hloov yam ua rau nws raug mob. Tsis muaj qhov kev xav zoo li no: "Qhov no yog lub teeb liab, uas peb to taub tias peb xav tau dab tsi thiab tsis ua, yuav ua li cas rau, thiab tsis muaj dab tsi. Npau taws cov ntsiab lus rau qee yam tseem ceeb thiab tseem tsis tau paub txog. " Yog tias peb tsis muaj peev xwm nthuav qhia nws ncaj qha, nws tab tom nrhiav workarounds. Nws muaj kev ruaj ntseg rau npau taws nrog tsev neeg plooj (porcelain), me ntsis ntxiv txaus ntshai - rau cov tsiaj nyeg, muaj hmoo heev - rau cov neeg ze. Nyob rau hauv peb kab lis kev cai nws yog customary rau suppress kev npau taws, uas yog tsis nkaus yog lawm. Kev khwv khaus khib nyiab feem ntau ua rau nws tus kheej mob hauv plab, plawv, plab. Psychologists, ntawm chav kawm, txhib kom npau taws nrog lub siab - nyob rau hauv ib lub txias lub taub hau mus nrhiav kev chim siab. Ua tib zoo piav qhia txoj kev xav tau txhais tau tias yog vim li cas rau lawv tus kheej thiab lwm tus neeg, thiab ua kom tiav qhov kev xav tau. Thiab feem ntau nws yog qhov zoo dua los nrhiav qhov xav tau lawv qab, es tsis txhob co cua nrog lawv qhov kev qhia. Tab sis thaum muaj ntau txoj kev sib ntxub, koj tuaj yeem "ntws" qhov nyiaj seem hauv ntau txoj kev. Freud kuj sau txog sublimation. Yog tias koj tsis yog, ua tib zoo mloog koj cov kev xav, koj yuav tsis muaj peev xwm txiav txim siab rau koj tus kheej, nws yuav ua rau koj xav zoo.
Yuav ua li cas tiv tau npau taws ntawm lwm tus?
Thawj qhov koj xav ua thaum koj pom tus neeg npau taws yuav tsum khiav tawm. Tom qab ntawd xav paub - thiab yog dab tsi nrog nws? Lub siab xav pab kom tshwm sim dhau los thiab tsis tas li. Sib tham txog qhov ua rau kev npau taws rau cov neeg uas tab tom muaj lub hwj chim ntawm lub sij hawm tam sim no, tsis tseem ceeb. Thiab los tham txog dab tsi tshwm sim rau nws, thaum passions tau subsided, yog heev tseem ceeb. Tsuas yog ntawm no feem ntau nws zoo nkaus li peb tsis tseem ceeb rau nthwv dej tom qab sib ntaus sib tua. Tab sis ob leeg rau tus neeg thab plaub, thiab rau koj cov kev sib raug zoo nrog nws (tshwj tsis yog, ntawm chav kawm, nws tsis yog neeg txawv) nws yog tsim kev puas tsuaj rau hom tias tsis muaj dab tsi tshwm sim. Yog tias koj xav tau qhov teeb meem no tsis rov muaj dua, koj yuav tsum tau ua kom meej rau tus neeg tua neeg: nws ua tsis txaus siab rau koj. Thiab tom qab ntawd muab sij hawm los tham txog cov laj thawj ntawm qhov kev coj cwj pwm no. Peb cov qub phooj ywg qub tsis paub txoj kev zoo tshaj plaws uas yuav tau npau taws, dua li yoj ib lub club. Qhov zoo tshaj, dhau sij hawm, cov neeg tau tsim ntau txoj kev pom zoo thiab kev pom zoo los ntawm kev "cia tua" - kev ua si, kev mob lub cev, kos duab, ntawv nyeem, koob siv, kev siv computer. Tab sis qhov zoo tshaj plaws ntawm lawv tsuas yog hais tias koj xav li cas tam sim no.