Txoj cai ntawm kev nplua thiab nyiaj pub dawb
Ua ntej tshaj plaws, tus me nyuam yuav tsum tsis txhob tso cai rau ib qho twg, nws yuav tsum muaj sij hawm zoo rau hnub ntawd .Nws muaj ntau tus niam kheev tu siab rau lawv cov me nyuam, cia lawv noj mov, thaum lawv xav tau thiab lawv xav tau li cas, pw tsaug zog thaum sawv ntxov lawv tuaj yeem ua rau nws tsis khuv xim . Qhov no yog qhov tsis ncaj ncees. Tus menyuam yuav tsum paub thaum twg thiab nws yuav tsum ua li cas. Thaum muaj hnub nyoog plaub mus rau tsib xyoos, cov me nyuam, tsis tas yuav tsum tau ua txhaum loj heev. Tab sis tsawg tshaj plaws, feem ntau cov elementary nws yuav tsum ua yam uas tsis muaj cov ntxias: muaj cov khoom tseem ceeb (thiab tsis yog cov uas nyiam), mus pw ntawm lub sijhawm, sau lawv cov khoom ua si. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam tsis kam ua li no, tsis txhob mloog nws cov lus thiab quaj. On qhov tsis tooj, yog hais tias nws quaj, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj rau ignore lub hysterics. Qhov tseeb yog tias cov menyuam yaus muaj kev coj xeeb ceem zoo rau lawv cov niam txiv. Yog hais tias tus kab mob kis tau hla txhua tus ntsej muag, koj tuaj yeem tso hem tus menyuam thiab piav qhia nws tias nws yuav tsum tau nyob twj ywm, tsis li nws yuav tau txais ib yam dab tsi. Los ntawm txoj kev, tam sim ntawd nws tsim nyog nco txog ib qho tseem ceeb ntawm niam thiab cov pog. Feem ntau lawv hais tias: "Sau cov khoom ua si thiab ces koj yuav tau txais ib lub chocolate bar" thiab yog li ntawd. Tab sis tus me nyuam yaus pib to taub tias txhua txhua daim ntawv thov nws tau ua, nws yuav tsum tau txais ib qho khoom plig. Tej kev xav no yuav tsis ua rau zoo. Vitoga, cov me nyuam pib ua homework rau ib qho tshiab ua ntej thiab mus kawm ntawv rau qhov tseeb tias lawv niam them lawv cov nyiaj. Yog tias koj tsis xav kom koj tus cwj pwm coj ua rau muaj qhov teeb meem no, kawm kom paub txhawb koj tus menyuam txoj kev coj zoo li cas. Yog tias nws tsis teb rau koj qhov kev thov, thiab ntau dua pib tsis paub koj, qhia rau koj tus menyuam tias thaum nws tsis ua raws li koj hais, nws yuav nyob twj ywm, piv txwv li, tsis muaj kev thaij duab rau thawj thawj zaug, cov menyuam uas raug siv rau qhov tseeb hais tias niam txiv ua tiav txhua yam lawv xav tau feem ntau tsis ua hnov mob. Yog li, koj yuav tsum tau qhia tias kev siab tsis tu thiab txias los yog coj tus me nyuam ntawm qhov nws siv los. Thiab tsis tas yuav qw rau nws, cog lus thiab tuav. Cia li ntsiag to tua TV thiab hais tias nws yuav tsis tau nws xav li cas txog thaum nws ua li koj xav tau. Yog tias pib tshwm sim, cia li coj tus cwj pwm kom zoo thiab tsis tuaj yeem. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv thaum tus me nyuam yaus thiab yog obstinate thiab ua koj siab phem, qhia rau nws hais tias nrog txhua tus nws qw lub txim nce thiab nws nyob qis qis tsis muaj cartoons ntxiv rau ib hnub, thiab rau ob. Thaum muaj hnub nyoog plaub xyoos, cov me nyuam twb tau nco ntsoov txhua yam thiab lawv pib kawm khib lav. Yog li, hnub tom qab, nws yuav twv yuav raug hu mus rau kvm nrog lub qab zib luag thiab dab neeg txog nws hlub Mom thiab nug kom muaj kev thaij duab. Qhov no, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob poob siab txog koj lub tsev thiab tsis txhob "tu siab." Nco ntsoov tias nws tau ua phem heev thiab raug rau txim ua ntej ib lub sijhawm. Koj lub hom phiaj yog tsis txhob ua txhaum. Thiab nws yog hais txog kev npau taws, thiab txog kev txhawj xeeb. Koj yuav tsum calmly qhia nws tias yog nws tsis siab nqig no feeb heev, lub suab yuav nce rau lwm hnub. Muaj qee tus me nyuam txoj kev coj tus cwj pwm ua hauj lwm tam sim ntawd, ib tug neeg tawv ncauj ntev dua, tab sis qhov kawg ntawm tus me nyuam nco txog txoj cai zoo: ua raws li koj niam thiab cov lus qhia ces koj yuav tsis raug txim.
Nco ntsoov hais tias yog tias tus me nyuam tsis tau qw thiab tsis npau taws, nws yuav tsum tsis raug ntaus. Lub cev raug lub txim yog qhov kawg. Los ntawm tib qho xwm txheej, nws tsis zoo tias koj yuav ua rau koj tus tub los yog tus ntxhais xav tau tias nws yuav nco nws thiab ntshai tshwm sim, thiab raws li koj paub, kev kawm raws li kev ntshai ua rau cov me nyuam loj hlob thiab pib ua si ua ntej cov niam txiv ntawm kwv yees chords, thiab tom qab , hais tias lawv xav tau. Yog li ntawd, sim ua kom muaj kev ruaj siab rau cov me nyuam tsis muaj lub cev, tab sis nyob rau hauv txoj hauv kev xws li nws to taub: tus cwj pwm zoo yog qhov guarantee tias leej niam yuav ua tiav nws lub siab xav. Tab sis qhov phem yog qhov tseem ceeb rau tag nrho cov tsis tiav.
Kev saib xyuas ntawm cov pog
Hauv ntau tsev neeg, uas cov niam txiv hluas nyob nrog cov niam tais yawm txiv thiab cov pog yawg, nws yog kev hlub uas muaj kev hlub rau menyuam. Nyob rau hauv no muaj tsis muaj dab tsi tsis xav, vim hais tias lawv yog lawv nyiam cov xeeb ntxwv uas lawv xav muab tso tseg. Tsis tas li ntawd, cov niam tsev muaj ntau lub neej kev paub, yog li lawv paub tseeb tias lawv paub zoo dua los tu cov me nyuam. Thaum kawg, tus me nyuam ua tiag tiag tias yog leej niam thiab txiv muaj ib yam dab tsi txwv, koj tuaj yeem khiav ntawm koj pog thiab yws. Thiab nws, tsis yog yuav daws teeb meem xwb, tseem yuav cem cov niam txiv rau qhov tseeb tias lawv tsis muaj siab.
Yog tias koj niam los yog niam tais yawm txiv xaiv tus cwj pwm coj zoo, nws tsim nyog tham nrog nws. Qhov tseeb yog qhov kev thuam tus cwj pwm ntawm nws niam nws txiv yog qhov phem heev rau tus me nyuam. Nws txiav txim siab tias lawv cov qauv ntawm tus cwj pwm tsis yog lawm, thiab nws tsuas nres them sai sai rau lub tswvyim narodnik. Ntawm chav kawm, tham nrog nws pog yuav tsis yooj yim, raws li nws yog tseeb ntawm nws txoj cai. Yog li tsis txhob sib ceg nrog nws, cog lus thiab quaj qw. Cia li sim piav rau nws los ntawm cov piv txwv, dab tsi ua rau lub caprice. Piv txwv, tus me nyuam tsis xav mus pw. Kuv niam tsis pub saib yeeb yaj kiab, thiab nws niam tais zoo nkauj, uas nws tau khiav ntawm lub suab nkauj, pib quaj, daws nws. Tab sis, ces tas tib qhov teeb meem tshwm sim, nyob rau hauv uas pog pib swear thiab rau txim rau tus me nyuam. Nyob rau ntawm qhov no, nco ntsoov nws tias qhov tshwm sim ntawm qhov tshwm sim no yog nws tus cwj pwm. Ntawm chav kawm, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob xav tias pog yuav tau txais tam sim ntawd. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias nws muaj qhov tsis tu ncua, tab sis tsis txhob txwm tshaj tawm thiab tsis cuam tshuam rau qhov nws ua yuam kev rau nws, nws thiaj li yuav to taub thiab tsawg kawg tsis ua pandering rau tus me nyuam.
Hais "tsis muaj" rau qhov kev zam txim rau "nws yog me"
Thiab qhov yuam kev kawg ntawm kev kawm yog kev hlub ntawm cov niam txiv los sau txhua yam uas "nws yog me." Yog li ntawd, tus me nyuam yog ib tus menyuam, Yog li tsis muaj leej twg yuam nws ntes cov khoom ntim rau hauv tsib lub xyoos thiab ua txhua yam haujlwm hauv tsev. Tab sis yog hais tias nws me me, nws tsis txhais hais tias koj xav ua nws rau nws. Ib tug menyuam yaus yuav tsum ua txhua yam uas sib txawv rau nws lub hnub nyoog. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias koj paub tias nws muaj peev xwm ua nws ntawm nws tus kheej, nws tseem yog tub nkeeg. Piv txwv li, hauv plaub xyoos tus me nyuam yuav tsum siv cov tais diav ntim rau lub dab ntxuav tes, ntxuav lawv tus kheej thiab txhuam lawv cov hniav, hnav ris tsho, ntxuav lawv cov khoom ua si. Yog tias nws tsis ua dab tsi, tsis txhob sau nws tawm ntawm lub hnub nyoog, koj tus menyuam yog tub nkeeg thiab tos ntsoov koj ua txhua yam rau nws. Thiab yog tias nws tsis tuaj raws sij hawm, ces nws yuav mus ntxiv. Ces cov niam txiv daws cov teeb meem thiab sau zaj nkauj, pleev xim rau cov duab thiab tho kev, thiab cov me nyuam yaus zaum nrog cov tais plaub thiab rov hais dua: "Kuv ua tsis tau, ua rau kuv." Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj tsis xav loj hlob zoo li tub nkeeg thiab egoist, ntsuam xyuas cov kev muaj peev xwm ntawm koj tus menyuam. Thiab tom qab ntawd koj tus me nyuam yuav loj hlob mus ua ib tug neeg txawj ntse, muaj lub luag haujlwm thiab muaj zog.