Tseeb tiag, qhov zoo tshaj yog ua li cas thiaj li tau txais los ntawm cov ntshav me?
Nws yuav tsum tam sim ntawd tau muab sau tseg tias nws yog qhov zoo dua tsis tau pib sib txuas ua kev txhawj xeeb. Tau kawg, nws mob siab rau saib tus neeg uas raug tua tuag rau koj, thiab koj tsis tuaj yeem muab nws rau lwm tus. Tab sis, txawm li ntawd los, nws zoo dua yog tias cia nws mus ib zaug.
Tau kawg nws yuav mob heev thiab phem rau nws, tab sis, ntseeg kuv, ces txhua yam yuav tau tuaj. Cov zwj ceeb thaum muaj ib tus ntxhais thaum kawg ntog hauv kev hlub, yog kev zam rau cov cai. Feem ntau, cov neeg uas tsis tau sib hlub tsuas yog pib ua rau nws quaj qw, kev thuam, kev ntxeev siab thiab kev cais, tom qab uas tus txiv leej tub paub tseeb tias tag nrho cov poj niam yog cov txiv neej uas tsis tsim nyog yuav tsum muaj kev sib raug zoo. Koj puas xav kom koj thawj txoj cai zoo li no.
Tab sis yog tias koj tau ua txhaum zoo li no lawm, koj yuav tsum ua kiag tam sim ntawd. To taub, tus txiv neej nrog koj nyob ib ncig, nco ntsoov tias nws yuav tsum tau kov yeej koj thiab kov yeej. Nws ua txhua yam ua tau thiab tsis ua, tsis paub tias koj tsis tuaj yeem yuam tau los ntawm kev quab yuam. Tom qab tso, nws, nws yuav muaj peev xwm heev, nco ntsoov tias nws siv ntau npaum li cas rau koj cov khoom thiab sab ntsuj plig. Rau qhov no, txawm tias nws tsis tsim nyog ua txhaum kev txhaum, vim tias nws mob heev thiab, hauv nws tus kheej txoj kev, txhais tau tias, thaum ib tug neeg tau txais kev vam cia rau yam uas tsis muaj tseeb.
Yog li, koj hais tias: Kuv tsis nyiam ib tug txiv leej tub, tab sis kuv tau ntsib. Kuv yuav ua li cas? Nws yog tsim nyog los ua txhaum txoj kev sib raug zoo no. Thiab, kom sai li sai tau. Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej hlub koj heev, nws muaj peev xwm ncav cuag qhov kev xav ntawm txhais tes thiab lub siab. Thiab ces qhov kev ua kom muaj tiag tiag yuav raug ntaus tawm.
Tau kawg, tus neeg no twb tsis muaj neeg txawv rau koj, koj siv rau nws thiab, tej zaum, qee qhov ntawm koj tsis xav cia nws mus. Tsis txhob qia dub. Hov sai los sis tom qab ntawd koj yuav ntsib kev hlub tiag tiag thiab muab pov tseg yam tsis muaj kev ywj pheej, ua kom luag ntxhi thiab ua rau tus txiv neej lub meej mom. Yog li xav txog nws thiab sim daws txhua yam calmly thiab democratically.
Nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv tsis ploj, tsis txhob tawm hauv xov tooj thiab tsis provoking ib sib cav. Ib tug neeg yuav tsum to taub qhov tseeb vim li cas, thiab tsis tuaj yeem nrog kev zam thiab nrhiav ib lub sijhawm rau kev sib raug zoo. Yog li, koj yuav tsum tham ntsiag to. Kev sib tham, ntawm chav kawm, yuav tsum yog ib tug tete-ib-tete. Nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv tsis tig lub mus rau hauv ib qho kev ua pej xeem. Qhov no yuav ua rau cov tub ntxhais hluas ua txhaum thiab ua rau nws poob ntsej muag. Koj yuav tsum sim piav rau nws qhov teeb meem tag nrho, qhia txog koj txoj kev xav rau nws. Koj tsis tas yuav hais cov thwj cim xws li: "nws tsis yog koj, tab sis kuv", "nws nyuam qhuav tshwm sim", "kawm ua neej tsis muaj kuv, nws yuav zoo dua". Hais zoo li koj xav zoo li cas thiab koj pom qhov teeb meem no li cas. Qhov tseeb tiag yeej ib txwm zoo dua li cov lus dag zoo nkauj. Nws, ntawm chav kawm, yuav mob heev, tab sis tsawg kawg yog koj yuav xav tias koj muaj tsawg kawg yog hwm nws tus neeg.
Tom qab qhov kev sib tham no, cia tus txiv leej tub kom meej meej thiab to taub meej meej tias yuav tsis muaj qhov rov qab sib txuas ntawm kev sib raug zoo, yog li ntawd nws tsis ua li. Tsis txhob them nyiaj rau nws qhov kev thov, thiab, tej zaum, txawm kua muag. Nws mob heev thiab nyuaj, tab sis nws yeej yuav zoo dua.
Yog nws pib sau ntawv, hu thiab nrhiav kev sib tham, tsis txhob pom nws thiab zam nws. Sij hawm dhau los, tus tub hluas yuav to taub txhua yam thiab nyob twj ywm. Ntseeg kuv, muaj ib hnub nws yuav zoo siab rau koj rau txoj cai no. Tsis muaj dab tsi ntau dua pitiable tshaj tus txiv leej tub hais txog nws tus ntxhais nws xav tias: "Kuv tsis nyiam ib tug txiv leej tub, tab sis kuv ntsib ...". Thiab nws lossi nug nws tus kheej: "Kuv yuav ua li cas?".
Tab sis kuj muaj kev sib raug zoo tsis muaj kev hlub ntawm tus ntxhais, thaum ib tug txiv neej tuav nws los ntawm kev quab yuam. Hmoov tsis, muaj leej twg, vim tias lawv tsis muaj zog thiab ntau yam, siv cov poj niam ntshai thiab lawv lub zog. Xws li ib tug txiv neej, leej twg, incidentally, ib tug txiv neej tsis tau npe, siv nws superiority.
Yog hais tias tus yawg pheej pheej ua rau koj, ua kom ntshai lossis txawm tias yau, ces tsis muaj kev sib tham yuav tsis pab. Xws li cov neeg muaj kev puas hlwb tsis txaus ntseeg. Lawv tuaj yeem nres tsuas yog siv dag zog yuam thiab quab yuam xwb. Yog tias koj nkag siab tias koj tsis tuaj yeem tiv thaiv, nco ntsoov thov kev pab. Qee cov poj niam txaj muag lees paub tias lawv nyob los yog ntsib nrog dab. Qhov kev coj cwj pwm no yog ib qho kev phem. Cov phoojywg tiag thiab tsev neeg yeej tsis rau txim. On qhov tsis tooj, lawv yuav ua txhua yam los pab koj.
Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej hluas ua rau nws tsis cia koj mus, nws tsim nyog sib tham nrog nws thaum koj txiv, kwv tij, los yog phooj ywg. Ntseeg kuv, rau tej lub sijhawm no, txivneej lub zog yog qhov kev sib twv muaj zog tshaj plaws. Nws tsuas tsis twv kom txhob ntshai thiab tawm tsam yog tias koj cov txiv neej ze nws piav nws tus ntse li cas nws yuav tshwm sim rau nws thaum koj poob tsawg kawg yog plaub hau. Nco ntsoov tias cov hais mav no yeej tsis muaj zog thiab tsis muaj kev ruaj ntseg. Nws tuav koj vim nws paub tseeb: nws tsis xav tau lwm tus neeg. Xws li tus neeg sawv cev ntawm tus poj niam tuaj yeem tsa nws txhais tes rau ntawm ib tug poj niam, vim nws muaj zog thiab tsis muab hloov. Ua ntej cov txiv neej tiag tiag, lawv yeej ntuav lawv tus Tsov Tias thiab pom zoo nrog txhua yam lawv hais.
Tsis txhob tsim txom koj tus kheej thiab mus txuas ntxiv mus nyob ze ib tug neeg. Thiab txawm ntau li ntawd, yeej tsis thov txim rau nws. Nws nws tus kheej yog liam rau kev qaug zog, thiab koj tsis mus ua txhaum rau txhua yam. Txawm tias nws thov kev zam txim rau tom qab muab pov tseg thiab qw, txawm tias nws muab paj thiab khoom plig - khiav tawm. Txhua txhua xyoo, qhov teeb meem yuav haj yam tuaj thiab zuj zus ntxiv. Nws zoo dua rau txhua yam ua ntej nws los ua koj tus txiv, thiab yuav muaj menyuam yaus. Ces txhua yam yeej yuav nyuaj thiab tus me nyuam yuav raug kev txom nyem los ntawm nws txoj kev phem.
Kev hlub yog kev xav ntawm kev sib luag, kev kaj siab thiab kev zoo siab. Yog hais tias koj tsis tuaj yeem teev npe li cas ntawm koj thiab koj tus menyuam los ntawm ib qho ntawm cov cim no, ces yeej tsis muaj lub ntsiab lus ntawm cov kev sib raug zoo. Txhua tus neeg tsim nyog yuav tsum muaj kev zoo siab, vim li ntawd nws muaj nqis rau kev xaiv seb kev sib raug zoo li cas thiaj muaj kev zoo siab. Hmoov tsis, qhov no yeej ua tsis tau. Yog li ntawd, ib tug ua tsis tau nrog ib tug neeg tsis muaj kev hlub, muaj kev hlub tshua, thiab ntau yam ntxiv vim kev ntshai. Yog li kos cov lus xaus thiab pib lub neej tshiab, nyob rau hauv cov kev sib raug zoo yuav ua rau kev hlub.